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Infidelity is a menace that has broken many homes, setting families apart in dismay; it's quit unfortunate that most husbands do cheat on their wives, and wives cheat on their husbands too in some cases; this is so as the result of individual differences amongst married couples who cares about nothing else; but their own selfish interest.

Research conducted from men who cheat on their wives proves that over 50% of men who cheat on their wives did that as a result of emotional dissatisfaction rather than satisfying their sex urge.

Here are some of the main reasons why men cheat on their wife.

1. Emotional dissatisfaction:
Most men got married without considering this issue; when they lose the connection they have with their wives, they set out looking for someone to connect with, someone to be their mistress, without considering what they might lose in their present marriage.

When there is a huge emotional distance and lack of communication between couples, they lose the connection they have before marriage; this is a major reason why men sees the need to seek for whatever he is missing in that marriage elsewhere as the case maybe, and he is likely to cheat on his wife.

2. Men are moved by what they see:
It is in their nature to feel lost when looking at a lady, especially if she is attractive and sexy, it is very difficult for men to withstand such an elegant beauty; because men loves looking for something good and attractive to connect with.

If the husband lost the connection with his wife, and pays less attention to his family, he is definitely looking for that attention and connection outside his matrimonial home. And when he eventually comes in contact with an attractive lady, boom!!! The urge to have her as his mistress will definitely sets in, and he is likely to cheat on his wife with her.

About 66% of men that cheat on their wives do that with their colleague at the office or their work place. Reason is because; they lost the connection with their wives at home, and happen to see a connection with an attractive lady in the office.

Two things are in their mind during this process.

a) The lady at the office looks attractive

b) They feel connected to her than their wives.

3. The type of friends they keep:
There is a say that goes like this “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”, it is 99% true that our friends influence us directly or indirectly. Believe it or not, our friend’s attitude plays a major role in our lives and in our day-by-day activities. For example, a bird that have fowls as a friend, and walk with them, will someday forget that he can fly…

When he hangs out with friends that cheat on their wives, he himself will see it as a common thing and would do the same as them. They have influenced him without actually telling him to do so, he did that at his own will because; his friends who are good people also cheat on their wives, so he will then thinks it is cool to cheat on his wife too.

4. Not disciplined:
Men who cheat on their wives are not disciplined; as they lack the ability to control their behavior and the way they live.

A disciplined man will look for a way to solve whatever problem that would have made him to cheat on his wife, instead of giving in to such temptation.
There is a time in a man life, when he will see the need to cheat on his wife or have the feelings to, but the ability to control such feelings and need is the problem; as not all men can be able to. However men who possesses such ability are rear, and they cannot cheat on their wives no matter what.

5. The wife’s bad habit:
Most men cheat on their wives because of the wife’s bad habits; and ladies don’t see the habits as annoying and bad themselves as the men do.

One of the bad habits is;
Bodily quirks – this entails tying rapper and not dressing properly, non-clandestine nose picking, farting in his presence etc…
As a house wife, you should Endeavour to dress properly while at home, don’t allow your husband to come back from work and see you tying rapper and looking so unkempt, he will be irritated and pissed seeing you that way. Remember, men are moved by what they see. He might not even touch you because of your appearance, and he will not tell you to change into something nice, because he may think he’s just being rude. That will definitely keep his eye off you and focused to that attractive lady at his work place or the one forcing herself to him.

Hints: dress properly while at home, put on something nice and seduce him, he will never keep his eyes off you…

Another bad habit is when you starve your husband of sex when he is sexually active, he will definitely look for it elsewhere even if he loves you.

Hints: make sure you share everything with each other, know what annoys both of you and stay focus to it as husband and wife, so as to grow your marriage and enjoy it…

