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| How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Sunshine2016(f): 10:21am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Hi, Would really appreciate your advice. Please try to be kind. I am extremely nervous and stressed out :-(. I'm a 29 year old female and my boyfriend is 33 years old. We are both working/ have decent jobs. Some months ago, I started a relationship with a guy whom I had been friends with for a year. He's everything I've prayed for- gentle, kind, loving, committed and generous. We started the relationship and he quickly made it clear that he wanted to marry me. He's met my mother and I've met his parents and they all approve. Our parents are however yet to meet and the plan was for them to do so very soon so we can commence weddng preparations. He's already ordered the ring but it's in Dubai and he can't get it until may. He's supposed to see my mum this week in order to formally ask her permission to marry me. He's already informed her of his intention to marry me but now wants to formally seek her permission in line with Yoruba tradition. However, yesterday I found out that I'm pregnant for him. He's very supportive and although naturally a bit scared he's happy and wants us to marry by June latest before I start showing. We've agreed to inform out parents this week ( after he formally seeks my hand in marriage from my mother ) and thereafter commence preparations for our wedding in June. Right now, I'm just so terrified about how to tell my mum. She's a very strict christian in Mountain of Fire. She loves me but is deeply religious. She was pregnant for my dad before they got married but she's now a very strong christian so frowns on premarital sex. I'm so terrified as I don't want to disappoint her. My boyfriend wants to marry me by June, no doubt about that and is being be supportive. He has offered to even go with me to tell my mum. In a nutshell, I'm wondering how to go about telling my mum? Will she forgive me? Should we tel his parents first or tell my mum first ? Thanks a lot for reading. 3 Likes |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Strahovski1(m): 10:24am On Feb 22, 2016 |
When I saw your age 29 I did not read any further. Your mom cannot do any thing. You are an adult. So just tell her that you are pregnant. Nothing is gonna happen 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by tse1v1(m): 10:32am On Feb 22, 2016 |
JUST TELL HER THE TRUTH ATLEAST YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH AND SINCE THE GUY WANTS TO MARRY YOU I SEE NO HARM IN IT.................BUT I WILL ALWAYS SAY CONDOMS ARE WAY SAFER AND PROTECTIVE PLEASE ALWAYS TAKE PRECAUTIONS |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by BerryScott(f): 10:33am On Feb 22, 2016 |
you lift ur upper lip n drop the other, den u go this way MUMMY, AM PREGNANT! chikena! case closed. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Mutuwa(m): 10:34am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Sunshine2016: |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 10:35am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Sunshine2016: You can always use that line against her, i mean you're 29yr old. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by yinkus4u2c(f): 10:35am On Feb 22, 2016 |
You defiled the bed before marriage  |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Cholls(m): 10:41am On Feb 22, 2016 |
my sister if you really love your mother as you've said.........save her the embarrassment.........first before you walk up to her to confess your misdeeds.......reverse the scheduled date and set a new date for March for your wedding.......say bye bye to big elaborate wedding. 2 Likes |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by adren(m): 10:50am On Feb 22, 2016 |
after getting you in the family way, you are still reffering to him as your boyfiend?? my sister.. you need deliverance.. sha call me for the wedding.. i go show up!! |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by ademoladeji(m): 10:51am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Send her Whatsapp message nau... |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 10:54am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Sure, mom will be disappointed, perhaps she tells your younger ones and her friend's children to always look up to you as their role model, but since it has happened, first tell your guy's parents before your mom, mom will be so disappointed, but life goes on... Try to move the wedding closer before your tummy start protruding. Be fast about it all as long as you know your guy is the right man for you..... And lastly, what kinda ring takes 4months to get delivered to Nigeria from Dubai? Perhaps an Hermes ring! 1 Like |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Sunshine2016(f): 11:43am On Feb 22, 2016 |
Thanks a lot for all your responses. The ring isn't going to be delivered to Nigeria, he has to travel to pick it up as soon as he gets time off work. He's buying a temporary ring until then so to be honest I'm not even concerned about that. I'm anticipating that my mum will be disappointed but I'm hoping that she isn't too disappointed and shows some understanding. We are thinking of June because by then I shouldn't be showing much but we can move it forward to may if necessary.... just need to break the news to our parents first which I'm really dreading... |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
