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Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by braimeddy: 10:38am On Feb 24, 2016
Op abeg tell me the name of the 9ja movie make I rush go buy am. I don see say d movie go make sense die
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Chickychic(f): 10:43am On Feb 24, 2016
Exactly but what i keep asking myself is 'why on earth did he do that to her?, what was his intention in the first place because she was not spending much on him except her family' so people tell me what was his intentions for?
when we say men are wicked, they say ladies are heartless but this story is one of the plenty reasons ladies to listen to men at all
adekanmbi1986:


The guy never wished to marry her.

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Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by amunkita(m): 10:52am On Feb 24, 2016
adapeter:
May U never find urself in a situation like this.How can I ask someone to sell his property,do u know how I discouraged him?did u read d part I said he had a business he was doing but it turned out to be lies.Calling me names wen u haven't been in my shoes.I pray u keep having a perfect life.Thanks all d same for ur words,it only made me stronger.Bad things sometimes happen to good people,am just unfortunate but its well.Godbless u

My friend stop soliciting for pity, who told you thingz re rossy for me, I almost sold a property too but when i told my brother, it was a stubborn NO!!!

Why Because he so cared...

If any gal accept we should dispose my property, I will do to her much more.

Unfortunately, u dated a Level 7 liar because u loved with ur heart..

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Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Sunnypar(m): 10:57am On Feb 24, 2016
amunkita:


My friend stop soliciting for pity, who told you thingz re rossy for me, I almost sold a property too but when i told my brother, it was a stubborn NO!!!

Why Because he so cared...

If any gal accept we go nd dispose my property, I will do to her much more.

Unfortunately, u dated a Level 7 liar because u loved with ur heart..
If I yarn they may ban me.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Sammiel: 11:07am On Feb 24, 2016
amunkita:
Op,to an extent, u deserve ur predicament.

You planned with a man to dispose off his properties just to marry you, u even went as far as marketing the Ghost property.

Even if he had properties, why would a wife material give in to selling properties just to keep up with a wedding plan.

Infact, why would u even fork when u ain't married.
Nwanyi onye Uwa mmebi..
You are actually very correct but blaming her now won't help her situation because she's pregnant and there is no money to keep her up even as her supposed husband to be is currently on the run.

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Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by amunkita(m): 11:20am On Feb 24, 2016
Sunnypar:

If I yarn they may ban me.

Then u re a newbie to be scared of ban..
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Sunnypar(m): 11:44am On Feb 24, 2016
amunkita:


Then u re a newbie to be scared of ban..
grin am not because I would hit her where she would not like it. The truth hurts.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by hysteriabox(m): 1:16pm On Feb 24, 2016
adapeter:
Hello,thanks for this platform.please permit me to go straight to my chronicle as am not sure how long I can last.I am a lady of 27years,a graduate.I met a guy lastyear and we started dating.When I met him,he was having financial challenges as he was an importer and at some point his business folded.He had nothing but he was very nice with a good character.I saw the way he was struggling to find his feet again so I stood by him praying and trusting God. I was working then and earning little salary so I used that to sustain myself and my family. Towards the end of lastyear, he introduced some people to me as his family members.He equally proposed to me but I complained about his financial situation,and asked that we hold on a bit till we are stable but he then told me about some of his landed properties and things he has which he wanted us to dispose and start a life.I went with him to see some of the things as I didn't want to be rushed into a marriage.I saw the documents showing his name and all d necessary papers.Well,we put it up for sale and I even helped advertise them online.He also told me his business has kicked off again and I was happy for him.When it was September,  he came to see my parents and we did  our introduction and fixed wedding December.I took in after the whole introduction and I wasn't happy about it as we wanted it after the wedding proper but then I had to pull through as abortion wasn't an option since it was official we had fixed wedding.My problem started early january when the whole thing was dragging.He kept saying stories why we should hold on,meanwhile I had stopped work as I was so sick my job had to be on hold.I used up all my cash to sort my medical bills as it was so bad.Feeding became a big deal as no source of income.The height of it all is that his friends finally called to tell me dude has been lying to me about his status.I was told he had nothing,the house he lived in wasn't his,the people I know are friends not family,infact the landed properties were all falsified documents.The business he was managing was for his uncle.I got to realise that he has dual personality with dubious character.He even lied to my parents about his background,business,every damn thing,which is a big slap to me.I couldn't believe it and started making my research and its all true he lied to me about everything from the onset.I am broken and confused as I don't understand why he had to put me through this,he knew I wasn't desperate to get married yet he couldn't keep the relationship till he got stable.   I am in a big mess now, as my family have started asking questions, worse still I am 5momths gone and have no single source of income.My family used to depend on me so at the moment everyone is on hold.My family have accepted the situation just to help me come out of this sane,but I am stuck financial and an emotional wreck.I have reached out to him and he has been begging that his sorry and he lied because he didn't want to lose me.The marriage has been called off as my family insist I can't marry a lying criminal.For the past few days I can't reach him anymore as his phones are off and he is not within reach.I heard his run away for the meantime and I can't reach his immediate family because the people I know to be the family I found out were not related.Everything was just planned out but to what end?I am writing in now because am totally at a loss on what to do.I have been so down and haven't slept for weeks just staying up all night praying and asking God why me.I am frustrated,I have nobody to turn to.I am due for antenatal but can't go,I don't have a dime anymore as I have exhausted my savings on the survival of this innocent child inside me.My head is literally about to blow off with somuch thinking.I can't apply for jobs now because they won't employ me pregnant though I wish I can get a job because am very hardworking and have work experience,but I dont know where to start from.I am going through somuch challenge and begging someone out there to help me.I know many families are praying for kids,here I am pregnant with the devil trying to destroy me.I don't know if there is an organization that can help me keep the child when I birth so I can work and pay them for all the stress before taking the child.The baby kicks so happily and every time he does that I just cry because am confused.If I can't feed how do I pay for childbirth,upkeep and others.why are some men so wicked?if he lied this much is he even worth marrying anymore?pls I need help.kindly advise me but take it easy with harsh words as I am already inbetween life and death.I am so fragile now.pls save a soul.Thanks and God bless.Moderator pls help me push it out as am goin through trauma.