desunit:
Infidelity is menace that has broken many homes, setting families apart in dismay; it is quit unfortunate that most husbands do cheat on their wives, and wives cheat on their husbands too in some cases; this is so as the result of individual differences amongst married couples who cares about nothing else; but their own selfish interest.
Research conducted from men who cheat on their wives proves that over 50% of men who cheat on their wives did that as a result of emotional dissatisfaction rather than satisfying their sex urge.
Here are some of the main reasons why men cheat on their wife.
1. Emotional dissatisfaction:
Most men got married without considering this issue; when they lose the connection they have with their wives, they set out looking for someone to connect with, someone to be their mistress, without considering what they might lose in their present marriage.
When there is a huge emotional distance and lack of communication between couples, they lose the connection they have before marriage; this is a major reason why men sees the need to seek for whatever he/she is missing in that marriage elsewhere as the case maybe, and he is likely to cheat on his wife.
2. Men are moved by what they see:
It is in their nature to feel lost when looking at a lady, especially if she is attractive and sexy, it is very difficult for men to withstand such an elegant beauty; because men loves looking for something good and attractive to connect with.
If the husband lost the connection with his wife, and pays less attention to his family, he is definitely looking for that attention and connection outside his matrimonial home. And when he eventually comes in contact with an attractive lady, boom!!! The urge to have her as his mistress will definitely sets in, and he is likely to cheat on his wife with her.
About 66% of men that cheat on their wives do that with their colleague at the office or their work place. Reason is because; they lost the connection with their wives at home, and happen to see a connection with an attractive lady in the office.
Two things are in their mind during this process.
a) The lady at the office looks attractive
b) They feel connected to her than their wives.
3. The type of friends they keep:
There is a say that goes like this “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”, it is 99% true that our friends influence us directly or indirectly. Believe it or not, our friend’s attitude plays a major role in our lives and in our day-by-day activities. For example, a bird that have fowls as a friend, and walk with them, will someday forget that he can fly…
When he hangs out with friends that cheat on their wives, he himself will see it as a common thing and would do the same as them. They have influenced him without actually telling him to do so, he did that at his own will because; his friends who are good people also cheat on their wives, so he will then thinks it is cool to cheat on his wife too.
4. Not disciplined:
Men who cheat on their wives are not disciplined; as they lack the ability to control their behavior and the way they live.
A disciplined man will look for a way to solve whatever problem that would have made him to cheat on his wife, instead of giving in to such temptation.
There is a time in a man life, when he will see the need to cheat on his wife or have the feelings to, but the ability to control such feelings and need is the problem; as not all men can be able to. However men who possesses such ability are rear, and they cannot cheat on their wives no matter what.
5. The wife’s bad habit:
Most men cheat on their wives because of the wife’s bad habits; and ladies don’t see the habits as annoying and bad themselves as the men do.
One of the bad habits is;
Bodily quirks – this entails tying rapper and not dressing properly, non-clandestine nose picking, farting in his presence etc…
As a house wife, you should Endeavour to dress properly while at home, don’t allow your husband to come back from work and see you tying rapper and looking so unkempt, he will be irritated and pissed seeing you that way. Remember, men are moved by what they see. He might not even touch you because of your appearance, and he will not tell you to change into something nice, because he may think he’s just being rude. That will definitely keep his eye off you and focused to that attractive lady at his work place or the one forcing herself to him.
Hints: dress properly while at home, put on something nice and seduce him, he will never keep his eyes off you…
Another bad habit is when you starve your husband of sex when he is sexually active, he will definitely look for it elsewhere even if he loves you.
Hints: make sure you share everything with each other, know what annoys both of you and stay focus to it as husband and wife, so as to grow your marriage and enjoy it…

And why do women cheat?

No4 says it all,undisciplined spouse will only cheat nd do worse on his/her partner....adultery is a very bad menace dat can ruin any relationship/marriage.Say NO to d devil itself

THIS IS NOT TRUE.. CHEATERS CHEAT BECAUSE THEY SELFISH, SELF CENTERED, GREEDY AND WICKED, MOST OF THE TIME IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BEHAVIOR OF THE WIFE OR THE WAY SHE CONDONED HERSELF, THEY JUST WANT TO CHEAT AND MESS ARROUND.. ALL THE EXCUSES OF BEEN CLOSE OR FEEL VERY PEACEFUL WITH ANOTHER WOMAN OUTSIDE THEIR MARRIAGE IS AS RESULT OF NOT LOVING THE WOMAN THEY MARRIED THE THEY USED TO DO WHEN THEY WERE DATING.. PEOPLE CHANGE, SOME FROM GOOD TO BAD AND SOME FROM BAD TO GOOD NO ONE IS PERFECT AND THERE IS NO PERFECT HOME BECAUSE THE RUCH ALSO CRY.. THERE IS NO GOOD HABIT OR BAD HABIT WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE.. THERE IS ONLY LOVE OR NO LOVE.. IF YOU DONT LOVE SOMEONE ANYMORE EVERYTHING HE OR DOES WILL BE IRRITATING AND ANNOYING EVEN IF SHE IS BEST DRESSED BEST COOK OR MOST BEAUTIFUL AND WELL MANNERED OR NEATEST PERSON.. BUT WHEN THERE IS LOVE ALL HER FLAWS WILL SOMETHING YOU WILL ADMIRE, THERE ARE COUPLES WHO BREAK UP BECAUES OF FARTING (MY WIFE FART TOO MUCH, OR MY HUSBAND FARTS SMELLS SO BAD I HATE HIM ) in this case the fart is not the issue it is absence of acceptance because THERE ARE COUPLES WHO FART CONSTANTLY IN THE PRESENCE OF EACH OTHER AND EVEN MAKES JOKE ABOUT IT, anytime there is heat or quarrel between them they settle it by farting to make the other person laugh or smile.. THE BEST THING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NEVER CHEAT INSTEAD FILE FOR SEPARATION IF THE RELATIONSHIP IS BECOMING UNBEARABLE OR CAN LEAD TO PHYSICAL DAMAGE AND DEATH.. CHEAT IS NO EXCUSE AND DEFINITELY NOT AN ESCAPE FROM MARITAL PROBLEMS..