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Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Vinshu(f): 1:11pm On Apr 25, 2016
Kastonkastroll:
smh. You and your sisters need serious deliverance. Is not about what you think or what you don't think, but marriage is compulsory because the GOOD LORD said so and the society view it as the right thing to do. So who are you to say/think otherwise?

If you despise marriage as a woman, then what will you want to do? To become a hooker or what? Look is none of my business if you choose spinsterhood over marriage, but I won't have you talk down on marriage as if it is bad thing to do.

You have been screaming success success success all over this thread as if that's all that matters in a woman's life. So I ask you, do you think a single, successful, unhappy spinster can ever be more successful than the marriage institution itself?

Smh
I don't care about society. I own my life. Society doesn't own it. Also I don't believe in religion. I'm an atheist.

You sound illiterate. You don't know how to compose an argument. I never said I despise marriage. If I do, I won't be married with a son.

And besides even if I choose to be single, that doesn't mean my life has no other meaning. That's the point of my argument. Those who are single have other things to do in life. Just read what you wrote, "if I'm not married what else will I be". That statement is wrong. That marriage is all a woman's life is all about. That is what I'm disputing. I never said no one should get married. Those who are single have other life to live.

MARRIAGE IS NOT EVERYTHING
SOCIETY DOES NOT RULE OVER OUR LIVES.

I married at 19. Our society frowns at it but did I care? undecided
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by robosky02(m): 1:13pm On Apr 25, 2016
Angelberry:
Yes na, using his rod to clear it.

That reminds me, bosky, do u belong to any team for the upcoming miss Nl contest, I want you to joined my team. kiss
lol ....clear it

well we will talk that one later

which is your team
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Kastonkastroll(m): 1:22pm On Apr 25, 2016
Vinshu:
I don't care about society. I own my life. Society doesn't own it. Also I don't believe in religion. I'm an atheist.

You sound illiterate. You don't know how to compose an argument. I never said I despise marriage. If I do, I won't be married with a son.

And besides even if I choose to be single, that doesn't mean my life has no other meaning. That's the point of my argument. Those who are single have other things to do in life. Just read what you wrote, "if I'm not married what else will I be". That statement is wrong. That marriage is all a woman's life is all about. That is what I'm disputing. I never said no one should get married. Those who are single have other life to live.

MARRIAGE IS NOT EVERYTHING
SOCIETY DOES NOT RULE OVER OUR LIVES.

I married at 19. Our society frowns at it but did I care? undecided
Yeah of course I definitely "sound illiterate".

Look if I had earlier known you were an atheist, believe me I won't have indulge you in the first place(mind you I have nothing against atheism, i don't just engage myself with an atheistic person in any debate).


Enjoy
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Nobody: 1:43pm On Apr 25, 2016
robosky02:
lol ....clear it

well we will talk that one later

which is your team
Teammimzy baby kiss
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by firstking01(m): 2:04pm On Apr 25, 2016
I'm not surprised cos that has always been her role in movies
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by torqque7(m): 2:56pm On Apr 25, 2016
Vinshu:
One thing Nigeria women should understand is,

"Marriage isn't by force"

If you are single at 40 you won't die. If you are single at 40, does not mean you won't be successful. Why shove your esteem into the gutters because "you must be married"?

It's saddening
What esteeem are you talking about?what's your definition of esteem? Everyone has his or her way of viewing the world,you might think being a second wife is shoving your esteem into the gutters while another will think being single at forty is shoving your esteem into the gutter too.

Every one with his opinion dear. When you put corn in a hot pan under the same heat,some become popcorn,while others don't pop,so people are different, it is wrong to use you standard to judge another person.

What you might consider a priority,someone would not even think of the same thing twice,that is how the world works. The hustle is real.
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Vinshu(f): 3:06pm On Apr 25, 2016
torqque7:
What esteeem are you talking about?what's your definition of esteem? Everyone has his or her way of viewing the world,you might think being a second wife is shoving your esteem into the gutters while another will think being single at forty is shoving your esteem into the gutter too.

Every one with his opinion dear. When you put corn in a hot pan under the same heat,some become popcorn,while others don't pop,so people are different, it is wrong to use you standard to judge another person.

What you might consider a priority,someone would not even think of the same thing twice,that is how the world works. The hustle is real.
I don't understand. I'm I judging anybody?
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by torqque7(m): 3:10pm On Apr 25, 2016
Vinshu:
I don't understand. I'm I judging anybody?
Your first post on this thread sounded like you were judging women who believe in marriage as an institution and a serious part of human existence..
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Vinshu(f): 3:13pm On Apr 25, 2016
torqque7:
Your first post on this thread sounded like you were judging women who believe in marriage as an institution and a serious part of human existence..
No. I wasn't judging anyone.

I'm only saying marriage is not by force. That a woman will be a second wife.
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by torqque7(m): 3:30pm On Apr 25, 2016
Vinshu:
No. I wasn't judging anyone.

I'm only saying marriage is not by force. That a woman will be a second wife.
OK. Btw,is that you on your profile?
Re: No Big Deal In Becoming A Second Wife, Men Are Scarce – Nkiru Sylvanus by Nobody: 3:35pm On Apr 25, 2016
Wetin concern me undecided
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