taryour:


whalai all this your excuse is getting me irritated jare. what do you mean by " it takes others to get her away from me" if it has gotten to that extent then am sure ppl are suspecting already of stylishly molesting her, they just don't have enuf nail to nail you for such act.

if you can't tell her parents and help the girl then relocate and zap from that vicinity hence you get accused. if I were the parent and you dint tell me dis as soon as you detected this act, I wunt find it funny with you at all. don't toil with a mothers instincts/ heart over her children.

with what is going on around lately. the longer you keep quite over this, then you are now an accomplice.

spare me all this crap you call excuse and act right as you should, except you enjoy all of her attentions and body rub on you. prove everyone wrong and act fast. A lot of ppl have seen your closeness with her, only that you can't read their minds else you would know what they thinking about you. they only waiting just for a few more seconds to nail and hang you.

NevetsIbot:
Your words are so critical.. Everyone know I try to avoid her. So, don't place any blame on me.... If I enjoyed the body rub and attention, I wouldn't be asking for advice here. I want to help the girl and that's why I'm here. .you speak as if I'm in support of this. Thanks anyway

taryour:



you call that critical, we talking a child here and the damage being done to her life and her future.
the table is all yours man, enjoy yourself.
enuf said.

yorex2011:
You'll need to let the mother see things for herself, just tell the woman you noticed some behavior in the little girl when her parents aren't there, and tell her to hide herself in the vicinity and watch the behavior of the child when she's with you.
The mother should then see with her own eyes.

You telling the mother about a strange behavior shows you care and exonerates you from any foul play

Not specifying the kind of behavior prevents the mother from being prejudiced or biased before seeing it with her own eyes.

From there on the mother can know what to do.

Say you've noticed it for a while but thought it was just child play. (after the mother has become aware).

Just little wisdom is ok.

Ishilove:

You have spoken well indeed.

Nevet,sIbot take note of this counsel.

MrPresident1:


Ishi, abi o ri wi pe opin aiye ti de ba yi?

Marvel1206:
Ebaaboo!!!

yorex2011:
You'll need to let the mother see things for herself, just tell the woman you noticed some behavior in the little girl when her parents aren't there, and tell her to hide herself in the vicinity and watch the behavior of the child when she's with you.
The mother should then see with her own eyes.

You telling the mother about a strange behavior shows you care and exonerates you from any foul play

Not specifying the kind of behavior prevents the mother from being prejudiced or biased before seeing it with her own eyes.

From there on the mother can know what to do.

Say you've noticed it for a while but thought it was just child play. (after the mother has become aware).

Just little wisdom is ok.

NevetsIbot:
Hello everyone. There's a 4/5yr old girl in my church that takes delight in playing with me... However, since the time I joined the branch of the church 1yr ago, I noticed some sexual stuffs from her. Y'all my call me a pervert, Ion care, It can't keep happening for one year without me taking notice and being bothered.

This little girl clings to my legs, wraps her legs round mine and moves her hip and grinds her private part on my leg everytime, she sometimes gasps... I shake her off everytime she does this. She also gets crazy jealous when I talk with a female (not my prob tho). She also would sometimes pull her pants and show me her behind.... And man! Does it piss me off. And If I beat her, her mums gonna talk (she's spoilt). They spoil her.

I intially thought she was just playing around and knew nothing abt it but what happened last sunday shocked me to the core.

She did the same leg grabbing stuff, this time she sat on my boot while I was talking to a friend. Then she started grinding and gasping.... I pulled her off angrilly and beat her and next thing she did was to start looking at my D region with one crazy smile. And she was like ''let me see it''

I think someone has introduced sex to this little girl and (maybe she likes it). She's really beautiful as Ive also prayed my future daughter will be as pretty as she is so, a paedophile might like her.

Someone as young as her can't even know anything like this without the help of someone I'm at crossroads here and wondering if I should tell her parents but they might not be able to face me if I tell em or they might just call me a pervert. Dunno what to do. I want the best for this little girl but Ion wanna tarnish my own reputation also.

What do I do?

taryour:



you call that critical, we talking a child here and the damage being done to her life and her future.
the table is all yours man, enjoy yourself.
enuf said.

ifyalways:
A 5 years old does all that @ OP

stop playing with the girl.
Tell her mother directly not the pastor or another third party. The less people involved, the better and safer for you.
You however need to pick your words wisely and carefully when telling the mom. Don't act like you're so sure the girl is sexually active/they failed in their duties etc on her, apply wisdom.

