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On their wedding night, before he had got a chance to make love to his new bride, bandits came. They did not just steal money and property, they forced him to watch at gun point as they took turns on his wife.

After a few days, he gave her a huge sum of money and wished her well, saying he could not bring himself to sleep with her ever. The torment was too much.

This happened in Anyigba, Kogi state.

Fellas, should you witness your partner get raped, can you sleep with her still?

#copiedfrommikeile'sblog#

I guess He did it to save himself of future traumatic and psychological mind challenges.

I think it is even the best way out.
The earlier the better for them, they can not enjoy the marriage emotionally.

The parting was just mature and reasonable.

He is an idiot. Your wife was raped while he powerlessly looked on at his fellow men, then he goes on to divorce her ? He is a buffon of the highest order. Will we call that cheating too? Instead of him to cry and the blatant mental, sexual and emotional abuse of his dear wife. He divorced her ?. He isn't fit to be a man. His marital vows meant nothing to him. Its a cross God tried to see if he could bear and he failed miserably. Please tell the man " HE SHOULD GO AND DIE" . Save us some oxygen

Just buy him the film : TANGO With ME. He will learn.

Eddygourdo:
He is an idiot. Your wife was raped while he powerlessly looked on at his fellow men, then he goes on to divorce her ? He is a buffon of the highest order. Will we call that cheating too? Instead of him to cry and the blatant mental, sexual and emotional abuse of his dear wife. He divorced her ?. He isn't fit to be a man. His marital vows meant nothing to him. Its a cross God tried to see if he could bear and he failed miserably. Please tell the man " HE SHOULD GO AND DIE" . Save us some oxygen

Put your self in his shoes and stop forming like you are an actor in a film, understand the scenario that was presented and look at it with the eyes of a man going into a new married life,
This is not James Bond film or tales by moon light.

okenwa:
I guess He did it to save himself of future traumatic and psychological mind challenges.

I think it is even the best way out.
The earlier the better for them, they can not enjoy the marriage emotionally.

The parting was just mature and reasonable.

by giving her a huge amount of money right like it could really make up for her hurt. Or you think she doesn't feel worse off?

I call it selfishness. They just exchanged some vows earlier in the day.. I don't think you understand what for better for worse means. The best thing that could have been done was for both of them to go for rehab.

Decisions made at the peak of emotional trauma may not be the best.

Please u guys should stop lying... especially the op

okenwa:
Put your self in his shoes and stop forming like you are an actor in a film, understand the scenario that was presented and look at it with the eyes of a man going into a new married life,
This is not James Bond film or tales by moon light.

look at this one. So if the scenario was turned around. And gays raped u and ur wife divorces u simply becasue she can barely look at you. You won't castigate the female folkk for lack of understanding since you weren't gay before the rape. You telling me to look at the man's point of view when the rape wasn't the fault of the woman. The same applies to marrying aa wife and due to unfortunate events she lost a leg. A lowly man like u will divorce her and tell us to look at his point of view. What happened to for better or worse. For an unfortunate event that befell the poor woman in ur presence. Isn't it the man's duty to protect his wife ? Did he do that ? Shame menfolk have reduced in quality to your knid with ur myopic reasoning. Anyway you could be a boy sef. Abeg commot for road

s2n4r3t1:
On their wedding night, before he had got a chance to make love to his new bride, bandits came. They did not just steal money and property, they forced him to watch at gun point as they took turns on his wife.

After a few days, he gave her a huge sum of money and wished her well, saying he could not bring himself to sleep with her ever. The torment was too much.

This happened in Anyigba, Kogi state.

Fellas, should you witness your partner get raped, can you sleep with her still?

#copiedfrommikeile'sblog#

The man suffered psychological trauma. His response was very understandable.

Eddygourdo:
He is an idiot. Your wife was raped while he powerlessly looked on at his fellow men, then he goes on to divorce her ? He is a buffon of the highest order. Will we call that cheating too? Instead of him to cry and the blatant mental, sexual and emotional abuse of his dear wife. He divorced her ?. He isn't fit to be a man. His marital vows meant nothing to him. Its a cross God tried to see if he could bear and he failed miserably. Please tell the man " HE SHOULD GO AND DIE" . Save us some oxygen

Hehehe Eddy Eddy!
You didn't understand the Op at all.
No empathy or sympathy for the man OR the woman!
You think the woman doesn't want a clean slate as well?
You think she wouldn't look at the man with embarrassment knowing what was done to her in his front?
You think she would be happy with the man for not protecting her? Deep down she will also nurse some anger for the man for letting it happen even though there was little he could do to prevent it.




