FTBOY:
ha!!! bro, can you expatiate on the emboldened. WTF!!!!

Sunymoore:

I'll run away from registry because, the laws are created by some bigoted heavy feminist! I'll not want a situation where I'll divide half of my money with someone whereby, I'm the only person that worked for it. I don't want to lose my house and my car and also pay monthly due to some lazy fellow... I strongly dislike to halved my retirement money with another person.
These are my reasons... So, without the registry, I'm free of these and I can still do what I'm responsible to do...

TheArchangel:
To me marriage is a business contract or like a land lease mumbo jumbo.
When the business is losing or not making enough profit you can retrench or layoff workers and so also when the land lease is up you renew until the parties are exhausted with the constant renewal and decides to seek for other lands.

lezz:
I will with pleasure, my brother.

The court is first and foremost a court of law before justice.

If a man catches another man drilling the daylights out of his wife and they were married statutorily, a plea of remorse or claim of neglect by the wife can drag that case on and on. it's that bad.

If the woman says she still wants the marriage, the judge has the discretion to tarry and stall the divorce wishes of the hubby.

_fuck it!!!

FTBOY:
WTF!!! but does the same apply for a man whose wife caught fvcking another woman?

MsGlobalwonder:
Woow. That's new. Every other person knows that the law in Nigeria for marriage favors the man more. It's an open secret. So, i'm gobsmacked to hear that it was created by "feminist" according to you. In Nigeria (which happens to be my location at the moment and casestudy too) unless the estate is jointly owned, no judge will hand over such to the woman. What the law simply do in Nigeria is to secure the woman against injustice especially from the in-laws and ill treatment from the man which every well-meaning man shouldn't object to. Seriously, do people still marry in 2016 without going to the registry? That's like the first thing naa. It's a rule of thumb. Oh well..

MsGlobalwonder:
Woow. That's new. Every other person knows that the law in Nigeria for marriage favors the man more. It's an open secret. So, i'm gobsmacked to hear that it was created by "feminist" according to you. In Nigeria (which happens to be my location at the moment and casestudy too) unless the estate is jointly owned, no judge will hand over such to the woman. What the law simply do in Nigeria is to secure the woman against injustice especially from the in-laws and ill treatment from the man which every well-meaning man shouldn't object to. Seriously, do people still marry in 2016 without going to the registry? That's like the first thing naa. It's a rule of thumb. Oh well..

vanbonattel:


with una kind of desperation to get married you will not even wait for traditional marriage before getting pregnant for him

Sunnynwa:


Are you for real?

When there are thousands out there willing even to cohabit without any formalities.

YelloweWest:

That one na your own! If you like no protect your self and your kids.
By the time you have kids and your breast flat like bathrooms slippas like my own , if you are not married to a good man and he falls in love with a young girl with standing breast, your own Don finish!

YelloweWest:


Once u marry it's no longer your money but our money o

2good:


A man is responsible to his kids not a problematic ex wife. Why should the man always be the one to give? Don't men and women get thesame education and opportunity in Nigeria?

Joy1706:

Well I know thousands out there who will insist on the right thing being done.

5minsmadness:

Protect my children from the one who is supposed to protect me? Lol!
If I don't have the love of such a man then there is no need to marry. The man I will marry will love me for who I am and not for my breast.
The problem with us women is that we marry men for what they have, not what they are. I'm not saying ladies should marry beggars but at the end of the day it is the qualities of a man you marry and not his possessions.

Vyolet:
None of those laws work here in Nigeria, when a man divorces you or you divorce him, no one would force him to give you Nada, unless he is responsible enough to know his responsibility.

Adeboyefa:
Everybody's business is nobody's business. No sane woman married only traditionally will pool her resources together with the man's (e.g.in joint accounts, joint building projects,etc), knowing fully well he can legally bring in another wife under native law and custom at any stage. She will rather open secret accounts in the names of her children and show you her "low" account balance from time to time, while building her own house secretly. Women concentrate on their children in traditional marriage.

Under registry marriage, your wife will concentrate on you as long as she feels she is your one-and-only while the women outside will treat you as a public tap.

Every marriage system has its pros and cons. Make your choice;it's your life.

MsGlobalwonder:
Woow. That's new. Every other person knows that the law in Nigeria for marriage favors the man more. It's an open secret. So, i'm gobsmacked to hear that it was created by "feminist" according to you. In Nigeria (which happens to be my location at the moment and casestudy too) unless the estate is jointly owned, no judge will hand over such to the woman. What the law simply do in Nigeria is to secure the woman against injustice especially from the in-laws and ill treatment from the man which every well-meaning man shouldn't object to. Seriously, do people still marry in 2016 without going to the registry? That's like the first thing naa. It's a rule of thumb. Oh well..

bukatyne:


In this Nigeria?



Even a correct church will not wed you without a license from the court or a marriage certificate obtained from the registry.

Peeps are still queuing to get married at the registry

Watever rocks your boat

5minsmadness:

Protect my children from the one who is supposed to protect me? Lol!
If I don't have the love of such a man then there is no need to marry. The man I will marry will love me for who I am and not for my breast.
The problem with us women is that we marry men for what they have, not what they are. I'm not saying ladies should marry beggars but at the end of the day it is the qualities of a man you marry and not his possessions.

