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Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by swaggprofessor(m): 7:51am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mistyebby:create ur own thread 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Amhappy(f): 7:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
She is like this because of the hurt,pain and sorrow of yesteryears. This is not her original nature. It happened to me so I'm speaking from experience. I struggled with it like 3yrs. Since you love her, you can help her overcome this. Enrol her in anger management class. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Toks2008(m): 7:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: Both of you are still young tho so i believe with time she just might overgrow it but nevertheless she must stop the act of calling a third party so often and you should also try to avoid heated arguements. cheers |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by igboko1: 7:54am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Just hold the proposal first and try not to see her for days then she will call,wen she calls tell her u want to see her afta dat tell her your mind that u can't continue anymore because u dnt like her anger issues then see her reaction,if she promise to change u will knw dnt let her force u to continue the marriage proposal. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by bernie4naija(m): 7:55am On Mar 22, 2016 |
wa gbayi look i bette remain a Reverend Father (Padre) than to sign up for a miserable life with a woman of anger. i had to [size=48pt]RUN[/size] during service when i discovered that i will have to be begging a lady 'cos she is angry. (then i was about 24 years) three years ago, i had to boot another girl because she too has anger issues even the HOLY BIBLE SAYS it is better to live in the corner of an attic..........to eat a dry-crusted bread in PEACE than to dwell with an ANGRY WOMAN x240: |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Montaque(m): 7:56am On Mar 22, 2016 |
komododragons:Are u married? An answer to the above will show how much you have been able to live in marriage union. Can u see that young men are being increasingly intolerant. It is not bible principle for a perfect man to marry a perfect woman. Work on ur issues together.thats love. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by swaggprofessor(m): 7:57am On Mar 22, 2016 |
franugo:read the story again |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by dangervu(m): 8:00am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:. I feel what you are going thru,when she is angry ignore her even when you are at fault,you either keep quiet and look of find somewhere to go,the matter can be resolved when she is fully calm....ok |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Ziggylee(m): 8:00am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Well my advise is dat if you say she will change after marriage so u wanna endure her u r lying she will b worse.....although evryone has dere bad side buh u jus av to make up ur mind dat u will marry her bcz if u fink she will change in future na big lie..u r d one dat is wearing d shoe,u knw wot u want. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by ALLPISHON: 8:02am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Hello my Brother, talking to her yourself will never work, don’t just go there. 1) Get a senior godly and morally upright couple; i repeat couple to discuss this very issue of anger with her primarily 2) Not optional, let her go for deliverance (you must confirm that she did it) 3) Pretend one day that you also are angry on an issue to the point that it may threaten the relationship (please, confide in someone before you embark on it) don’t listen to anybody if they advise you otherwise. But bear it in mind at each stage (prayerfully) that it is a journey of wisdom and not satanic anger. While this is on please be watchful of her actions and reaction. Is unfortunate that i have limited time. 4) If she does not change. I beg you in the name of the Lord (God knows i am praying for you even now). Please, please, please[b] DO NOT MARRY HER. Either way you will remember this piece. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by olarhtunji(m): 8:03am On Mar 22, 2016 |
goodmorning40: Disappointed in you for your comment |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by tete7000(m): 8:18am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: First thing first, has she agreed she has anger problem? You can't heal a man who doesnt agree he is sick. If you give him drugs, he won't take them. Give him instruction on how to get better, he won't follow it. So you first need to get her to agree she has a problem, after that you two seek a way together out of your conundrum. If she wouldn't talk, the relationship is as good as dead. Relationship can only be built on mutual communication and cooperation. Only you can't make it work. It takes two to tango. You might end up putting things right while she keep scuttling them. Let her seek counsellor's help if she needs one, the Pastor she calls might also come in handy. Best of luck. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by MrCork: 8:19am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: ..is she lightskin? |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by doveda: 8:21am On Mar 22, 2016 |
komododragons: You would only beat mofos not someone like me I bet a woman should also beat and almost kill a husband that doesn't act accordingly Is that how your father used to beat your mother? May your daughters and sisters be beaten too Olorib..uruku I know men like you. You have poor social skills and the only way you can communicate is through violence. Los..er! Olo..shi with an inferiority complex Left to me, I will gladly pois..on you and send you to the great beyond |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Jasperwhizz(m): 8:22am On Mar 22, 2016 |
After everything is at peace, sit her down Give her a Peck, make sure you do this when she is kinda Happy. Tell her how much you love her. it doesn't matter how many times you have said or show this it is 'an evergreen recipe' in love it doesn't fade even with time. Having note that. Thank God She is Religious or even Spiritual, which means she has got a good conscience, Counsel her on Anger tell her how embarrassing it is and how it could ruin a relationship. give her some instances. quote Bible it is imperative. Tell her gently that you are not judging her Show and tell her you love her in spite of this. Peck Her again and she will feel remorse and appreciative. HOW TO CURB ANGER! 1. Don't utter any word while you are angry. smile instead. 2 Appreciate yourself for enduring such a tensed time And Thank God (it will make you grow and improve) PRAISE GOD FOREVER AND Thank me later! |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 8:24am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5:! |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 8:25am On Mar 22, 2016 |
