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Raymondenyi:
Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....




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Back to the topic; Madam do not marry him, not because he is not suitable for you, but rather you are not psychologically mature for marriage. A lady with the mentality of "if you don't pay my bills or spoil me with gifts, then you not the one" is definitely not psychologically ripe for marriage ...... also the hypothetical anecdote you tried using on him further reaffirms my stance on your immaturity........ so i'll as a matter of urgency admonish you take out time, forget marriage for now, and do some growing up before you venture into that esteemed institution called marriage which is often trivialise by kids of today.....



*for those quoting me on inanities, you are only wasting your time as i will not reciprocate the privilege*

And the brute is mentally ready for marriage right? You need a heavy knock on your empty head. Daft punk.

May be I should slap you too to regain your senses before you accept to marry him.

uncleFola:
Babe, so you still need someone to tell you that the journey you are about to embark on is dangerous...... Do you think marriage is "joking stuff" ( in Fals voice).... You don't need to get yourself into trouble....... Think twice.

As par that picture on your post:

Answer: FALSE ....... but you should not make it a habit.
At times, even a man has to "slap himself" to reset his own brain!

Imagine if your Mum has not eaten today or she is ill in Hospital and needed money to get treatment started, you collect your salary and then went to buy Iphone 7S for your girl friend, forgetting your mother?
Dont you think at that point, you need to slap yourself, so as to "RESET YOUR BRAIN" properly? Your Mother is a woman, your g.friend is also a woman and will become the "Mother of her son", one day

All slaps are not done with a wicked/evil intention........... but dont make it a habit when it comes to your woman. You have to cherish your wifey.
I am married for almost two decades now and have done it only once or twice!.
In that instance, l was the one that was even crying .... so you know how it feels for me, even though l am the "aggressor".
But it is better if it never happened and l applaud those guys whose relationship have avoided such "extreme action".
Its like when forced to cane your loved child; its not hatred but may be absolutely necessary and one in a million event.

If you cant have the level of commitment required to your spouse, please avoid marriage!
It can be very sweet, as l am experiencing now (and l thank God and my spouse for that) ............ it could also be the worst disaster that can happen to anyone in life!
Its 'ruination' is beyond compare!
E nor get Part 2, as we say in Warri



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Raymondenyi: Please modify your post, and try to improve on your written English, it is appalling to say the least, re-read your post, try to make necessary edition, present it more lucid and comprehensible for readers to offer their advice which you direly seek....

He guys, what is the fixation on the poster above?
Granted no one is perfect but the more important thing is to BE READY TO LEARN AND IMPROVE.

If someone corrects me today, it does not mean l cannot be better than that person tomorrow!

He has made his point... and to be honest, the level of written and spoken English in Nigeria today, is appalling!
I dont know if our newly acquired "text habit" (text/chat speak, where you dont have to conform to "grammatical ethics", is the cause.

But you must also remember that there would be times when BAD spoken and written English will put you at a disadvantage!
So, it costs you nothing to always try to improve your English........ it can only be an advantage.

Now, if somebody "corrects" you, (even if you think its harsh), dont be too arrogant and try to fight back.
Just say "Thanks you" ...and move on.
You have gained something and you will have improved. He wont have to correct you on the same thing in future.

Practice makes Perfect, as it is said!
What you do regularly (like bad English) ....becomes a habit and defines you in no time!.



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Thank you dear,you have said it all.

netizenbuzz:
There is nothing wrong in expecting someone who claims to love you to step up when you are down. Y'all are talking this financial independence thing too far. There's love in sharing and it goes both ways. Stop decieving yourselves. Personally I would still expect you to offer and then I can politely decline. Not because I am a woman and you are a man but because I would do the same for you if you were in that situation. She's not immature to be expectant please, she's only being human. How can you claim you love someone and you are not ready to give your all to the person? That is what I call immaturity because you obviously don't know what love is.

Memejem:
And I'm entitled to my opinion of your opinion.

Why are you so defensive? So because someone comments on what you posted you must respond so pained?

I must now be a defender of the oppressed. It's because of people with your mindset that nigeria is not moving forward. When someone uses logic you respond with rubbish.

No discourse or intelligent opinions to move forward. Everywhere is filled with trolls like you.

Bite yourself

Raymondenyi:
yes i didn't deem it necessary to take that into cognisance, my reason is simple, her story is incomplete, she should tell the whole reason why she was slapped, what did she do? For the man to have slapped her just once during the course of their relationship tells he is not really an abuser as she is trying to portend..... she might have stretched him beyond his capacities......

As regards the money part, do you know whether the man had any on him at that point in Time? She never denied the said man hasn't been spending on her before Now? Has she ever reciprocated same gestures ? Women should stop this vain attitude of I'm meant to take all, and only open my legs for him as a payback.... (that's the mindset of low life street hookers, show yourself some class woman.....)

