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whogoscam:
My father was never in support of my marriage. He said I would become her slave. My mother said It was an abomination.

Today, my wife is my mum's best friend and my dad on the other hand is still querying her for another grandson

My point is follow your heart. You are an adult. Your parents job is done the moment you became an adult. They cannot control your future. They have to come to like it however you choose.

. Hmmmm.. follow ur heart, thatz a good place to start From

Greene66:
WRONG!

I do not owe them anything to make them happy because I didn't ask them to give me life. That's the scam most parents feed to their children. No one asked to be born. We were born because they wanted it not because we wanted it as their children. So it was for them. It wasn't a favor. So no one owes nobody

Besides, making them happy and making yourself sad? Which you choose? When they die you would be left alone in this world to reek in your regrets and sadness. If the woman you truly love is not 'their type' would you throw her out the window because some old folks don't want it? Lol

Take my advice, YOU DON'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING! NOT EVEN YOUR PARENTS! THEY MARRIED AND BIRTH YOU BECAUSE THEY WANTED TO. IT DOES NOT MEAN THEY WOULD RULE AND LORD OVER YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!

You are responsible for your actions as an adult. Your parents cannot choose your future.

I can subscribe to ur opinion bro.. my fear is what an elder sees sitting a youth can't see it while standing ...

rose54321:
I guess we cannot agree as we both have different views. There's absolutely nothing wrong though in having different views, while I don't agree with you AT ALL, I respect your view as I believe humans are rational and have rationality behind their thought processes.

Having said that, I never in my previous message(s) inferred that you should let your parents lord over your life, nobody should lord over your life. What I did say is that you should endeavour to make them happy.
Yes they gave birth to you because they wanted a child, or used a detective birth control, but it's LOVE THAT MADE THEM RAISE YOU.
If you know the rate of children been flushed out, dropped at orphanages or being left to die, you would understand that raising you was Love and nothing more.

There will always be exceptions to every law, there are situations where parents might give absurd requirement of the person you will marry, requirements you might not agree with, then it's your place to make them understand.

However, I believe that some situations can be avoided like falling in love with someone from another religion. Love I repeat doesn't start overnight, this ain't a movie. It's real life. It takes time to love, so why start a relationship you know has no future.

The plain truth is that most people stupidly start dating someone with the notion 'we are just dating, not planning to marry'; they aren't keen on wife criterias and focus on criteria for now, girl friend material. So when love sets it , it becomes a problem.

That said I would never advise anyone to marry someone based on their parents, Hell NO, you can suspend marrying someone they don't like and spend time looking for another you like, but don't drop yours and pick theirs .

I personally truly respect ur view ... one thing I guess u should know is dat we don't tell d heart who to love... D heart does and thus makes it hard to stop loving person

spiritsam:
I can subscribe to ur opinion bro.. my fear is what an elder sees sitting a youth can't see it while standing ...

All those african proverbs na scam jare. Uneducated illiterate elder. What does he want to see? Many of them see rubbish and die and leave the youth to suffer the effects of the rubbish they saw