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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by jornie(m): 12:17pm On May 26, 2016 |
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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by shizzle11(m): 12:18pm On May 26, 2016 |
sammied:Tell this nonsense to your useless father. You are a despicable dingbat. what truth you fo0ol?. May your breadth cease this moment .... |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:18pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:permit me to state categorically that when God said Israelites should marry Israelites, it was figurative. Meaning people with the same believe, and religion as concerning God. Though I stand to be corrected, so we don't mis-quote. If the both families are Christians, then it has nothing to do with marrying Israel or not. This tribal things is very bad. My friend who is from Oyo served in Enugu and saw who he would love to marry, but because his family will never allow that, he had to erase the thought. So, what are we talking about? 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by ohenhen1: 12:18pm On May 26, 2016 |
Don't move on. It is very difficult to find love. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:21pm On May 26, 2016 |
The thread has been turned to a tribal war zone. @op, I know 5yrs is a very long time invested already. But please move on now that You can. My short opinion. 4 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by shizzle11(m): 12:23pm On May 26, 2016 |
femmefetale:Gerrarahia mehhhn. You want find cure for my crase? , you will die trying so don't even bother. You used to be a goody girl Dunno what happened to you though .. smh |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IGLE25(m): 12:27pm On May 26, 2016 |
I don't see why parents of this generation still back on tribal differences in marriage matters. I was in your shoe some years back but I have to let go of the relationship. I dated this Ibo girl for 12 years and was thinking of proposing to her on our 12th year of courtship when she broke the news of her dad not in support of the relationship and she was asking what is my take on it. I told her bluntly to go with whatever her mind chooses and she went with her father's mandate. As I am writing to you now she will be 31 this year and not in any serious relationship, I am not making gest of her but her father brought this into her life. By the grace of God I will be settling down with my Oyinbo Canada in July. I don't really know what to advise you but do what you know is best for you and the most important thing seek the face of God in this situation and all will be well with you. Goodluck in making your choice. 6 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by jornie(m): 12:34pm On May 26, 2016 |
F 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:35pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:ikpuuuuu something |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:35pm On May 26, 2016 |
jornie:u mean double-face alert ? 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by ogwucheveekee(f): 12:38pm On May 26, 2016 |
This Is always found amongst the igbo family.they are so tribalist that they wouldn't want to know if the person whom their son is gettin married to is his match.the fail to see the good person in you.even amongst themselves is a battle between an anambra marryin someone from ebonyi or owerri.talkless on a totally different tribe.also they are so much in population and everywr,therefore meetin one is common.igbo people biko ooo teach your culture. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Divyne1: 12:38pm On May 26, 2016 |
It is very sad that tribe is a reason why a lady will throw away 5years of a good relationship. Who says love is not enough in marriage?? if its not enough, then its not love. Few people marry for love this days, and that is why they have that ideology. People marry whites for gawd sake!!! Love is a two way thing, just make sure you and your partner are on the same page. If his family are traditional, then its its a NO! 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:39pm On May 26, 2016 |
[quote author=deflover post=45984060]Yoruba gals wey thier yansh no dey stay for marriage... don't blame his folks . your tribe has been known as adulterers so the fear.[quote] But not all.... 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by smallJagaban: 12:43pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: DON'T MARRY HIM. HE IS NOT THE RIGHT MAN FOR YOU. YOU CAN'T WITHSTAND THE PRESSURE BECAUSE HIS FAMILY MEMBER WILL PILE PRESSURE ON YOU. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR MARRIAGE, LOVE DO END,VARNISH. HE WILL DEFINITELY MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN FROM HIS SIDE. MARRIAGE IS A LONG JOURNEY MY SISTER MOVE ON, DON'T LOOK BACK |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by tomzman: 12:45pm On May 26, 2016 |
IGLE25:Bros, 12 years! Respect! Sorry o but how old was she then, 15 or...? 5 Likes
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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Choplyf(m): 12:47pm On May 26, 2016 |
Telemundo inclined so I perceived........simple & str8, truly love isn't just enough as posited by many guys here, reason beyond the love factor my dear, life is too short to make your life a miserable one, A broken r.ship is better than a miserable and broken marrige, a word is enough for the wise, nuff said. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Odichi(f): 12:50pm On May 26, 2016 |
Wow 5 yrs is a lot. Anyways if d said guy is an Imo ibo there is still hope for u, but if he is Anambra ibo man then ur situation is a hopeless one. cause they don't marry outside their state. Even to marry to other ibo states no easy. Tk 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:51pm On May 26, 2016 |
Felincous: Then go ahead and stop disturbing us here |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:51pm On May 26, 2016 |
I am a fulani babe and my man is a yoruba man,we are engaged,his parents love me and also my parents love him...I think the key here is love,understanding from both parties. 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:52pm On May 26, 2016 |
Odichi: I married outside my state and outside east though Igbo speaking |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:54pm On May 26, 2016 |
smallJagaban: She won't heat that |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by sniper77(m): 12:54pm On May 26, 2016 |
No matter how he loves you if his family members don't like you I will advise you walk away. A failed relationship is better appreciated than a failed marriage. I believe you understand that once you get married to a man you become a part of his family. If they don't see you as a part of their family you got no business forcing yourself on them. Tribalism is the major problem of Nigeria. My sister make hay while the sun shines. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:55pm On May 26, 2016 |
ogwucheveekee: If Igbo are tribalistic then stop allowing them screw u...oh the money they give isn't tribalistic Leave Igbo alone 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 12:56pm On May 26, 2016 |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 12:59pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:kedu maka amu nkita Ur brother?? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 1:00pm On May 26, 2016 |
alanposh: Ichokwa amu nkita ara gi....he is fine |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by jornie(m): 1:01pm On May 26, 2016 |
tooco:Whats double-face? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by nelronaldo(m): 1:01pm On May 26, 2016 |
I don't know how Nigerians think sef! I know someone who isn't in good terms with his first son till date because his first son went against his wishes and married an Igbo lady. OP I know you have dated this guy for five years but truth is if you guys can't convince his parents, it's better you move ahead with your life. Don't ignore the role parents will play in your marriage life.. yes you are getting married to the man and not his parents but you are getting married into the family. It's either you take the man away from his family or his family will frustrate you, is that what you want your marriage to be like... All those talking about being tribalistic, it's part of the society, you are supposed to get married to someone you are compatible with in all ways including culturally. If his parents doesn't want a Yoruba lady, they have their reason, talk to them about it and you should have done that before now so you we know where you stand... God forbid, the marriage faces a serious challenge in the future which I don't pray for, Nairalanders will not be there to help you, you may end up being a second wife or a figure head. Sort this out with your man, your parents and his parents. All parties should agree to the marriage. If you go against their wish, who is even going to pay your bride price? The man's father who doesn't want you for his son? And lastly, don't forget to pray! God will see you through. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 1:01pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:wetin concern amu concern this talk?Brother swerve |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 1:01pm On May 26, 2016 |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 1:03pm On May 26, 2016 |
preciusly: That your friend is reasonable unlike the OP ...when a family doesn't like you to be part of them ..why force yourself on them It's desperation.....can't you see that ..it's has nothing to do with tribalism |
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