"I was reading about Tiwa savage's outburst marriage a couple of days ago (for people who don't know who Tiwa savage is, she is a celebrated Nigerian female artist), it was somehow shocking to see these going on in her marital life and how strong she's been so far to have kept this away from people. This is what happens when you marry for wrong reasons, when you marry because people claim to assume you both will be best of friends. Women are just incredible, according to her she puts food on the table, she works like a horse to make sure they have roof over their head, she made him her manager so they could do everything together, she employed a cook to make her husband's meal because she's always on the road, she basically did everything to make people believe her husband is a man, and man enough to be her husband. She elevates her husband all the time, she claimed her husband made her who she is and all of that, but in actual fact, he has been hurting her for the past few months. She's been treating her unfailingly that it was reported that both families came together to sort things out, as if that wasn't enough, she had to leave the house because of marital conflict. Wait! I sometimes feel people don't love themselves enough to look into the future before getting married. They just hate themselves, yes you hate yourself and you don't appreciate your life at all. You make terrible mistakes because your emotions are asking you to do so, do you think your emotions are fair enough? No you have got to direct those emotions. First of all, it was Funke Akindele, now it is Tiwa's turn and people are still making the same mistake over and over again.

Why am I getting married to this person?
What do I have to benefit in this marriage or relationship?

Am I really in love with this person or will the love I feel for him or her be enough to sustain our marriage or relationship?
I keep saying this that firstly, make sure you are financially, mentally and emotionally buoyant enough to make these kind of decisions, make sure you are ready, make sure you are not getting married because of fame, money, standard, opinions or pressure. For some men, you have no money, your woman does everything, and instead of you to appreciate her for who she is and how loving shes been, all you do is beat her up and do all sort of stuffs to make her feel guilty. You are just an irresponsible man!
That your mates or friends or colleagues are getting married doesn't mean it is high time for you to do the same. Be so sure you are taking the right step because if you make a stupid mistake, you will so suffer that you will want to end that marriage in no time. Stop being desperate, take your time, age is always on your side, it is you who believe you will not get the very best because you are getting old, the older the wine, the better and sweeter it gets.

Learn from people's experience and help yourself in making a better decision, be in love with yourself first before falling in love with someone else, with that you will realize what's best for you, and you have to come first before someone else does. It's in the moment of decision, our destiny is being shaped.

I love you enough to want the best for you...

Leave your thoughts!!

Minesota1:


"I was reading about Tiwa savage's outburst marriage a couple of days ago (for people who don't know who Tiwa savage is, she is a celebrated Nigerian female artist), it was somehow shocking to see these going on in her marital life and how strong she's been so far to have kept this away from people. This is what happens when you marry for wrong reasons, when you marry because people claim to assume you both will be best of friends. Women are just incredible, according to her she puts food on the table, she works like a horse to make sure they have roof over their head, she made him her manager so they could do everything together, she employed a cook to make her husband's meal because she's always on the road, she basically did everything to make people believe her husband is a man, and man enough to be her husband. She elevates her husband all the time, she claimed her husband made her who she is and all of that, but in actual fact, he has been hurting her for the past few months. She's been treating her unfailingly that it was reported that both families came together to sort things out, as if that wasn't enough, she had to leave the house because of marital conflict. Wait! I sometimes feel people don't love themselves enough to look into the future before getting married. They just hate themselves, yes you hate yourself and you don't appreciate your life at all. You make terrible mistakes because your emotions are asking you to do so, do you think your emotions are fair enough? No you have got to direct those emotions. First of all, it was Funke Akindele, now it is Tiwa's turn and people are still making the same mistake over and over again.

Why am I getting married to this person?
What do I have to benefit in this marriage or relationship?

Am I really in love with this person or will the love I feel for him or her be enough to sustain our marriage or relationship?
I keep saying this that firstly, make sure you are financially, mentally and emotionally buoyant enough to make these kind of decisions, make sure you are ready, make sure you are not getting married because of fame, money, standard, opinions or pressure. For some men, you have no money, your woman does everything, and instead of you to appreciate her for who she is and how loving shes been, all you do is beat her up and do all sort of stuffs to make her feel guilty. You are just an irresponsible man!
That your mates or friends or colleagues are getting married doesn't mean it is high time for you to do the same. Be so sure you are taking the right step because if you make a stupid mistake, you will so suffer that you will want to end that marriage in no time. Stop being desperate, take your time, age is always on your side, it is you who believe you will not get the very best because you are getting old, the older the wine, the better and sweeter it gets.

Learn from people's experience and help yourself in making a better decision, be in love with yourself first before falling in love with someone else, with that you will realize what's best for you, and you have to come first before someone else does. It's in the moment of decision, our destiny is being shaped.

I love you enough to want the best for you...

Leave your thoughts!!

Yes! I could spare some thoughts. Either party could be involved in unforgivable things that could rattle the strongest of foundation.
However, the extent of this unforgivable thing varies e.g infidelity,mutual suspicion, insensitivity, finance etc. These are the basic issues that can "Tsunamize" any marriage. Oyakhilome's marriage was wrecked by insensitivity, suspicion and infidelity. I've been there before.