RoyalBlak007:



polygamy....very much not my thing

heard brutal incidents about them....yo concur with the o.p?

Toks2008:
Lalasti clala

Granny it's past ten already



remember tomorrow is your doctor's appointment
How is the rheumatism,hope your last wife is not complaining about your non performance in bed

misspicy:

Granny it's past ten already



remember tomorrow is your doctor's appointment
How is the rheumatism,hope your last wife is not complaining about your non performance in bed

misspicy:

Nah!!!


can't add to the problems the world already has

Toks2008:


Wait until i catch you.

Richiy:
Toks2008,

I just have one question for you

Where you raised in a polygamous family?

The same way you took your time to research how polygamy will make life better for men and women, also research about how life is in a polygamous home.

And to wrap it up, take your time and read this somewhat realistic Nigerian novel "The secret lives of Baba Segi's wives"

PayBoyXclusives:


Well don't know about op.. but i was raised in a polygamous family,we had family issues sometimes but i believe every family does. WE ALL DISAGREE TO AGREE.. it gave me strength and the spirit of a hustler and now am suffering from too much success..

ButteredBiscuit:
that's cute..... and slightly disturbing.

lol

Toks2008:
Lalasticlala

skarlett:


Out of all the tons of educative topics on nairaland, toks2008 trash still makes fp because of you, sometimes I wonder if you take your time to read through it

Toks2008:
Disclaimer: Polygamy is not for everyone considering the stress and complexity not forgetting the economy tipsy turvy.This article is aimed at beaming an eagle's eyes on polygamy at large and not intended to advice anyone to adopt it neither does it represent the lifestyle of the writer.

I implore every reader of this article to analyze each point objectively without any form of bias so that we can have a no holds Barr approach to this age long phenomenon which has caused many marital anomalies all around the world...So lets take a candid look at 12 reasons why polygamy should be embraced by the world at large. please read on...

1. Polygamy is the answer to the prayers of a sect of single ladies.
Do you know that there are some set of ladies who have a better chance with married men?

The widowed who is in her late 30s or 40s with children,the divorced woman who is in her late 30s with children and the never married lady in her late 30s or 40s. While some ladies in this categories are fortunate to marry a fresh guy polygamy seem to be a better choice for most of the ladies rather than single never married guys. The fact is that even you reading this who believes that your marriage is very ok might just fall into the first 2 categories tomorrow..this is not a curse but a fact of life and until then,this point may not make sense to you...Pray you don't experience it.

2.Most women don't mind polygamy in disguised form.
Have you ever wondered why many ladies prefer their husbands to keep mistresses but frown against same marrying another wife? yes i have asked many ladies that given only two options which would they prefer and they gladly chose the former and i begin to ask myself what difference does it make? Some ladies will tell you to keep your wife while they enjoy the benefits of being a mistress to you and i tend to ask who is fooling who?

3.Embracing polygamy will reduce unhappiness in marriages.
This is one truth many of us can't shy away from. There are some marriages where the lady can't keep up with sexual demands from the man and infact some women tend to fail woefully in many other areas like cooking and so on and if the man continues to pester her,it usually leads to serious problems in the marriage but if polygamy is embraced i guess the man will have an option while allowing the lady to be in peace without the need to divorce her.

4.Embracing polygamy will encourage financial independence in ladies.
This point needs to be understood especially in this part of the world.

Do you know that most ladies do not mind if a rich hubby marries another woman? As long as he is doing his duty and she is still getting the goodies she may find it hard to leave the marriage but this is not the case for a struggling guy who will likely be reminded that she is only patching up with him.

If Polygamy is embraced by all, every lady will understand that her hubby no matter how poor he may be, might see another financially stable lady who does not need the man's money but only wants a man in her life and this will make every lady sit tight and become financially independent to avoid being a liability to the man...because MEN HATE LIABILITIES.

5.Women are the main advocates of polygamy.
Can a man commit adultery with himself without the corroboration of a lady? In-fact many single ladies have eyes only for married men and i kept wondering why these same ladies will clamor for monogamy when the same ladies will gladly date a married man and even desire to be his Mrs....So why the hypocrisy of monogamy when it has become a norm for single ladies to snatch or share a married man.

6.Polygamy will reduce the number of unmarried ladies.
I don't need to explain this much. It is no longer news that many ladies in their ripe ages are still single and searching but unfortunately the young men who should marry them are either still struggling or confused about what they want yet there are many married men matured enough to adequately marry two or more wives. If Polygamy is embraced, many single ladies will find succor in the hands of some responsible married men who are capable enough to meet the emotional and maybe the financial needs of two or more ladies.

7.Polygamy will bring about more responsive and responsible young unmarried men.
Many young guys at marriageable ages are just too nonchalant to settle down with a lady and most of them will use the economy as an excuse but if Polygamy is embraced by us,the beautiful young ladies will being taken as wives by already married men thereby forcing the single guys so brace up and get their ass right.

8.Embracing polygamy will reduce wife battering and mortality.
Believe it or not, for every 10 cases of a wife getting beaten or killed by her hubby,you can be certain that 8 can be linked to adultery. The question is;why should a lady go through pains because she found out that her hubby is having an extra marital affair? is her life not more important than that? I believe if polygamy is accepted all over the world, no woman will bother her head about a man being faithful to her which will ultimately bring about serenity into the life of the woman....This may sound ridiculous but think about it.

