As there ever been a time in your marriage that you felt you could have been a little patient with your decision to marry your husband or wife?

Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

CRAP! This is why most people fail exams. The OP asked a simple question, which demands a very simple answer as well!
As for me, the answer is no. If anyone has a "yes" answer, they may go the extra mile of giving details. But that's unnecessary. A simple "yes" or "no" would've answered the question perfectly.

Marriage talk is endless, jst like Solomon's maxim: d river emptying into d sea yet d sea never gets full.

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

excellent answer!

Single!

regret, and risk having your husband been taken away by arrays of women desperately looking for a husband

Though I am not married.
Everybody at some point doe feel so, it mostly happens in the earlier days, months of the union. While some, so many years later. Don't believe anybody that says my mariage is so rosy and he's or she's my fantasy, yes they could have it good, but at some point sooner or later, they will have that thought. So, its perfectly normal. Only makes you see the flaws of your other half, accept them for who they are, and make you love them the more.

Not married but if I were to advise someone in that situation I'll say they should realise that there's no going back & should erase that notion from their mind & try their best to make things work.

olaedo3087: Marriage talk is endless, jst like Solomon's maxim: d river emptying into d sea yet d sea never gets full.

You rude o!

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

LOL this is a bit of topic though. Nice advice.

@Topic not at all, I thank God everyday. Even in time of conflict, I still appreciate my husband. Infact thanks to him I appreciate the institution called "marriage"

People need to realize that as humans we make mistakes, we fight, we have bad moods, and sometimes we get sad, marriage is no expection, so no regrets at all doing the bad times or good.

Regret ke? force urself not to. its d Devil creeping into ur home.

Abi have u seen someone else? d Angel u dnt knw

Hell yeah!, hell yeah!, hell yeah! f****cking right!!! **singing with drake***

nairalanders with their surprises, why the look and pass system. almost 217 persons have viewed this comment yet no one has the liver 2 answer our very own precious's question. well back to topic, Hell no, wont change him 4 nofing, not even in the world 2 come.haf she be answer d que?








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I won't say marriage has been a bed of roses for me. I've experienced it's bumps but the nice times far outweighs the bad times. Ask me this question in 10yrs and i'll still say 'i don't regret marrying the man i call my husband'. Your marriage is what you make of it.

we learn and grow everyday it might not be perfect but we are trying our best to make it work.

Hmmmm, my wife knows my username, i had better keep shut before my answer will instigate the obvious thought.



Lol

Jayloy: Hmmmm, my wife knows my username, i had better keep shut before my answer will instigate the obvious thought.



Lol

lol... even now she will have an idea of ur thought

Fortunately i havn't made any nuptial vows yet. Ladies and Gents, marriage is nt meant 2 update ur facebook relationship status, it is a life long vow u will make 2 be with ur spouse TIL DEATH DO YOU PART. It petrifies me 2 see young beautiful girls breeze into marriage and after 2 yrs dey end up looking like they have pellagra due to marital problems. I will address d ladies bcuz dis issue is predominant in d fairer sex. If u want 2 get married MAINLY bcuz u think u're getting old, den my dear ur definitely nt ready 4 marriage. Age is nt d reason 2 get married, LOVE is. Unfortunately our primitive african ideology doesn't support dat, bt dat should'nt intimidate u. And most importantly shun arranged marriage. That is d main reason why we have broken homes today. If u knw nothing about him then DON'T GET MARRIED. I'm nt just talking about his family and what he does for a living, i mean his nature, attitude, character and orientation. What is courtship for?! U put urself and ur unborn progeny @ risk of living an unhappy life. Dats my advice sha.

Basic:
CRAP! The OP asked a simple question, which demands a very simple answer as well!

Mister, the OP would definitely be happy for that answer, cos he said exactly what he/She needed at this point in time.

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

Christ!! What's all these? Why are Nigerians so friggin' sanctimonious?! Simple question that demands a simple answer, and you go on a long meaningless rant that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the topic.