Bros,what you are saying is somehow to me. Remember,the lady said she had used all her money to pay for her treatment and she really needed him to help her out. We are all human beings,even if you think the man wasn't financially stable at that point in time,what happens to him telling her,"baby,I don't have money to give you now but I will make it up to you". In this life,there is no one without understanding,if he had said something, she would have understand. You all should stop this attitude of "is he your father that he will pay the hospital bill for you". You don't even know the one they lady has done for him before. I could remember when I was working and there was this friend of mine at the same office with me,everyday I go to work I bring food for two. He wasn't my boyfriend but I had to do that always because I care.The bible even said it,"love your neighbour as you love yourself" .

Adaure4ever:
*smiles* thanx

They there they smile oo..Na battalion Of love struck men go show up for your compound.Suitor No 2 ..diaris God o

Raymondenyi:
I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know absolutely nothing...... saying you are silly will be an abuse of that word...... Go search for help , I will not dignify your obscenities with a response anymore..... continue in your crass ignorance you truly deserve it...

Who are u trying to intimidate with dis inconsequential grammatical expression. Guy, U dnt need all dis

Leave him...please

You first

chimah3:
Bite yourself

Adaure4ever:
*smiles* thanx

U're always Welkom but I take style crious sha

Dyt:

Is it not you
Always looking for a way to defend the male folks

What's defending there, are they not valid questions?

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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No matter what we advise you will still marry him. People will advise you that he will change and he did what he did because he didn't marry you and now that he is married to you he won't do them again.

Dear let me tell you all those are lies. You will suffer it till the end. You will end up praying for the rest of your life for him instead of you to channel your energy to pray for the salvation of your soul and your prosperity.

Well I advise you that you should not marry him. He has real trust issues. He has self esteem and egoistic tendency. Marry him at your own peril. Please don't forget to PM me for advise when he has started punching you or doesn't provide for you and the kids.

Run for your life my girl. Ask alot of married women today. Most of our issues would have been solved if some people looked well and never ignore the warning signs. A WORD IS A ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.

Raymondenyi:
I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know absolutely nothing...... saying you are silly will be an abuse of that word...... Go search for help , I will not dignify your obscenities with a response anymore..... continue in your crass ignorance you truly deserve it...

Egoistic olodo

You won't still edit your first post.

firstolalekan:
Egoistic olodo

You won't still edit your first post.

a nitwit you are son, no need replying to persons that are lacking in understanding ... I'll not reply you again...

SaintHephzibah:
lol umoh you funny. Abadie na?

obong owo am fine

lastpage:
I am your "boy"... send me to go and buy roasted plantain, l will go sharp-sharp!

Nice weekend Sir!


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I am your "boy"... send me to go and buy roasted plantain, l will go sharp-sharp!

Nice weekend Sir!


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hope you had fun this weekend Boss!

jashar:
sincerely, sisters reasoning like this is annoying.

My spidey sense tells me she's considering the guy cuz she feels it's her time for her to get married.

hmmm u d only reasonable person here!u have a good point u know!i like to be friends with pple like u pls heres my email, physicist_gimbaidris@yahoo.com n pls call me Gimba

[quote author=Raymondenyi post=43654562]I do not have the luxury of time to waste on your lots; if my lexicon was way over your comprehension or vocabulary , the best you could have done was take solace in your dictionary instead of being stupid...... This is a social platform where all and sundry come, people are meant to learn and build up from what they know and do not know, not feigning crass, obscene and irritating ignorance and yet basking in grandiloquent delirium when in fact u know abs lols

mylove4him:
No matter what we advise you will still marry him. People will advise you that he will change and he did what he did because he didn't marry you and now that he is married to you he won't do them again.

Dear let me tell you all those are lies. You will suffer it till the end. You will end up praying for the rest of your life for him instead of you to channel your energy to pray for the salvation of your soul and your prosperity.

Well I advise you that you should not marry him. He has real trust issues. He has self esteem and egoistic tendency. Marry him at your own peril. Please don't forget to PM me for advise when he has started punching you or doesn't provide for you and the kids.

Run for your life my girl. Ask alot of married women today. Most of our issues would have been solved if some people looked well and never ignore the warning signs. A WORD IS A ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.

True & thorough. Couldn't have said better.

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

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Abeg o flee.

henergygirl:
I met this guy in 2010 when i went on a visit to see my aunt. It was an on and off relationship though.......during the course of this relationship, he slapped me and there was another time i was hospitalized, he came and left without offering to pay for the bills knowing fully well dat i had spent much on the sickness already..
Recently he called and said he wants to settle down and apologised for his past behaviour saying it was because he has this trust issue with ladies but he said he is trying to change........i said fine, he's even planning to come and see my family in June. But two days ago, i needed to clear the air on something so i asked him via whatsapp that my girlfriend wants to divorce the husband because he slapped her and he condemned the act saying it could lead to battery if proper measure is not taken. I also asked him that my friend's husband left her in d hosptal when she was hospitalized saying she has family so they should pay d bill. He found out that i was referring to him but his reply was that he should have given me two more slaps as prescribed and y would he pay the hospital bill when i was taking advice from my girlfriend....
Pls dear nlanders mature advise pls. Help a confused sister.

Mods, please front page

So what decision did you end up making?