Hi everyone,

I appreciate all your words and advice on my last post.It really got me thinking.wanted to reply you individually but i am not so good with nairaland's way of posting and all.I am aware some people tried reaching me personally,sorry if i didnt get back to you.i tried getting back to some people but i didnt get responses.I am here again to say whats on my mind. So the supposed guy i had issues with last year that i was continually apologising tocame back to the country few days after I sent that post but didnt tell me.dont ask me how i knew but when i called him, his no went through.he didnt pick and when i called again, he blocked my line. I unblocked him on whatspp and i continued sending him messages but he never replied.One day when i asked to see him, he finally responded, said we couldnt see and said he was gonna block me on whatsapp which he did almost immediately. I felt terribly bad especially as I felt he was doing all these cause he knew I really liked him.I continued sending him messages every now and then on fb and text messages all to no avail. even when I was trying to assist him by sending things to help his business or when I told i was ill, i didnt get any reply concerning I really dont understand why I would love someone so much and yet I will get this form of attitude.

The problem is I still love and think himabout a lot despite his behaviour and I always regret the fact that it was because of the issue we had that he withdrew. this is one person i loved for who he was.but i also feel that if someone cant easily forgive another person, thats a red flag because issues will always come up.its how you address it that matters. i have concluded that i cant continue in this state cos its gradually driving me into depression, i have been sickly of late because of this and I have kept some things on hold as healing is taking longer than expected.I want to get over him but its been hard and i havent been meeting guys.even online relationships have not been encouraging as I havent been lucky with them.everyone around me is getting engaged and married and here I am, I dont have any close male friend not to talk of a relationship.its really sad and i am getting frustrated.

Dear friends, how do I get over this guy once and for all and even forget I ever met him cos he is causing me more harm than good?secondly i dont mind making new friends from here both male and female as I get lonely most of the time.you can send me a mail on crystabelle86@yahoo.com. Thanks :'

Stop crying and give ur love to the next guy tha come ur way

Don't worry sweetheart it's gonna be alright

Vote https://www.nairaland.com/refiner for Miss nairaland 2016

Can't realy understand the context of tis story....



But the bottom line is... Let the niqqa go... We aren't like girls who may change mind after we say no..... Or ignore you... You are already a pest... To him.... Mayb n just mayb..... He'll reach out when you stop all tis......Goodluck






BTW Remember Ts MIMZY for Miss nairaland if anybody should ask
you....

www.nairaland.com/mimzy
Ignore the poster above me....

U jst hv to get yr self busy nd think of wht u want to achieve while u both are dating that did nt work out. Jst try nd focus on somtin u think is import to in life.

Now I know how those girls feel! I have really hurt a lot of girls sha. Op, you do not know how much this means to me. I think i have to try and get in touch with the ones I can remember and apologise . To your topic, please move on to the next guy. That guy is never goina come, only a miracle can make him. Involve yourself in things you love doing, exercise a lot, listen to fast şongs with crazee beats, talk to people, laugh considerably, play with kids, and make others happy. You will forget him in no time. I am sorry about your situation.

beleza:
Hi everyone,
I appreciate all your words and advice on my last post.It really got me thinking.wanted to reply you individually but i am not so good with nairaland's way of posting and all.I am aware some people tried reaching me personally,sorry if i didnt get back to you.i tried getting back to some people but i didnt get responses.I am here again to say whats on my mind. So the supposed guy i had issues with last year that i was continually apologising tocame back to the country few days after I sent that post but didnt tell me.dont ask me how i knew but when i called him, his no went through.he didnt pick and when i called again, he blocked my line. I unblocked him on whatspp and i continued sending him messages but he never replied.One day when i asked to see him, he finally responded, said we couldnt see and said he was gonna block me on whatsapp which he did almost immediately. I felt terribly bad especially as I felt he was doing all these cause he knew I really liked him.I continued sending him messages every now and then on fb and text messages all to no avail. even when I was trying to assist him by sending things to help his business or when I told i was ill, i didnt get any reply concerning I really dont understand why I would love someone so much and yet I will get this form of attitude.
The problem is I still love and think himabout a lot despite his behaviour and I always regret the fact that it was because of the issue we had that he withdrew. this is one person i loved for who he was.but i also feel that if someone cant easily forgive another person, thats a red flag because issues will always come up.its how you address it that matters. i have concluded that i cant continue in this state cos its gradually driving me into depression, i have been sickly of late because of this and I have kept some things on hold as healing is taking longer than expected.I want to get over him but its been hard and i havent been meeting guys.even online relationships have not been encouraging as I havent been lucky with them.everyone around me is getting engaged and married and here I am, I dont have any close male friend not to talk of a relationship.its really sad and i am getting frustrated.
Dear friends, how do I get over this guy once and for all and even forget I ever met him cos he is causing me more harm than good?secondly i dont mind making new friends from here both male and female as I get lonely most of the time.you can send me a mail on crystabelle86@yahoo.com. Thanks :'

