₦airaland Forum

Danfuster:
This world is already theirs, every none living thing that's fine is regarded as she. Buy a Mustang car and we still gone say "she's beautiful" even when we all know what a Mustang is, y'all ladies be rocking our wears, making it all expensive for us to buy cos you help shoot up the demand... We didn't complain and still, you trying to take our "AGBADA". Bunch of insatiable greedy human specie

ema binu sir

kaziblake:
You are very correct,i concur.
1-Introduction ceremony

2-traditional marriage.

3-court marriage

Cos those set of people in Nigerian are jobless and probably don't have any reasonable things to do with their time that's why they do such ceremonies. They are less concerned about making the marriage work and last till eternity rather they are using those three ceremonies to waste their resources all in the name of wedding. A very reasonable person will pick highest two of those ceremonies Introduction and traditional or introduction and court marriage or introduction nd white marriage. Must we Nigerian lived a complete borrowed life? Even the foreign people that introduced the court marriage was because they see it as an means of contract which give them opportunity to divorce and remarried as many times as possible cos they know they will have financial and other benefits from their broken marriage. Can you count the successful percentage rate of foreign marriages so far? No answer abi? Their marriage through to court procedure is totally a contract deal. Both Nigerian man and woman if you want your marriage to work don't invite someone that God created to come and intervene but God who established the institution of marriage in the first place. Can't believe many people are yet to know what marriage is all about, you people have forgotten it's a sacred institution between husband, wife (which is one after marriage) and God where third party is not allowed. Plan your marriage on long time journey not wedding of hours journey.

herboshedhe:
ema binu sir

Kabo joor... Like your collectibles

One, it's pertinent to know that d writer isn't married or very envious of those married? Ask whether yur parents went thru court? N yu deem them not to be married?. The truth is, there are reasons y people go to court for this weddings, pls find out yursef, otherwise get me a consultancy fee!

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Danfuster:
Kabo joor... Like your collectibles

thank you sir!

Toks2008:
It is no longer news that tradition is the opium of the people and no one is contending that.

But when it comes to marriage,while some believe that without paying of bride price,the man can not be said to be married to a lady and some believe that without the white wedding,a marriage can not be said to have received GOD's blessings.

Well i'm not here to discus on that aspect of marriage and i had to drop this quick one as a result of the mentioned i got on a thread relating to this.

[size=13pt]I am not sorry to write this...

Any married lady who never had a legal wedding otherwise called Court or registry wedding is as good as single.Quote me anywhere in the world.[/size]

And this is very true for some reasons but i will mention a few.

1. He can not just wake up one day and say he does not like your face again and send you out of your matrimonial home.
2. He dares not marry another wife except he divorces you
3. He must have a valid reason for divorcing you and must be able to convince the court.
4. You have protection under the law for yourself and your child(ren) in case he dies

I can continue to list several other reasons but let me just stop here.If you like, say you trust your husband,he loves you,he can never treat you bad..O.Y.O lo wa.

If you like let the man spend 1billion on your traditional wedding and do a white,blue,green,indigo wedding with a trillion naira. The fact is that these two ceremonies combined with all the money spent is not as binding and constitutional as a simple court wedding with just 4 people in attendance.

Unfortunately we have seen many people getting away with bad acts despite the fact that they had a legal wedding but the reason is because the affected individual usually lets go without putting up a fight due to high cost of legal battle and no thanks to parents and family members who always preach to them that "what is yours will always stay with you" and that they should let go which i see as stories for the gods.

Ladies be wise..as an endangered specie in the cruel world of men,legal wedding was specifically created to protect more of the lady's marital right so take advantage of it or ignore at your own risk.

I will stop here.

oga.....its obvious you knw nothing abt family law... Orthodox Churches
particularly Anglican, Catholic, Methodist and so on..
you are issued a certificate of marriage which is same
as that issued by the Court registry so you do not
need to do a marriage in the Registry...

Well, am not an advocate of court marriage because its uncultured and unislamic.

You have just stated the obvious truth.

