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Paulpaulpaul:
Vow to stop self servicing, then keep one of those friends as friend and let's see what happens.



What friendship is tiger keeping with a dog?

corper: Nefisa is your mummy at home?
Nefi: No
Corper: come lemme send you something
Nefi: I will shout o,
Corper: Stop na , I will by aeroplane for you. fine girl

KashyBaby:
Tnx doc...ur such good in advising like this...



I'm juz wondering ,now where can I find a man who gone chase me like as if his life depends on me..

I think I need an advice too

SmellingAnus:
hahaha but you are my nairaland crush...

lonelymathguy:
Bro I really ur advice. its very insightful.
Bt I think am not normal atal.

I mean all dis u said is wat I knw for sure and do practice one or two of dis.
Bt d issue is even if d bae open d heavenly wide

I will jst b lookin as I don't get moved atal

dats my probs, I dnt get moved atal. like a stone

SmellingAnus:
I have a friend in secondary school then like you... He was a Jehovah witness guy. His case is even worse than yours but today he is married.. It has more to do with your background and how you grew up (environment inclusive).. do you know girls also like this quality you have but the problem is that it's much in you ... (you only need 20 or 30% of this yourself in a serious relationship and you will find girls getting attracted and staying with you..) girls may like you at the beginning because they may think you have self control and that is what they think they want, however they discover that your case looks abnormal... Anyway... Just dnt give up easily and see beyond the rejection served to you... Your goal should be to try to turn the "NO" of your target to "YES"...

KashyBaby:
Hahahahaha... nawa for me ...crush? Were not in the 6th grade ooo..


JK

SmellingAnus:
hahaha... Let me confess... The first time I saw your dp on nairaland ,the first thing that came to my mind was that " you look like a cute dicck sucker... ( I mean you look like a pretty girl that knows how to take care of a good dddick with her mouth)

lonelymathguy:
Tanx boss will work more on mysef

KashyBaby:
Lol watta confession in the middle of the night



I have no idea what u talking about


Goodnyt for now.

lonelymathguy:
Modified
Yeah yeah
I had to create a new moniker so dat u guys advice/opinion wont b based on my username.
Well lets cut to the chase.

Am a graduate of Mathematics fr0m a reputable university in Nigerian.
A Yoruba by tribe, fluent in English.

But my problem is I fall into d category of d extrovert/lively person on social media/chat apps but an introvert/dulling type when opportune to meet up with opposite sex. Many a time have been tagged 'gay, geek, overly serious type, SU etc' just because I don't show any sign of advances to a lady I lust or av crush on.

I remembered vividly in my Uni days wen a very close female friend of mine came todo overnight reading in my room.
my roomie left the room for me hoping I will perform wonders but wen eventually d said babe came over. I did jst exactly wat she said she came for "tutorial" imagine teaching someone all through d night and got to a stage wia the lady asked dat dnt I av blood running through my veins? In which I replied " I do my things professional " i.e when u said u coming over for tutorial, I switch my mood and xter to that. She had to leave as early as 4am to her hostel and ever since den, she jst wave and say hello weneva we crosspath.

Well in summary I c myself being lonely most of the times and only being graced/feel among wen in the presence of my colleagues around me. Which we aint within reach at present.
And again I av dem plenty as friends in shot dey are loaded arnd me(maybe for d brain shaaa) bt am dis indoor type and don't really mix or find masef in a social gadering. neva attended any party all tru sskull life not even birthday party.
Am always locked up in the room or library. bt yet I know much about dem and I read minds(my psychopath dat make dem afraid of me)
So my great Romancelanders, wat really could b wrong with me and y are the ladies loving me online but leaving me wen we c in person.

