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I am an inquisitive somebody when it comes to relationships. The relationship between man and woman(I have to spell that out in full). For the next couple of months, I will be writing about my views, opinions, objectives and the regular questions on my mind about relationship. Big thanks to Deedeesblog.

I have a lot on my mind actually when it comes to relationship and I will share some with you on this journey. At first I had trouble picking the first topic to write about but this topic is the most confusing one I have.

So, I have this friend of mine named TAYO. Tayo was just a casual friend until recently. I really can’t say how we left the niche of just been casual friends to close knitted friends but everything changed within the past few months. From the late night chats to the early morning sweet calls. We looked forward to sharing moments.

Everything was looking sweet and perfect. Tayo was an interesting person, we both enjoy each other’s company (at least so he said so too). I can’t deny the fact that I know he truly cares about me.

But after a while, I discovered that I was feeling the extra for him,wanting more from our friendship, don’t blame me, I really like him. Tayo got a wind of my feelings (we all can tell when someone is feeling the extra for us except if you are emotionally blind. Receive sight!) and then he changed.

He reduced the number of calls and our messages went down the drain. I confronted him and he said ” errrm, he is not ready for a relationship” then I asked him” Biko,why were you acting like you were ready for one? What do you think you are doing by going the extra mile with me? Why get that close without defining anything”? Why tickle my emotions until they came flooding in?”. “Why get ideas into my head, going all mushy on me?” Talking about our first kiss and going all romantic om me? Really,don’t tell me that was “just” friendship (that’s pre-relationship) LOL.

I went on and on and after which we discussed extensively. Summarily, dear TAYO wants almost all the benefit of a relationship and yet doesn’t want to commit.

It brought out the inquisitiveness in me and went on a research as to why “some” guys are guilty of this with the help of some of my male friends. I will just list few, please feel free to add yours and enlighten me.

1: Some guys can’t actually deal with the emotional catastrophe associated with maybe heartbreaks and too much loving, so they prefer to just be on the friends with benefit angle(like seriously?)

2: There is also the popular saying “We are wired differently”. Some guys prefer to stay without emotions and just have their fun with no strings. We call them the ‘Fun Guys’. They just want to keep having fun regardless of their age and all. Issokay!

4: Some of the guys want to keep adding the numbers of ‘knacked’ babes to their CV. You know for some people, sleeping with as much girls as possible is a feat that deserved to be celebrated, so instead of being in an emotional tied relationship, they prefer frolicking around. God is watching you!

And after all these answers though, I’m more than clueless and confused. Is God not love? Why run away from it? Why prefer to stay uncommitted? You are expected to be emotionally stronger, why the emotional weakness?

Tayo is not just the guilty one here,same with Deji, Tola, Mayowa, Biodun, Chuks, Ibrahim and YOU, yes YOU!

So guys, Biko always define your relationships, if you know at the end your default ringtone will be “baby, I like you but I’m not just ready for a relationship”. Hian!!!!

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commitment for this buharism!!!,don't play wit fire ooo economy is nt smilling.

Cuz the economy ain't smiling.

The Fish and Chicken i cooked last night isn't enough for me how much more for two of us.

Folanky:
commitment for this buharism!!!,don't play wit fire ooo economy is nt smilling.

LOL.....Funny

PushPlay:
Cuz the economy ain't smiling.

The Fish and Chicken i cooked last night isn't enough for me how much more for two of us.

Why give her all the signs that you are serious and ready, when you know you can barely feed yourself...LOL

guess am wired differently

hmmmm

Hu commitment dn epp?

Your life span starts reducing the moment you enter a relationship

bentlywills:
Hu commitment dn epp?

Your life span starts reducing the moment you enter a relationship

100% correct. My last babe wan kill me with nagging naso i run abeg. Imagine i had a stressful day at work. From 8am-9pm as we wan meet deadline o. Had lunch nd diner at my desk. I con dey traffic by 10.30. Naso she call dey para i haven't called her today bla bla bla she wants to sleep and need to hear my voice (u be baby ni) . U wey i even chat up for phone small explain as he dey go o. Mtcheeeew. Make i dey enjoy dey go till i wan marry abeg

ednut1:
100% correct. My last babe wan kill me with nagging naso i run abeg. Imagine i had a stressful day at work. From 8am-9pm as we wan meet deadline o. Had lunch nd diner at my desk. I con dey traffic by 10.30. Naso she call dey para i haven't called her today bla bla bla she wants to sleep and need to hear my voice (u be baby ni) . U wey i even chat up for phone small explain as he dey go o. Mtcheeeew. Make i dey enjoy dey go till i wan marry abeg

LOLZZZZ

ednut1:
100% correct. My last babe wan kill me with nagging naso i run abeg. Imagine i had a stressful day at work. From 8am-9pm as we wan meet deadline o. Had lunch nd diner at my desk. I con dey traffic by 10.30. Naso she call dey para i haven't called her today bla bla bla she wants to sleep and need to hear my voice (u be baby ni) . U wey i even chat up for phone small explain as he dey go o. Mtcheeeew. Make i dey enjoy dey go till i wan marry abeg

Till when you are ready to marry?....won't there be any sort of commitment on your part before you do that? Or you will just see a babe today and marry her tomorrow?

My brother, commitment go soon epp you....

bentlywills:
Hu commitment dn epp?

Your life span starts reducing the moment you enter a relationship

So you ain't gonn marry or be in a relationship?.....

deturla:
Till when you are ready to marry?....won't there be any sort of commitment on your part before you do that? Or you will just see a babe today and marry her tomorrow?

My brother, commitment go soon epp you....

like e epp u

deturla:
So you ain't gonn marry or be in a relationship?.....

Is all d same thing even when u get married but at least u take solace from the kids u have cos the gon carry ur name and make u feel happy and proud even when u re gone.


[b]So dear friend if you are in a relationship or about to go into one my advice to u is, u should prepare for the worst but still expect the best. [/b]Thank you

deturla:
Why give her all the signs that you are serious and ready, when you know you can barely feed yourself...LOL

Who is the her?

PushPlay:
Who is the her?

'Her' is someone like you nah....winks

How are you today?

who will intentionally wants 2b imprisoned??

deturla:
'Her' is someone like you nah....winks

How are you today?

Can't be better.
I have that special someone i care deeply about tho', regardless of other external factors.

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DJHANDSOME:
Men don't want to be forced into commitments..



We should be allowed to choose who we want to be commitment to, , and women don't want this

How do you know women don't want this? Bottom line is, if you don't want her, stop leading her on. If you don't want a relationship with her, then stop hitting on her, making her feel like you wanna love...

WHEN YOU DONT HAVE MONEY AND YOUR WOULD -BE WIFE DOES NOT HAVE A STABLE JOB AND ECONOMIC PROBLEM IS THERE.GUYS ALSO STILL WANT TO ENJOY GIRLS SMALL NOW! YOU KNOW WHAT AM SAYING

Yksoul:
WHEN YOU DONT HAVE MONEY AND YOUR WOULD -BE WIFE DOES NOT HAVE A STABLE
JOB AND ECONOMIC PROBLEM IS THERE.GUYS ALSO STILL WANT TO ENJOY GIRLS SMALL NOW! YOU KNOW WHAT AM SAYING

No Sir, I don't know.....