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Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Vavana(op): 5:35pm On Aug 09, 2016
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 5:45pm On Aug 09, 2016
The problem is the guys you date.

They probably don't make you feel safe or loved.
That is why you don't give in to their request for sex.

How do you know a guy meant well for you? — Well you don't. You just take it by chance and see where it leads.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by christaddicted: 5:47pm On Aug 09, 2016
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Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 5:48pm On Aug 09, 2016
Lets date then am single ntn much yet. What do u think ?
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Oahray: 5:50pm On Aug 09, 2016
VolTOxic:
The problem is the guys you date.

They probably don't make you feel safe or loved.
That is why you don't give in to their request for sex.

How do you know a guy meant well for you? — Well you don't. You just take it by chance and see where it leads.
seriously? So a girl has to sleep with every guy that makes her feel safe and loved? Na wa.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 5:53pm On Aug 09, 2016
Oahray:
seriously? So a girl has to sleep with every guy that makes her feel safe and loved? Na wa.
No. I didn't say that.
But hey some slept for ‘recharge card’ or less.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by LecciGucci: 5:53pm On Aug 09, 2016
i have a lecture for u corncerning this issue but u have to come to my house.. NO G-STRING ATTACHED
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by vicstar(m): 5:55pm On Aug 09, 2016
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love.
• • • • • Uhhm why don't you try being a nun undecided I heard the catholics are looking for sisters cry
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 5:59pm On Aug 09, 2016
Premarital sex is overrated jor..
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Oahray: 6:03pm On Aug 09, 2016
VolTOxic:
No. I didn't say that.
But hey some slept for ‘recharge card’ or less.
Alright. Your second paragraph didn't come out the way you intended then. Sounds like the moment she finds that kind of guy, she'd definitely give in and sleep with him.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Longman6(m): 6:07pm On Aug 09, 2016
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
My dear you have no problem, it's your conscience at work, and you are still innocent at least to some extent, girl don't go and fall for one boy's skills, if you don't feel like don't do it,and be careful of the funny things on nairaland while some advice are good, most are usually given by over eager teenagers, Sex is not love,you should ask girls that got dumped after having serial sex with their boyfriend in the name of love.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by donbenedict(m): 6:10pm On Aug 09, 2016
You don't have to let all these things bother you vavana... for Christ sake it's ur body, u do wateva u Wana do with it. Since you mentioned you don't have flare for sex and people make friends with you just to have sex with you, then it's a good thing cuz u now know their intentions at the onset.



How much more drastic will it be, dat u find a guy Dats trustworthy, to the extent u submit all your trust to him and he ends up tryn to _rape u in the long run? Think....


They say sex is overrated, they also say virginity is overrated. What do u say?


Keep to ur answer and hold on to it.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 6:11pm On Aug 09, 2016
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
I don't believe you.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by goodmorning40: 6:11pm On Aug 09, 2016
Nothing is wrong with u in fact u have good moral values and self worth the problem is that u have not come across ur click to ignite that spark. Also don't walk away immediately sex advances come but don't give in as well just stylishly suspend the guy to find out if he is right
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Vavana(op): 6:19pm On Aug 09, 2016
Love Machine:
I don't believe you.
My dear am currently 3yrs without SEX. How about that.

I want to know if am normal as a woman. Sex don't move me. Am having serious issue with a guy friend just because am not sex driven.

Talk to me

Thanks
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 6:22pm On Aug 09, 2016
You are right. Sex is not love
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Young03(m): 6:24pm On Aug 09, 2016
Observations:.. ur just trying to be noticed

experiment:..ur either a lesbian. or possessed

conclusion: From the look on ur face, ur above 35, keep playing hard to get till u reach menopause

Advice:.. go and marry n stop posting rubbish
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Vavana(op): 6:25pm On Aug 09, 2016
donbenedict:
You don't have to let all these things bother you vavana... for Christ sake it's ur body, u do wateva u Wana do with it. Since you mentioned you don't have flare for sex and people make friends with you just to have sex with you, then it's a good thing cuz u now know their intentions at the onset.



How much more drastic will it be, dat u find a guy Dats trustworthy, to the extent u submit all your trust to him and he ends up tryn to _rape u in the long run? Think....


They say sex is overrated, they also say virginity is overrated. What do u say?