Don't be in such a hurry to defend an accused when nobody was accusing. He didn't divorce her cos he thot she cheated. He divorced her cos he couldn't stand being with her and remembering the incident where she was raped and he couldn't do anything about it.

Jamean:
by giving her a huge amount of money right like it could really make up for her hurt. Or you think she doesn't feel worse off?

I call it selfishness. They just exchanged some vows earlier in the day.. I don't think you understand what for better for worse means. The best thing that could have been done was for both of them to go for rehab.

Decisions made at the peak of emotional trauma may not be the best.

Rehab where? In kogi state? In Nigeria?
The decision was made days after.
And even in foreign countries this scenario would be difficult to reconcile.

The money wouldn't hurt either. Or he should have left her without giving her anything at all ba? That would have been better?
He should offer it like a gentleman let her refuse it like a lady.

Jamean:
by giving her a huge amount of money right like it could really make up for her hurt. Or you think she doesn't feel worse off?

I call it selfishness. They just exchanged some vows earlier in the day.. I don't think you understand what for better for worse means. The best thing that could have been done was for both of them to go for rehab.

Decisions made at the peak of emotional trauma may not be the best.

The usual double standard playing out in "For Better For Worse". That is what this ur comment reeks of. In today's women standards, the phrase makes no sense except when they get caught-up.

I wouldn't do what the man did but it's his choice as today's generation has stripped marriage of all its true meaning. I am of the opinion that 'for better for worse' be expunged from wedding vows and be probably replaced with 'as you deem fit to tarry'.

5minsmadness:
Hehehe Eddy Eddy!
You didn't understand the Op at all.
No empathy or sympathy for the man OR the woman!
You think the woman doesn't want a clean slate as well?
You think she wouldn't look at the man with embarrassment knowing what was done to her in his front?
You think she would be happy with the man for not protecting her? Deep down she will also nurse some anger for the man for letting it happen even though there was little he could do to prevent it.




Don't be in such a hurry to defend an accused when nobody was accusing. He didn't divorce her cos he thot she cheated. He divorced her cos he couldn't stand being with her and remembering the incident where she was raped and he couldn't do anything about it.

I get you, I understand the stigma, but has marriage become so meaningless that we can find easy ways out of it. If one marries a wife and she had an accident which disfugured her face. Nobody will blame the husband for wanting a divorce , but is it fair ? This scenario could play out in both ways and should simply be regarded as an unfortunate event. It wasn't the man's fault and wasn't the woman's fault. But for the sancity of marriage. They are supposed to get past that even though its a bitter pill to swallow.

What if the wife is still in love with him and intrested in the marriage. From her perspective, she is losing her home for an event where she was a victim. I don't see it as being fair and thus must be empathetic at her. Its a painful loss of a maarriage for an unfortunate event that could be looked past. What's the big deal in fucking aa woman by the way. She may not have even been a virgin sef. So why the fuss by her oga @ the top

5minsmadness:
Hehehe Eddy Eddy!
You didn't understand the Op at all.
No empathy or sympathy for the man OR the woman!
You think the woman doesn't want a clean slate as well?
You think she wouldn't look at the man with embarrassment knowing what was done to her in his front?
You think she would be happy with the man for not protecting her? Deep down she will also nurse some anger for the man for letting it happen even though there was little he could do to prevent it.
Don't be in such a hurry to defend an accused when nobody was accusing. He didn't divorce her cos he thot she cheated. He divorced her cos he couldn't stand being with her and remembering the incident where she was raped and he couldn't do anything about it.

Thank you so much for your views.

You see my people, I want you all to observe that we are sharing 'real life issues ' here
No one of you is older than me in this forum, I have seen and read issues more hearty than this.
Forget about this concept of 'for better for worse' mindset.
Look, emotional feelings are even stronger than marriage itself.
How can she feel that immediately after wedding someone took what she reserved for her husband forcefully, even in his own presence. Ha ba, if the beginning is faulty, how can emotional feelings exist?
In fact, it is out of the love he has for the lady that he gave her money to move on in life, going by the fact that another man who has no knowledge of her status can go on with her.

All this small boys come dey form hulk hogan and matioman here. Look life can mystical, otherwise, how can God tell a prophet in the Bible to go and pick a harlot as wife.
She deserve a second chance to enjoy a happy marriage life.
How una see a mmmm?

Read the full post again please

If they had reproduced kids before this issue happened.it will be a different ball game, that is when you have to accept it in good fate and go for rehabilitation.