Mothers !!! Parents !!!! wake up.

imurboss:
^^^
my dear, i can't believe a 4yrs old does all these thing and an adult cannot tell her off or even tell her mom. Something is definitely wrong somewhere

delishpot:
Abeg OP, you are sounding strange to me now O. As if you are helpless with the girl and you are acting like a victim sef. A child of four is what is giving you all this headache? You can not tell her mom, you can not tell a pastor or elder, you can not shake the little kid off either, you are having sleepless nights, worrying as if the child is saying sleep with me or lose your job. I don't get it anymore O. What exactly do you want? As in what do you want us to say or do on this matter? Maybe it's me not understanding it anymore. Why is it hard to tell her to leave your side when she cones around? Or ask her mom to hold her as she is disturbing you and you need to focus? If you can't tell mom, why not tell dad? Hian

NevetsIbot:
delishpot and cococandy. Before you start your cynical converstations. Note... I've never handled a situation like this before. And this proug 4yr old is soo arrogant that if you beat her now, she'll be back to torment you everytime and the only correction she heeds to are those from her parents. Even her brothers can't wrap their hands round her. Ive never seen a Kid as spoilt as her. So, stop defaming me. I came here for help and advice to tackle this situation.

I know how africans think and I know things can turn around against me if I take some actions. My security first. Although I love the girl and want to rid her of the bad habit, I can't sleep in a police cell cos of that. It's not easy to tell a mom that ''I think her daughter has been introduced to sex''.... You guys keep thinking I'm freezing cos its a sexual advancement. Wrong! If curvy ladies couldnt get their hands on me, one tiny 4yr old can't!

And I've beaten this girl with my drumsticks cos of her habit times without numbers thinking she'd change. Talked to her, it all bounced off her head. You don't know the girl like I do! So! Stop the bloody defamation.

And Delishpot.... You don't seem cool when you throw slight accusations at me just cos I want advice on this issue. I won't rush into things cos of you.

cococandy:
Whatever dude. You're not helpless at the hands of a 4/5 year old. Deal with this decisively and stop whining like you're some sort of victim.

Never accused you of anything actually but you're right I'm cynical. The situation is not a helpless one like you're making it out to be.

NevetsIbot:
True... I have never been helpless even at the hands of someone older. I'm dealing with this decisively by coming here to get the best advice! Its a 4yr's old life here and any little mismanagement can pose serious damage to her physically or psycologically. The way in which I report might make her mother go ramming at the little girl like a bull. What would the girl feel like, have you even thought of how it might affect the girl's sexual life when she grows up thinking sex is only for procreation?..Get it before you start jumping around like a baboon. And hey, In my mention, I was talking to your friend when I stated the word a''accusation''...and yeah, you're cynical. Glad you know that.

I'm trying to make the best decision here and I don't think I can tolerate you anymore.

cococandy:
@ bold, You don't have to. Move along now.

NevetsIbot:
delishpot and cococandy. Before you start your cynical converstations. Note... I've never handled a situation like this before. And this proug 4yr old is soo arrogant that if you beat her now, she'll be back to torment you everytime and the only correction she heeds to are those from her parents. Even her brothers can't wrap their hands round her. Ive never seen a Kid as spoilt as her. So, stop defaming me. I came here for help and advice to tackle this situation.

I know how africans think and I know things can turn around against me if I take some actions. My security first. Although I love the girl and want to rid her of the bad habit, I can't sleep in a police cell cos of that. It's not easy to tell a mom that ''I think her daughter has been introduced to sex''.... You guys keep thinking I'm freezing cos its a sexual advancement. Wrong! If curvy ladies couldnt get their hands on me, one tiny 4yr old can't!

And I've beaten this girl with my drumsticks cos of her habit times without numbers thinking she'd change. Talked to her, it all bounced off her head. You don't know the girl like I do! So! Stop the bloody defamation.

And Delishpot.... You don't seem cool when you throw slight accusations at me just cos I want advice on this issue. I won't rush into things cos of you.

delishpot:



Dear, I am not causing you of anything, how crazy can a 4 year old be that you can not tame her if you are consistent? If you do not entertain or a knowledge her presence, she would move on. She is only 4 for Gods sake. She can not scheme like an adult female who is bent on bedding a man Na. Reading on, I see you sounding like you are in deep trouble or experiencing some trauma due to her action towards you. Haba you sef reason it Na.

byvan03:
OP I will tell you exactly what I will tell a brother. If you can't tell her parents, stay completely far away from this child so that your good heart will not bring you shame and disgrace.

NevetsIbot:


Lol.. You can't understand her. Her parents and brothers have been trying their best to rid her of her proud arrogant attitude since she was wise enough to use a spoon. And currently, she's like two times proud than she was before.
It's cool you're replying well to this now unlike ''somebody''. Well, I'll be seeing the kid this wednesday and I'll be talking to her. Thanks