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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by ehix89(m): 1:08pm On Mar 26, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
1# Get away
.....Take a walk
Sit in a empty room
Stand on the balcony
Just find a secluded space and calm down.

2# Clear your mind
Count to 100
....It sounds silly but focuse on the counting and you'll find your calm after awhile.
But you gotta focuse

OR
#3 listen to music
..... it's calming
Focuse on the lyrics, sing along if you need to.

Basically your cooling off so you can better handle the situation.
ever done some anger mgmt courses b4, yhu sound like a progrin
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 1:09pm On Mar 26, 2016
MrsPhyno:

It's a part of your brain. Controls emotional reactions.
I have been told am unromantic and rarely emotional. So my lack of emotions could be my lack of control of it. Hmmmmm. Haven't heard that before. Well since am desperate and ready to listen to any help. Would try and be more emotional. Cry sometimes if something is sad.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 1:13pm On Mar 26, 2016
bigtt76:
Anytime you sense anger boiling up in you, through any of the banking channels, transfer out 100k or more to someone you love. With time you will calm down. Thank me later kiss

hahahahahaha. That would help and fast too. Well there is something from this I will try though. Bae would open a shout /cuss basket for me. Any day I scream. I will pay some amount into the basket once it's agreed /proved i really shouted (audio evidence). After awhile we will use the money accrued to buy her a gift in apology. My bae has big eyes. She will jump to this but am scared the daily fine could be much. But this way, I lose money when I misbehave rather than lose my woman. You intended a joke. But you gave me a model. God bless you.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by ehix89(m): 1:14pm On Mar 26, 2016
and here am I angry cos I don't knw how to get angry, i'll sit down nd smile or laff when one is makin a foolery of his or herself in an attempt to irk or irritate me.....d last tym I was slightly pissed was wen I lost my BIRD grin

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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Nobody: 1:15pm On Mar 26, 2016
ehix89:
ever done some anger mgmt courses b4, yhu sound like a progrin
Mmm,no.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by ehix89(m): 1:17pm On Mar 26, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
Mmm,no.
its ok, aiit....bye
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by bigtt76(f): 1:18pm On Mar 26, 2016
No joke intended Dear. This tactics we use on kids always fighting. Each time the bully amongst them hit a weakling, the weakling is given something to make the bully jealous or feel bad. God bless you both too.


Eddygourdo:
hahahahahaha. That would help and fast too. Well there is something from this I will try though. Bae would open a shout /cuss basket for me. Any day I scream. I will pay some amount into the basket once it's agreed /proved i really shouted (audio evidence). After awhile we will use the money accrued to buy her a gift in apology. My bae has big eyes. She will jump to this but am scared the daily fine could be much. But this way, I lose money when I misbehave rather than lose my woman. You intended a joke. But you gave me a model. God bless you.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by pacino26(m): 1:22pm On Mar 26, 2016
Eddygourdo:
As a child. I was a terror, as an adult a greater terror. The day I stood up a bank in the south East, disarmed the mobile police man and was in a stand off with his colleagues simply because he slapped me when my phone rang in the banking Hall (intercontinental bank. 2007). Was the day I decided to check my temper. I was saved by a soldier on scene who disarmed me and whisked me away. I was in hiding for months till I returned to the same bank months later to slap the same policeman, entered a bike and zoomed off. Only to go into hiding again. I realised then and there that my display was cowardice. Thus I started my philosophy of changing my behaviour.

Asides some incidents of road rage, revenge etc. I have calmed down alot. By the time I started dating bae I was technically an angel. Years have now gone. And I noticed my anger issues have surfaced. Though I don't get physical. But I raise my voice alot.

Bae is soft spoken, plus hates my screams and easy to cry,. I feel so bad whenever she cries and I always promise myself never to scream again. Yet I notice I keep doing it. She is really trying to ensure angry episodes never happen. I an trying too in my own way. I used to watch comedy series to bring out my fun side. But apparently comedy series like modern family and the rest are hard to come by.

I have alot of pent up energy in me, sex and comedy never solves it anymore like before. I need to change soon before my behaviour drives a good woman away from me. Thanks to my apparent lack of self control in anger.

Wat activities can I do to help myself. Please don't tell me to gym. I am naturally built and 6ft 4. Any other gyming would make me a bouncer look alike. I used to play soccer actively but I have stopped thanks to my job. Mature response from like minds highly required. Thanks

Hmmmm, I guess you're older but we're in the same club with the same class of bae.

1. Apply the secret service approach; expect insults and worst case scenario in every event then play deaf cuz you're on duty.
2. Travel to the imaginary comic land where you'd laugh as see everybody as a child.
3. If you stutter which I guess you do, learn to smile and not talk, have your hands in your pocket.
4. For your woman, promise yourself not to make her cry anymore laying a datum on her loyalty and love for you. Knowing fully well you don't care if she leaves try to find a reason to appear less predictable and start to truly love her (you do but out of principle and many options you don't really care)

Most importantly, it takes real strength to forgive and keep calm. Exercising force and physical outrage may seem the easiest way to avoid blowing up but learn to countdown from 100 in tense situations when with her. Only to ask her what she wants at the end of it and diligently move to do some at your own time.