In essence yinkus4u2c: |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 12:05pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
This case is very simple, she will forgive u by telling her but try to reserve the date of the wedding backward perhap u can get a better ring from hausa mallam |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by mysticgal(f): 12:17pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
I can relate to this, and I feel sorry or can I say sad for you. I just pray she understands  |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by klenton(m): 12:27pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
BerryScott: u sure knw hw to use those words experience cnt be bought |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by naijathings(m): 12:34pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
My e girlfriend was thinking how her mother was gonna kill her and how the church is gonna disown her . next time i saw her, she had "taken off" the pregnancy. and LOVE died. she called me like 2 weeks later to tell me how she so regrets it cos her cousin who she looks up to, got in the same situation and she made it known to everyone and nobody killed her. hey dear, NO ONE IS GONNA KILL YOU, THEY WILL ONLY FROWN FOR 2 DAYS BUT ONLY THE REAL BAD BELLE PEOPLE WHO DONT LOVE YOU WILL KEEP HOLDING ON TO ANGER AND DISAPPOINTMENT WHEN THERE IS JOY AND HAPPINESS COMING YOUR WAY. you be u be first and no be you go be the last wey experience am.. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by NemzySeries(m): 12:53pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
fellow Romancelander, dis 29yrs old aunty said we shd cum & escort her to were her mum is so dat we can all tell d woman dat aunty 29yrs don carry belle mistakenly & d wedding ring is still in dubai till may 1 Like |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by cruzita(f): 1:54pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
whether you tell her now or not ,she will still find out.So the best thing is to go to her and tell her about it ,u are an adult she will understand. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Intrepid01(m): 2:01pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
Just tell her this: Spirikoko maami, you don fail............ |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Jayboi(m): 3:26pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
its just good u tell her straight away. if u av aunts or elder siblings, they can assist u as well. u are not a baby and at 29 ripe for marriage. God be with u |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by obyno1011(m): 3:57pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
Our maturity lies on how we handle things I will advise you tell her there's something you will discuss with her by weekend. She will be in suspense. Carry on with your daily routine and watch her reaction each day. Then open up to her probably on Sat morning. She may feel hurt, but will appreciate your sincerity. Don't let another ear hear it before her. . All the best. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by calculator123(m): 4:00pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
what ur mother sowed,she has reaped so she shouldnt get angry too much. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 5:58pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
yinkus4u2c: Useless comment |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by yinkus4u2c(f): 6:55pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
GreatAgb: Die slow |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 6:57pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by nerdfrost(m): 7:37pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
Msstcheew i been dey Think say nå High skul Mumu luv sef  Ure Old enough nå. But I Also frown at premarital sex  |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
yinkus4u2c:but u nd i knw dat u re neither free 4rm dis nor a saint. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Sunshine2016(f): 5:52pm On Feb 24, 2016 |
Thank you very much for all the advice. My fiancé has informed his mother and she was actually very happy about it and congratulated him. Now, we have to tell my mum (which is what I am petrified about). My fiancé and his mother are coming to my house to break the news personally. I wont be there...his mum said she wants to be present with her son (my fiancé) when breaking the news. Said she's even going to kneel down to beg my mother and ask for her forgiveness and also inform her that we'd like to bring the wedding forward. I pray things go well...and my mother isn't too upset. Dreading it terribly. Please pray for me! |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Sunshine2016(f): 6:21pm On Feb 24, 2016 |
Bump. |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by justmide(f): 8:17am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Sunshine2016: Sis, howfar, how did u tell her, I need tips |
| Re: How To Tell My Religiously Strict Mother That I Am Pregnant? by Skmoda360(m): 8:33am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Cholls:But they will test them before conducting church marriage for them in MFM now and if found pregnant, they will not accept them to marry in MFM.  |
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