abbey621:


The article you provided has no correlation with the requirements I provided. You provided me with an article of mothers regretting motherhood not one that shows a successful woman 40 and above with no husband, no kids and enjoying her life with no regrets. Furthermore, I don't know why you used Cameron Diaz as an example, she's the worst example you could have used because not only is she married and trying hard to conceive but apparently she's trying to adopt a child, do your research my friend, do your research!

http://www.parentherald.com/articles/13554/20151203/cameron-diaz-benji-madden-pregnancy-couple-adopting-baby-gywneth-paltrow.htm

I have made my point and I am quite sure you got it. Like it or not, women differ. Not everyone finds happiness and fulfillment in the running of a family.

joseph1832:
You didn't reply my last mention.

Oh! I'm sorry. Sometimes, it just gets lost in the middle of other mentions. I'll look for it and reply you now.

amicable09:

Oh! I'm sorry. Sometimes, it just gets lost in the middle of other mentions. I'll look for it and reply you now.

Oh not to worry, Its all good.

Did you get my mail?

joseph1832:
I'm in no way close to 40. And just so you know, my diary is a mixture of my thoughts, facts and fiction.

I leave you to discern what's fact, fiction and thought.

*smiling*
This must be it right?
But before I continue, let me ask. why do you like that ashawo thread? and you even share their convictions, I mean veteran ashawo convictions with me?

Then your diary, (smiling again) has so much of you in it, very little fiction.

amicable09:

Hahahaha. I love you Bae! Even more now that you just made me laugh.

I love it when people respond wisely. The lady's response is just perfect! "Drivers are interested. Traders are interested but I'm not desperate enough!" Lol.

Lol! Love you too. And your thots on this issue are so on point..

joseph1832:
Oh not to worry, Its all good.
Did you get my mail?

I did but my attempts to reply has been futile. It kept bouncing back.

amicable09:

*smiling*
This must be it right?
But before I continue, let me ask. why do you like that ashawo thread? and you even share their convictions, I mean veteran ashawo convictions with me?

Then your diary, (smiling again) has so much of you in it, very little fiction.

Yep, this is it. Well firstly, I share to all my followers and I just started sharing recently. Just to piss some people off. Lol. *kidding

Secondly, those guys are real! They're among the realest people here among the set of fake people, pretenders, na me holy pass, no I never _fuck before, keep your virginity set of people. Its a site where anybody can be anybody, and those guys aren't being anybody, they're being themselves.

Thirdly, too much of me? Come on, am I that transparent?

amicable09:

I did but my attempts to reply has been futile. It kept bouncing back.

Hmm. I was thinking it wasn't delivered because usually, when I send a mail, I get a confirmation that its sent. But I didn't get one when I sent you a mail, so I thought may be it wasn't delivered.

teechudleyy:

Lol! Love you too. And your thots on this issue are so on point..

Thanks a lot. I'm humbled receiving this commendation from you, my coach... lol.

amicable09:

Thanks a lot. I'm humbled receiving this commendation from you, my coach... lol.

Lmao! You ma'am, are a politician! Coach??

joseph1832:
Yep, this is it. Well firstly, I share to all my followers and I just started sharing recently. Just to piss some people off. Lol. *kidding

Secondly, those guys are real! They're among the realest people here among the set of fake people, pretenders, na me holy pass, no I never _fuck before, keep your virginity set of people. Its a site where anybody can be anybody, and those guys aren't being anybody, they're being themselves.

Thirdly, too much of me? Come on, am I that transparent?

Lol. Ok.
Those guys are real! You are more real hanging out with them, it's a very comfy hangout spot for you on NL... lol

You are really transparent to me. I know my followers by their comments on different threads and their shares. I can tell you a thing or two about most of them even though I have never met them offline, they unconsciously leave a trace of their real selves when they post stuff.

amicable09:

Lol. Ok.
Those guys are real! You are more real hanging out with them, it's a very comfy hangout spot for you on NL... lol

You are really transparent to me. I know my followers by their comments on different threads and their shares. I can tell you a thing or two about most of them even though I have never met them offline, they unconsciously leave a trace of their real selves when they post stuff.