Note: Am 23yrs with no bae. Avin a face older dan my age though (25-26yrs facially). I av this geeky face and geeky lifestyle filled with geeky conversations. could that b a reason to b boring
But am comfortable having dem as friends bt jst dnt feel free anymore if trying to move to d relationship zone

Help me a NL out. Its getting really disturbing and boring
Modiffied
It seems u guys are getting me wrong, am sociable wen it comes to doing dat( relating wit ladies, discussing in person with dem. Avin gist/gossip/talk about life etc.) I feel free mingling with dem.
Bt wen It comes to taking or advancing to anoda satge(relationship) with dem.
I av a bordering question of (
is it necessary to b in a relationship wit such person
wat else do u want frm d person apart frm being her friend.
How much closer do u want to get after u av known all about the person
Now if eventually yes, wat plans do u wanna av with d person
U ready for marriage or jst wanna flex?
is it d sex part dat makes me wanna ask her out?)
So all these results me into being just friends with most of my female friends. and dat bodas me alot

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lonelymathguy:
because most of the time av known excessively too much about her to make any more.

I prefer dating smone I dnt knw atal sef ( adventurous type) bt eventually I always get to knw d person and dat makes me not to date dem again

carlcar2012:
I smell smellymouth

carlcar2012:
I smell smellymouth

pweetychyka:
@OP, d ryt counselor moniker on ur cc is supposed to be cutehector n oliviaarims n not curehector n olivarims!!!

Back to your gist, I think you should work on your self esteem n carriage

Oliviaarims:
@lonelymathguy,u should just make up ur mind on what u want. Since u say u can hold a conversation well enough,then that's some hope. U shouldn't be worried that u aren't dating just for the sake of the art.

When u find a girl u care about and admire very much,then concentrate on that one. Put all ur communication skills into good use and channel all ur energy into making sth work with her. But don't do it foolishly...quit all the unnecessary analysis. So,what if u aren't ready to get married just yet?

There are a good number of things u'll learn from being in a relationship, which would prepare u for marriage eventually.

Begin to see ur self in some positive sense. Develop some confidence and sense of self worth and tell urself u have a lot to offer in a relationship.

Cutehector:
Lmao I come dey even suspect myself say e fit be me cuz d the post describes me perfectly

lonelymathguy:
Tanx ma'am

I will look forward in putting dose communication, cognitive and affective skills to use

lonelymathguy:
wow so u in same situation wit me.
Bt am nt shy to say my problem as dats d beginning of my solution



Will really need ur advice on hw u tackled urs

Cutehector:
well the truth I have to tell u I this, forget my previous post... pls neva make d mistake to pregnant a girl in ur university days.. be very careful as there are a lot of destiny killers.. u shoud be happy dat girl left ur hous in disappointment, cuz if u had sex with her, she may create problems in ur life.. and that will be the beginning of your downfall..


So relax my brother, concentrate on ur books, graduate, get a good job, den women will be d ones toastin u.

lonelymathguy:
Yeaa its d pregnancy part dat made me lock up for ladies.

Had dat problem in my service year bt d lady aborted it and since den ladies av been a no go area for me.
Atleast i always remove d sex part off my mind and dat makes me b jst friends wit dem.


Yea d job avnt helped me so far oo
As naa gold diggers dey arnd me like flies.

Until i c maisef in an entirely new environment shaaa.


Life is so awkward atimes

lonelymathguy:
Tanx bro.

Bt I stil dnt see any reason to b in a relationship wit dem

Angelberry:
why are u here?

lonelymathguy:
to seek for wat I call psychological help
do u mind rendering one to me?

Angelberry:
let me read your post

olaleye1355:
One word
















Live like there is no tommorrow!!!
That's 1,2,3,4,5,6
Yeah 6 words



LIVE LIKE THERE IS NO TOMMORROW

carlcar2012:
I smell smelly.mouth

lonelymathguy:
tbx boss


bt it aint perfect witout a lady/help meet beside u

olaleye1355:
That's exactly what am preaching to you. Whenever you see a girl you like approach her like you might die tommorrow,and that's a fact,not taking the risk at all guarantees you can't have her. But an attempt still gives her the notion that at least someone cares.

Cmon what will you tell God when he starts asking you questions like "what of Shalewa I sent to you","Rita nko?","what have you done with Vivien?"... "Son?!!! Then what have you been doing with your dick? Oh you ve been pouring your sperm on the floor!!!"

*Thunderous Thunder Smites Him*

lonelymathguy:
Lol
I get wat u trying to say now.

Toasting mode activated

lonelymathguy:
I av a bordering question of (
is it necessary to b in a relationship wit such person
wat else do u want frm d person apart frm being her friend.