Omotayor123:
The reasons are obvious my dear Toks2008.
My parent didn't get married in court ; Does that makes my mum single And to think my dad will wake one day and send her packing is imposibility that can never be possible

Besides, court marriage doesn't stop a crazy/unfaithful man from being crazy/unfaithful. It doesn't even stop them from impregnating another woman. 'At worst you will call for divorce'!

The important thing is marrying a good man your bone and flesh, even without any form of marriage, he will cherish and Love you!

Toks2008:
It is no longer news that tradition is the opium of the people and no one is contending that.

But when it comes to marriage,while some believe that without paying of bride price,the man can not be said to be married to a lady and some believe that without the white wedding,a marriage can not be said to have received GOD's blessings.

Well i'm not here to discus on that aspect of marriage and i had to drop this quick one as a result of the mentioned i got on a thread relating to this.

[size=13pt]I am not sorry to write this...

Any married lady who never had a legal wedding otherwise called Court or registry wedding is as good as single.Quote me anywhere in the world.[/size]

And this is very true for some reasons but i will mention a few.

1. He can not just wake up one day and say he does not like your face again and send you out of your matrimonial home.
2. He dares not marry another wife except he divorces you
3. He must have a valid reason for divorcing you and must be able to convince the court.
4. You have protection under the law for yourself and your child(ren) in case he dies

I can continue to list several other reasons but let me just stop here.If you like, say you trust your husband,he loves you,he can never treat you bad..O.Y.O lo wa.

If you like let the man spend 1billion on your traditional wedding and do a white,blue,green,indigo wedding with a trillion naira. The fact is that these two ceremonies combined with all the money spent is not as binding and constitutional as a simple court wedding with just 4 people in attendance.

Unfortunately we have seen many people getting away with bad acts despite the fact that they had a legal wedding but the reason is because the affected individual usually lets go without putting up a fight due to high cost of legal battle and no thanks to parents and family members who always preach to them that "what is yours will always stay with you" and that they should let go which i see as stories for the gods.

Ladies be wise..as an endangered specie in the cruel world of men,legal wedding was specifically created to protect more of the lady's marital right so take advantage of it or ignore at your own risk.

I will stop here.

Op ask yourself first why on earth will u get married to a person you feel emotional insecure with? Ask yourself don't can you trust yourself let alone of trusting another person? Ask yourself on what did you both established the relationship in the first place? Wen u have answers to all this den u can rewrite ur post. Let's try not to mislead people nd make marriage look so hard that one has to consult the whole world opinion before you can make decision.

msmon:
Well, am not an advocate of court marriage because its uncultured and unislamic.

You have just stated the obvious truth.

Welcome back boyfriend

Women!! If you want the world,come and collect it!

To a very large extend it's true but there are peeps who illegally married and are living happy ever after.

Am so shaking my head rite now...i'm wondering how u can sound like an undergraduate in law school,looking for clients to rip from. My dear, in case u don't know, the most recognised wedding or joining btwn man and wife is traditional. Take it or leave it. The court like u said can protect women's rights in marriage, buh, on the oda hand, have you ever thought of women who use it as a tool? I'l stop here.

cutestA:
Am so shaking my head rite now...i'm wondering how u can sound like an undergraduate in law school,looking for clients to rip from. My dear, in case u don't know, the most recognised wedding or joining btwn man and wife is traditional. Take it or leave it. The court like u said can protect women's rights in marriage, buh, on the oda hand, have you ever thought of women who use it as a tool? I'l stop here.

u r point bro I concur

It's people like OP that sell out the make species.I pray your mode of thinking don't come back to haunt you.

I beg to disagree Mr Op, Nigerian law recognises marriage under native law and custom as well as how it recognises marriage under the act, so traditional marriage is valid in every sense, but unfortunately it allows a man marry more than a wife.

I agree its not legalized by the state

esthel:
I beg to disagree Mr Op, Nigerian law recognises marriage under native law and custom as well as how it recognises marriage under the act, so traditional marriage is valid in every sense, but unfortunately it allows a man marry more than a wife.

can a wife marry more than one then and if u wanna take u second husband out of the country do other countries recognize it as well? Gbosa ...!!!

wahabian:
It's people like OP that sell out the make species.I pray your mode of thinking don't come back to haunt you.

if I have a traditional marriage with u how u gonna go to Sweden or USA?

