SUITORS NOW PREFER OUR MAIDS TO OUR DAUGHTERS FOR MARRIAGE

Why not?

When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.

We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.

The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to. All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.

Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids' things.

The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.

From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.

The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained. The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help. Not all guys can afford this for a start.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents' inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones. They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

My friends love eating the food my wife makes. My wife's proficiency in culinary matters and the joy she exudes in cooking different dishes for me has made me to stop eating outside. I tell people that as a titled man, that I'm forbidden to eat outside but I know the truth- no food can taste any better than my wife's. I'm also convinced that my addiction is not juju-inspired. It would have expired by now. We are married for 16 years+.

Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long time happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let your daughters learn what you teach your maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them. There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don't be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love. Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness.

In practice, love can't cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.

Mothers please take note.

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Pls let us all stop this nonsense abt ladies not being able to get married and focus on the brothers not being responsible enough to become a family man..


Some would be fathers-in-law aren't even helping matters. Their daughter likes a man who isn't well to do, instead the lady's father to assist him in gettn a well paid job, just because d dad comes from a very wealthy family, he only wishes for some ready made billionaire to marry his daughter..

Some mothers also aren't helping matters.


U want a society wedding for u daughter, u are driving away her suitors just because you want ur friends to know dat ur daughter is going to wedd onye Nku (big man).. .. what is a just a wedding ceremony compared to a life time marriage? A lot of institutions are sacrificing monies to organise mass wedding for couples, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Dan wasting a whole lot of money to please people who will still grumble after the wedding ceremony because they didn't get souvenir (but they ate sha sha ooo)


Human beings are insatiable, no matter how "swagged up" or "economical" the wedding ceremony is, people will always complain..


So why kill oneself?

donbenedict:
Pls let us all stop this nonsense abt ladies not being able to get married and focus on the brothers not being responsible enough to become a family man..


Some would be fathers-in-law aren't even helping matters. Their daughter likes a man who isn't well to do, instead the lady's father to assist him in gettn a well paid job, just because d dad comes from a very wealthy family, he only wishes for some ready made billionaire to marry his daughter..

Some mothers also aren't helping matters.


U want a society wedding for u daughter, u are driving away her suitors just because you want ur friends to know dat ur daughter is going to wedd onye Nku (big man).. .. what is a just a wedding ceremony compared to a life time marriage? A lot of institutions are sacrificing monies to organise mass wedding for couples, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Dan wasting a whole lot of money to please people who will still grumble after the wedding ceremony because they didn't get souvenir (but they ate sha sha ooo)


Human beings are insatiable, no matter how "swagged up" or "economical" the wedding ceremony is, people will always complain..


So why kill oneself?

It seems you didn't see the sense in what was written there, if you don't I see it, alot of ladies now only know how to prepare indomie and tea nothing else, and the expect a sane man to endure it all his life Mbanu Ajum.

Ok

donbenedict:
Pls let us all stop this nonsense abt ladies not being able to get married and focus on the brothers not being responsible enough to become a family man..


Some would be fathers-in-law aren't even helping matters. Their daughter likes a man who isn't well to do, instead the lady's father to assist him in gettn a well paid job, just because d dad comes from a very wealthy family, he only wishes for some ready made billionaire to marry his daughter..

Some mothers also aren't helping matters.


U want a society wedding for u daughter, u are driving away her suitors just because you want ur friends to know dat ur daughter is going to wedd onye Nku (big man).. .. what is a just a wedding ceremony compared to a life time marriage? A lot of institutions are sacrificing monies to organise mass wedding for couples, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Dan wasting a whole lot of money to please people who will still grumble after the wedding ceremony because they didn't get souvenir (but they ate sha sha ooo)


Human beings are insatiable, no matter how "swagged up" or "economical" the wedding ceremony is, people will always complain..


So why kill oneself?

Please always read and understand a post first before you respond. Thanks

If the maids are getting most of the suitors, who are those marrying the polished, pampered chics in droves every Saturday?

On a more serious note, this article is outdated, it was in the days of our fathers that men were more interested in hooking up homely women with so-called 'wifely' qualities. Now they are more interested in polished, presentable women that they can flaunt. You can't eat your cake and have it.

Be honest and ask yourself how many middleclass and upwardly mobile men do you know that are married to the so called maids or former maids? Very very few.

InformedLola:
If the maids are getting most of the suitors, who are those marrying the polished, pampered chics in droves every Saturday?

On a more serious note, this article is outdated, it was in the days of our fathers that men were more interested in hooking up homely women with so-called 'wifely' qualities. Now they are more interested in polished, presentable women that they can flaunt. You can't eat your cake and have it.

Be honest and ask yourself how many middleclass and upwardly mobile men do you know that are married to the so called maids or former maids? Very very few.

Lola you are wrong on all front
Article is spot on.

InformedLola:
If the maids are getting most of the suitors, who are those marrying the polished, pampered chics in droves every Saturday?

On a more serious note, this article is outdated, it was in the days of our fathers that men were more interested in hooking up homely women with so-called 'wifely' qualities. Now they are more interested in polished, presentable women that they can flaunt. You can't eat your

cake and have it.

Be honest and ask yourself how many middleclass and upwardly mobile men do you know that are married to the so called maids or former maids? Very
very few.

You sound like one of the so called sophisticated ladies wey dey do sakara, I pity artificial ladies like you, op is right in all perspectives, your opinion is outdated, men are wiser now

I'm sick and tired of this kinda threads.

is it just the ladies that re pampered? what about the male children?

is pleasing a man the reason for female creation?

what stops the man from learning how to cook and take care of himself? is he a superhuman?

children, irrespective of their sex ought to take care of their selves.

men should get married to who ever they deem fit and stop lamenting abt the ones they can't get married too.

