₦airaland Forum

Sunymoore:
Look lady, I'm a responsible man! But being responsible doesn't make me a fool... So my money stays with me... If I ever marry, I'll treat my wife responsibly but I'll not allow her to go with wealth... I think that's not too much to ask?

YelloweWest:
Excuse me?? Pls mind what you say if you are ignorant to the law. If you were coming signatory to your dad's account the bank had no right to stop you!
If your parents were married under the Act once u obtain letter administration all your dad's property would have passed to your mum! The law protects a surviving spouse WHO IS MARRIED UNDER THE ACT! WITHOUT A WILL!

MsGlobalwonder:
Go with your wealth? How? She bore you kids. she stayed with you when you had nothing. Do you even know what it is to be married? A soul-mate, a life-partner. You become one! And who says a woman can't make her own money while married? I'm just against the notion of a man saying he won't go to the registry. For our clime, marriage doesn't favor the woman on it's own. So, saying no registy means you want a slave. Literally. This is because, in laws can interfere and even send the woman packing out leaving her high and dry. If a woman can stay with you, bear your kids, stop her career and the life she has always craved to be married to you. What is money? What is alimony? Why marry someone you don't trust enough to even give all your estates to in the first place? Just saying..

Okijajuju1:
For you to call a federal marriage license "just a paper" shows you have no idea what you are talking about.

I advice you to keep quiet and learn from this thread.. A federal marriage license is more than just a piece of paper. Ask men who have suffered the consequence how powerful that paper really is.

lezz:
My legal e-soldier!!!

Please carry on and untangle me from the ceaseless knots of my persistent posers!!!

She isn't yielding

My beer is beginning to play tricks on my tongue already.

MsGlobalwonder:
Go with your wealth? How? She bore you kids. she stayed with you when you had nothing. Do you even know what it is to be married? A soul-mate, a life-partner. You become one! And who says a woman can't make her own money while married? I'm just against the notion of a man saying he won't go to the registry. For our clime, marriage doesn't favor the woman on it's own. So, saying no registy means you want a slave. Literally. This is because, in laws can interfere and even send the woman packing out leaving her high and dry. If a woman can stay with you, bear your kids, stop her career and the life she has always craved to be married to you. What is money? What is alimony? Why marry someone you don't trust enough to even give all your estates to in the first place? Just saying..

YelloweWest:
Once u marry it's no longer your money but our money o

Excuzeme:
Question: Who is a Responsible Man?

Woman: A Foolish Man!

Man: A Smart Man!

But men are generally foolish, from the time of Adam, as such foolishness has come t be termed "Responsible"..........
so to act differently, is to be assumed Foolish!

2good:
bla bla bla. I am telling you about a realistic experience and you're quoting what you know nothing about. just so you know, I had to get a lawyer and follow the legal process to unlock the money and no marriage certificate was required.

YelloweWest:
Once u marry it's no longer your money but our money o

lezz:
Let me confess, I didn't read beyond the first line of impossibility of fighting statutory marriage....I just finished off from a hard day at the office and I'm unwinding in a local bar. I'm debating with you with less than 40% of my brain controlled by the less than 50% of my sobriety.

A statutory marriage isn't immune from the evil antics of greedy relations. Law suites can drag for ages by injunctions and other legal hurdles further than a Will.

I don't favour statutory marriages, it doesn't give a man much options if the wife falls out of love in old age.

Will can always be written and rewritten to reflect real-time changes.

Bring it on, _fuck this beer!!!

Sunymoore:
Exhales... ..
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Yes! I'll not allow anyone to go with money!
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Saying no to registry is an easy way to protect my money! A[b]nd no, my in-laws will not try that with me[/b], and even in even of separation between I and her, I'll make sure, I give her enough money that can sustain her life style, that's if she used it wisely!
I'll not stop her from pursuing her carrier, and I'll make sure I pay child support in case of separation!
Final though! I'll not entrust my life to anyone! Thanks

Sunymoore:
Bro... I'm not those suckers... I know my onions very much.. I cannot be a mumu.. Thanks

5minsmadness:
Traditional marriage
Court wedding
Church wedding


That's the plan.

Truth is, marriage is a SPIRITUAL institution and not a CARNAL or LEGAL one. The moment white folk introduced the pre-nup and legal aspect, they screwed up the spiritual romance of marriage. Why go into marriage seeking for what you will gain from your partner instead of what you can give. Selfishness in marriage is a recipe for misery.

People's should marry those whom they love(women) and respect(men). The purpose of marriage is to bring joy and love, not Strife and competition.

Sunnynwa:
Nigerian law recognises customary marriage and considers it equal to registry marriage. It's just that people are ignorant of that. I did just traditional marriage and that is what I used to get my wife a UK dependant visa.

YelloweWest:
Pls I'd like some precedence precedent on statutory marriages that have been successful set aside by the late husbands family

Do you even have a conscience at all? What if your father fell out of love with your mum and throws her and her kids out? How would you feel? It's exactly reasons like this that's why we have the MARRIAGE ACT.

Excuzeme:
Bros, l dey enjoy you like Big Stout!

Easy on the bottle though, l hope you wont be driving yourself home?

5minsmadness:
Traditional marriage
Court wedding
Church wedding


That's the plan.

Truth is, marriage is a SPIRITUAL institution and not a CARNAL or LEGAL one. The moment white folk introduced the pre-nup and legal aspect, they screwed up the spiritual romance of marriage. Why go into marriage seeking for what you will gain from your partner instead of what you can give. Selfishness in marriage is a recipe for misery.