Diary of a renewed me. cool

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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Nobody: 1:24pm On Mar 26, 2016
Eddygourdo:
I have been told am unromantic and rarely emotional. So my lack of emotions could be my lack of control of it. Hmmmmm. Haven't heard that before. Well since am desperate and ready to listen to any help. Would try and be more emotional. Cry sometimes if something is sad.
Not so much the lack as the lack of control. Like you get angry too easily, and when you are angry you get too angry.

Whatever works for you bros.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Nobody: 1:28pm On Mar 26, 2016
Join Nigerian army in Bornu.

Bro, fight Boko haram..
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 1:32pm On Mar 26, 2016
bigtt76:
No joke intended Dear. This tactics we use on kids always fighting. Each time the bully amongst them hit a weakling, the weakling is given something to make the bully jealous or feel bad. God bless you both too.


we learn everyday even when we think we know it mostly all. Though it's bribing but in my own perception I feel it will work. After reading and typing a response to u. I felt alot at peace like a man whose problems just encountered a solution. It will work for me. Cheers

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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 1:32pm On Mar 26, 2016
Naughtysite:
Join Nigerian army in Bornu.

Bro, fight Boko haram..
thanks for ur contribution.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Cutehector(m): 1:50pm On Mar 26, 2016
Eddygourdo:
you get me exactly. Bae tries to avoid things that riles me up. But I have to put an effort too because she is human, and most times errors happen and I still scream and tell her how she pissed me off, and amidst a sad face she will ask me if she isn't trying. It's all looking like an abusive relationship. With me the abuser and I need that to change. I don't weed or smoke. Guess these vices I don't do are part of why I can't get a release of my pent up internal energy. If I start smoking now, friends and family will wonder at me. What I didn't do at my younger youthful days. Am doing as a middle age man.
just take it easy brother eh...
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Gofwane(m): 2:13pm On Mar 26, 2016
Bros your own na play. My own was so bad that i can imagine a thing (something that has not happened) and get really angry.

My grandmum use to say my anger is direct from th devil. I don't display mine easily but when i do, it isn't something to be spoken about.

That's why i prefer staying alone on my own. I don't mingle with people especially people that talks anyhow.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 2:29pm On Mar 26, 2016
Gofwane:
Bros your own na play. My own was so bad that i can imagine a thing (something that has not happened) and get really angry.

My grandmum use to say my anger is direct from th devil. I don't display mine easily but when i do, it isn't something to be spoken about.

That's why i prefer staying alone on my own. I don't mingle with people especially people that talks anyhow.
exactly me. What happened to us. Why are we like this. One must change oh to be more sociable.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by danielukwuru(m): 2:38pm On Mar 26, 2016
Take it to God man,there's nothing He can not do, always the last resort

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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Nobody: 3:04pm On Mar 26, 2016
Sincerely pray about it to God.. Talk to him, let God recleanse your system and your brain.. U can go on seven days fasting and prayers.. God will change the old you into a new a peaceful you..
And learn to calm down and meditate most times in the morning and night..
It helps.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by oyxah(f): 4:08pm On Mar 26, 2016
Go for counselling. See a therapist, psychologist. Pray.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Jadekitana(f): 4:32pm On Mar 26, 2016
Eleyi Gidi gan hmmmm
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by agbonkamen(f): 4:43pm On Mar 26, 2016
you have to help yourself cos anger destroy and does not repair.

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Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 5:58pm On Mar 26, 2016
Amelian:
Sincerely pray about it to God.. Talk to him, let God recleanse your system and your brain.. U can go on seven days fasting and prayers.. God will change the old you into a new a peaceful you..
And learn to calm down and meditate most times in the morning and night..
It helps.
thanks dear. Personal growth is needed. Meditate about Wat though. A prayer?
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by Eddygourdo(m): 6:00pm On Mar 26, 2016
oyxah:
Go for counselling. See a therapist, psychologist. Pray.
you ever met a therapist? Dont know any
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by oyxah(f): 3:56pm On Mar 27, 2016
Eddygourdo:
you ever met a therapist? Dont know any
Nop. But i think most of this good hospitals have them. But first of all, the most important thing is prayer. If God doesn't intervene even the best therapist can't help you. And fast too.
Re: Bae Is Sick And Tired Of My Hot Temper.... Anger Management Tips Needed Urgently by bigtt76(f): 9:31am On Mar 28, 2016
Very thankful to have made a mark through my post. God bless us all.

Eddygourdo:
we learn everyday even when we think we know it mostly all. Though it's bribing but in my own perception I feel it will work. After reading and typing a response to u. I felt alot at peace like a man whose problems just encountered a solution. It will work for me. Cheers

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