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I am married for over 5years now with a daughter and a boy. my husband is not working, I have been the one taking care of the family including my husband, the annoying part of it is that my husband is not doing anything to help, he is a graduate and a business man but business is not moving well, i have told him on several occasions to go and look for work, his response to me always was that he doesn't want to answer anyone sir!! so annoying... NOW this has made me to hook up with a guy who has been disturbing me for a very long time and he has been assisting me financially he is also married but no child, he is so crazy about me, he does virtually anything i asked of him, and we have had sex three times, now the main problem on hand is that i want to leave him but he doesn't want to let me be, and if i don't stop what am having with him it might affect my marriage. I love my husband but he is annoying, please what can i do to make this guy understand and let me be.

U r even lucky ur hubby is not d type that drinks, smokes or stubborn. Am not in support of his joblessness but pls ur reason for betrayal is far too soft, would u prefer a husband who is working n bringing u millions everyday but flirts with all d ladies in town?. If u love ur husband go d extra mile- look for how too help him c his State of bin idle, I believe he will change

jovicute:
I am married for over 5years now with a daughter and a boy. my husband is not working, I have been the one taking care of the family including my husband, the annoying part of it is that my husband is not doing anything to help, he is a graduate and a business man but business is not moving well, i have told him on several occasions to go and look for work, his response to me always was that he doesn't want to answer anyone sir!! so annoying... NOW this has made me to hook up with a guy who has been disturbing me for a very long time and he has been assisting me financially he is also married but no child, he is so crazy about me, he does virtually anything i asked of him, and we have had sex three times, now the main problem on hand is that i want to leave him but he doesn't want to let me be, and if i don't stop what am having with him it might affect my marriage. I love my husband but he is annoying, please what can i do to make this guy understand and let me be.

provoke yr husband let im knw he is annoying, if he change, he change, and if not, its ur marriage accept ur faith.

Cherumaka eh!

what ur husband is doing now is wrong..... its the biggest or maybe one of the biggest sin.
Y wont a man be able to provide for his family.....thats wrong on his part.

Even the bible(i dont know d verse but its there) says that a man who can not provide or cater for his wife an children is a sinner..


On ur part u made the GREATEST MISTAKE AND THE DEADLIEST SIN............ ADULTERY!.....thats so so so wrong and he has every right to divorce u if he finds out its also in the bible (dont know that verse too but its there)......people are gonna bash u here and i think u called 4 it

You should hav made him see a better reason ,encouraged or pressured him or even compel (i thought ladies ar good @ dat) him to secure a job or atleast try out another profitable business.

Wives are supose to support their husband's not only financially but wiht advice and encouragements....

For the fact that u cheated on him, ive got nothing to say to help cos i feel sorry for the man who still loves u an yet u did this to him.

Ashewo backyard

jovicute:
I am married for over 5years now with a daughter and a boy. my husband is not working, I have been the one taking care of the family including my husband, the annoying part of it is that my husband is not doing anything to help, he is a graduate and a business man but business is not moving well, i have told him on several occasions to go and look for work, his response to me always was that he doesn't want to answer anyone sir!! so annoying... NOW this has made me to hook up with a guy who has been disturbing me for a very long time and he has been assisting me financially he is also married but no child, he is so crazy about me, he does virtually anything i asked of him, and we have had sex three times, now the main problem on hand is that i want to leave him but he doesn't want to let me be, and if i don't stop what am having with him it might affect my marriage. I love my husband but he is annoying, please what can i do to make this guy understand and let me be.

Compared to your husband this financially empowered man who is crazy about you feels goooood especially as he does whatever you ask of him. He makes you feel like a woman again sadly your husband cannot give you this rush right now he is in a bad place. You have to somehow learn how to give yourself this good feelings this man is giving you see how you are already feeling guilty and bad after the act but you tell yourself all kinds of stories mostly blaming your husband for making you do this after all if he was living up to expectations you wouldn't have to rely on another man for financial assistance but its really your choice to cheat.

So ditch the expectations and face reality you are married to a broke man you claim to love. You feel guilty and the weight of cheating is stealing the good feelings away. When you were not cheating on your broke annoying husband and now that you are cheating which feels better?

I don't think you are the type of woman who does not give a shit as long as she is getting what she wants which is why you are confessing so do what is right.

from ur epistle above, I can draw out only two conclusions:
1. you don't love ur husband, that's y u feel helping him is a big deal.
2. u are an olosho.

if your husband finds out tomorrow that u have been fvckin another guy and confronts u, then u drink poison and die, news will spread that ur husband has killed u, and some mumu's here will swear u never cheated. I only feel sorry for that one man who wifed ur dilapidated black ass.

Just quit.Tell him you can't go on again.If he calls,don't answer his calls.Don't meet him anywhere.You may need to change your phone number.

for the fact that the other guy has had sex with you... I ain't commenting any further