People's should marry those whom they love(women) and respect(men). The purpose of marriage is to bring joy and love, not Strife and competition.

lezz:
Well taken point.

Only in Nigeria do couples have to fulfill traditional, statutory and church marriages before a man is deemed to have married his wife in completion!

Complete waste of energy, time and resources!!!

Many men have been lured by their wives into statutory/court marriages after concluding tradition and church marriage rites.

And without knowing the intricacies and legal obligations of court marriages, they have plunged into the deeps of murky, legal waters!

Marriages should be deemed complete after traditional requirements have been completed!

Women pressure men for white wedding just to fulfill their Cinderella dreams!

The more dangerous and daring wives coerce their husbands into statutory marriages as life insurance policies.

Excuzeme:
There is a saying:
"Lets pretend we are DEAD...and see who really loves us".

Bros, when you are dead, your in-laws and even your own siblings can do and undo, can turn to vultures and Dracula so much so that if it were possible for the Dead to Wake-up, they would kill some family members!

have you ever witnessed where "family meeting sare held, to share the properties of a dead family member?
If not please do! You might be lucky not to have been exposed to the "crazy ones". Thank your stars.


Again, when a marriage fails, the Woman (in most cases) is not after "what can sustain her lifestyle".
She is not only after all your Money, she is after your total destruction!
have you not read of stories where "Women use even the Child Support to engage Lawyers with strict instructions that ht e"unemployed husband" must go to jail, if he cannot afford the imposed Alimony?

She takes delight is seeing the ex-husband DESTROYED... so that he will be useless to any other woman, in life!

Have you heard the phrase "Hell has no fury, like a woman scorned/divorced"?
Ponder on it for a while.

YelloweWest:
Yes call it life insurance, provided it works both ways which it does!
If you die you would prefer your siblings to inherit your property while your wife and kids suffer?

Excuzeme:
That was a response to the Lady who quoted you earlier.
It was done in sarcasm.

Sunymoore:
Exhales...
Yes! I'll not allow anyone to go with money!
First of all, she bore US kids, in fact, there's high chances of her to benefit from the kids than I.. So the kids are OUR own..
And I stayed with her when she has no money as well! Offering only her ****to the table while I provide everything! But that's not a problem to me, since the society expects such from me..
What is to get married? Isn't not a legal Union between man and woman to become husband and wife? Anything else? No! I guess..
Look lady, I'm independent, I believe in my self, and so far, is working! Yes! We are technically one! I didn't say, she should not make her money.. She should work if she likes, but her money stays with her, she can do whatever she feels like doing, it's her property, but that's will not stop me from fulfilling all her financial needs and wants...
Saying no to registry is an easy way to protect my money! And no, my in-laws will not try that with me, and even in even of separation between I and her, I'll make sure, I give her enough money that can sustain her life style, that's if she used it wisely!
I'll not stop her from pursuing her carrier, and I'll make sure I pay child support in case of separation!
Final though! I'll not entrust my life to anyone! Thanks

lezz:
In Nigeria statutory and customary marriages have an ocean of difference.

1) if you marry statutorily, only a Federal HIGH COURT CAN PRONOUNCE YOU DIVORCED!!! ( I think Imo state is the only exception to state courts)

2) If you marry statutorily, you become liable to the offence of bigamy ( the offence of marrying more than one wife) it carries jail time without the option of fine.

3) To process a divorce is expensive. Lawyers charge more going to high courts

4) Your wive gets to keep a certain percentage of your estate in almost any circumstances BY LAW!!!

5) IF YOU CAUGHT HER IN BED WITH ANOTHER MAN, GETTING A DIVORCE MIGHT BE TOUGH

6) MOST COUNTRIES DO NOT RECOGNISE ANY OTHER FORMS OF MARRIAGE. _FUCK YOU THINK AKATA BOYS ARE MARRYING LOCAL GIRLS STATUTORILY FOR ?

AVRecruit:
Many women have turned State sponsored divorce laws into a lucrative business. Find a well to do man or a man with potential, after several years or a decade, file divorce. You get to keep his house, alimony and child support payments, half of ur future income goes to her while she sleeps with other men!

im not sure what the laws are in Nigeria but guys wise up, only do traditional lest u part with ur landed property and union bank shares!

For white wedding just call pastor to pray for u.

YelloweWest:
What Then once a spouse dies without a will his or her property passes to the surviving spouse automatically! That is if you are married under the Act.

If you have a will without being married under the Act, your brothers will frustrate the surviving spouse with court cases, meanwhile the native law and custom of the man will be in place in till the determination of the court case which will take years...
In other words your immediate family is doomed!

YelloweWest:
It's near to impossible to fight a statutory marriage. There are just too many witness
If you married her statutorily and your family members want to fight her over your property, the laws stated in the Act will be in place in till determination of any matter in court.
She has no such protection under customary law.
I and my husband are both lawyers and our will only states how our property is to be shared in the event both of us die the same time. If not our property would pass to each other upon the demise of one.

FTBOY:
please stop watching Nollywood movies, especially ones starring chinwetalu agu and patience ozokwo.....they can ruin your mentality on facts and fictions

MsGlobalwonder:
We are saying the same thing. All the things you stated that you will do for her are the same things expected of you Legally! So why run away from the registry? Let me guess.. you don't want to he held responsible for them. You want it to be done at your whim and caprices. The day you happen not to be in a great mood, you won't do the "needful". The law isn't against anyone, it's just to secure the rights of people! If you are so sure u'll do all what you stated, then you have no business running away from the registry. Oh well, talk is cheap.