Wow. It unfortunate. Well... If this story can be confirmed, I'll be willing to assist o. But I need full confirmation
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Feb 24, 2016
Did you say 'helped' him market his property for sale? Did you have to do that sad undecided
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Chickychic(f): 4:09pm On Feb 24, 2016
come if you are not married then am sure you are not a virgin either and so that makes it known that you have been having sex with someone somewhere so you should not be in a hurry to say things carelessly.
am also sure u know girls get pregnant with no plans(mistake pregnancy)plus some ladies life with guys that has not proposed to them, maybe you need to know that some ladies start living with their spouse once bride prize has been paid or the guy has gone to the babes house to say his intentions and that make some ladies start living with them so tell me why wont pregnancy occur?
calculate before talking pls.
toposi4naija:
What I can't qet in the story...........if wah the op said is true......where on earth did yhu see money to buy airtime to qet data........ grin grin grin................if it is true........why did yhu open up dah place for him to pour thinqs inside grin since yhu not married.....................
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Nobody: 4:43pm On Feb 24, 2016
hysteriabox:


Wow. It unfortunate. Well... If this story can be confirmed, I'll be willing to assist o. But I need full confirmation
Thanks,please if the moderators want they can verify me.I really do need help atleast for these remaining months,so once I birth oi will go look for a job to support. my child.I would really appreciate it as am fighting to keep this child alive.my mail is adapeter549@yahoo.com.I can give u any form of verification u want me to.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Nobody: 4:51pm On Feb 24, 2016
chimkaire:
Did you say 'helped' him market his property for sale? Did you have to do that sad undecided
my dear,he had already put up the. fake property for sale even before we met.I tried to discourage him and asked him to allow us start small as property is a good assets. he shudnt just dispose,he refused insisting he needed to use d money to. go back into his importation business.He kept. disturbing me to help him advertise it because I worked. online and was into advert placement too.When his pressure became too much,I discussed it to his so called brother and asked him to advise him but the brother said I shud allow a man make his decision.I never knew he was so fake.All the documents he brought were falsified,honestly the guy is just a fraudulent person but its a pity am in this mess already.I pray God see me through to birth the child.I equally want to say we. were already planning everything for d wedding I had to cancel it all.it can happen to anybody but like I said God knows best.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Chickychic(f): 5:11pm On Feb 24, 2016
calm down my dear and always stay positive