5minsmadness:

Protect my children from the one who is supposed to protect me? Lol!
If I don't have the love of such a man then there is no need to marry. The man I will marry will love me for who I am and not for my breast.
The problem with us women is that we marry men for what they have, not what they are. I'm not saying ladies should marry beggars but at the end of the day it is the qualities of a man you marry and not his possessions.

lezz:


In Nigeria statutory and customary marriages have an ocean of difference.

1) if you marry statutorily, only a Federal HIGH COURT CAN PRONOUNCE YOU DIVORCED!!! ( I think Imo state is the only exception to state courts)

2) If you marry statutorily, you become liable to the offence of bigamy ( the crime of marrying more than one wife) it carries jail time without the option of fine.

3) To process a divorce is expensive. Lawyers charge more going to high courts

4) Your wive gets to keep a certain percentage of your estate in almost any circumstances BY LAW!!!

5) IF YOU CAUGHT HER IN BED WITH ANOTHER MAN, GETTING A DIVORCE MIGHT BE TOUGH

6) MOST COUNTRIES DO NOT RECOGNISE ANY OTHER FORMS OF MARRIAGE. _FUCK YOU THINK AKATA BOYS ARE MARRYING LOCAL GIRLS STATUTORILY FOR ?

MizMyColi:


If I may ask please..

In this age and time, do people still place premiums on Church weddings and receptions?

obowunmi:


You're a woman? Thought you were a guy.

Excuzeme:


It is first and foremost, a matter of CHOICE......... and then secondly a matter of AGREEMENT!

if a woman thinks she can use is as a weapon of Blackmail, subtle or not, then it becomes an act of coercion, which in most cases has already sown the seed of destruction (of such marriage!)

As they say, "Cunny-Man die, Cunny-man bury-am"

5minsmadness:

I found out the meaning of your moniker. You can't expect any decent lady to take you seriously with a moniker like that

5minsmadness:

Protect my children from the one who is supposed to protect me? Lol!
If I don't have the love of such a man then there is no need to marry. The man I will marry will love me for who I am and not for my breast.
The problem with us women is that we marry men for what they have, not what they are. I'm not saying ladies should marry beggars but at the end of the day it is the qualities of a man you marry and not his possessions.

postmann:


I'm sorry to be late to this thread.

Truth is marriage is too sacred to be interfered with by some godless scholars. Who the hell is a judge or magistrate or whatever to pronounce anyone married or divorced? GOD is the owner, originator of marriage, not man. And we are to abide by GOD's standard in marriage. When man attempt to fix issues he never originated by his own knowledge and understanding, he only complicate it further and prove he isn't truly wise.

Even priests have no scriptural backing to join anyone in matrimony. They can only bless a marriage.

An unmarried girl belongs to her father. And he only can give her out in marriage with his blessings to any man she chooses. His role is to advice and counsel her before she makes her choice and after.

Children belong more to their fathers even in divorce. They trace their lineage through their father and therein lies their inheritance and identity.

Since man-made, carnal institutions have poked their noses into marriage, divorce is rampant and most times for flimsy reasons.
I pity the soul of any judge who has ever dissolved a marriage save for adultery. On issues of threat to life, I believe the appropriate response is separation, and not outright divorce.

Still, I believe a judge should have no powers dissolving any marriage. Such an institution is too sacred for his carnal mind to meddle into.

Traditional marriage is the most spiritual and significant. There you abide by custom and pay every dues to the bride's parents and relative. Then you would have settled both man and spirit.

But she's not a property oooo!

So smart men will never in the first place trust their marital covenant to be based and supervised by some spiritually hollow intellectuals, A.K.A wise-fools.

NgwaManNaija4LF:


My sister, a divorce man or woman has no responsibility.

Wake me up and I will repeat.

delishpot:


Women are not the only cause marriages failure. Some marriage are not worth investing time and emotion from the women. If you put a woman at home and expect her to restrict her career so as to be able to handle the home front while you spread your own wings as a man to achieve all achievable don't you think the woman deserves some compensation for her time? Besides bigamy can also mean a woman marrying more than one man at a time. Just that the average Naija man knows he is 90% likely to commit this crime compared to the women folks.
If you do not want your wife to get a dime from your purse, then get ready to not limit her in what ever way she chooses to grow and prosper her life while you are married to her. So that should she decide to leave you or you decide to leave her, she has her own life built up for her already.
You guys come here to discuss what you will and will not allow your wife do as if you own a human being like you own a property. Then you restrict her like a child because you married her only to turn around and claim she did not sacrifice/contribute anything to your financial growth during your marriage to her?

5minsmadness:

Protect my children from the one who is supposed to protect me? Lol!
If I don't have the love of such a man then there is no need to marry. The man I will marry will love me for who I am and not for my breast.
The problem with us women is that we marry men for what they have, not what they are. I'm not saying ladies should marry beggars but at the end of the day it is the qualities of a man you marry and not his possessions.