Now this sound like something I once said before. Lol.

I hang out in different spot here in NL. Sometime in poems for review, most times in politics but I've been staying away from there because I always get a ban whenever I spend too much time there.

Funny how people only notice the sexual stuff about me and forget that I've posted more on politics more than any other thing here.

So please indulge me, tell me a thing or two about me, I'm all ears...

masonkz:
I actually don't know if this is a global thing, but I've come to notice it a lot around people here, especially the guys.

You see a single woman that is successful at what she's doing, and then the next thing that comes to your mind is to start opining that she must be bitter cos she's in her 30s or approaching 40 and not married. These are the kind of people that feel that for a woman, marriage is the biggest achievement that can happen to her. That no matter what a woman has in life, if there's no marriage, then she's not made, not minding the fact that many married women are silently suffering in their marriage.

In turn, this same thought process goes on to affect the woman as she starts getting desperate and starts having a very low self esteem. The pressure gets to the point where they end up going from one church to the other and in so doing may fall into the prey of men solely looking out for these kind of women to exploit. Only those bold enough to shake off the society's expectation of a woman can actually hold their head high and not give a hoot about what anyone says.

Even women can be their own enemies when a married lady starts using another's singlehood to insult her. In my opinion, that is way below being petty. Now the trend is when people see fine pictures of single ladies on social media, the next question is "where is her husband?", "...who go marry this one wey don reach 30something?", "...too bad that she's this rich and fine with no husband"... poor reasoning I.M.O.

Ladies/Women, your first priority when it comes to happiness is yourself, and not to cater to the happiness of the society. Granted, you may have wanted to marry in your 20s, but if that isn't /wasn't the case, why go on killing yourself about it? Develop yourself the more, be beautiful to yourself, get that money rolling, the career moving, that business booming. If need be, get a baby papa and get yourself pregnant and train the child yourself!. If teenagers can have unwanted pregnancies and still see the child through childhood, successful women can surely do better!

While that last part may not lie well with many, my point still is that you shouldn't go through life thinking having a husband would be your guarantee to having a fulfilled life. Having a great family is beautiful, if you don't have one, align your priorities and have your options open as to what really you CAN DO to make yourself more happy with YOUR LIFE.


#okbye.

Bwahahahaha roflwkmd @ the bolded


OP, are you for real?

skytreader:


Getting married is a social responsibilty ke? So, the corollary is that you are socially irresponsible if you don't get married?
Weird reasoning.

Lolzz... weird indeed ,like seriously?? some ppu can be funny ehn

Mindfulness:


I have made my point and I am quite sure you got it. Like it or not, women differ. Not everyone finds happiness and fulfillment in the running of a family.

Sorry you've not made a valid point. Try harder next time!

teechudleyy:
Lmao! You ma'am, are a politician! Coach??

Lolz. I'm an aspirant Following your footsteps.

abbey621:


Sorry you've not made a valid point. Try harder next time!

Ok, every woman who remains unmarried and child-free is unhappy and has regrets.
Every married woman with kids is fulfilled and happy.

joseph1832:
Now this sound like something I once said before. Lol.

I hang out in different spot here in NL. Sometime in poems for review, most times in politics but I've been staying away from there because I always get a ban whenever I spend too much time there.

Funny how people only notice the sexual stuff about me and forget that I've posted more on politics more than any other thing here.

So please indulge me, tell me a thing or two about me, I'm all ears...

Lol. You know how to look for trouble sha. Then you make flirtatious comments and wander off to another section where you engage someone in a heated argument after which you update your diary for the day.

Usually, your update is inspired by one of your NL argument or discuss.

Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

like the OP said we should focus on things that makes us happy. that is our responsibility.

amicable09:

Lol. You know how to look for trouble sha. Then you make flirtatious comments and wander off to another section where you engage someone in a heated argument after which you update your diary for the day.