Keep to ur answer and hold on to it.
Thanks. I was scared maybe is a hormone issue.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Vavana(op): 6:27pm On Aug 09, 2016
Young03:
Observations:.. ur just trying to be noticed


experiment:..ur either a lesbian. or possessed


conclusion: From the look on ur face, ur above 35,
keep playing hard to get till u reach menopause


Advice:.. go and marry n stop posting rubbish
Thanks. That's your opinion.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by donbenedict(m): 6:29pm On Aug 09, 2016
Vavana:
Thanks. I was scared maybe is a hormone issue.
just don't do it cuz u being forced to, just do it cuz u Wana eventually do it.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Qualer: 8:23pm On Aug 09, 2016
Adaure4ever:
Premarital sex is overrated jor..

Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Qualer: 8:24pm On Aug 09, 2016
Vavana:
My dear am currently 3yrs without SEX. How about that.

I want to know if am normal as a woman. Sex don't move me. Am having serious issue with a guy friend just because am not sex driven.

Talk to me

Thanks
i like your resolve to be celibate in the meantime... wish you were my babe! grin grin
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by numericalguy(m): 8:07am On Aug 10, 2016
I clicked on your profile expecting to the see the picture of a young and innocent lady only to be shocked at what I saw. My dear, you don old jare. Go and marry and stop disturbing people with senseless posts. You are not even a virgin and you don't look like someone who is Innocent or naive.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by DeLioncourt: 8:23am On Aug 10, 2016
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
nothing is wrong with you. you will make a good nun thats all. some people are called for greater things smiley
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by IamLEGEND1: 8:59am On Aug 10, 2016
it makes me uncomfortable seeing someone old enough to be my mother posting rubbish online.

You no wan bleep guy,ehe & so what? how e take concern us..... abi make we give you medal?
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 10:26am On Aug 10, 2016
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
hello beauty, one sincere question, were u circumcised? Cos it do make women lose interest in sex
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by K9blunt(f): 10:55am On Aug 10, 2016
I don't think there's anything. Wrong with you or your hormones..... I am going through the same thing as you.


I think what you need is someone that gets you, that you feel connected to, that whenever you're with him you're comfortable and even audacious!

A gentle man, that is romantic...... It seems like a fantasy but this man actually exist.... It's just patience and self love that will make him locate you.


If you're an indoors person like me... Try once in a while to get out and socialize, with friends as well but not all the time.


Take care.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by K9blunt(f): 11:00am On Aug 10, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
it makes me uncomfortable seeing someone old enough to be my mother posting rubbish online.

You no wan bleep guy,ehe & so what? how e take concern us..... abi make we give you medal?
If only you know what many people go through emotionally, you would be more cautious bashing some that comes out to share part of what depresses them.


This is part of the reason why many commit suicide.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody:
Vavana:
Dear house,
I need mature advise on what could be my problem.

I don't play hard to get but indirectly am looking it.

I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.

How do I kown a guy meant well for me. Things I see this days about (men n women) baffles me.

Cheers
[color=#00cccc]You can't know but you can withhold sex until you come 2 know him more.
..........
To watch and see if he has your well being in mind.
check if what you and he want in a relationship align by asking him questions
.........
Ex . What type of relationship are you looking for?
Short term, long term? casual or serious ?
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Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by abbeyology88(m): 11:35am On Aug 10, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#00cccc]You can't know but you can withhold sex until you come 2 know him more.
..........
To watch and see if he has your well being in mind.
check if what you and he want in a relationship align by asking him questions
.........
Ex . What type of relationship are you looking for?
Short term, long term? casual or serious ?[/color]
Special adviser grin grin



*nice one anyway*
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by IamLEGEND1: 11:37am On Aug 10, 2016
K9blunt:
If only you know what many people go through emotionally, you would be more cautious bashing some that comes out to share part of what depresses them.

This is part of the reason why many commit suicide.

If it was hormonal imbalance like she said,then why not see a real doctor/gynecologist instead of wasting our time & data here.
+ If this is reason enough for anyone to even contemplate suicide,then that person isn't fit to live.
Or she becomes a nun,not everyone is born to fück his way through life.
Re: Is Anything Wrong With Me? Because I Don't Have Flare For SEX by Nobody: 11:42am On Aug 10, 2016
IamLEGEND1:

If it was hormonal imbalance like she said,then why not see a real doctor/gynecologist instead of wasting our time & data here.
+ If this is reason enough for anyone to even contemplate suicide,then that person isn't fit to live.
Or she becomes a nun,not everyone is born to fück his way through life.
[color=#2ecc71]I know yer reasonable, I've seen you around.
.....
She doesn't have a interest in sec because she's not sure if the men she's seeing loves/Cates about her.
Sex 2 her is something you share with 1 you love.
See below for evidence.
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Vavana:
I feel sex is not love. I walk away whenever a guy makes sexual request.
How do I kown a guy meant well for me.
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