The OP has neither told us that she is in a failed marriage, nor has she sought anyone's "advice" on any matter. She's simply asking - most probably out of curiousity - for people's opinions about their marriage, and you automatically unload all manner of assumptions on her. "Love yourself", "Don't be a doormat", "Serve God", etc. Seriously?!?! This is just SO WRONG, and while you really may mean well for her, you should know that you've completely gone about it the wrong way. #JustSaying.

Nah.. But i have once felt i was dating the wrong person.

In a long term partnership like marriage, there is bound to come a time when you feel like you are with the wrong person, especially when times are not rosy or when you have misunderstandings. Regardless of how well you get along with that person or how much rapport you have with them, the thought that maybe there was a better option out there that you missed, will still pass through your mind one day.
It is advisable to focus on the positive sides of your spouse and to try to overlook their shortcomings so that you don't consistently think that they are not right for you and thus end up unhappy with the union.

debrief08: Go and look at yourself in the mirror and start saying positive things about yourself.
Look at yourself as Precious not as "mrs" this or that, start loving yourself first, if you don't love or respect yourself no one else will.
Stop being a doormat, be a human being first before being a wife, also teach your children that marriage is not their goal in life, their goal in life should be to be productive, respectful, serve God through serving humanity, seek Gods purpose in their lives and fulfil it.
When our time in the world ends, God wouldn't ask if you married or single, he will ask if you did what he sent you to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fulfil societail pressure that we forsake Gods plans for us, and rush into rubbish. When you have a bad marriage everything else in your life will loose focus.
When I talk about serving God I am not talking about Pastor worship or fasting and prayers, I am talking about serving others, taking beverages for strangers in the hospital who can't afford it, buying books for children in public schooks who can't afford it. That is service to God.
Love yourself, You were not born to be "mrs", you were born for Gods glory, only you can achieve that

thank u very much.i giv u a standing ovation for dis post and i love u for it.uve spoken my mind in typing.gosh,women need to learn dat dey have to live their lives to please d creator of heaven and earth,b d best dey can be and other things will fall in place.haba.what is with all dis r u married now,wen will u b married,all ur friends are married,ure not gettin any younger etc.thank u once again,oshey

If your spouse visits nairaland as well, better think well before you answer.

Basic:
CRAP! The OP asked a simple question, which demands a very simple answer as well!

i wonder y ure allergic to d truth.u despise people dat say d truth and admire liars and deceivers.evidence: d kind of political leaders and politicians we have today leading us.smh

Purist:

Christ!! What's all these? Why are Nigerians so friggin' sanctimonious?! Simple question that demands a simple answer, and you go on a long meaningless rant that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the topic.

The OP has neither told us that she is in a failed marriage, nor has she sought anyone's "advice" on any matter. She's simply asking - most probably out of curiousity - for people's opinions about their marriage, and you automatically unload all manner of assumptions on her. "Love yourself", "Don't be a doormat", "Serve God", etc. Seriously?!?! This is just SO WRONG, and while you really may mean well for her, you should know that you've completely gone about it the wrong way. #JustSaying.

I wonder too oooo, she only asked a question. haa oga 4 some pple sha. am sure she is not married so she doesnt ave an idea of wat d poster is asking.lo

montelik: If your spouse visits nairaland as well, better think well before you answer.

ehen,if he visits nairaland,will d sun stop shinining or rain stop falling.abeg spare me jo!

I married d best person I culd av married, but sincerly I wish marriage was not a life contract.

The term "Mrs" is not a title meant to elevate ur social status. It shows dat u are now a commited wife and soon-to-be caring mother. So make sure u KNOW THE MAN ur about 2 spend d rest of ur life with.

kulyie: thank u very much.i giv u a standing ovation for dis post and i love u for it.uve spoken my mind in typing.gosh,women need to learn dat dey have to live their lives to please d creator of heaven and earth,b d best dey can be and other things will fall in place.haba.what is with all dis r u married now,wen will u b married,all ur friends are married,ure not gettin any younger etc.thank u once again,oshey

am sure you are not married either so u really cant kno what God himself said about marriage. she asked a question for Christ sake, God Himself created marriage and He wants us to love without condition...