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I am in love with this guy I want to marry him.
He has a child with this girl and he cheated on me with her she is pregnant for him now. So now it means they will have 2 kids together.
He says he doesn't want to marry her, he wants to marry me.
But she stills loves him.
I am confused
I am sure she did it on purpose and If I leave she wins. And I really love this guy.
I don't know he keeps her in his life and he lieks to talk to her on the phone and still sleeps with her yet he says he doesn't want to marry her.

Obviously...they have a history you can't beat... sorry

If u leave she win? U have lost already, na extra time u dey use, u beta move b4 dem score u golden goal. That's not love it's stupidity in English language.

This is how someone will consciously walk into wahala and trouble for the rest of her life and say she did it for love. She's seeing trouble but doesn't want to use her head. She prefers to be ruled by feelings that are here today and disappear tomorrow.


Life is very simple, yet we make it complicated.

Unfortunately you are just the side chick while his baby mama is the real wife. Get out of the relationship with the speed of light. Love is not blind, make use of your brain.

Keepinhope:
I am in love with this guy I want to marry him.
He has a child with this girl and he cheated on me with her she is pregnant for him now. So now it means they will have 2 kids together.
He says he doesn't want to marry her, he wants to marry me.
But she stills loves him.
I am confused
I am sure she did it on purpose and If I leave she wins. And I really love this guy.
I don't know he keeps her in his life and he lieks to talk to her on the phone and still sleeps with her yet he says he doesn't want to marry her.

Sister, wetin dey confuse you?

You want to marry a man who already has a child outside?

I am sorry to say this, but this your boyfriend does not love you. At all.Especially since he got her pregnant again. If he loved you, he would not have gone back to her at all.

And if you marry this man, the baby-mama will forever be a burden on your marriage.Who even know say dem don marry.?

My advice....move on , and forget about another woman's husband. You won't like it if the shoe was on the other foot.

Wait till she pregnant for 3rd time nah then your eyes go clear.

It's obvious he love his baby mama and you just the side chick

He officially proposed to me never to her.
But I think I should leave 2 of them together.

Pack ur things and move out from that chaotic kind of relationship...it's not worth..ur bf is very irresponsible..if he can do that to the mother of his children then be prepared that he can do that to u as well..


Never compromise ur future with this dead beat man, that manwh0re is ain't loyal.

U are still thinking? But when will girl receive sense?

Keepinhope:
He officially proposed to me never to her.
But I think I should leave 2 of them together.

IamLEGEND1:
the thing is We never get the full story in situations like this...... you're probably the 'no sex until we get married' type,so the guy went outside ur relationshaip to find where to unload his container. or maybe, you're about ás active as a day old corpse in bed.

not like his cheating is justified or anything, bt for a matter as complicated as this, your story is awfully short.

I am not having sex with him. And he always told me he doesn't love her and never wanted a child with her. But then he acts like she is his best friend talking to her all the time on issues not even related the kid. That's when I started worrying because I realize there might be emotional attachment. This second pregancy is the result of him fullfilling his urge and her taking advantage of it.

That man does not regard you. If not, he would not have impregnated another girl.

Keepinhope:
I am in love with this guy I want to marry him.
He has a child with this girl and he cheated on me with her she is pregnant for him now. So now it means they will have 2 kids together.
He says he doesn't want to marry her, he wants to marry me.
But she stills loves him.
I am confused
I am sure she did it on purpose and If I leave she wins. And I really love this guy.
I don't know he keeps her in his life and he lieks to talk to her on the phone and still sleeps with her yet he says he doesn't want to marry her.

Na wa o, are you under the control of some sort of juju?
How can you still love him?

Keepinhope:
He officially proposed to me never to her.
But I think I should leave 2 of them together.

Yes...do that.

Go and meet a man who is committed to you, who is at least considerate about your feelings.

A man that cannot control himself, and is already having children outside without properly getting married is an irresponsible man. If you marry that man, I guarantee you that during your marriage, there would be more baby mamas , and they will bring their children and their palaver into your house.(Infact, I am positive that that woman that he has children with is not the only woman....he probably has children elsewhere with other ladies. And he will continue to do so into the future.).

Thing is...when you get married, you are going to have children, and children benefit from a home where the father and the mother are there to give the kids their full attention.Not the home where papa is busy running around looking after other children, while his wife is struggling with their own kids.

So, in other words...if you marry this man....you are setting up yourself for a broken home.

Good luck, and may God guide you well.

E be like say dem dey use your head burn Tumbo tree abi? You see water... you see fire... na fire you like to Jump inside. Stay there you hear... dey encourage yourself when ever he washes your brain "he officially proposed to me my foot!"

Relax he will marry you, maybe after his 4th child... www.mumu.com

come lemme put something in you,then you'll tell him you're pregnant too.

I didn't even read your story...the title has enough info. My dear, move along and leave the morrafucka... he loves you but he finds it easy to cheat. You're not in a competition... if she wins, fine. Your happiness is the main thing

I don't understand the philosophy behind being in a no sex relationship with a guy who wants all the sex he can get. Please people, attach yourself to someone who believes in your way of life to avoid stories. I don't just get being in a no sex relationship while the guy has two kids with another girl. Abeg I can't just deal with this.

Leave proposal and run, thank me later

Keepinhope:
He officially proposed to me never to her.
But I think I should leave 2 of them together.

Keepinhope:
I am in love with this guy I want to marry him.
He has a child with this girl and he cheated on me with her she is pregnant for him now. So now it means they will have 2 kids together.
He says he doesn't want to marry her, he wants to marry me.
But she stills loves him.
I am confused
I am sure she did it on purpose and If I leave she wins. And I really love this guy.
I don't know he keeps her in his life and he lieks to talk to her on the phone and still sleeps with her yet he says he doesn't want to marry her.

How can u still want to marry someone like that?


I advice you to leave now...

Continue keepinhope













Ogbeni ruuunnnn

Is Annie idibia your role model? Stay you hear and enjoy baby mama drama

You better quit that relationship and stop being deceived

He will never change. Let her "win". What she's "winning" is a disloyal cheater who doesn't love her.

You are his side chick

Road wey person don pass before, e nor dey hard to pass again.. Use your head...

time shall open your eyes!!!!

Keepinhope:
I am not having sex with him. And he always told me he doesn't love her and never wanted a child with her. But then he acts like she is his best friend talking to her all the time on issues not even related the kid. That's when I started worrying because I realize there might be emotional attachment. This second pregancy is the result of him fullfilling his urge and her taking advantage of it.

In all of these, you're still trying to shift all blame from your boyfriend. She took advantage of him? Really It takes two to get pregnant, and they just did.

You really need a good loading dose of sense and also some continuous maintaince doses for good measure.

Have some self respect young lady