It really Sad, last year i read your post which i comment on, andi also state my own experience am having then, but thank God am free now. What i am saying in essence is, you need to zero ur mind in regards of that guy, i dont think he is not coming back, he av done his worst, but guys are evil am a guy also, i dont do that because i don't like being treated same way too. You av to be firm, stop being alone, focus on ur since u have one, joke and laugh with friends. I know is hard but trust me it works for me and it will work for you. Try engage ur self with something, not being idle. And be praying to God, Am sure u will be fine. Feel free. This is my contact 07030126704. If you need any help. Take care

I just sent u an email, I feel u pain bt dearie u hv to move on, cos he is nt coming back, he doesn't love u no more, cos if he does he won't be doing dis.

I didn't follow the previous thread so I don't understand this,but 1 thing I understand clearly is that,no morrafukka deserves the tears of a woman who genuinely loves him,babe,move on,its hard,I know,but you just have to..

heartless idiots everywhere...mtcheeww

meanwhile,vote mimzy for miss nairaland www.nairaland.com/mimzy

The best way to get over him is to cut every link you have with him. Delete his numbers, block him on facebook and other social media you have him. Stop stalking him.

I appreciate bro. thank you so much. this goes a long way

Cutezt:
I didn't follow the previous thread so I don't understand this,but 1 thing I understand clearly is that,no morrafukka deserves the tears of a woman who genuinely loves him,babe,move on,its hard,I know,but you just have to..

heartless idiots everywhere...mtcheeww

meanwhile,vote mimzy for miss nairaland www.nairaland.com/mimzy

Delete his number, block his social netwrk contacts wit u so u @least knw u nt expectin any msg 4m him. Then u really hv 2 get busy wit somtin, somtin dt wl occupy ur mind. If u dnt hv a job or a student,mayb u shld take up a vocational trainin, dt alone u gonna kill 2 birds wit a stone as in creatin an extra stream of income in future while gettin ur mind off him. U gonna be fine, its jst a matter of time,dts if u let it be

we can only blab here, we can give all d advice there is 2giv and yet nothing will change!!! consult ur WILL POWER and u are good to go..i bet u.. u already know the next line of action u will toll.. u just wanna c how feasible it will b by asking 4 advice here...each passing day, makes u lose ur self worth and Ego in his sight.. enough shud b enough.. if u are really fed up.. I look forward 2 seeing a positive post from u next time.PEACE.

beleza:
i didnt get any reply concerning I really dont understand why I would love someone so much and yet I will get this form of attitude.

I dont have any close male friend not to talk of a relationship.its really sad and i am getting frustrated.

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Take heart.

You love him does not mean he owes you love. Calling, texting, pinging him at this point is just harassment he has made it clear that he does not want to hear from you so just stop well try to stop to be honest your actions seem needy you don't want to be that needy woman.

This man is not available he has left what or who is there to love? The only type of men you should pay attention to romance wise are men who have clearly demonstrated their interest and willingness to know you and give you the type of relationship you want.

I don't understand what you need a close male friend for please stay clear what you want is a relationship with a man who wants you. Friends are good but in this state of mind your need for a close male friend worries me as the close male friend may take advantage of you.

You don't want men who don't want you as you have experienced the pain of a man fleeing while you are in pursuit mode I hope you will not be in a haste to forget the experience but rather learn from it. Use the experience to guide you next time you observe similar behavior from a man don't waste your time, emotional and energy resources on men who are running away from you.

You deserve a man who can give you a healthy, happy relationship.

When u value urself and know ur worth then ul not let people treat u like trash..someone who cares about u wouldn't want to see u get hurt,let alone be the cause of ur hurt and pain..bottom line is he doesn't give a fvck about u so find someone else who does..be open to meeting people. Problem with a lot of people suffering heart break is they are not willing to give others a chance,they always feel no one can replace their ex which is a huge lie..so help urself and move on,ur tears should only be shed for someone who loves u just as much or even more..Good luck tho..

