This is a little but serious dilemma, a friend is currently facing. He requested for my advice and I felt I could come here to get tips before I meet him on Sunday when we are chanced to hangout.

It goes thus...

He had this presumed soulmate back then in school and they dated for 3years. They both studied computer engineering, graduated together and went to MIIT, (whatever that means). When they finished the program, the guy got job first with this IT firm in PH and they were forced to separate due to distance...the lady in question had to get married with the guy's consent and later divorced in October 2015. My formed got married December 2015, but did told me that he still crush on his ex.

Things got a bit complicated when he bumped on his ex at his office, where she came for an interview on March this year and the fire seems to have been kindled. She got the job 3 weeks later. The thing is, he's been trying to avoid her but this week Monday, she was to be reporting to my friend's immediate boss. My guy closes late, about 7pm daily, so as to prepare for the next day's job and it means, his ex must report to his boss through him and sometimes, only very few people are left in the building when she's to submit her report.

It got serious this Thursday, when they where alone in the office and she was, I quote, "extremely hot"..at least, that is what he said.(remember he still crushes on her). He couldn't help but caress and kiss her and according to him, he is devastated he had to do that. Today, his ex made advances again...he is confused as he is weak when she comes around...

(Pardon the cut-and-joined explanation) hoping you understand the crux.

Now, I am to advise him on Sunday, what should I say? I'll still pray about it though...

all ladies cant just forget their love , no matter how, leme have their full name and check their compatibility on CCTV....keep on praying thou.

Your friend or you?

amtaken:
Your friend or you?

that non of ur biz now. read clearly it already stated

You said it's your friend but I have my doubts.

taiwo05:

that non of ur biz now. read clearly it already stated

This na temptation,
With a little confusion,
Infactuation..oh Lord..

With time,the crusher will get over the crushee

*Is there any word like crusher/crushee *

Bet the poster above me go sabi do amebo oo eh!

amtaken:
You said it's your friend but I have my doubts.

not Op

Hmmmm,dis one na complicated matter o

Ur frnd shld define his boundary wt her. D lady knows d guy Is married and she cudnt stop him wen dey started cuddling and kissing and also d guy does not know what he wants *a newly married man* most newly wedded couples i av seen r crazily madly in love wt each oda, d spark and glow is alws ther. I doubt if d guy loves his wife.

Oh.

taiwo05:

not Op

Konji nah bastard.

No matter where I go or who I date I can't forget my first love. We dated and broke up and came back after leaving our respective relationship. It's like jazz, we dont even know what to do again. We stated dating young, we wrote waec and enter the University together, graduated and currently working and we're still together. It's hard to just let him go. No jazz abi? I still love him very much too. O.p it's gonna be hard.

All dis movie series dat u guyz have watch just be'cos it did'nt end d way u guyz want it u, u will now assume as if it reality n com to a forum like NL n say my friend say, as if we are movie directors or we were there when d movie script was wrote (oga ur frd did say anytin d movie ended well)

I believe I was clear enough naa. I personally don't have any of my exes in my state, so it can't be me. Thanks

amtaken:
Your friend or you?

Probably, I wouldn't have known the guy's heart, with regards his love for his wife. However, I know that he married his wife because he saw good qualities in her and we all know sometimes people dont only marry for love, but can grow to love each other...however, remember, he and his ex were really in love for years before they separated...

Pls, advice if you can. Thanks

Bluette:
Ur frnd shld define his boundary wt her. D lady knows d guy Is married and she cudnt stop him wen dey started cuddling and kissing and also d guy does not know what he wants *a newly married man* most newly wedded couples i av seen r crazily madly in love wt each oda, d spark and glow is alws ther. I doubt if d guy loves his wife.

Ginaz:
No matter where I go or who I date I can't forget my first love. We dated and broke up and came back after leaving our respective relationship. It's like jazz, we dont even know what to do again. We stated dating young, we wrote waec and enter the University together, graduated and currently working and we're still together. It's hard to just let him go. No jazz abi? I still love him very much too. O.p it's gonna be hard.

Thought, you'd say that you conquered it. I may not understand you completely, but imagine this your guy is not someone you end up marrying, how would you overcome the urge of seeing or being romantic with him?

Lol, everything must be a movie to you. You forget that there's real life situation. Anyways, I understand if u can't be of help...

Hillzy:
All dis movie series dat u guyz have watch just be'cos it did'nt end d way u guyz want it u, u will now assume as if it reality n com to a forum like NL n say my friend say, as if we are movie directors or we were there when d movie script was wrote (oga ur frd did say anytin d movie ended well)

Bluette:
Ur frnd shld define his boundary wt her. D lady knows d guy Is married and she cudnt stop him wen dey started cuddling and kissing and also d guy does not know what he wants *a newly married man* most newly wedded couples i av seen r crazily madly in love wt each oda, d spark and glow is alws ther. I doubt if d guy loves his wife.

Maybe he's one of those that marry out of necessity than love

Your friend is a complete SAVAGE

"Oh lawd, shes so extremly hot, whatever shall i doo, lemme just kiss and caress her so i can finally end up with a broken home like i've always fantasized"

This is what your friend sounds like

Tell him that some dude on romancland said he is not yet ready to be man

Dudeweedlmao:
Your friend is a SAVAGE

Please sir, kindly aid me to be able to help this my "savage" friend. Will appreciate that. Thanks

Stoical:


Please sir, kindly aid me to be able to help this my "savage" friend. Will appreciate that. Thanks

Just tell him you're ashamed of his action and that he is heading towards a degenerate lane.
That is if you have the guts. You're his friend afterall. Nowadays people lack friends that will tell them how it is
Dont be that kind of friend

Dudeweedlmao:


Just tell him you're ashamed of his action and that he is heading towards a degenerate lane.
That is if you have the guts. You're his friend afterall. Nowadays people lack friends that will tell them how it is
Dont be that kind of friend

Cool.

Thanks for the advise. I will probably query him enough to know his mind, during and after they had those stints of romance. I equally believe sounding the words with firm and putting them they way they are will do. Also, I'll let him know that there are no 2 ways, than for him to stay as far as possible from his ex, if possible, request to be posted out to another unit, or her ex be directed to report thru another person.

I will really joke with him for a while though, as he would definitely have weigh me down first, if I was in his shoe... Thanks again by the way

sum1 cudnt kip deir marriage & u call dem "hot"?

I don hear.

Stoical:
I believe I was clear enough naa. I personally don't have any of my exes in my state, so it can't be me. Thanks

Hello all, thanks for your suggestions, at least, I was able to state the facts, with regards what I believe is avoidable. He promised to do all he can to stay away from her(though over the phone, as other things came up, and we couldn't see face to face again). I will call him in a week's time to know how he's handled it. Thanks once again