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I have a lady that we have been dating for almost 1yr now. Have engaged this my fiancee and she promised to marry me. We both work in different states and she has already told me that she wont be moving down to where i am due the fact that her unit is not in the state i base.
She has a medical issue which will be travelling out for the treatment this year and will cost her about N3m to N4m to treat.
We keep having issue any time we discused about it about the footing of the bill. I told her i will give her about N190k but she refused i told me that i should forget about it, that the money will go any where. This my wife to be knows how much i earned as my monthly salary, which is not even up to N200K.


Please my follow Nairalanders, please i need your advise................................

I can't spend 190k on a wife to be if my salary is around 200k.

Its "Am I" not 'I my'.


If u really wanna help her, u'll save towards helping her.

I don't. Think giving her more than that amount is the problem but you are scared she might leave you after the whole ish, you sound insecured. Your relationship is experiencing problems already, how will you cope after marrying her with the idea of her staying in another state all because of her job.if you both can't sacrifice for each other then It's not worth it.
And What treatment is she going for sef,are you aware of all the process before she scam you

Give that girl your Life savings and watch her Marry another man when she is medically fit!!!

Don't Give that girl any Money!!!

I repeat

Don't give that girl any Money!!

Marry her 1st before you foot her Medical bills...

A word is enough for a wise!!

Follow ur heart bro. Ask yourself this--"Is she worth it?"

Am confused, dont know what to do.

ungrateful biatch! i guess she expects you to go and rob a bank then, right? and why would you even continue contemplating being with this woman if she has already told you she aint moving anywhere? will you get married and move to where she reside?!

You cant give what you dont have. Besides she isnt your wife yet.

:o190K for a would-be-wife

No money is too small

Did she wants to put u into dept 4 million naira is not a small money. My brother, if u really want to marry this girl, why not take a little from your money and take this your wife to be, to one of the churches in Nigeria, where she can be set free from this deadly illness. The bible says who soever the son of man have set free, shall b free indeed. Tell her dis. And if she refuse to comply, give her the money u have. But I advice u to not go into depth for an illness that can be cure by Jesus. This is my take on this. Goodluck.

My brother, there is absolutely nothing u can do... dnt work urself up. You are not her husband yet so she has no right to be angry with u. For christ sake u even offered her what u could afford at d moment and she wasn't even grateful..


She should just go and die. Phew.

Did she wants to put u into dept 4 million naira is not a small money. My brother, if u really want to marry this girl, why not take a little from your money and take this your wife to be, to one of the churches in Nigeria, where she can be set free from this deadly illness. The bible says who soever the son of man have set free, shall b free indeed. Tell her dis. And if she refuse to comply, give her the money u have. But I advice u to not go into depth for an illness can be cure by Jesus. This is my take on this. Goodluck..

my brother Eeyah!.......try to prostrate and give her the 190k........Eeyah! some brothers are going through fire.

Please i need an advise on what to do, the way am seeing it/ feeling, is like the relationship is failing.

Geogeo1:
Please i need an advise on what to do, the way am seeing it/ feeling, is like the relationship is failing.

My advice is already there.

dachaste:
Its "Am I" not 'I my'.



If u really wanna help her, u'll save towards helping her.

And how much has she saved for herself?

peedeeasobie:
And how much has she saved for herself?

Hw ddo I know? Am Nat her PA u know.