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Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by morkaz(m): 4:16pm On Jun 20, 2016

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by loveisblind(op): 4:25pm On Jun 20, 2016

dahmie2013:
Op, is ur wife working? Some women d best way 2 manage dem is 2 get dem busy with work, so dey can occupy deir minds with work challenges. Set her up, make her feel like a boss, agree on vision, targets & d likes. Ur story sounds like she's one bored house wife, she needs 2 get busy.

She is working, she own her biz which she always go there everyday....She is not idle at all....even most of these I guessed started from her place of biz

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by loveisblind(op): 4:30pm On Jun 20, 2016

NifemiOlu:
Marriages these days...

It's quite difficult to advise from afar but then the essence of marriage is what people miss.
The OP said he pays bills and does normal things a good man should do, fine. I also want to believe that the sex is good. You have kids. A seemingly perfect marriage. But have you examined the major reason for marriage?
The major reason for marriage is companionship. All other things (sex, kids etc) are value added services. Sadly, people marry for added value services. If companionship is intact, no marriage can fail.
Dear, Loveisblind, examine this aspect. It will assist you going in the right direction.

You can get more insight here: https://nifemiolu..com.ng/2016/02/marriage-other-side-and-order-side.html

Thanks a lot.....I understand the purpose of marriage that was why i made her my best friend whom i discuss all with....I dont keep friends but only my wife......To my understanding, she did not understand what companion is all about, she believe in (My children aree my everything) which I never frown at....Just playing my own part, cos all effort to let her understand what companion is all about, she keep saying....You men are this and that.......You know how women castigate men na...even when the man is 100% faithful to them, they still belief no saint in man.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by loveisblind(op): 4:34pm On Jun 20, 2016

ciwi:
OP, I'm a bit confused. I don't see any where you wrote that you confirmed she is cheating. She only said there's nothing wrong with having a male friend. Is that the basis for your conclusion that she is cheating?

Read thru again.......The man said, IF I HANDLE YOU AGAIN.....

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by sbabimbola(f): 6:34pm On Jun 20, 2016

Kakamorufu:
ahahaha, i dont do married women. Dont smell rats

Then leave them alone biko......

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by kelvincoke(m): 10:01am On Jun 21, 2016

The truth is, ive always have it at the back of my mind that its difficult for any woman to stay faithful even when my wife always try to convince me that she has being faithful. But I never in any way use that to react. Lo & behold, I recently notice a number that calls her every day like u did. I use a number to call anonymously jst to be sure of my insinuation and it turns out to be true. My wife is cheating on me. I got home and i use wisdom to put it to her that she has bin cheating on me which she still deny. I now put up a case that she started an habit snce whn she has a bf. She was denying it at 1st bt slip up when the aguement got heated up that she has bin doin it evn b4 he has a bf. {{{Boom}}} she has drop d boob. "so you truly have bin cheating on me", who is segun? That's how she confess her sin and promise never to go bck to it again.
May be becos ive always knwn that women are cheaters that's y its easy for me to forgive or may b becos I belve they are all the same. If I send her parking what dd I knw that the nxt 1 will do?
My bro. jst find the right time and atmosphere and talk to her. Don't confront her open but be diplomatic about it. please think about your children[/quote]You see,this same woman you have as wife will still do that same thing you let go again reason,she would feel you will forgive her once again.. The thing abt lady is that,they are easily deceived. Try monitor your woman closely nd don't giv room for suspicions,you will find out that she still communicate with that same guy.. Like u said earlier that ladies are prone to cheat,just have it at the back of your mind that she can never b faithful. This is just my own observation like an advice bro..
I wish to make a common sense

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Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by laikas: 10:06am On Jun 21, 2016

loveisblind:
yes...10years but not on cheating level....I just discovered this extramarital stuff some weeks ago

sir, if u've been enduring 4 10yrs u can make it through, marriage is 2 diff pipu comin 2geda to b one buh there are stil diffrncs, so endurances is needed,

there are many ways to be sure she is cheating on u, request if u wnt it.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by kelvincoke(m): 10:15am On Jun 21, 2016

My take abt this issue is,the man can never love the wife like bf.. Even if he sit the woman down to discus abt the poo,she may deny it cos she is keeping the other guy as frd whereas she can't accept it if her husband has a female frd..
There are two things involve in this situation.
1. Have it at the back of your mind that you have make a wrong choice and continue with her cos u can't report the case to neither your parent or hers but first conduct a DNA test on your kids nd never have intercourse without protection.

2. Just get another apartment nd move out of her life completely but take responsibility on your kids if she can not release the kids for you to keep,she can change frm this nd turn a good leave but u really need to show seriousness for her to see her wrong action.. U never can say what her plan might b tomoro (maybe poison you or so)

Just be careful cos ladies are nt loyal dis days.. I just wonder if dis was d way our parent leave their own life abi where do all dis ladies get dis cheat orientation frm... (I guess that's a story for the gods o)

I remain my humble sef worryDo ur... Peace out

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jun 21, 2016

catlova2:
if u go marry olosho come dey complain now. Afterall loveisblind. No offence oooo @op.

