Pls I need ur candid advice, my hubby hardly stays at home, no weekends, no quality time with the family, whenever I confronts him he says work, to earn money, but he hardly ever takes 20% of the household expenses. just that he tries to come home b4 9pm everyday and leave as soon as 7 am or even b4 then. I am a loyal wife , with 2 kids dedicated,always supports my family financially n other wise. help i want his undivided attention. whenever I look worried he feels happy, so now what I want is to make him think am happy, pls how do I go about it. in d house even though am not happy. thank you

So op takes 80% of the family's responsibility, uuuh? Doesn't sound like the truth.

ofcourse is true, I am a fashion designer so u know I have little cash inflows to support me and my kids,. so please I need your advice pls and pls

You want to look happy even when you are unhappy just to please a man who treats you bad without reason? Geez! that style of sycophancy is rather filled with low self-esteem.

Find out what his problem is first. If he has nothing to say or no genuine reason, it means he is not into you. You can't smash into him with such strategy, it withers you quickly.

atinukes5:
Pls I need ur candid advice, my hubby hardly stays at home, no weekends, no quality time with the family, whenever I confronts him he says work, to earn money, but he hardly ever takes 20% of the household expenses. just that he tries to come home b4 9pm everyday and leave as soon as 7 am or even b4 then. I am a loyal wife , with 2 kids dedicated,always supports my family financially n other wise. help i want his undivided attention. whenever I look worried he feels happy, so now what I want is to make him think am happy, pls how do I go about it. in d house even though am not happy. thank you

what kind of music do you like? do you know how to sing? can you dance? have your own fun around the house even while working? do you know how to smile when you greet? happy or not? all this not in a looking for trouble way o, but in a way that says i-am-trying-to-enjoy-myself. you can learn to actually be happy. I understand some people are sadists and you can't wait for such to be responsible for your happiness, heck you can't let anyone be responsible for your happiness. Take charge!

Waow thanks alot. in fact I just need ideas like this, that will make me look and feel happy, activity that will eleviate me, and move my pain away. Cos he knows his action makes me feel down so I want to act d opposite way. thanks alot

marriage is for beta for worse. if u cant stand it. divorce him. seems ur husband is tired of u and he don get small wige outside. pele