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Hello Guys,

So there's this girl I really like. She comes over to my place...we watch movies, play, laugh n all. She has a boyfriend but I know she's into me cos she comes over with pointless reasons like (to return a flash drive or to collect music from me).

Here's the problem. I kissed her once and she didn't stop me. But we were outside so I had to stop eventually. She's saying she doesn't want to cheat on her bf and we cud have had something if she was single.

I want to respect her choice and all...but can a guy and a girl really just be friends??

I really like her and would hit it in a heartbeat if she gives yellow light sef. What do I do here?

Ere kini aja bekun se?

STFUareyouGod:
Ere kini aja bekun se?

Same thing that crossed my mind.



Bro I have nothing to tell you but I'm also waiting for interesting comments.

ofcos they can be friends, its all about ur level of discipline, ur mentality, mindset as a whole

ellechrystal:
ofcos they can be friends, its all about ur level of discipline, ur mentality, mindset as a whole

Apparently,you have said my mind.

I have been married and incidentally my colleagues at work are all females,a minute number of them,not married.

Tell tell me alot of secrets,personal domestic,about their boyfriends,toasters etc.Like the Op mentioned,they come over for a jist,even if none exists and or,for triflings.

There are some among them that are so close to me,that all and sundry think I date,or have affairs with them.but remarkably,I have discipline which they really respect.Even though sometimes,they run a litmus test,but we are as good friends,as a man and a dog.

brandnew3:
Same thing that crossed my mind.



Bro I have nothing to tell you but I'm also waiting for interesting comments.

let's just take seats and watch

ellechrystal:
ofcos they can be friends, its all about ur level of discipline, ur mentality, mindset as a whole

but despite any level of discipline, one party is always gonna have more strings attached. I love having her around but I can't help the attraction.

Sure they can!,but ts almost usually after they've fvcked eachother (sorry 4 being blunt) multiple times b4... .... Then the Bond becomes somewhat stronger....

shamsuRana:
Apparently,you have said my mind.

I have been married and incidentally my colleagues at work are all females,a minute number of them,not married.

Tell tell me alot of secrets,personal domestic,about their boyfriends,toasters etc.Like the Op mentioned,they come over for a jist,even if none exists and or,for triflings.

There are some among them that are so close to me,that all and sundry think I date,or have affairs with them.but remarkably,I have discipline which they really respect.Even though sometimes,they run a litmus test,but we are as good friends,as a man and a dog.

exactly, u know d bla k man mentality of IMPOSSIBILITIES, some people think its just impossible. smh

only if you know her since childhood and she later turn out to be unattractive or not your kind of girl, or you gay you can be friends, otherwise its impossible and if you ask her out and she doesn't find you attractive she will say lets just be friends but if shes not the nice type she will say NO. i had a crush on a girl then because her mum is my mums bestie i asked her out thrice she rejected thrice saying she values our closeness more than relationship i felt good because of her words with time she traveled and i got over her (out of sight, out of mind) when she came back i have changed, matured, tall bt not thqt muscular and i saw a change in her behavior too, and she's more a woman and her bossoms Jesus i couldn't scream, i kept my cool though, we got talking and she started asking how many girls I've dated, what kind of girls am i attracted to, long story short she eventually became my first girlfriend and we dated for two years until she permanently relocated though we talk on phone but i dont do long distance relationships, i found out from her that the reason why she rejected my advances then was because i wasn't handsome and shes not attracted to me and she doesn't want me to feel bad so she cook the friendship story. so a girl can never be your friend if she finds you attractive and vice versa

samted:
but despite any level of discipline, one party is always gonna have more strings attached. I love having her around but I can't help the attraction.

thats where mentality comes in, its all about your thoughts,
you can b disciplined, but without the right thoughts , I mean possitive thoughts n mindset, u loose, u will surely fall

Nope,it always end in regret and heartbreak

#Fact

ellechrystal:
exactly, u know d bla k man mentality of IMPOSSIBILITIES, some people think its just impossible. smh

Black man stereotyped..
But there are always exceptions

WARRIS THERE?


