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Creamish:
I'll watch mine from home. I intend to rest d whole of today before another busy week.

Oh yeah. I forgot, bankers don't have a life, apart from being stingy and tight fisted that is. LOL.

Pele.

*just kidding gurl, I believe you know that? Before some inconsequential misguided buffoon quote me and start saying this and that.

joseph1832:
Oh yeah. I forgot, bankers don't have a life, apart from being stingy and tight fisted that is. LOL.

Pele.

*just kidding gurl, I believe you know that? Before some inconsequential misguided buffoon quote me and start saying this and that.

Joke taken...

daretodiffer:
I disagree with you

What is wrong in marrying for sex?

Is that all I am worth to you? Just a sex machine?

MrsChima:
Is that all I am worth to you? Just a sex machine?

It does not mean that he is not going to respect you.

mikolo80:
and you think fighting and shouting makes you strong abi

Lol. I can't believe you took time out to quote me on almost every thing I said on this thread... Lol, that's quite something! Thanks for acknowledging that I was here.

But women don't fight and shout. If there is a gender known for fighting it should be males not females. But come to think of it, women are strong, strong in our own way and you know this is true.

Next week is Mothers day celebration, get ready to celebrate your Mum, a strong woman. Take care.

amicable09:
Lol. I can't believe you took time out to quote me on almost every thing I said on this thread... Lol, that's quite something! Thanks for acknowledging that I was here.

But women don't fight and shout. If there is a gender known for fighting it should be males not females. But come to think of it, women are strong, strong in our own way and you know this is true.

Next week is Mothers day celebration, get ready to celebrate your Mum, a strong woman. Take care.

why will I not acknowledge you. my mum is a strong woman. not a bitter angry one (many women confuse the two) that's my point

mikolo80:
why will I not acknowledge you. my mum is a strong woman. not a bitter angry one (many women confuse the two) that's my point

Lol. Ok, I get you now.
But everyone gets angry na, married women also get angry even though their anger is directed on/at different things.

amicable09:
Lol. Ok, I get you now.
But everyone gets angry na, married women also get angry even though their anger is directed on/at different things.

no problem with getting angry ,everything wrong with getting angry on decision you took consciously (going against the grain). as you said the 'thing ' you're getting angry at is the bone of contention. imagine a woman dressing half naked and getting angry when guys are staring. same thing, you refused to do what majority are (submitting to men), you should equally ignore them,not wondering why they want you to join them. majority rules. if you're a true believer you won't be bothered by side comments. like me I don't conform no matter what ppl say. I just suck it up.

mikolo80:
no problem with getting angry ,everything wrong with getting angry on decision you took consciously (going against the grain). as you said the 'thing ' you're getting angry at is the bone of contention. imagine a woman dressing half naked and getting angry when guys are staring. same thing, you refused to do what majority are (submitting to men), you should equally ignore them,not wondering why they want you to join them. majority rules. if you're a true believer you won't be bothered by side comments. like me I don't conform no matter what ppl say. I just suck it up.

I love your last sentence. Are you male or female?

amicable09:
I love your last sentence. Are you male or female?

mikolo fa, whatchu think? guess

mikolo80:
mikolo fa, whatchu think? guess

Male

Creamish:
Hahahaha...u think I feel pained because I Dint insult u like u did me? F00l ur mistaken. I was just in a good mood. Still am.

Wetin concine me. your lack of home training and bastardy behaviour na in make men kuma De run from you. even Bleep and dump them no consider you. just sit in a corner and think about how bad your behaviour and character must be that even online perverts won't come near you. you better go say sorry to your village elders wen de do meeting on top your case

christaddicted:
The purpose is KINGDOM PURPOSE. And that will be the basis of your judgement before the judgement seat of Christ.

Individual purposes operate on different grace.. Your purpose on earth is designed by God & known by you & you alone, and is different from mine.

Knowing your primary reason(purpose) on earth determines who you marry so as to MEET your HELP.

