Enahi:


Huh are you ok what do u mean by I should fvck myself? it's not about sex ok and if you must know I haven't had sex with him yet.

Enahi:


Yes he does though he explained his situation to me.

missyge:
u gaan get ur own fr bdy

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

obyno1011:
Lady, a man should not make u hate every man. Each has his problems
What attracted you to him? Is he working or doing business? Living with his mum at what age?
Sometimes we get blinded by love. I really don't like men who depend on a lady especially the unmarried. Stop giving and watch his reaction.
If there's no potential in him, let him go.

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

Naughtysite:

Who dey for that ur picture ?
He is definitely a USER. Stop spending on him.

Enahi:


I have tried to call it off several times and he will now come begging and I feel sorry and sad when I see someone begging me.

Enahi:


Don't worry he will come back to beg you for forgiveness or second chance, trust me most men know a good woman when they see one. They always want to come back after they have realized their mistakes.

I don't think all igbo men are selfish, haven't really dated Igbos anyway. I just think they are too money conscious I heard they take Care of their women well.

Enahi:


I have tried to call it off several times and he will now come begging and I feel sorry and sad when I see someone begging me.

Enahi:


He told me he is working but I doubt him, he is looking for money to also start business. He is not from a poor home but I think his family has decided not to help him because of the bad things he has done in the past.

And another thing I noticed about him is that he brags a lot about his family connection and people he has met in life, I have told him on countless occasions that he has inferiority complex and that he needs to work on it.

He is always talking shit abt people he knows and yet his life seems to be in shambles, I am trying to make him a better person but he is not ready to work on himself.

Enahi:


i am not even asking him to assist me I just hate the fact that he is selfcenteted.

Drefan2:

Op, help yourself out>>>>>>>>>>>>>
<<<

byvan03:
OP I will like you to read this, a buddy posted it on NL and you might benefit from it.

See below:


A lot of people are attached to the idea of being “nice.” It’s not so easy for these individuals to let go of their need to be nice, or to appreciate how different it is from being kind.

This distinction is important, however, because these two ways of being lead to very different outcomes in one’s personal and professional life.

It will be easier to understand the difference between “nice” and “kind” if we focus on the opposing motivations behind each way of being.

The nice person is externally motivated. He’s driven by the need for other people’s approval and validation; he craves acceptance and is fearful of rejection.

The kind person is internally motivated. She has good self-esteem and isn’t looking for approval. She’s less concerned about what others might think of her and more interested in doing the right thing. Her compassion comes from an overflowing of her positive self-regard and not from the need to please.

The kind person respects herself as much as she respects others. She’s naturally helpful and generous, except when doing so might cause her harm. She lives in a state of balance, being as kind to herself as she is to others. She makes a positive contribution to her family, company and community, but never at her own expense.

The nice person is out of balance in his quest for external validation. Thinking that this is how he’ll find what he wants, he puts the needs of others ahead of his own needs. He keeps trying to please until he becomes exhausted and aggravated.

The nice person avoids confrontation for fear of upsetting anyone. He has trouble saying “No,” and rarely asks directly for what he wants. Fearing rejection, he can’t express any angry feelings that arise.

The kind person, on the other hand, isn’t afraid of confrontation. She’s able to speak her mind clearly, directly and respectfully, so people know where she stands but aren’t likely to take offense.

If someone gets angry at her because she’s asserted herself or rejects her because she’s setting a limit, she doesn’t take it personally.

The nice person can’t be authentic, because he’s too preoccupied with being a pleaser. The longer he continues to be “nice,” however, the more alienated he becomes from himself and others. He can lose touch with his true needs, feelings and opinions, and his relationships lack intimacy or fulfillment.

Even if he does win some degree of approval, the nice person knows, deep down, that the other person doesn’t see or accept him for who he really is. He can never make a real connection.

The kind person is genuine and sincere. She doesn’t need to pretend to be anyone else. If someone dislikes her or disapproves of her, she doesn’t feel diminished in any way.

The kind person welcomes constructive criticism. Her good self-regard motivates her to constantly be learning and evolving. Her ability to accept feedback means that her performance at work is always improving, and that she’s able to grow as a friend and a spouse.

The nice person is uncomfortable with feedback. His low self-esteem makes external criticism feel particularly hurtful. He has a harder time taking in valuable information about how he might improve his performance at work or how he could be a better spouse or friend.

The kind person sets good limits with others, and because she doesn’t allow herself to be mistreated, she’s cheerful, easy-going and approachable. She trusts herself to take care of herself in her personal and professional relationships, so she feels at ease with other people and her heart is open.