This sounds like a Nollywood script.

Let's assume it is the maids of yester years that are married today, isn't it strange that the same maid is looking for another maid to do the chores?

Abi ex-maids don't get maids when they marry?

This is infact a Nollywood script; just that it was maltreated step-child and not maid

bukatyne:
This sounds like a Nollywood script.

Let's assume it is the maids of yester years that are married today, isn't it strange that the same maid is looking for another maid to do the chores?

Abi ex-maids don't get maids when they marry?

This is infact a Nollywood script; just that it was maltreated step-child and not maid

abi o.

being a maid or house help is now a profession like nurses or doctors who renders help to patients.

Guys are in support, Ladies are against.
But for the ladies, whether is a story of our fathers, please read what bible said about the duties of both men & women in the family. The should be our guidance.

The sane man can also learn how to cook. His hand won't break if he does.

hopeforcharles:

It seems you didn't see the sense in what was written there, if you don't I see it, alot of ladies now only know how to prepare indomie and tea nothing else, and the expect a sane man to endure it all his life Mbanu Ajum.

cococandy:
The sane man can also learn how to cook. His hand won't break if he does.

You see where u lots of feminism gets it all wrong, every gender has their role to play in a family, it's a error for a man to leave his major role to start playing secondary roles in the home.
He should hunt the food while the woman prepares it.

Its nobodys business if they decide to marry a maid.

There are more pressing issues to be discussed abt our country,that y we no go gree move forward,when all we discuss is marriage.

Marry any morafuka u wanna marry,we dont care.

Your opinion.

hopeforcharles:

You see where u lots of feminism gets it all wrong, every gender has their role to play in a family, it's a error for a man to leave his major role to start playing secondary roles in the home.
He should hunt the food while the woman prepares it.

hopeforcharles:

You see where u lots of feminism gets it all wrong, every gender has their role to play in a family, it's a error for a man to leave his major role to start playing secondary roles in the home.
He should hunt the food while the woman prepares it.

what if the woman hunts for the food? or rather they both hunt for the food.

cococandy:
Your opinion.

My opinion the unweavering truth. Lol,
U Better stop that habit and treat your husband well, I have told u,
Better stop that I am not spoilt issh, my husband loves me,
No be love him go chop when he is back from work

mizquote:



what if the woman hunts for the food? or rather they both hunt for the food.

Then they should humbly play their roles, head of the family, help mate

hopeforcharles:

Then they should humbly play their roles, head of the family, help mate

hahahahaha hahahahaha.

wah ya saying?

mizquote:



hahahahaha hahahahaha.

wah ya saying?

It's means despite the fact that they may contribute to feed the family or Cather for the needs, they still have roles which each must do, I remember one woman the riches in Nigeria cooks for her husband

mizquote:


hahahahaha hahahahaha.
wah ya saying?

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hopeforcharles:

It's means despite the fact that they may contribute to feed the family or Cather for the needs, they still have roles which each must do, I remember one woman the riches in Nigeria cooks for her husband

lolzz.

you said initially that the man's sole responsibility was to hunt and the woman's responsibility to cook.

and I asked, what if the woman does the hunting, it will be only reasonable and sane for the man to do the 'supposed' responsibilities of the woman.

so wah the whole brouhaha abt?

mizquote:


lolzz.

you said initially that the man's sole responsibility was to hunt and the woman's responsibility to cook.

and I asked, what if the woman does the hunting, it will be only reasonable and sane for the man to do the 'supposed' responsibilities of the woman.

so wah the whole brouhaha abt?

No he shouldnt. If not that urbanisation and civilisation is trying hard to scuttle the Original plan i and u wont even had started this discussion. When a woman cathers for the family or plays the role of the father she is always overwhelmed, angry, complaining and throwing tantrums and complains because its not her job.

Are maids not people's daughters? Or did they just fall from the sky?

OP,

So what do you want us to do now? Should we leave our schools/jobs and go find maid job because we want to marry?

all these boys yarning dust should keep quiet biko.

I can wager my next allowance that if they bring a plain Jane and a sophisticated lady and ask them to choose, they will waste no time in choosing the sophisticated one, afterall, who wants a plain jane?

then she jilts the man who wastes no time in lumping both the sophisticated amber and the plain jane as one when they say all girls are this and that.

until I see a guy who looks beyond physical attributes and marries that plain jane, this article is rubbish.

even when she is the best cook and domesticated and sophisticated and what not, no be una go talk say variety is the spice of life and you cannot to eat vegetable soup all the time, sometimes you want to try egusi soup.

let me hear word biko.

food for thought: who are those who like the very beautiful and sophisticated pictures we all see on instagram, as well as taking a step to send a DM?

Since, I got to know the meaning of Side-Chick, Please I am now more interested in SIDE-CHICKS even more.

They assist a lot.

eyinjuege:
Are maids not people's daughters? Or did they just fall from the sky?

Don't mind them..
Don't maids have BREASTS..?
Don't maids have wombs for procreation. .?
Don't maids look beautiful. ?
Don't maids have future again..?

Maids are always indirectly being prepared for MARRIAGES , while madam's daughters prefer the Side-Chick title.

eyinjuege:
Are maids not people's daughters? Or did they just fall from the sky?

Don't mind them..
Are maids meant to remain Useless but Useful to Aunty
Are maids meant to Chase their suitors away.?
Are maids meant to direct their suitors to Aunty's daughters..?

Maids are always indirectly being prepared for MARRIAGES , while madam's daughters prefer the Side-Chick title.

I have not stopped laughing since I read this.
truth is one man's food is another man's poison. some men wouldn't look towards the maids twice unless they polish her... some men wouldn't look at the so called sophisticated chick unless she comes to their level of expectations of a wife material.
but class shouldn't be an issue in marriage....it's about what keeps you happy.