The sad truth is you have to delete all points of contacts with him from your life. Number, chats, social media etc.

Plus you know what they say about getting over someone. Go out with me once and you'll forget all about him

mimzy:
I appreciate bro. thank you so much. this goes a long way

anything for you

@ the OP, sorry about all you have been through.
However, from what I have deduced from your previous post, I will encourage you to have a sincere and deep introspection of yourself.
As a child or teenager, did you face any issues with your family or at school that caused you to easily feel abandoned or alone?
Were you usually ignored and left alone?
Did you face any form of domestic violence, verbal put downs or emotional distance from those you loved?
Was a brother harsh and distant towards you?
Was your dad present and was he loving towards you?
Most times, the things we face as children or teenagers, teaches us what to accept (including bad behaviour) and also affect our future relationships if not handled properly.
Please check yourself properly, pray and know that you deserve only the best.
The moment you realize your worth, you will have the courage to say no to people who do not respect, value or genuinely love you.
Remember too, being alone does not mean being lonely. Learn to know yourself and your worth before going into relationships and friendships.
All the best!

U're doing xactly wat ma granny of 74 is doing to ma grandpa of 79 honestly.......d bitter truth abt luv is dat it is best offered free of charge frm both parties & once u begin to beg or solicit 4 luv dat d day a new chapter of emotional challenge on ur side steps in & disrespect frm d guy's side comes in.........free ur mind & heart, go out dere, b a lady u nid to b & luv wud find u & stop all dos unnecessary text & calling & stalking d guy, rada reserve all dos gud stuff 4 d man datz ready to b wit u but if u say he must b d 1 den b sure of mental & emotional brk dwn dat wud affect ur entire life & prospects abt men in general which is not rili tru..........walk of ur ur self made prison & enjoy d beauty of life U're yet to allow ur mind discover

beleza:
Hi everyone,

I appreciate all your words and advice on my last post.It really got me thinking.wanted to reply you individually but i am not so good with nairaland's way of posting and all.I am aware some people tried reaching me personally,sorry if i didnt get back to you.i tried getting back to some people but i didnt get responses.I am here again to say whats on my mind. So the supposed guy i had issues with last year that i was continually apologising tocame back to the country few days after I sent that post but didnt tell me.dont ask me how i knew but when i called him, his no went through.he didnt pick and when i called again, he blocked my line. I unblocked him on whatspp and i continued sending him messages but he never replied.One day when i asked to see him, he finally responded, said we couldnt see and said he was gonna block me on whatsapp which he did almost immediately. I felt terribly bad especially as I felt he was doing all these cause he knew I really liked him.I continued sending him messages every now and then on fb and text messages all to no avail. even when I was trying to assist him by sending things to help his business or when I told i was ill, i didnt get any reply concerning I really dont understand why I would love someone so much and yet I will get this form of attitude.

The problem is I still love and think himabout a lot despite his behaviour and I always regret the fact that it was because of the issue we had that he withdrew. this is one person i loved for who he was.but i also feel that if someone cant easily forgive another person, thats a red flag because issues will always come up.its how you address it that matters. i have concluded that i cant continue in this state cos its gradually driving me into depression, i have been sickly of late because of this and I have kept some things on hold as healing is taking longer than expected.I want to get over him but its been hard and i havent been meeting guys.even online relationships have not been encouraging as I havent been lucky with them.everyone around me is getting engaged and married and here I am, I dont have any close male friend not to talk of a relationship.its really sad and i am getting frustrated.

Dear friends, how do I get over this guy once and for all and even forget I ever met him cos he is causing me more harm than good?secondly i dont mind making new friends from here both male and female as I get lonely most of the time.you can send me a mail on crystabelle86@yahoo.com. Thanks :'

hmm d problem u av is rejection nd to every human dat experience rejection ll be trying so hard to level up nd d more u try, d more u become nuisance nd u ll be address as fool, I think wat u need to understand is that, is not every tin u want u ll get, just let go of him nd start afresh although it may sound diffcult but u just av to move on cus If u get u self injure no man ll want to accept u, I know is not easy, cus am going through same tin now. Put every tin in God hand by prayer, God bless u shalom

To some people they love once...am really sorry for you but have to open ur heart to everyone....you don't just need to find any man to be friend with, all you have to do is make yourself a better woman and better men will come o their knees begging you.