martyns303:
All this feminist, meanwhile she is comfortably sitting in her husband's house.

The ones who preach the most, go through the worst, Joseph Yobo could be hitting her all night!!!

Are you sure you understand what you are saying? So, because she is advocating against domestic violence, she is now a feminist. Your logic no get part 2.

sinaj:
S

what's S.

If my wife dey beat me nko...make I run....?

YorceelinaBlaq:
Women need to learn to walk out of abusive relationships. Forget about wah pple will say abeg. This life is just one. Marriage is not by force. Marriage isn't wah being a woman is about. Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness.a man who respects u isn't supposed to hit u. If he does, plz "ex" his ass. If ur bf is an "Hulk Hogan", leave him before he kills u. A word is enough for d wise.

Alot of them in such relationship actually want to walk away. The prob is that most of them cant stand on their own financially and they do not also have family support because most parents still have the " for better for worse " mentality. Also the society we live in isn't helping issues.

UIA04:
What
I don't think it has been proven that the man killed let alone laid a hand on his wife thus he is innocent till proven guilty
What if this is the first time he beat her? How would she then have left a non existent abusive marriage.
What if provocation could be used as a defence for her death maybe she had tried to kill him first or he discovered something fishy

I'm not supporting any kind of violence but all this one people turn to preachers with other people's misfortune, instead of going inside to pray for their own marriages that their spouses don't change.


Very soon pastor's will loose their jobs cause everybody don turn pastor.

You are bright.

people change,and when a man decides to change half way into the marriage to become Mike Tyson,that's one thing I cannot tolerate o,some things are bearable, while bearing some will only destroy you,some women will keep using their children as excuse to stay,at the end,you die,your children get to have a new step mum ,which is worse?

martyns303:
All this feminist, meanwhile she is comfortably sitting in her husband's house.

The ones who preach the most, go through the worst, Joseph Yobo could be hitting her all night!!!

Nor mind them.

Only recently the can of worms opened on Tiwa & Tunji. A year ago, Tiwa would have said same as Adaeze.

First thing is for women to get their priorities right. Pick up hints of violence early. Some say he suddenly changed after marriage. That's VERY rare. Women only chose to ignore those little signs.

The tallest, darkest, pink-lipped, wealthiest, funniest, oil company-employed, already made guy may not necessarily be the ideal hubby.

RIP Ma'am.

obowunmi:
Adaeze's husband cheats on her, why hasn't she left though?

Practice what you preach lady

Cheating on her is okk. Probably she understands and forgives. The main problem is violence. when a man gets physical with a woman...I think that's worse.

Besides na which marriage now wey husband or wife no dey cheat. I think its just a few

banmee:


Are you sure you understand what you are saying? So, because she is advocating against domestic violence, she is now a feminist. Your logic no get part 2.

No, it doesn't make her a feminist neither am I encouraging domestic violence. I only have a problem with the first sentence in her message.

Hello, mrs yobo go and sit down. You are talking as if your own marriage does not have any challenges

AreaFada2:


Nor mind them.

Only recently the can of worms opened on Tiwa & Tunji. A year ago, Tiwa would have said same as Adaeze.

First thing is for women to get their priorities right. Pick up hints of violence early. Some say he suddenly changed after marriage. That's VERY rare. Women only chose to ignore those little signs.

The tallest, darkest, pink-lipped, wealthiest, funniest, oil company-employed, already made guy may not necessarily be the ideal hubby.

RIP Ma'am.

I am already being torn apart, as I probably did not put my words right.

Societal pressure! Look at that guy and look at the babe. Another avoidable sad ending.

martyns303:
All this feminist, meanwhile she is comfortably sitting in her husband's house.

The ones who preach the most, go through the worst, Joseph Yobo could be hitting her all night!!!

Ur right those who preach the most go thru the most absolutely right

2dugged:
people change,and when a man decides to change half way into the marriage to become Mike Tyson,that's one thing I cannot tolerate o,some things are bearable, while bearing some will only destroy you,some women will keep using their children as excuse to stay,at the end,you die,your children get to have a new step mum ,which is worse?

Ur signature says all bou me cool

It's not only physical. There is sexual and emotional. And from what we have heard about Yobo. Adaeze seems to be experiencing emotional and sexual abuse as we hear he cannot focus on one yansh. Maybe she should also apply her advice to herself. She needs it. It's very abusive when a spouse is a constant cheat. Even worse than physical abuse.

TrumpDonald:


Cheating on her is okk. Probably she understands and forgives. The main problem is violence. when a man gets physical with a woman...I think that's worse.

Besides na which marriage now wey husband or wife no dey cheat. I think its just a few

really? What about stds, unwanted pregnancies, lack of trust, betrayal the list goes on. Besides emotional abuse usually escalates to physical abuse.

halfricanadian:

Ur signature says all bou me cool

thanks, it's just a jungle out there

I totally agree! Marriage is not a do or die!

2dugged:
thanks, it's just a jungle out there

Very cold out there

Its the house of God that keeps me warm

Nd his words that comfort me

Out there is a wild jungle

I don't care who is talking, if you are on point you get my applause. She is very on point. Like somebody earlier said, there are some fools here on nairaland who are challenging the obvious. Of what use is dead person in this planet. Staying in an abusive relationship is not a sign of loyalty but fulishnes.

Adaeze's mum must have told her that when her parents got divorced.

I still say baby mama will rule over the world in 2020. Its safe and cheaper. Then davido and wiz kid will be chairman baby mama association of nigeria. But yobo's wife sided women alone. What of abusive wives like the husband killer lawyer?

halfricanadian:


Very cold out there

Its the house of God that keeps me warm

Nd his words that comfort me

Out there is a wild jungle

may God help us find that one person that will at least have a conscience and heart love us even a little bit

cap28:


really? What about stds, unwanted pregnancies, lack of trust, betrayal the list goes on. Besides emotional abuse usually escalates to physical abuse.

Yes really!! Don't derail from the reason behind Adaeze's post. A woman allegedly died due to domestic violence. The STDs etc u mentioned above, to me, is a different issue. What she's talking abt is physical violence and not emotional abuse.

People don't know the reason they get into marriage.

2dugged:
may God help us find that one person that will at least have a conscience and heart love us even a little bit

Thats my prayers and i will surely find such a person no matter how long

Hhhhmmm

Why is she emphasizing "physically abusive relationship"?

So if the relationship is abusive but not physically, one should stay, abi?

Why because she knows some women endure physically abusive relationships (which is her bias); yet some (wo)men endure emotionally, financially, sexually or verbally abusive relationships.

Maybe she is among the later category.

halfricanadian:


Thats my prayers and i will surely find such a person no matter how long

Amen

2dugged:
Amen

Tanx

sinaj:
She is so on point!


Marriage is not by force.



The funny thing there is, most women will notice violent traits in their fiancé during courtship nd still go ahead with the wedding plans with the mind set of changing him.





Sometimes I blame the abused women


RIP to her
It's a pity

Am telling u ma.. I met a fooolish gal like that... The bf use to slap her at every argument.. Nt small slap..but a slap that has already giving her serious ear problem.. I didn't Even pity her ..I told her she is a foooolish gal straight to her face....

halfricanadian:


Tanx

you are welcome sister