9.Embracing polygamy will reduce the incidence of lesbianism and zoophilism.
Ask any lesbian or zoophile you see why she is one and you can be sure to hear her tell you about a failed marriage or a failed relationship as a result of a cheating hubby or fiance. Most lesbians are in the act due to heart breaks from men but if every lady has it in their mind that polygamy is a norm, they will be ready to be in any affair with the mindset that the man may likely have another lady which will create an emotional readiness for such happening.

10.The Quran and bible does not condemn polygamy.
While our married Muslim sisters are at peace with their husbands irrespective of the number of women he marries, our Christian sisters are always quick to use the bible to counter the act of polygamy but im sorry to break their heart that there was no place in the bible where polygamy was condemned in clear terms and while many Bible scholars use human philosophy of GOD creating only one woman for Adam,there is a documented evidence that those strongly loved by GOD were polygamists.

However, there is a portion of the bible where Paul was admonishing general overseers to be husband of one wife and i guess we all are not general overseers.1 Timothy 3:2 reads:Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,(English Standard Version)

10.Philandering and polygamy are one of a kind.
While many people believe that these two are different,i believe they are the same because in most cases, a mistress bears the man children and gets all the attention the wife gets if not more so why fool yourself thinking you are married to one lady when in-fact your mistress is as good as your wife even if they don't stay under same roof.


12.Reduction of Divorce cases.
If the world embraces polygamy, there will be a drastic reduction of women filing for divorce due to sexual unfaithfulness from the man as they will know before going into marriage with the man that there is a bigger possibility of him getting married to two or more wives.


This is not a one sided article but a vivid view on polygamy from a critical angle and i would be glad to read a counter view to this.

Hope this makes sense.

NO! It doesn't make sense sir!

You're just yapping and yapping and yapping.

You're not even taking note of the economic situation of the country today. How many men in the country can even take care of a single wife and the children not to talk of several other wives.

We are getting more populated by the day and nothing is being done to control it and you think marrying more women just to satisfy sexual urges is the next best thing.

In a country like China you can't even give birth to more than two kids not to talk of marrying more than a woman.

We should be looking at such problems like that and not the reasons you've stated up there.

Polygamy should be really discouraged in a country like Nigeria let's focus on other important things. Why should we be expanding our families when we are not even able to take care of the ones who are present now?

Think outside the box mr.man.

skarlett:


Out of all the tons of educative topics on nairaland, toks2008 trash still makes fp because of you, sometimes I wonder if you take your time to read through it

Richiy:
Toks2008,

I just have one question for you

Where you raised in a polygamous family?

The same way you took your time to research how polygamy will make life better for men and women, also research about how life is in a polygamous home.

And to wrap it up, take your time and read this somewhat realistic Nigerian novel "The secret lives of Baba Segi's wives"

naijaboiy:

NO! It doesn't make sense sir!

You're just yapping and yapping and yapping.

You're not even taking note of the economic situation of the country today. How many men in the country can even take care of a single wife and the children not to talk of several other wives.

We are getting more populated by the day and nothing is being done to control it and you think marrying more women just to satisfy sexual urges is the next best thing.

In a country like China you can't even give birth to more than two kids not to talk of marrying more than a woman.

We should be looking at such problems like that and not the reasons you've stated up there.

Polygamy should be really discouraged in a country like Nigeria let's focus on other important things. Why should we be expanding our families when we are not even able to take care of the ones who are present now?

Think outside the box mr.man.

Richiy:


Would you raise your kids in a polygamous home then?

HARDDON:
"For this purpose A man shall leave his father n mother n Clive unto his WIFE(not wives) BOTH shall become ONE Flesh"!


If u know the heat n contention polygamy brings, u wudnt spew these bullsz!

Nothing else to say

Xiadnat:
Hmmm....

Polygamy.... As beneficial. Some points make sense but..... Naijaboys point on controlling world population is very very valid and true too.

Say, will it be okay if women too can have multiple husbands? Not sure why any one would. One is enough for me.

Toks2008:


I'm not disappointed..Apparently you quoted without reading cos all you wrote are totally off point.

PayBoyXclusives:

Am an African man and traditionally i can marry as many wives as i can take care of.. NO WOMAN OR CHILD HAS THE RIGHT TO CHASE OUT ANOTHER WOMAN OR CHILD DECLARED A MEMBER OF THE FAMILY EITHER BY BIRTH OR MARRIAGE.. With all i know and as an African Man aware that am a Man i can control as many wives and children of mine with the right decision and punishment for whosoever wishes to challenge my authority as the man.. So YES I CAN RAISE MY KIDS IN A POLYGAMOUS HOME to be responsible and better citizens

Toks2008:


Polygamy and polygamous homes are too different things.

Many married men practise polygamy but they don't have a home with two wives.

Nevertheless it is important to look at the points raised and discuss them rather than directing any question to me.

My disclaimer says it all so learn to address issues objectively.

Teespice:
my maternal grandfather had three wives. my grandmother being the second wife.

I know what my grandmother, my mum and her siblings went through growing up. it wasn't funny at all.

All what you have written is simply theory. practically, it is impossible. as usual, you write like someone who knows it all. anyhow, it's the internet where anything goes.

all this talk is just what it is, talk. practice polygamy first let us see how successful it is from your end. who knows we might follow suit.

Richiy:


I should look at what you said but not the source? Toks, your issues in life are really deep-rooted. Just look at what you wrote again. You will see the crazy in it, I promise.

naijaboiy:

I'm actually more disappointed sir!

I didn't really need to go through your points cos they are always the same clichè points we've heard over and over again.

This is not the time where men should be going about having different wives and from there birthing so many kids that they can't take care of.

Polygamy should be discouraged irrespective of the points you stated as to why it should be practiced.