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Akposkool:
I have finished school and no job in this country.
Bros my case is different

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Vanquay:
FVCKING HATED being a teenager...Haircuts, Night parties, Dishes frustrated the shit_ outta me...When you have uptight African parents in the West


Couldn't wear Earrings like WTF...Anyways I am a total rebel I guess that's what happens when parents try to control their children and mold them to zombies of their choice...

i had to rebel befor my parent began to respect my decision..iT was not easy mhen..especially the haircut issue.. chai ..christmas period and i cant barb the haircut i want..like WtF!!

Lol...

I have come to realise that Whatever your Parents tell you about life and her experiences is true.

These 9 statements are being said by parents as the occasion demands.

Please its their age, its normal...you advice a teenager older that 18 not to have sex when you did at 16...

U forgot to add: it is not too big for uuuuuu! Don't cut it, don't slim fit it. And the person dat called u, Is a Gurl abi?

I will implore you youths of nowadays to listen to your parents and never be fooled by western culture (if they have one) and negative civilisation. Parents were not born yesterdays. You gain experience with time. Many parents have gone through life in the hardest way. If you intend to learn through your own personal experience, fine, but you might need a life time to be as wise as most elderly ones. Please be cautious and respectful and make use of the wisdom of your parents. A word they say is enough for the wise.

Avoid premarital sex.




Like they did

what could be more painful than a parent telling their 20+ daughter that she is a child that is why she talked that way.

mytime24:
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just like your parents did?

Every teenager feels the way OP is feeling now at one point in their lives. I did too but as i look back now, they (my parents) were the best guide i could ever have. God chose them for a reason, enjoy it. To help you stem that rebellion tendency, picture urself in their shoes, soon u will become a parent, if ur child reacts to you the way you are reacting to your parent, will u call it fun. And dont tell me you will be considerate because you wont. Your knowledge base now will become poison during ur parenting days and if ur teens refuse to do the dishes, will you? Be careful teens, wat u sow, u will definitely reap. And i have read a lot dat karma is a .....

tosyne2much:
Don Lose Your Virginity

This is another statement many teenagers detest. just when some of them have long been fantasising about the day they will defile themselves, advising them to desist from sex irk them a lot

Well, i didn't detest it and i never forgot it. I wore it on my neck all through. They knew better.

Kennedyiheme:
Please its their age, its normal...you advice a teenager older that 18 not to have sex when you did at 16...

Experience they say is the best teacher. If i had sex at 16 and i realized it was a grave mistake, why wont i warn my daughter against it? If as a parent, u dont warn ur children against the mistakes u made in ur growing days, u have failed. Tell them the truth and leave them to make the choice. When they have realized their fault, they will run back to you for support but if u kept the truth from them, they will blame u for their mistakes and of course, u wont be able to forgive urself.

Hmmm, i also felt dis way as a teenager. Now i'm an adult wit a kid and u think i wont warn him abt d mistakes i made durin my teenage age? Dnt worry, u'll get there soon

Ekiti360:
I guess it comes with the territory, but every adult in the world seems to think they have some secret knowledge that will crack the youth. They attribute their expertise on the subject of teenagers to an accumulation of years and experiences.


Apparently, the magic of time has given them a compete and all-knowing understanding of how we should feel, think and behave during all hours of the day. However, all beliefs should be challenged – and I for one enjoy setting grown-ups straight.

Here are 9 things that make teenager like me cringe.

“Listen to your parents; they’re always right.”

Wrong. There is only one Yoda. Everyone else in the universe is bound to be wrong sometimes. I know it might surprise some adults to hear this, but us, teenagers are not always angsty, impulsive and inexperienced. Sometimes we know even better than you do – Give us a chance.

“This should be the best time in your life. Enjoy it.”

So… You’re saying that my life has peaked at 15? Excuse me if I refuse to believe that. I will enjoy all the world has to offer on my own terms, thank you very much. Otherwise I might become a teenage runaway, and you wouldn’t really like that would you?

“Wait till you get to the real world.”

Okay. Hold on, just one second. Are you saying that this is in fact NOT the real world? Hold up. Is this the matrix? Did we somehow transport to Narnia without me knowing?

Sure, I may not be working year-round in an office, but Algebra isn’t exactly a walk in the park. My life is real enough: a package deal that’s all inclusive with drama, responsibility and obligations. Don’t belittle me.

“You’re a teenager. This is just a phase.”

How can you possibly predict the future? Are you some sort of psychic being who sees into the future? If so, why don’t you tell me how to fix this world. I am currently in a process of creating an identity for myself that isn’t defined by the people around me. This phase might just stick. Even if it doesn’t, please just let me experience it without constant judgment.

Hint: The more you hate it, the longer it will last.

“Why don’t you tell me anything anymore?”