I GHAT BUNDLES OF MALE FRIENDS

NOTHING ATTACHED


AND DEY DONT TRY SHIIIII WIFF ME


AND WE FLOW WELL LIKE BROz AND SIS...
CHOPING FROM HOSTEL TO HOSTEL...

ellechrystal:
thats where mentality comes in, its all about your thoughts,
you can b disciplined, but without the right thoughts , I mean possitive thoughts n mindset, u loose, u will surely fall

lol. for the first time, i want to fall ooo. she keeps sending mixed signals...or i keep seeing them. i dunno. holding gazes n stuff. i try to have the 'right thoughts' but either she's not helping or my mind is just f8cked

FlawlessRebirth2:
WARRIS THERE?



I GHAT BUNDLES OF MALE FRIENDS


NOTHING ATTACHED



AND DEY DONT TRY SHIIIII WIFF ME



AND WE FLOW WELL LIKE BROz AND SIS...

CHOPING FROM HOSTEL TO HOSTEL...

they don't try shii doesn't mean they don't think shii.

They may just respect the boundaries...but try kissing one of them and see what happens. He will devour you!!

Yes of course, its 100% possible.

Some guys can't handle it wen a gal dy met single all of a sudden start dating a new guy frm no where is juz like sowing a seed, nurturing it and a stranger comes and harvest it (laborInVain)

to be just a friend with a girl you guys have to be
1)childhood friends: their female folks of mine that i can't just date. Beautiful,intelligent ,good mannered but am just used/familiar to dem 2much right frm price sch/sundaysch so we're just friends.
2)devoted church members of same church
3)serious student of same faculty.

Adaure4ever:
Yes of course, its 100% possible.

ahn ahn!! 100%? just checked your dp and me and you can't just be friends ooo. #justsayin

y'all just make it so hard. why can't she come over looking like crap? why must she make up n look attractive?

samted:
ahn ahn!! 100%? just checked your dp and me and you can't just be friends ooo. #justsayin

y'all just make it so hard. why can't she come over looking like crap? why must she make up n look attractive?

then you open up to the girl u crush on and tell her ur mind.
If she is already in another relationship, you can just move on and wait 4 love.
-btw nice picture you have tho.

Adaure4ever:
then you open up to the girl u crush on and tell her ur mind.
If she is already in another relationship, you can just move on and wait 4 love.
-btw nice picture you have tho.

well...i did tell her... i guess i shouldn't have. that's when she gave the not wanting to cheat speech. I would have just jejely played my cards on a low.
Females are mean.
thanks btw

samted:
well...i did tell her... i guess i shouldn't have. that's when she gave the not wanting to cheat speech. I would have just jejely played my cards on a low.
Females are mean.

lol. Just relax, you will find true love.
And when it comes, you will know and feel it.

Adaure4ever:
lol. Just relax, you will find true love.
And when it comes, you will know and feel it.

movies just make the shii look so easy. bump into cute girl wearing geek glasses carrying her school books. help her pack em up. smile at her, she smiles back. you get number. next thing is date. next thing is kiss. next thing is marriage.

real life is too hard ooo

Yes......you can be friends but maturity has a major role to play



You will called a fool by many I.e friend zone,weak ling,



But remember you have a right to be happy and vice versa


First you have to sit her down and tell her


She has a boyfriend, you might just meet someone else and things will have to change especially the visits


Cheers

samted:
Hello Guys,

So there's this girl I really like. She comes over to my place...we watch movies, play, laugh n all. She has a boyfriend but I know she's into me cos she comes over with pointless reasons like (to return a flash drive or to collect music from me).

Here's the problem. I kissed her once and she didn't stop me. But we were outside so I had to stop eventually. She's saying she doesn't want to cheat on her bf and we cud have had something if she was single.

I want to respect her choice and all...but can a guy and a girl really just be friends??

I really like her and would hit it in a heartbeat if she gives yellow light sef. What do I do here?

of course, infact your write up just remind me of a dear friend, a guy have missed so much. I can't wait to set my eyes on him again. so my dear friend, yes and yes you guys can be real friends if you so wish.

STFUareyouGod:
Ere kini aja bekun se?

Meaning?

Not on my dictionary....

nanauju:
Meaning?

why would a lion be playing with a dog ?

Yes you can and could even be best friends..

Its not everyone who comes your way that you date.
Some are meant to be kept as Friends.
Some as boyfriends, while some as Fiance...
And some are to be discarded as well..(You add no value to my life, You zoom off)