Tombilly:
whenever she starts nagging just pull her wit force close yo yourself as if you wanna deal with her, then give her a soul crushing kiss that will melt her body and soul ...after that look her in the eyes and say baby you know I love you? when she will be thinking of saying yes I know the anger will metamorphose into love..... try it and thank me later.

herbie27:
there are millions of women out there who are in abusive relationships wit men(husbands), if u trully love your wife or girlfriend u wouldn't lay a hand on her, no matter the provocation.

Every1 has a temper bt there are ppl whose tempers are more and if u find urself in such relationship i assume u knw ur spouses soft spot....why nt play wit dat wen u trigger their temper dan beating cos is even worse wen u resort to beating...one of u could die on the process.

This thread shld be for married men to advice him nt boys who are advicing him to resort to beating....u shld all be ashamed of urselves for giving such callous advice.

Nitefury:


Bonsoir Jeune femme

komododragons:
I swear you don't know how hot temper is.

soft spot on

you had an little argument with your spouse and before you knew it he just started beating you, will you be looking for soft spot to calm him down

gezzz! now I know I'm talking with someone who don't know anything.

have a nice day and go get yourself a chill drink. you don't know what you are talking.

pls don't quote me again.....

ilawanson44:


Hmmm! I doubt it o....one day, she may look for "human target" and husby is likely to be victim

Tombilly:
whenever she starts nagging just pull her wit force close yo yourself as if you wanna deal with her, then give her a soul crushing kiss that will melt her body and soul ...after that look her in the eyes and say baby you know I love you? when she will be thinking of saying yes I know the anger will metamorphose into love..... try it and thank me later.

GenBuhari:
OP,
If you can't beat them join them.

When she gets angry you can try and appear even angrier.

@topic
From your write I think you are part of the problem.

Why u blocking her phone people who may ultimately help calm het down?

You could even speak to the people she calls and get them to convey you point of view to your gf for you.

herbie27:
there are millions of women out there who are in abusive relationships wit men(husbands), if u trully love your wife or girlfriend u wouldn't lay a hand on her, no matter the provocation.

Every1 has a temper bt there are ppl whose tempers are more and if u find urself in such relationship i assume u knw ur spouses soft spot....why nt play wit dat wen u trigger their temper dan beating cos is even worse wen u resort to beating...one of u could die on the process.

This thread shld be for married men to advice him nt boys who are advicing him to resort to beating....u shld all be ashamed of urselves for giving such callous advice.

komododragons:
says who?

this one deals with anger management and the relationship is not even healthy when one can't control her angers.

until she carry knife come kill him before you go characterize the relationship as unhealthy

one need to act fast before it get out of hands and now is the time for him to either beat the hell out of her and show her that he is the man or take her to a psychiatric hospital.
but I knew you know that she won't even agree to this bolded option because no Nigeria WOMAN WILL ever admit that she has a mental problem until its too late.

daretodiffer:


So it is okay to disturb the whole world because she is angry

tuscani:
I tot we dealt with this topic before. well this is my response again

Almost all the posts here are saying similar thing. if you really love this woman, take her for anger management/ therapy first. I have a guy now who is wishing that only if he knew about nairaland before getting married. You case will be more pathetic because you have been warned by your peers. After marriage you will soon realised that Love is not only the ingredient required to sustain a marriage.

THE ANGER OF A WOMAN

What is a contentious woman? One that likes to contend – who likes to argue, criticize, disagree, fight, oppose, or question. She is full of questions, reminders, and suggestions – all to help, of course. Rather than dote on you, she will nag; rather than sweetly agree, she will question and suggest alternatives , she is critical, moody, opinionated, or questioning– until you wish you were single in the woods.

The odious woman cannot smell herself. She thinks she is helpful by prodding, asking questions, stressing over details, giving reminders, expecting perfection, or disliking a choice. If you were to ask her, she would say she is a good woman and wife

What is an angry woman? She cannot rule her spirit and likes to fight. She is easily angered, dissatisfied, irritated, negative, or resentful. She can find something negative about any event, and she frets and talks most about that. She is not satisfied. She is hardly ever content, seldom your sweet lover, but always irritated and stressed out.

mencade5:
Please bear with me. The thread is a bit long. This thread is about me and not my friend. (lol)

i honestly need mature advise from the married and matured folks here.

I am in a very serious relationship with this lady. This is our 12th months together and i plan to propose to her in few months time.

I observe that she has hot temper. Each time we had little misunderstanding she flare up and wouldnt calm down for us to resolve and settle it amicably.

Being a gentleman i believe there are no perfect relationships. Quarrels and disagreements must pop up no matter what.

Yesterday we quarreled due to certain issue we had agreed on. I must confess i caused it but i was quick to realise it and apologise but she wouldnt listen. She made an attempt to call a friend of hers to report the issue. I stopped her. She again wanted to call her pastor too i blocked her hands and was surprise why she is inviting third parties to our matter. She was even voicing it out for people to hear us quarreling and i was calming her down to lower her voice.

This lady is the type every man needs. Religious, good cook, prayerful and she gives me advise on so many occasion.

Her parents are late and she was abandoned by her brothers and sisters due to change of religion. I dont know maybe this affected her attitude.

I myself i have my own wrong sides yet i am ready to accept her wrong and hope she do the same to me. But she wouldnt.

I have talked to her about her anger and made her understand that it is not good for us. Yet yesterdays event surprised me.

Please sorry about the long post. I just need advise or advises about how to handle this issue with my woman.

To add she is 23 and i am 29 years.

doveda:

So it is okay to beat a woman who doesn't act accordingly?

mencade5:
Please bear with me. The thread is a bit long. This thread is about me and not my friend. (lol)

i honestly need mature advise from the married and matured folks here.

I am in a very serious relationship with this lady. This is our 12th months together and i plan to propose to her in few months time.

I observe that she has hot temper. Each time we had little misunderstanding she flare up and wouldnt calm down for us to resolve and settle it amicably.

Being a gentleman i believe there are no perfect relationships. Quarrels and disagreements must pop up no matter what.

Yesterday we quarreled due to certain issue we had agreed on. I must confess i caused it but i was quick to realise it and apologise but she wouldnt listen. She made an attempt to call a friend of hers to report the issue. I stopped her. She again wanted to call her pastor too i blocked her hands and was surprise why she is inviting third parties to our matter. She was even voicing it out for people to hear us quarreling and i was calming her down to lower her voice.

This lady is the type every man needs. Religious, good cook, prayerful and she gives me advise on so many occasion.

Her parents are late and she was abandoned by her brothers and sisters due to change of religion. I dont know maybe this affected her attitude.

I myself i have my own wrong sides yet i am ready to accept her wrong and hope she do the same to me. But she wouldnt.

I have talked to her about her anger and made her understand that it is not good for us. Yet yesterdays event surprised me.

Please sorry about the long post. I just need advise or advises about how to handle this issue with my woman.

To add she is 23 and i am 29 years.

chocolateme:
It is well.. So na you and her pastor go dey marry her now, because finally na the pastor's opinion and decision go dey rule in your marriage with her.
This is not good at all.
Sight other examples of marriages destroyed by her kind of her arbitrary discretion and be firm to let her know that it's better not to go down the aisle this way than have a cold marriage. She will decide to choose. Pastor never settle his own family matter finish talk more of other people's own.
Who agrees with me that the church leaders and pastors has the most issues in their homes?
I am open to critics in case there are any..




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