₦airaland Forum

YelloweWest:
What if your will is contested and thrown out by the court?
And even if it is not contested, the native law and custom of your place will be in place till the determination of the court case!
What then happens to your wife and kids in the interim? ?

MsGlobalwonder:
women useless? You mean every woman you know is useless? Your mum,aunt,sisters, daughters (in view perhaps)... woow. That's terrible of them.

MsGlobalwonder:
thank you! To back up their irresponsibilities. I pity women that fall for such scams. Hehhe.

lezz:
I'll always ensure in making a valid will. There's nothing to invalidate a valid will by a testator.

A valid will overrides all customs and traditions as long as it isn't repugnant to good conscience, justice and equity

YelloweWest:
Ok, still while the validity is being tested in court, what happens to your immediate family?

Fanirandele:
The law will give primary custody to whoever is deemed to be in the best position to take care of the children while the other party will get visitation rights. It ends up being women more because they are usually the ones who have been doing most of the caring while married e.g bathing, cooking, homework e.t.c so it's easier for them to be able to carry on versus the judge giving the kids to a man who may never have changed diapers before or cooked for the children. Men who are hands on with their children while married are better prepared to take on that responsibility full time but they are few. Nothing wrong with paying child support, why would anyone not want to keep his/ her financial responsibilities towards their children Either married or not, both parents still have responsibities towards the children and a major part of that is financial. I don't believe alimony is given to spouses in Nigeria. Divorce laws are actually pretty much in the man's favor here because even when the children are with the woman many dead irresponsible men still get out of paying child support since there is really no system in place which means many divorced women end up as the major financial providers for the children and in many cases sef they are the sole financial providers.

MsGlobalwonder:
lool. You intend to marry a biatchhh. Good for you .you don't want to go to registry so you can wake up one morning, throw her out after she has stayed with you through thick and thin for 20yrs? Lool. Funny. People like you eventually get ur match. All the best in your quest bro.

lezz:
I'll always ensure in making a valid will. There's nothing to invalidate a valid will by a testator.

A valid will overrides all customs and traditions as long as it isn't repugnant to good conscience, justice and equity

lezz:
Nothing happens!!! Even if I married her statutorily, she'll still seek legal remedies if relations of mine became heady as she will have to do during the validation of the will.

Mind you, a Will can only go through validity test when contested.

Who the _fuck is going to contest that ?

My relatives? Not a chance. If they did, they'll also fight her statutory marriage or not.

Sunymoore:
Look lady, I'm a responsible man! But being responsible doesn't make me a fool... So my money stays with me... If I ever marry, I'll treat my wife responsibly but I'll not allow her to go with wealth... I think that's not too much to ask?

Okijajuju1:
Only foolish women will accept this fuckery of a suggestion.


SO you marry her under customary laws and leave the woman with no rights or legal protection whatsoever.. You can kick her and the kids out whenever you please and keep all your money and leave her high and dry abi?

Or when you die, you leave her at the mercies of your family to determine what portion of your asset she gets or not abi?

Of you can marry more wives and add to her and she cant do shit about it abi?

Or you can cheat on her with no consequences abi?

This is rubish cos the thinking of the woman is because she has a paper from court she can hold the man to ransom, don forget its just a paper dat can be nulified at any time.Court marriage does not garantee the lady anything. Is only love dat can garantee u .






This Thread is the dumbest thread of the year..

Women, If your Husband wants to marry you, let him do court marriage first to show he is serious before una even go do traditional.


The only protection a married woman has in Nigeria is her Court Marriage license.

hedonistic:
You're the poster girl of uselessness, and it is clearly genetic. Your mother and every female in your bloodline are afflicted. No wonder your father is a hapless cuckold. Filthy thing.

YelloweWest:
What Then once a spouse dies without a will his or her property passes to the surviving spouse automatically! That is if you are married under the Act.

If you have a will without being married under the Act, your brothers will frustrate the surviving spouse with court cases, meanwhile the native law and custom of the man will be in place in till the determination of the court case which will take years...
In other words your immediate family is doomed!

YelloweWest:
No need to pity! Men with this type of reasoning end up with women who will poison them...
How can you get married and still claim "my money " isn't it supposed to be jointly owned in a marriage? Why then does she pack from her father's house to the man place and change her name?

It's really sad the way our young men think and I think we mothers should do more in educating our sons about marriage not just our daughters.

2good:
Do not argue with me. When my dad was alive, I was a signatory to his account, meaning I could sign his cheque and be given money by the bank without him co signing. After he died, I made the mistake of telling the bank that he is late and that was it. They refuse my withdrawal from his account that day. The money in his account will remained locked for the next 5 years before we were able to unlock the money and guess what? My father did not do a court wedding meaning my mum doesn't have any marriage certificate.
Be sure of what you say in the public especially if you have no clue about it.