Am sure court wedding can protect women from polygamy, and children from losing inheritance. That's it.

kaziblake:
You are very correct,i concur.
1-Introduction ceremony

2-traditional marriage.

3-court marriage

this is exactly how i want it. your head dey there! babe can we get married already.... what do you say?

Nina4u:
if I have a traditional marriage with u how u gonna go to Sweden or USA?

I'll schedule a flight and we make it happen.

kaziblake:
You are very correct,i concur. 1-Introduction ceremony
2-traditional marriage.
3-court marriage

These are the 3 things I did...

SisiNini:
These are the 3 things I did...

it's saves cost also and very easy to plan.
I'm not ready for extravagance spending.

Qualer:
this is exactly how i want it. your head dey there! babe can we get married already.... what do you say?

Meet me in ikoyi registry.

Well, Toks2008, let me be like the first to tell you that 98% of today's women do not deserve a civil marriage. Of course, naturally, all my female relatives are in the remaining 2%.

Nina4u:
can a wife marry more than one then and if u wanna take u second husband out of the country do other countries recognize it as well? Gbosa ...!!!

Keywords : native law and customs. Smh

why do people have problems with legalizing your marriage, most churches wont even wed you anyway if you have not fulfilled the legal aspect. In my church you go and place the notification in the court and after the required time they give you a document to take to the church and on your wedding day you get your certificate ( Govt issued) and the church certificate.


Much ado about nothing

Toks2008:
It is no longer news that tradition is the opium of the people and no one is contending that.

But when it comes to marriage,while some believe that without paying of bride price,the man can not be said to be married to a lady and some believe that without the white wedding,a marriage can not be said to have received GOD's blessings.

Well i'm not here to discus on that aspect of marriage and i had to drop this quick one as a result of the mentioned i got on a thread relating to this.

[size=13pt]I am not sorry to write this...

Any married lady who never had a legal wedding otherwise called Court or registry wedding is as good as single.Quote me anywhere in the world.[/size]

And this is very true for some reasons but i will mention a few.

1. He can not just wake up one day and say he does not like your face again and send you out of your matrimonial home.
2. He dares not marry another wife except he divorces you
3. He must have a valid reason for divorcing you and must be able to convince the court.
4. You have protection under the law for yourself and your child(ren) in case he dies

I can continue to list several other reasons but let me just stop here.If you like, say you trust your husband,he loves you,he can never treat you bad..O.Y.O lo wa.

If you like let the man spend 1billion on your traditional wedding and do a white,blue,green,indigo wedding with a trillion naira. The fact is that these two ceremonies combined with all the money spent is not as binding and constitutional as a simple court wedding with just 4 people in attendance.

Unfortunately we have seen many people getting away with bad acts despite the fact that they had a legal wedding but the reason is because the affected individual usually lets go without putting up a fight due to high cost of legal battle and no thanks to parents and family members who always preach to them that "what is yours will always stay with you" and that they should let go which i see as stories for the gods.

Ladies be wise..as an endangered specie in the cruel world of men,legal wedding was specifically created to protect more of the lady's marital right so take advantage of it or ignore at your own risk.

I will stop here.

It's all abt divorce n we dnt divorce in this part of d world d4 is lobish. Marriage is for better for worse till death do them part

Marriage will be a prison if all marital documents are signed, yet wives will say, "Is marriage prison ? I want to hang out with my friends". But then they want alimony and child support when time comes. African marriage is okay for us, we have accepted their christianity and Islam, let us at least keep our form of marriage.

Honestly, I kinda agree especially when it's an inter tribal marriage.

simtosul:
Op ask yourself first why on earth will u get married to a person you feel emotional insecure with? Ask yourself don't can you trust yourself let alone of trusting another person? Ask yourself on what did you both established the relationship in the first place? Wen u have answers to all this den u can rewrite ur post. Let's try not to mislead people nd make marriage look so hard that one has to consult the whole world opinion before you can make decision.

I understand you, you live in a lawless country, anything to do with the law is more like fallacy, but you do need to think out of the box, its public holiday today cause someone betrayed another(Trust issue), bind your marriage in law, you not only protecting the marriage, you protecting your kids also.