Then why marry? If you are a type of man that love fruit salad

ElectroCute:
WHY MEN CHEAT??
Women are like fruits.
Each with her own's special taste.
But the problem is (some) men love fruits salad.

Fanirandele:


Is a woman also justified to cheat when her husband doesn't give her enough sex? By the way the sex drive of a woman reducing after childbirth is common. For any man to choose to reward the woman who went through pregnancy and birth to have his baby by cheating on her because of what's essentially a medically condition says how selfish he is
Nigerians are just ignorant, that case all they needed to do was see doctors or sex specialists to help the woman get her drive back

No need to. It goes back to normal with time.

kenonze:
Yes.
In addition most men cheats because opportunity presents

obstead200:
wow. U too much. I checked ur Dp and u are really hot.
Please is there an "opportunity" for me to cheat with u?

Kikikikikakakakkaikikikikakakka

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kenonze:
Yes.
In addition most men cheats because opportunity presents

that is the only reason as far as i am concerned. many do it and run home to the bossom of their wives and will look at the woman they did it with in scorn if she suggests he divorces his wife and marry them. yet he slept with them.

the man who doesn't cheat is the type who avoids all occasions that can warrant it. because if in the right place and time with the right hoe where wifey may not know. i doubt he wont cheat because then , the thinking power of reasoning shifts from the brain in his skull to the brain in his balls.

Fanirandele:
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So you marry a poor man so he'll cheat less and then what? you pray for him to remain poor? In most cases the men that were poor become the worst dogs once they become rich and the woman that suffered with them is treated like trash

You just confirmed what i said meaning we are saying the same thing

Can't blame women for no longer wanting to suffer with men after watching how their mothers and Grandmothers were treated by the very men they hustled with once they made it.

Good! No one is saying they should suffer with men like their "mothers" and "grandmothers" as you put it BUT they should be ready to swim with the tide of their rich husbands banging other girls outside!

A man that will cheat will cheat, but a man that respect and love his wife, won't allow her know about his escapade with the opposite sex.

ilawanson44:


You just confirmed what i said meaning we are saying the same thing



Good! No one is saying they should suffer with men like their "mothers" and "grandmothers" as you put it BUT they should be ready to swim with the tide of their rich husbands banging other girls outside!

My point is it doesn't matter if they marry a poor or rich man since a poor man can become rich except the woman will pray for him to remain poor forever so he won't cheat .

Ok

am a married man but don't cheat

The pleasure from cheating is just overrated, there is nothing as gratifying as a faithful and committed partner - it heightens your sense of purpose.

Cheating is the strategy of the devil to keep men in aimless pursue because he fears the strong direction, leadership and coverage a non-cheating man provides to his family.

#TeamFaithful #TeamOneManOneWoman #TeamOneGuyOneBabe

Mayflowa:


No! You have seen it and enjoyed it while you just joined nairaland. New peeps join the forum everyday, so let them get the thrilled u once had.

I am sure there are thread and section u still enjoy now.that is because you grow here and find new interest by the day. Peace bro

I beg to differ. In well moderated forums, topics that have been addressed are not encouraged to prevent redundancy [ a state NP is fast approaching].

That is why there is the search box. If you desire info about certain subjects you're encouraged to use it. At least that is how a lot of forums I belong to operate.

This keeps the community vibrant and interesting, evolving into a place that gradually becomes a repository of worthwhile info never minding the nature of what is being discussed.

Reyginus:
Nonsense. Men who cheat do it because they have no respect for the marriage institution and no self control. Nagging or any of those things you listed above, save for 7, can never be a reason to cheat if you have the self control to respect what you are in.

If you are a lady,you must be a problematic one.Nagging does a lot in pushing away the mind of man from home except for those men whose spec is the nagging type.

hohafrank:
How old is your marriage?

4 beautiful years and counting

Mayflowa:


You that is already cheating with your bike. How on earth did your wife allowed you to have that.

Moreso, you probably just married without kids. The OP was against women lacking those your wife's times 10 qualities. If your wife had it, why would you cheat except you are number 7 on the OP's list

I have 2 beautiful kids.

Ayoola171:
Scammer

How do you know I'm a Scammer?