GenBuhari:She cannot be allowed to phone one person She needs to deal with her issues herself or with her bf. I am surprised the guy has not dumped her ass for doing that |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by ogagam(m): 8:25am On Mar 22, 2016 |
My bro . u ve worked to do. Pray about it. Both of u need to talk to a marriage counselor Sometimes her anger may be as a result of the hostile environment she may have grown up. Talk about it to her. I don't mean pointing at her faults. Play with her more and do less talking. I believe with time and God's grace it will wear away. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by graciandubuisi(f): 8:26am On Mar 22, 2016 |
mencade5: The bedrock of every relationship is TRUST, there's an adage in my place that says "You can't beat a child and forbid him from crying". How can you stay in a relationship when you can't control your jealousy and do you know that attitude of yours can lead you to harm the person you love the most unintentionally. She's on the wrong to "always" try to tell pastor, this that, look I only met my husband June '06 and by November we r married and that's 9years + but believe me when I tell you that no one has ever settled our quarrel for us and that's what makes us strong. Every man is naturally jealous but when "you can't stand seeing her with another man" then even her pastor is in trouble! While she work on her side work on yours. See my husband saw me through school after we got married and being the only daughter of my parents, I easily flow with guys but he confided in me and I gave him my word that I won't betray his trust and that is it. I won't be on this platform or anyone else if I was always suspected. You confessed that she's godly, why don't you trust her the more. I rest my case sir and I wish you all the best. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 8:39am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 8:50am On Mar 22, 2016 |
MARKone: This Bros has said it all. When you hear that a wife killed her husband or cut his dick off, these are the signs he should've noticed earlier on.. Why try to change her? |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 8:52am On Mar 22, 2016 |
franugo:Oga if you don't believe in prayer and God hold your peace, a lot of us do and that's because we have seen proof that it works |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by debbydee(f): 8:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
anger rest in the bossom of fools. Na bible talk am ooo Bros use your tongue to count your teeth. Is something wrong with our youths or its simply love is blind. Person dey vex anyhow and you still want to go ahead to marry her dont worry by the time the anger begin escalate you go know how far. A word is enough for the wise. Peace. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by debbydee(f): 8:53am On Mar 22, 2016 |
anger rest in the bosom of fools. Na bible talk am ooo Bros use your tongue to count your teeth. Is something wrong with our youths or its simply love is blind. Person dey vex anyhow and you still want to go ahead to marry her dont worry by the time the anger begin escalate you go know how far. A word is enough for the wise. Peace. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by cybriz82(m): 8:55am On Mar 22, 2016 |
U are askin for advise which u already know. Trust me av seen sum1 like her b4.good cook religious person,bt easil get angry,and na dem dey watch emmanuel tv 247. They will scream at any slice mistek u mek for d neigbour to hear.even if u keep quiet dey wll till keep talkin.they wll evn embarass ur frnds.d only way u cn save dat kind of woman is to live her n tell her d reason u are livin her so dat she wll learn how to hold her anger those kind of people will go out n look for trouble then bring d trouble inside ur house for u defend her like jet li.my brother no try am.some of then are even posses with spiritual husbby that why dey dnt listen to their own husband.na 2 tinz u need my brother either u run live her or u join moutain of fire church. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Sike(m): 9:00am On Mar 22, 2016 |
God go help U @OP |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Nobody: 9:01am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Point of CORRECTION, She is not the type of LADY every man needs. U can only manage an ADULT. U can't CHANGE an ADULT , but you can decide a CHILD'S destiny. Please, if can't put up with her flaws, LEAVE HER now before it gets late. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by missjahiniekpe(f): 9:03am On Mar 22, 2016 |
You cannot change anybody, you are not APC. Even the APC change mantra is still confusing sef... We all are humans and have our unique flaws, if you cannot laugh about her moment of anger like she is ready to accept your own flaws,you don’t love her so leave her alone, trying to change her will create more problem s. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by tekslee: 9:05am On Mar 22, 2016 |
Bros,forget bout changing her I just run. Dats d best advice I can give u. But if u choose to go on with d relationship,i trust dat u will always remember my words |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by Twinkie8: 9:10am On Mar 22, 2016 |
shaiba:To add to what Shaiba said, She is 23, she'll surely outgrow this. When kids start coming in, she'll learn by force. Children have a way of driving one up the wall, what will she do? Will she throw her kids away? Talk with her about this attitude and maybe threaten to end things if she doesn't change, get counselling too but at the back of your mind, just know she'll change with time. It's well. The heart of the king, the fiancee and everybody is in God's hand. |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by franugo(m): 9:11am On Mar 22, 2016 |
KingJhean: u mean prayer can make a hungry lion play with a goat instead of mauling it? |
Re: My Wife To Be Has Anger Issue. How Do I Curtail It? by shoboy9: 9:11am On Mar 22, 2016 |
You can't! God can change her but you can't, she can't and I can't. you can take her for deliverance. no guarantees. no drugs can treat this. But it is better you know that it will likely get worse. has she been drinking? does she have unresolved emotional issues from childhood or previous relationships? has she had anything inserted in her body? do your best for her but above all take her for deliverance. what happens after that will tell you whether to go on and marry her. I suspect you are already getting tired. but it will be worse unless something is done. |
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