adapeter:
my dear,he had already put up the. fake property for sale even before we met.I tried to discourage him and asked him to allow us start small as property is a good assets. he shudnt just dispose,he refused insisting he needed to use d money to. go back into his importation business.He kept. disturbing me to help him advertise it because I worked. online and was into advert placement too.When his pressure became too much,I discussed it to his so called brother and asked him to advise him but the brother said I shud allow a man make his decision.I never knew he was so fake.All the documents he brought were falsified,honestly the guy is just a fraudulent person but its a pity am in this mess already.I pray God see me through to birth the child.I equally want to say we. were already planning everything for d wedding I had to cancel it all.it can happen to anybody but like I said God knows best.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Nobody: 9:14pm On Feb 24, 2016
Chickychic:
come if you are not married then am sure you are not a virgin either and so that makes it known that you have been having sex with someone somewhere so you should not be in a hurry to say things carelessly.
am also sure u know girls get pregnant with no plans(mistake pregnancy)plus some ladies life with guys that has not proposed to them, maybe you need to know that some ladies start living with their spouse once bride prize has been paid or the guy has gone to the babes house to say his intentions and that make some ladies start living with them so tell me why wont pregnancy occur?
calculate before talking pls.

Tanx a lot for the enlightenment......... I will qet my facts right next time

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Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Saraha1(f): 10:19pm On Feb 24, 2016
shafanik:
If you're in Lagos, call Aunty Landa (Inspiration Fm):
0809 911 1919.


She's a councillor also provides some form of support. Hope it helps
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by ifyalways(f): 10:32pm On Feb 24, 2016
Yawns!

People have told you where to go and get help so long as your story is true. You prefer opening threads on NLD because you think NLDers would hear baby/pregnancy and start dropping money. You are on a long thing.

OYO.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Dheartless: 10:33pm On Feb 24, 2016
https://www.nairaland.com/2932640/help...i-finished-contemplating-abortion-five

this girl is a scam
please guys click this link and go through all the coments and how she responded.

she has this post on the 14th of this month here on nairaland and advices have been given to are even help on how to connect her to organizations that will take care of her pregnancy as she suggested but she gave dubious replies.

I thought you said your dad have agreed to accommodate you and the only thing you need now is money, how come your post still solicit for an accommodation?
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by CoCoLav(f): 3:57am On Feb 25, 2016
Dheartless:
https://www.nairaland.com/2932640/help...i-finished-contemplating-abortion-five

this girl is a scam
please guys click this link and go through all the coments and how she responded.

she has this post on the 14th of this month here on nairaland and advices have been given to are even help on how to connect her to organizations that will take care of her pregnancy as she suggested but she gave dubious replies.

I thought you said your dad have agreed to accommodate you and the only thing you need now is money, how come your post still solicit for an accommodation?

how are you even sure it's a girl?
The stories on nairaland these days though...everyone needs money.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:31am On Feb 25, 2016
I just want to let everyone know that to the best of my knowledge, this story is true. I took some time to get some info when the story was posted the first time. She is not lying at least about being pregnant and with no job. I suspect the man played her as well. Please let's help where we can.

Meanwhile adapeter, HABA sis..you are not finished. The devil can never finish you. Not on God's watch. I will contact you today to explain a few things. Take heart, okay? It is important for you and the baby that you have a positive mindset and keep your faith up. Science has proven that babies pick up on the mother's mindset during pregnancy and it can affect them through life. Please be careful not to mentally reject the baby, try not to be depressed or bitter. I trust that you have removed the abortion idea from your head.

Your God will surely come. Isaiah 35:4
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:33am On Feb 25, 2016
Dheartless:
https://www.nairaland.com/2932640/help...i-finished-contemplating-abortion-five

this girl is a scam
please guys click this link and go through all the coments and how she responded.

she has this post on the 14th of this month here on nairaland and advices have been given to are even help on how to connect her to organizations that will take care of her pregnancy as she suggested but she gave dubious replies.

I thought you said your dad have agreed to accommodate you and the only thing you need now is money, how come your post still solicit for an accommodation?