God called her HELP MEET meaning there is a PURPOSE why she created her just for you. And if you abuse that purpose of her in your life, you must account for it.

what is the meaning of kingdom purpose. I ask question you confuse me the more

amicable09:
Male

ding ding ding ding ding ding ding jackpot

mikolo80:
Wetin concine me. your lack of home training and bastardy behaviour na in make men kuma De run from you. even Bleep and dump them no consider you. just sit in a corner and think about how bad your behaviour and character must be that even online perverts won't come near you. you better go say sorry to your village elders wen de do meeting on top your case

Pointless.

amicable09:
Male

are you planning not to marry ni

Creamish:
Pointless.

so basically you've got nothing. just want to talk for talking sake

mikolo80:
are you planning not to marry ni

Lol. Why not? I sure plan to

amicable09:
Lol. Why not? I sure plan to

ok,just checking

masonkz:
I actually don't know if this is a global thing, but I've come to notice it a lot around people here, especially the guys.

You see a single woman that is successful at what she's doing, and then the next thing that comes to your mind is to start opining that she must be bitter cos she's in her 30s or approaching 40 and not married. These are the kind of people that feel that for a woman, marriage is the biggest achievement that can happen to her. That no matter what a woman has in life, if there's no marriage, then she's not made, not minding the fact that many married women are silently suffering in their marriage.

In turn, this same thought process goes on to affect the woman as she starts getting desperate and starts having a very low self esteem. The pressure gets to the point where they end up going from one church to the other and in so doing may fall into the prey of men solely looking out for these kind of women to exploit. Only those bold enough to shake off the society's expectation of a woman can actually hold their head high and not give a hoot about what anyone says.

Even women can be their own enemies when a married lady starts using another's singlehood to insult her. In my opinion, that is way below being petty. Now the trend is when people see fine pictures of single ladies on social media, the next question is "where is her husband?", "...who go marry this one wey don reach 30something?", "...too bad that she's this rich and fine with no husband"... poor reasoning I.M.O.

Ladies/Women, your first priority when it comes to happiness is yourself, and not to cater to the happiness of the society. Granted, you may have wanted to marry in your 20s, but if that isn't /wasn't the case, why go on killing yourself about it? Develop yourself the more, be beautiful to yourself, get that money rolling, the career moving, that business booming. If need be, get a baby papa and get yourself pregnant and train the child yourself!. If teenagers can have unwanted pregnancies and still see the child through childhood, successful women can surely do better!

While that last part may not lie well with many, my point still is that you shouldn't go through life thinking having a husband would be your guarantee to having a fulfilled life. Having a great family is beautiful, if you don't have one, align your priorities and have your options open as to what really you CAN DO to make yourself more happy with YOUR LIFE.


#okbye.

Societal contruct

ozoemeka:
Societal contruct

Where have you been?

amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

forget about age
can't you woo a guy you love?

times are changing

TheUpsetGirl1:
forget about age
can't you woo a guy you love?

times are changing

Woo a guy I love? Not sure.
Tell a friend I love, "let's get married", that I can do.

There's no way I'm chyking or chasing a guy. No way! I don't see myself approaching a guy to say from the first day I set my eyes on you bla bla bla. Not me, forget it.

amicable09:
Woo a guy I love? Not sure.
Tell a friend I love, "let's get married", that I can do.

There's no way I'm chyking or chasing a guy. No way! I don't see myself approaching a guy to say from the first day I set my eyes on you bla bla bla. Not me, forget it.

lol.... even from a guy to a girl, the scenario is still wierd...

berryBee:
Thank you for this post..it makes some ladies get scared about getting successful. I remember when I used to say I won't marry, but now I know na Africa I dey.. My mates don marry, my Lil cousins don dey engage. so everything I said when I was young don change. Now I want to settle down ....but from my hubby's house I wll start fighting d war against discrimination against single successful ladies..they need to b proud of what they hv achieved. But I don't want to be one of them.. Yes, I'm a hypocrite

it also include the married friends who alienate their single friends or pressure them into marrying.

Certifiedboss:
Have you seen a woman in her 30s that says she's happy being single ? Be sincere to yourself .

a lot.

However I do agree most seek marriage

geobukky:
lol.... even from a guy to a girl, the scenario is still wierd...

Lol... True. Poor guys, they still have to do it. If I were a boy, I would have done things differently though.