Usually, your update is inspired by one of your NL argument or discuss.

Hmm. Well may be you're right and may be you're wrong. I'm just being me.

My flirtatious comments and my sex poems have made some female monikers brand me a 'womaniser'. Its a marvel they chose to see just that when there is all of me in politics section.

Anyway, my diary updates its not inspired by the happenings here, the updates I made today happened for real, your use of the word feminism made me remember my last update. And it was just to juicy not to put down.

Funny any time I see any one of those girls they never talk to me, even when I say hi, they ignore me. Like how is it my fault? Lol.

The success is not complete without a successful marriage

joseph1832:
Hmm. Well may be you're right and may be you're wrong. I'm just being me.

My flirtatious comments and my sex poems have made some female monikers brand me a 'womaniser'. Its a marvel they chose to see just that when there is all of me in politics section.

Anyway, my diary updates its not inspired by the happenings here, the updates I made today happened for real, your use of the word feminism made me remember my last update. And it was just to juicy not to put down.

Funny any time I see any one of those girls they never talk to me, even when I say hi, they ignore me. Like how is it my fault? Lol.

Lol. How is it your fault like you don't know how! You and girls sha... issokay, be catching fun.

pdpchangeapc:
The success is not complete without a successful marriage

Lie, many of the people who accomplished so much in the world never even married . Success means different things to different people.the important thing is to let people live the way they like. Even when you say successful marriage what's your definition of successful marriage? How many Nigerians marriages with all the cheating qualify as successful marriages

Gbam!

Yes marriage is important and essential but you should get married because you want to and not because society has said you must.

The castigation of unmarried females in Nigeria and Africa as a whole is inhumane.

AikayDaWrapper:
Gbam!

Yes marriage is important and essential but you should get married because you want to and not because society has said you must.

The castigation of unmarried females in Nigeria and Africa as a whole is inhumane.

so, you mean a woman will have money, success, fame, etc etc, in short, have it all, yet still whine because "society", after admiring all that, asked about marriage?


It is now an insult to mention marriage instead of worshipping the said woman?

amazing.

why not focus on your riches, fame, popularity, etc instead of bothering yourself with what people say. This is why I was surprised Linda considered "disgrace" as being told an expensive bag she bought might not be the real thing?

No wonder some foreigners are being told Nigeria has no poverty, and they believe it. There are two Nigerias it seems, a rich one and an invisible poor one, depending on who's looking.

amicable09:

Lol. How is it your fault like you don't know how! You and girls sha... issokay, be catching fun.

Oh you're blaming me? Like seriously you're blaming me? LOL. This is intriguing.

joseph1832:
Oh you're blaming me? Like seriously you're blaming me? LOL. This is intriguing.

Lol. You are responsible for everything. I blame you for trouble hunting people on NL... Lol

Mindfulness:


Ok, every woman who remains unmarried and child-free is unhappy and has regrets.
Every married woman with kids is fulfilled and happy.

No! Anybody can be unhappy either married or not, it's all about perception but when it comes to regrets more people are left without regrets when they experience a happy married life filled with a child or children than those who chose to remain single and childless!

amicable09:

Lol. You are responsible for everything. I blame you for trouble hunting people on NL... Lol

Really trouble hunting? Come on, that sound a little too much. I'm a nice guy.

So who and who have I trouble hunt that you know of?

joseph1832:
Really trouble hunting? Come on, that sound a little too much. I'm a nice guy.

So who and who have I trouble hunt that you know of?

I'll get a log book tomorrow so I don't miss any. If you are able to go three days straight without any quarrels, I'll announce it publicly... lol

amicable09:

I'll get a log book tomorrow so I don't miss any. If you are able to go three days straight without any quarrels, I'll announce it publicly... lol

And if I go three days straight without any trouble, what will be my prize?

And mind you, don't string me on. You told me you'll let me know the controversial side of my diary as well as the contradictory post I've made. You've been silent ever since...