Men cheat because they are pigs and lack morals , in fact women should open piggery centres and pack men there so they can be bleeping themselves.

Abbeyunique2:
Let me share this analogy to shed more light: we all knw that pounded yam and efo riro is the best food in town, As much as we all love eating pounded yam, we get bored so we occasional try out fast food(with emphasis on fast) like Jollof rice, fried rice and small chops. so don't blame the player, blame the game.

Can a woman who gets bored with eating pounded yam everyday, also be looked with understanding if she decides to try fast food like jollof rice etc?

egojiokwu:
Some men cheat because their wives are living far away and do not visit them frequently. Some women got job in Delta but their husband are living in Sokoto. She have to choose between loosing her job in order to enjoy her husband or loose her husband to other women in order to enjoy her job.

But it is not a problem if the husband gets a job away from home ba? If the woman does it she is considered risking her home but if her husband does it, the woman is expected to be happy and view sexual starvation as a small price to pay for the income the husband brings home right? And God help her if she also gives this same excuse you gave for the guy when she is caught cheating.

Abbeyunique2:
Let me share this analogy to shed more light: we all knw that pounded yam and efo riro is the best food in town, As much as we all love eating pounded yam, we get bored so we occasional try out fast food(with emphasis on fast) like Jollof rice, fried rice and small chops. so don't blame the player, blame the game.

Abeg shut up!!! But ur wife should accept your stinking p-n-s forever. Rubbish. If you don't want you wife to cheat,why cheat on her? It is unacceptable.

lonelydora:
Except me. I am a married man with a difference. Chai...... I love my lovely wife too much and can never cheat on her. What am I looking for in other girls that she doesn't have times 10. Baby I love you.

nd i'm jealous

God bless ur home bro

[color=#006600][/color]some cheat because of lack of understanding

Some cheat because of too musshh money

Some cheat because of that's the only thing they need to survive their family

Some cheat because of mentality

Some cheat because bae makes too many calls and receive to many messages

Some cheat because bae locks her phone.#myopinion

Men aspire to have more than one wife but because of religion, society upheavals, globalisation they see themselves sticking to one wife as modernisation. And nowadays ladies with their mode of dressing get men consciously and subconsciously easily entangled in their net

may your days be long on earth

Reyginus:
Nonsense. Men who cheat do it because they have no respect for the marriage institution and no self control. Nagging or any of those things you listed above, save for 7, can never be a reason to cheat if you have the self control to respect what you are in.

just2okworld:
is this all?

No. Men are polygamous by nature. This point seems clichéd but biologically correct.

Monogamy is a social construct, not biological. Subconsciously, a male knows that some of his kids may not be biologically his. So the more sex with more females, the higher the chances of his genes surviving.
This has been vindicated by modern science of paternity test. Over 35% of firstborn kids belong to another man outside. Same with 25% of all kids.

Whereas the female is intrinsically more concerned about raising the kids for up to 16 years. No doubt that she is the mother of the child. She delivered it. For that she needs a committed male to go bring home the bacon.

Also, sex act is biologically an act of conquest and domination for a man and therefore empowering. It is an act of submission for a woman. Submission is not an attractive thing and a woman needs incentives to do so: money, fame of a guy, attractiveness/power of a guy, influence of a guy, etc.. Like King Solomon, King David, Bill Clinton, etc.

amiibaby:
A man that will cheat will cheat....... cheat is in d blood

If u are my wife aswear God punish cheat
U fyn die

Not all married men cheat. The cheating ones are under the force of sin.

Aqva:
Cheating is wrong, i am not in anyway trying to justify it. However, as a man, i must put myself in some men's shoes and then try to rationalize why the married one's cheat.

1. Neglect of the man
Most married women tend to neglect the men when the kids start coming. No more loved up evenings, no more hanging out. They always claim to be tired even when they have maids. Men tend to seek solace outside because they need someone to hang out with, to watch movies with and to share romantic moments with. Unfortunately, many girls out there are willing to fill this vacuum.

2. Neglect of herself
Give most women 3 to 5 years of marriage and you would see majority of them are no longer that sexy chic they used to be. No more doing up her hair regularly, no more trim figure, no more keeping up with the fashion scene. The sexy woman you married now looks like your aunty. We all understand that kids are a handful and make you tired but the problem is that they are so many sexy hot girls out there that makes your husband remember the old days. For men who are easily tempted or those who married their 'spec', they start looking for another spec since you are no longer the spec they married.