There are two possible explanations for our ‘lack of communication’:

Explanation 1: All I’ve done in the last few weeks is school work and watch re-runs of my favorite TV shows. I apologize for not giving you a play-by-play, but there is simply nothing of significance for me to be telling you.

Explanation 2: You’re being nosy and it’s annoying. NO amount of torture will make me spill my secrets.

“I was your age once too, you know.”

Yes, of course you were. There is no denying that you are in fact a human being. I understand the progression of time, but just because you were a teenager once does not mean you can relate to my experiences or how I’m currently feeling. Even if you have gone through similar things (in the past), you have been tainted by the knowledge of adulthood.

Sorry, not sorry.

“I’m your friend.”

Nope. Not gonna happen. Don’t get me wrong, I like you and all… but we are not friends. I think that comes with the whole power dynamic of the family.

If you give me rules, you are not my friend.

If you make me wake up in the morning, you are not my friend.

If you make me wash the dishes, we are DEFINITELY not friends.

Please, stop.

“You don’t know what’s best for you.”

Okay… and who does? You? Please refer to ‘Things Teenagers Don’t Want To Hear’ numbers one through seven. I know what I want. I know who I am. Don’t set limitations on what I should do or who I should be. It’s not yourselves.

“Grow up.”

Look here parents, we are growing up whether we like it or not. We love you (ever so dearly) and absolutely appreciate the unconditional support. Sometimes I think you forget that the mistakes we make are actually the perfect way for us to learn right from wrong. It’s a process, be patient.

http://www.ekitionline.com.ng/9-things-teenagers-dont-want-hear-adults/

A lot is wrong with your points, As a teen worker/teacher, i can see you are coming from a point where you think you are in total control of your life and one can advise you. Remember you don't live long enough to make all the mistakes in life, you learn from other people mistake. You made some great point though especially concerning parents, most parents always want to recreate themselves in their children, or want them to do what they couldn't do.
but truth be told, you will be better of if you learn to listen to good advice from good people. ... I would have loved to do certain things differently if I had taken some of the advise i was given.

Ekiti360:
I guess it comes with the territory, but every adult in the world seems to think they have some secret knowledge that will crack the youth.
Explanation 2: You’re being nosy and it’s annoying. NO amount of torture will make me spill my secrets.

http://www.ekitionline.com.ng/9-things-teenagers-dont-want-hear-adults/

Shey na lincoln burrows you be or alexander mahone.

pinkiberry:
what could be more painful than a parent telling their 20+ daughter that she is a child that is why she talked that way.

Even at 30+, married with a child, my mum still tells me you are still a child. If I reply her by saying at what age, she would say 'sorry o, I no no say na u born me'

mymoneygrows:
Experience they say is the best teacher. If i had sex at 16 and i realized it was a grave mistake, why wont i warn my daughter against it? If as a parent, u dont warn ur children against the mistakes u made in ur growing days, u have failed. Tell them the truth and leave them to make the choice. When they have realized their fault, they will run back to you for support but if u kept the truth from them, they will blame u for their mistakes and of course, u wont be able to forgive urself.

apparently your parents told you the same thing but you didnt listen, your grandparents told your parents the same thing, i am sure they didnt follow up on every warning....if i have a 20 old son and i tell him not to have sex, i am only fooling myself, my own father warned me about have sex, even at my age, but i still did because its normal, my mom told me my dad was promiscious and that she herself clubbed alot......you have to understand there is a age for everything....you cant stop your daughter from having feelings for a boy, its meant to happen,.... all i will tell my child is to be careful and be responsible, if he upto 20, i will tell him to always use a condom, that way he can tell you anything....i will teach him good morals alright but me telling him not to have a gf at age 18 or have sex at 20...thats out of it

feyisan:
I will implore you youths of nowadays to listen to your parents and never be fooled by western culture (if they have one) and negative civilisation. Parents were not born yesterdays. You gain experience with time. Many parents have gone through life in the hardest way. If you intend to learn through your own personal experience, fine, but you might need a life time to be as wise as most elderly ones. Please be cautious and respectful and make use of the wisdom of your parents. A word they say is enough for the wise.

What do you mean by western culture, and what do you also mean by if they have one?

Pls explain before I give my opinion

gloria34:
Hmmm, i also felt dis way as a teenager. Now i'm an adult wit a kid and u think i wont warn him abt d mistakes i made durin my teenage age? Dnt worry, u'll get there soon

the mistake you did, was that as. a teen-ager you did jangulover with using contraceptives, and ended up giving birth to Junior

Phullcurrent:
the mistake you did, was that as. a teen-ager you did jangulover with using contraceptives, and ended up giving birth to Junior

i cant remember telling u dat i gave birth out of wedlock. Get ur facts straight