Teensway u r just wicked

just saying o

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by BluStreak(m): 5:28pm On Jun 21, 2016

loveisblind:
Thanks a lot.....I understand the purpose of marriage that was why i made her my best friend whom i discuss all with....I dont keep friends but only my wife......To my understanding, she did not understand what companion is all about, she believe in (My children aree my everything) which I never frown at....Just playing my own part, cos all effort to let her understand what companion is all about, she keep saying....You men are this and that.......You know how women castigate men na...even when the man is 100% faithful to them, they still belief no saint in man.

Now here lies the onus. Any woman that dwells in the thoughline that "All men are cheats with no exception" is bound to stray. They can not comprehend why their hubby will be different from other men they know or have known in the past. Such women are easily swayed by sweet talking predators.

Do the much you can to fix her because of your child to avoid another innocent child being added to the list of children from broken homes.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by sweetilicious(f): 6:07pm On Jun 21, 2016

This is why i pray for my brothers not to marry the wrong woman.I pray wrong people never come closer to my family, Amen.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by loveisblind(op): 4:05pm On Jun 22, 2016

questted:
I believe u know wat to do already as u r just looking for people to validate your point of action.
One thing dat got me thinking is how come u didn't continue the conversation on the chat with the guy so u can get all d necessary proof and den confront your wife with the facts dat u have gotten.
Something also tells me u saw cheating tendencies before u got married as u said u discussed it with her before u got married and from her response dat if she does u would never know is a lot to rethink.
Don't mind me because I know right now u r in pains. Take out time to think properly as I believe u know where the pain is as u r d one dat wears d shoe for me if I get my wife cheating den it just shows its over between us as dat very day she moves to her lovers place.

I cant withstand the whole stuff at that moment cos with the little i got I feel like killing someone, but have to applied wisdom cos have not heard from her......Right from day one, I never see her in such act not untill now.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by gallery0519(f): 7:51am On Jun 24, 2016

Just do what your heart tells you to do(dnt hurt her o) but then I can't deal with cheating.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by bobojoshua(m): 8:20am On Jun 24, 2016

Wizzyblack3:
This would sound stupid and funny but i think it might be of help.. The best way to treat a Cheating Wife is to always take her to Hotel whenever you want to make love with her. Try every sex positions with her and make sure you give it to her more than she ask for. Just make it look like you're the man she's cheating with. I can assure you, she would be the first to sit you down and ask why you're doing all that.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by loveisblind(op): 2:51pm On Jun 25, 2016

I am using this medium to appreciate all that have commented on this post so far. I will like to inform the house that we have resolved the matter amicable without any harm to anyone including the kids.....I applied some of the techniques learned from your comment.....In fact it took some days before we arrived at conclusion, she stood her ground that the guy in question is just a friend bla bla bla.....I accepted on the ground that I dont want such friendship to exist, to my greatest surprise, the guy, his Pastor and his wife came last night to my house to tell me what really transpired, i asked the guy how on earth would you use such a language if nothing in between? He said his wife was the one responding to my chat at that time, that he was fast asleep then, that he came in late from long journey so tired, he shew me ticket of the luxurious bus he entered.....The wife also confirmed it that she wanted to know if my wife is her husband girl friend.....I was speechless anyway.......His Pastor also said a lot that the guy is not the type bla bla bla.....That the matter is causing issue between the couples too that was why he (The Pastor) has to come down with them to settle both parties.....

Am grateful to good people of NL. One love.

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by bishopobums9(m): 6:47pm On May 28, 2020

Pray for her... You know God,hates divorce! just, stay clear from her For Now.. dont forget,keep praying for her...
The holy spirit will reveal something to you. ..

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 8:47pm On May 28, 2020

Try to take a chill pill
Try to have a heart to heart discussion with her, keep advising her daily and always try and give her ATTENTION,..Most females love that than any other thing

Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by Nobody: 10:10pm On May 28, 2020

loveisblind:
Thanks a lot.....I understand the purpose of marriage that was why i made her my best friend whom i discuss all with....I dont keep friends but only my wife......To my understanding, she did not understand what companion is all about, she believe in (My children aree my everything) which I never frown at....Just playing my own part, cos all effort to let her understand what companion is all about, she keep saying....You men are this and that.......You know how women castigate men na...even when the man is 100% faithful to them, they still belief no saint in man.

This just reads so wrong, desperate and insecure to me, but what do I know! lipsrsealed

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Re: What Can You Do When You Notice Your Wife Is Cheating? by milliondollas(m): 12:17am On May 29, 2020

YOU MUST BE A USELESS PERSON TO LIVE AN ADULTEROUS WOMAN IN YOUR HOUSE, SEND THE USELESS WOMAN AND HER SISTER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE THEIR ARE SEEN YOU AS FOOL

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