The nice person can’t set good limits. In his attempt to gain approval and avoid rejection, he allows people to exploit and mistreat him. This makes him angry, bitter, and cynical toward others.

The nice person’s attempts to please often result in his feeling hurt. His mistrust toward others grows, as does his shame for putting up with disrespect. His heart becomes closed, so while his behaviour is outwardly “nice,” he actually feels disappointed and resentful.

The truth is that people admire the kind person and look down on the nice person. We look up to those who have confidence and good self-esteem and tend to dismiss as “weak,” or “needy,” those who appear to be trying too hard to please.

When things don’t go the way he’d hoped, the nice person doesn’t know what to do with his growing anger. He might stuff down his resentment with alcohol, drugs or food, or it could leak out as passive-aggressive behaviour. Sometimes he’ll have an angry outburst, which embarrasses him so much that he represses his anger even more.

So, while the kind person can be relaxed and loving, authentic and meaningfully connected to others, the nice person is often anxious, angry, alienated and isolated; possibly even suffering from an addiction.

The solution for the nice person is simple: he must stop looking outside himself for love and approval.

Once he takes responsibility for his own self-worth, he’ll start working on developing his own positive self-regard. When he begins to love and accept himself, he’ll be able to let go of needing to please, and he’ll notice that interestingly, others are responding to him better.

A positive spiral is created, whereby he’s in charge of his self-worth, he’s treated with more respect, his anger diminishes, his feelings of trust and connection with others increase and his self-esteem improves even more.

Eventually, without even thinking about it, he’ll shift from being nice to being kind.



https://www./why-you-need-stop-being-nice-start-kind-marcia-sirota

Omonigeriarere:

You need me, honestly.

Enahi:


He told me he is working but I doubt him, he is looking for money to also start business. He is not from a poor home but I think his family has decided not to help him because of the bad things he has done in the past.

And another thing I noticed about him is that he brags a lot about his family connection and people he has met in life, I have told him on countless occasions that he has inferiority complex and that he needs to work on it.

He is always talking shit abt people he knows and yet his life seems to be in shambles, I am trying to make him a better person but he is not ready to work on himself.

obyno1011:



What I will advise you is to let your emotions detach from this case. He's probably a burden. Since his family can't assist him, you will bear a great burden doing so. He needs to change and won't do that if you keep having that feeling or pity on him.
Let him know your heart is out and if he wants help he can contact the so called people he has met. He also can't speak down on people he knows because he will do same on you.
Advise him to seek help from his maker and prove to his family and people that he's changed.
Don't hurt yourself more. Be just a friend and keep emotions out.

Cheers

Enahi:


Thank you so much, he feels praising himself in front of people will make them like him who does that.

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

Enahi:
Why me? Why are you men very manipulative?
I am tired, tired and irritated.

It hasn't been up to Two months I met my new boyfriend and he keeps asking me for little money that at the end of the day he won't pay back. The other time he had a little problem with his car I had to fix it since d cost was very little.
The other time he called me to give someone 2k on his behalf and that he would pay back, that one entered voicemail I didn't even bother to ask him to refund it wanted to see if he would like he said.

Just 2 weeks ago he came complaining about some stuff that has to do with him not having money and asked he wish I can borrow him 3k. Thank God for my friend that has met him and told me my man looks like a user and that I should be careful.

Painful thing is he doesn't care about me neither does he ask about my welfare, he wants me to cook for him always because he enjoys my meals and has even asked me to cook and bring to his house when he has a mom that's cooks for him always.

I think he is taken advantage of the fact that I am a nice person, I have made efforts to call off the relationship several times because it got to a point i was now the only one doing all the calling and communicating, he keeps saying he is sorry.

I am tired.

MrCork:



kaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.....seee nyansh??................sweeeeery i tink I love u!!

Enahi:


Lol Mr.Cork but am not lightskinned na.

..kaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...you have nyansh.....so u get automatttic .....

[size=20pt] ...PASS MARK!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size]

Enahi:


He told me he is working but I doubt him, he is looking for money to also start business. He is not from a poor home but I think his family has decided not to help him because of the bad things he has done in the past.

And another thing I noticed about him is that he brags a lot about his family connection and people he has met in life, I have told him on countless occasions that he has inferiority complex and that he needs to work on it.

He is always talking shit abt people he knows and yet his life seems to be in shambles,[b] I am trying to make him a better person [/b]but he is not ready to work on himself.

Strahovski1:
Dear come over here In India we have lots of men who are responsible and take care of you.

And they have light skin

yinkeys:
@Enahi hi