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Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op):
Chubhie:
I'm no hero neither claim to be one. Have worked and killed the Ego in me yet working to attain Christ Consciousness.

I apologise to you and trusting you shall henceforth take the best decision concerning that kid regardless of if it puts you in harm's way. All the very best.
Okay then. I apologise too for my harsh words. Thanks. And I revoke that curse. Thanks and Goodbye and I pray God forgives any of us if we were wrong
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by taryour(f): 6:31pm On Sep 07, 2016
Chubhie:
To solve this mystery, you will have to understand that the female energy of that child and the adult are sexually attracted on the soul level.perhaps one funny demon experimenting and playing psychic mind games with their energy fields?

On the soul level, it's quite understandable and healthy when two souls unite in pure love. love on this plane is beyond the sexual connotations we give on this earth plane.

Now, the brother having sleepless nights cos of the earthly 5 year old is neither grounded spiritually nor morally disciplined.

The 5 year old neither has the right home trainings and guidance necessary to lead her.

One thing I can guarantee you is that the moment the kid and the adult are mistakenly left unsupervised,the energies will overwhelm them and the news would be all over the internet and the brother would never understand what hit him.

He should continue playing hanky panky with forces leading to his ultimate doom.
GBAM!!!
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by jnrbayano(m): 6:35pm On Sep 07, 2016
delishpot:
It should show You that women expect you to tell them as soon as you notice such from their daughters or kids. Cant you see?





Lets slow down here, I don't think it has gotten to this stage. Abeg, let's just not start calling each other names here. Abeg una for the sake of God. We can disagree and speak our minds without accusing someone without proof.
I have said earlier on the family section that most people here are far away from maturity.

People haven't realized that what you say to somebody is capable of killing that person.

Op,

You made an error by opening a thread on this. An adult can handle a 5year old without any form of help. Do what you are supposed to do.

I will also advice that whenever you write anything in any forum, expect different kind of people to turn up.

Always try to keep your cool.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by taryour(f): 6:38pm On Sep 07, 2016
NevetsIbot:
will you just reason before you start shouting... Don't I know what I'm talking about? I doubt if she's four! Dummy! Cut me some slack! Ive seen proud and arrogant people and this girl is both combined. If you think I'm exxagerating... You can come to Ondo and deal with her yourself!. There, go and hang yourself!

St*pid ladies just keep springing up in this thread! Bimbo
young fool, I have children so I know and understand what they can say at that age.
Now between you and I who is a dummy? is it you that can't control yourself in front of a 4 year old girl, who turns into vegetable while with a 4 year old girlhuh does it show how smart a man you are by loosing your senses and turning into a slowPoke when dealing with a little child that you need the help of others to get her away from your tightshuh

Now you doubt that she 4 yearshuh dint you just state here that you are very close to her family? now you really got some nuts missing in your skull. how evident that you are having the fun of your life with that girl.

your issues, play the game as you like. ish
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by jnrbayano(m): 7:05pm On Sep 07, 2016
njokusboy:
Lol
Did ya'll expect the dude to report that he was being molested by a child, in this country ?
In fact, you guys have started showing what would probably happen if he does that...

Mr op , anytime the child comes an inch closer to you with that attitude, pick a stick and beat her like her parents have never done before, make sure her cries are loud enough, when the parents ask you, tell them their daughter is misbehaving and you had to discipline her because they failed to give her the necessary training...
Your anger/aggression shows you are truly sincere...
You kill 2 birds with 1 stone...

ND ya'll should leave the dude alone Abeg, na wetin sef ,you guys are provoking him....
I can't understand the joy in provoking another. I can't.