YelloweWest:
It's near to impossible to fight a statutory marriage. There are just too many witness

Excuzeme:
At the bolded.

The "Will" is supposed to be the choice of how the writer wants his assets shared, on his demise.
Everyone is not going to like it anyway, especially those who are left out.

So, How does it become repugnant to good conscience, or even equity, if that is the way the owner of the property wants it shared?





For example, if a father decides he wants to will his houses to charity because he thinks his children are just waiting for it, instead of being hard working?

Tnx.

kay29000:
Alimony? It is not like that in Naija o! This words you are using is foreign to a typical Nigerian.

lezz:
Let me begin by saying the term good conscience, justice, and equity are absolute legal terms and should not be taken for its surface meaning.

If a teststor, in this case a father, wills all of his estate off to a charity agency, and his family never abandoned him and actually sticked with him through thick and thin, it becomes legally repugnant to good conscience, the Will can be legally contested to seek redress.....

Sunymoore:
Look lady, I'm a responsible man! But being responsible doesn't make me a fool... So my money stays with me... If I ever marry, I'll treat my wife responsibly but I'll not allow her to go with wealth... I think that's not too much to ask?

Gh0stFreak:
who told you that,my uncle's wife filed for divorce with the help of her lawyer sister and got away with the daughter,7million naira and a car.
mehn the thing pain me no be small.

MsGlobalwonder:
Go with your wealth? How? She bore you kids. she stayed with you when you had nothing. Do you even know what it is to be married? A soul-mate, a life-partner. You become one! And who says a woman can't make her own money while married? I'm just against the notion of a man saying he won't go to the registry. For our clime, marriage doesn't favor the woman on it's own. So, saying no registy means you want a slave. Literally. This is because, in laws can interfere and even send the woman packing out leaving her high and dry. If a woman can stay with you, bear your kids, stop her career and the life she has always craved to be married to you. What is money? What is alimony? Why marry someone you don't trust enough to even give all your estates to in the first place? Just saying..

YelloweWest:
No need to pity! Men with this type of reasoning end up with women who will poison them...
How can you get married and still claim "my money " isn't it supposed to be jointly owned in a marriage? Why then does she pack from her father's house to the man place and change her name?

It's really sad the way our young men think and I think we mothers should do more in educating our sons about marriage not just our daughters.

Sunnynwa:
Are you for real?

When there are thousands out there willing even to cohabit without any formalities.

udemzyudex:
Is like you're not in this part of the world, you think guys having baby mamas everywhere are f**ls? The trend is rising, and believe me in the next 10years to come, you will hardly hear about marriage....

After all what's the essence of marriage if not continue your generation..



If she is waiting for court marriage, she go wait tire....

YelloweWest:
It's near to impossible to fight a statutory marriage. There are just too many witness
If you married her statutorily and your family members want to fight her over your property, the laws stated in the Act will be in place in till determination of any matter in court.
She has no such protection under customary law.
I and my husband are both lawyers and our will only states how our property is to be shared in the event both of us die the same time. If not our property would pass to each other upon the demise of one.

lezz:
Well taken point.

Only in Nigeria do couples have to fulfill traditional, statutory and church marriages before a man is deemed to have married his wife in completion!

Complete waste of energy, time and resources!!!

Many men have been lured by their wives into statutory/court marriages after concluding tradition and church marriage rites.

And without knowing the intricacies and legal obligations of court marriages, they have plunged into the deeps of murky, legal waters!

Marriages should be deemed complete after traditional requirements have been completed!

Women pressure men for white wedding just to fulfill their Cinderella dreams!

The more dangerous and daring wives coerce their husbands into statutory marriages as life insurance policies.

YelloweWest:
Well said madam. Cos the motivating factor why any man would shy away from court marriage is so that he can behave any how he pleases without any consequences!
Nature has a way of dealing with them...

Excuzeme:
Thank you.

Let me stretch it a bit further..
In other words, it is assumed ab initio, that a WILL shall distribute the property left behind, to the immediate family members first, before others?

I am assuming the idea of a WILL is to ensure you can give what belongs to you (your property, in your name) to whoever you feel like, as you wish?
But here, you are saying that idea is not sacrosanct an its more of a privilege!?

If after your death, (when you are in no position to argue it), someone else says "I stuck with him" though the years, they then can reverse the decision you made, in "good sense".... without your input!

Is this not why most extended family members 'lay-in-wait' till a man dies, to then swoop on his wife and kids and begin to fight them, even when the man left a WILL?

OTEGA1:
This is rubish cos the thinking of the woman is because she has a paper from court she can hold the man to ransom, don forget its just a paper dat can be nulified at any time.Court marriage does not garantee the lady anything. Is only love dat can garantee u .