3 Reduced Intimacy
A lot of men consider intimacy and sex as a big factor in choosing a wife. If a woman has a good character but is poor in bed, most men would look somewhere else for a wife. However, many men married their wives because they used to get satisfaction from her. After marriage, most women don't care about pleasing the man. A lot always claim tiredness. For those men who have a high libido, expect them to look elsewhere for satisfaction.

4 Nagging
It's easy for a single girl to be loving, caring and understanding. After marriage it becomes a different kettle of fish for some women. they nag you over every little thing. For a man who can't stand it, he seeks solace outside, mostly in the loving arms of another single lady.

5 Variety
This is a point that has no justification but many men cheat because they want a different variety. They claim that you can't eat one soup forever, hence they seek out a different 'soup'. This is bad and is totally the man's fault. However, it is one of the major reasons most men cheat.

6 Temptation
These days some when com at a man with full force even when they know he is married. There are lot's of single girls out there ready to claim another woman's husband. Sometimes, it's difficult to resist a sexy girl who wants you and is offering herself willingly. Most men fall for this reason. Even pastors have fallen for this reason. That's why couples should be prayerful and men should pray against temptation.

7. Some men are dogs
Some men are really dogs. They cheat for cheating sake. They act like they are under a spell. They would sleep with their maids, secretary, bread seller, in short anything in skirt. Give them a model wife who gives them everything and they would still cheat. A lot of men who have many wives and girlfriends usually fall into this category. No justification for such men. They are cursed.

Number 7 sums everything up, cos a good man who is actually in charge of his house will know exactly how to make his wife what he want.

AreaFada2:
No. Men are polygamous by nature. This point seems clichéd but biologically correct.

Monogamy is a social construct, not biological. Subconsciously, a male knows that some of his kids may not be biologically his. So the more sex with more females, the higher the chances if his genes surviving.

Whereas the female is intrinsically more concerned about raising the kids for up to 16 years. For that she needs a commuted male to go bring home the bacon.

Also, sex act is biologically an act of conquest and domination for a man and therefore empowering. It is an act of submission for a woman. Submission is not an attractive thing and a woman needs incentives to do so: money, fame of guy, attractiveness of guy, influence of guy, etc.. Like King Solomon, David, Bill Clinton, etc.

You are completely demented, is that what your father taught u .
Instead of concentrating on your studies u are here defending infidelity and promiscuity in men, it's people like you that are so promiscuous they share HIV to innocent girls.
Just shut ur mouth.

ElectroCute:
WHY MEN CHEAT??
Women are like fruits.
Each with her own's special taste.
But the problem is (some) men love fruits salad.

hahahahahahaha,I concur my brother,as simple as that

Philpham:



You are completely demented, is that what your father taught u .
Instead of concentrating on your studies u are here defending infidelity and promiscuity in men, it's people like you that are so promiscuous they share HIV to innocent girls.
Just shut ur mouth.

Lol. You must be a jambite. Sorry, did mine already, although any reasonable person should be an everlasting student. You are allergic to basic science, preferring ignorance. I can see you are another product of failed education system.

You think you can solve problems by shying away from reality? You want me to tell you want you want to hear even if it's lie.

Somebody like you will never pick up a research journal like Nature, Science, NEJM, etc. So bitter responses conjured from a narrow mind is all you can muster.

No, my dad is monogamous and even my granddad was. But 80% of my dad's colleagues are polygamous.

If a girl sleeps with men without protection, is she not also jointly responsible for any consequence?

I can only cheat if fuel is involve

Abbeyunique2:
Let me share this analogy to shed more light: we all knw that pounded yam and efo riro is the best food in town, As much as we all love eating pounded yam, we get bored so we occasional try out fast food(with emphasis on fast) like Jollof rice, fried rice and small chops. so don't blame the player, blame the game.

I wonder if @ d point of eating that 'fastfood' she tells you to use a strong condom cos she's HIV positive. I wonder if you will still be 'hungry'. The day 'fastfood' will slow your metabolism down will soon come. Then, your eye will open.