₦airaland Forum

Yes….No…Maybe…Well it all depends on your
emotional intelligence; your Intelligence of the
emotions….


Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to your
capacity and skill set to perceive and manage
emotions. Will you become emotionally
attached whereas your partner may not be
equally as emotionally attached, or vice versa?
Normal development of emotion, (being able to
know, feel and judge feelings in cooperation with
your thinking process for appropriate behavior,
with an ultimate happiness in yourself and in
others) leads to a healthy life.

Healthy sex = healthy life.
Therefore, evaluating your emotional intelligence
is important. Alike personality tests, your level of
emotion is called Emotional Quotient (EQ) and
can be obtained by taking an emotional
intelligence test (see below). But, here is a
briefing on all that goes into your emotional
intelligence.


1. How do you perceive, use, understand and
initiate emotions?


2. Self- Awareness: you understand your
emotions and recognize their impact .


3. Self-Management : you are able to adapt
through having control over your emotions.


4. Relationship Management : you are able to
inspire, develop and influence others during
conflict.


5. Personal Competencies: you know your
internal state (accurate self-assessment, self-
confidence, self regulation, motivation & self
expectations)


6. Social Competencies: you are able to handle
relationships (actively show interest in other
peoples’ concerns and perspectives, ability to
identify other’s needs, weaknesses, and
strengths, communicating clearly with others,
ability to influence effectively, and leadership)
Although, the research of emotional intelligence
is fairly new in the psychological realm, there are
runoff individual and social benefits to gain from
analyzing your own emotional intellect. Utilize
your intelligence by learning how to manage,
modify, or change your existing level of
emotions. Which could mean having sex on the
first date, getting attached and suppressing
those feelings (highly unfortunate), or managing
your lusty feelings, physical connectedness, and
inner feelings in a healthy manner, or not feeling
anything (also highly unfortunate).

So tell me, are you having sex on the first
date?

Your title and content na birds of different feather oh. No be like this dem dey present matter.

But I think I gat ur point ...that although ppl think sex at 1st date is awkward but if u and ur partner are emotionally sensitive to each other, u can have sex on 1st date without losing trust for each other and even have a stronger bond afterwards...

I guess that's your point.

There are different types of dates. Is it the quicky type IE kpakpakpa or the normal date? For the first one, the essence is just to satisfy your urge for sex while the other one is the normal relationship which could even lead to marriage.

RadicallyBlunt:
Your title and content na birds of different feather oh. No be like this dem dey present matter.

But I think I gat ur point ...that although ppl think sex at 1st date is awkward but if u and ur partner are emotionally sensitive to each other, u can have sex on 1st date without losing trust for each other and even have a stronger bond afterwards...

I guess that's your point.

exactly...!!

Tpave:
There are different types of dates. Is it the quicky type IE kpakpakpa or the normal date. For the first one, the essence is just to satisfy your urge for sex while the other one is the normal relationship which could even lead to marriage.

is dat what dey called it... IE kpakpakpa huh

emmyluizzz:
exactly...!!

Yeap its very true. But some people aren't just gifted emotionally. Emotional intelligence differs among couples and it affects relationships a lot

emmyluizzz:
is dat what dey called it... IE kpakpakpa huh

That is the local parlance for it in Nigeria

Tpave:
That is the local parlance for it in Nigeria

I for fear...Lolsss

If a lady opens her legs for me in less than 5 years of courtship, I will smh for such a lady and walk out of the relationship. I like to have sex with a lady at least 10 years of dating



*nobody should quote me*

So what? !
Must every KWOKIRIKWO lead to marriage!
The fact that you 'want' a guy/girl doesn't mean you need him/her.

tosyne2much:
If a lady opens her legs for me in less than 5 years of courtship, I will smh for such a lady and walk out of the relationship



*nobody should quote me*

SORRY....WHY

tosyne2much:
If a lady opens her legs for me in less than 5 years of courtship, I will smh for such a lady and walk out of the relationship



*nobody should quote me*

Hmmmmmmmm When the commissioner of women affairs and condoms development comes out preaching abstinence one begins to wonder.......

McCarlito:
Hmmmmmmmm When the commissioner of women affairs and condoms development comes out preaching abstinence one begins to wonder.......

I WONDER OOOOOOOOO

tosyne2much:
Na me get all those titles ? Hahaha


Bro, I'm not as bad as you pictured me ooooo

Bro... I ain't saying u're bad oooooo I was simply calling to mind ur titles bro....

tosyne2much:
If a lady opens her legs for me in less than 5 years of courtship, I will smh for such a lady and walk out of the relationship. I like to have sex with a lady at least 10 years of dating



*nobody should quote me*

Just passing by to read lies