She probably just quickly copy pasted the original post to call attention to the story one more time. Give the lady a break.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:36am On Feb 25, 2016
Chickychic:
calm down my dear and always stay positive

Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by thelish(f): 5:05am On Feb 25, 2016
Were u guys able to sell d properties before picking a wedding date? Did u allow him return to his importation biz before accepting the introduction n pregnancy?
Because u were keen on him being stable before marriage
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Dheartless: 5:47am On Feb 25, 2016
CoCoLav:

how are you even sure it's a girl? The stories on nairaland these days though...everyone needs money.
you may be right , my exact thought
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Dheartless: 5:50am On Feb 25, 2016
lily12:


She probably just quickly copy pasted the original post to call attention to the story one more time. Give the lady a break.
what more does she intend from this post, a better advice ??
I don't think so .
she wants money and that is why everything that was posted in the other thread made no sense to her .
if you truely claim not to be an accomplice but that you are sure of the story and you really want to be of help to her then you have to find a way to present concrete proofs for verification.
checkout this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/2949413/please-save-sisters-life-story
not just you but other well known nairalanders need to be involve and possibly if you can also give real proof to a nairaland mod, it means you need to convince these set of people using real and genuine proofs in other for your claims and hers to be rightly verified.
untill then I will be far from this thread.
someone that needs help doesn't want to reveal her state, not to talk of other important info to proof her geniuness .
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by ifyalways(f): 6:09am On Feb 25, 2016
Lily registered Jan 2016 has become the OP's mouthpiece, mind reader and senior advocate. Hehehe.

Jokers.

Dheartless, why waste your time ? Not worth it biko
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Dheartless: 6:13am On Feb 25, 2016
ifyalways:
Lily registered Jan 2016 has become the OP's mouthpiece, mind reader and senior advocate. Hehehe.

Jokers.

Dheartless, why waste your time ? Not worth it biko
lol I saw that too
the op is just to suspicious
I will do as you have advice
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:00am On Feb 25, 2016
ifyalways:
Lily registered Jan 2016 has become the OP's mouthpiece, mind reader and senior advocate. Hehehe.

Jokers.

Dheartless, why waste your time ? Not worth it biko

You're the joker. I don't blame you... You are a veteran on Nairaland and are probably older than me as well so maybe you have seen more than I have and can justify your accusations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute, hit the X button or hop on to another thread. I think I've seen a few of your posts, didn't think you to be one of the bitter Nairaland women but then maybe I mistook you for someone else or wrongfully assumed you were among the levelheaded.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:01am On Feb 25, 2016
Dheartless:

lol I saw that too
the op is just to suspicious
I will do as you have advice

Yes o, please do as she "have advice" grin grin grin grin
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Nobody: 7:03am On Feb 25, 2016
thanks to everyone that has taken their time to read and reply.Pls dont discredit me or call me fake when u have no proof.I posted it on family section but since I didn't get much response I was thinking of anywhere to post cos am desperately seeking help.I read the advise of going back to my dad,and telling my family which I have done.I am home now but my challenge is still finance and how best to go about dropping the baby and seeking for job after I birth.I gave out my information on the page and said am in Lagos.The few persons that called are probably the ones sticking and believing me.My dear nairalanders,I am not a fraud,I am just a lady who got played,made mistakes and now seeking for help the only way I can just to stay strong for the sake of this child.Abortion is ruled off as most pple advised against it and I know is wrong.pls I am open to any form of veryfication.I have written to mods severally to pls verify me even if it means going to their office,or them coming to check me and even talking to my dad.I can't imagine why I would wake up type a long epistle to be lies and wishing myself such evil.The fact is some men act and treat women so bad that the story do sound hard to believe.Thanks lily and others who understand my plight.You may not have money to give but prayers,love and advise can save a soul.I have been near suicide because my once ok life is turned upside down.it takes the grace of God and it is that grace that is keeping me.Thanks and Godbless
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by ifyalways(f): 7:18am On Feb 25, 2016
Dheartless:

lol I saw that too
the op is just to suspicious
I will do as you have advice

She carefully avoided links giving to her for organizations that would help her, why is that?

The times she's spent typing online is more than enough to go out and meet those organizations who have structures in place and means of helping her, if she's for real.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by dabimzy(f): 7:19am On Feb 25, 2016
You need good people around you now,that will help and support you. I pray they locate you,please be strong for the sake of your child.
God! Give me the strenght to support the needy and the resources to help them.
Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by Dheartless: 8:00am On Feb 25, 2016
ifyalways:


She carefully avoided links giving to her for organizations that would help her, why is that?

The times she's spent typing online is more than enough to go out and meet those organizations who have structures in place and means of helping her, if she's for real.

I have followed her first thread closely and made conclusions that she ain't genuine

I know you have involve in helping people online on a good number of occasion and therefore you've also been a victim of fraud at some point .

but I know if It's genuine the likes of you and some others still won't hesitate to help if you can .

she ain't real .

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