But the guy too should try to sidetrack these snides and work with those advice he already agreed to work with.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 7:27pm On Sep 07, 2016
taryour:
young fool, I have children so I know and understand what they can say at that age.
Now between you and I who is a dummy? is it you that can't control yourself in front of a 4 year old girl, who turns into vegetable while with a 4 year old girlhuh does it show how smart a man you are by loosing your senses and turning into a slowPoke when dealing with a little child that you need the help of others to get her away from your tightshuh

Now you doubt that she 4 yearshuh dint you just state here that you are very close to her family? now you really got some nuts missing in your skull. how evident that you are having the fun of your life with that girl.

your issues, play the game as you like. ish
the fire has died down now ma'am. Thanks for the insults. She's 6.... Just asked her bro.

and I will need you to point out the part where I turned to a slowpoke cos of an underdeveloped girl. your acccusations are gone to the wind. If I enjoyed it, I wouldn't be here. I don't wanna call you names cos you've got children. Hell, I don't even wanna call anybody names here anymore. I suffered the same thing this small girl is suffering from a paedophile when I was her age... And you don't expect me to be bothered? I know how that abuse is still afecting me till today.

Just goodnight and Sweetdreams. You clearly don't understand me here and I'm cool with it.

#bye
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 7:29pm On Sep 07, 2016
jnrbayano:
I can't understand the joy in provoking another. I can't.

But the guy too should try to sidetrack these snides and work with those advice he already agreed to work with.
Bro. Ive already taken the advices I needed. Thanks for understanding me.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 7:32pm On Sep 07, 2016
jnrbayano:
I have said earlier on the family section that most people here are far away from maturity.

People haven't realized that what you say to somebody is capable of killing that person.

Op,

You made an error by opening a thread on this. An adult can handle a 5year old without any form of help. Do what you are supposed to do.

I will also advice that whenever you write anything in any forum, expect different kind of people to turn up.

Always try to keep your cool.
Thanks sir. I realised it was a huge mistake opening this thread too late this morning... I didn't eat cos of it. I'll keep that advice in mind.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by jnrbayano(m): 7:34pm On Sep 07, 2016
NevetsIbot:
Bro. Ive already taken the advices I needed. Thanks for understanding me.
Just do what is right with a big smile in your face.

You are welcome.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 7:43pm On Sep 07, 2016
jnrbayano:
Just do what is right with a big smile in your face.
You are welcome.
Lol bro. I will. Thanks ..cheesy
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by OreofeeOluwa(f): 7:52pm On Sep 07, 2016
NevetsIbot:
Thanks sir. I realised it was a huge mistake opening this thread too late this morning... I didn't eat cos of it. I'll keep that advice in mind.
Like jnrbayano said indeed most people here are far from maturity.i followed this thread and was indeed suprised.It is well.i know you will do the right thing.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 8:28pm On Sep 07, 2016
OreofeeOluwa:
Like jnrbayano said indeed most people here are far from maturity.i followed this thread and was indeed suprised.It is well.i know you will do the right thing.
i sure will. Thanks so much cheesy
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 8:30pm On Sep 07, 2016
njokusboy:
Lol
Did ya'll expect the dude to report that he was being molested by a child, in this country ?
In fact, you guys have started showing what would probably happen if he does that...

Mr op , anytime the child comes an inch closer to you with that attitude, pick a stick and beat her like her parents have never done before, make sure her cries are loud enough, when the parents ask you, tell them their daughter is misbehaving and you had to discipline her because they failed to give her the necessary training...
Your anger/aggression shows you are truly sincere...
You kill 2 birds with 1 stone...

ND ya'll should leave the dude alone Abeg, na wetin sef ,you guys are provoking him....
Sure! cheesy thank you! God bless you
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Emanuel1997: 9:12pm On Sep 07, 2016
NevetsIbot:
Thanks sir. I realised it was a huge mistake opening this thread too late this morning... I didn't eat cos of it. I'll keep that advice in mind.
The world is filled with different kinds of people, you don't have to shy away from asking questions cos you feel the wrong people would turn up bro. You might meet someone with similar experience no one is Mr perfect, so if you feel you are at cross roads do ask questions please do, you are bound to meet those who will help and those who will compound more problems to the situation, it's left to you to discern what is right. Maturity is not all about telling yourself there's no need to ask for others advice it's about choosing the right advice among many confusing ones.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 9:23pm On Sep 07, 2016
Emanuel1997:
The world is filled with different kinds of people, you don't have to shy away from asking questions cos you feel the wrong people would turn up bro. You might meet someone with similar experience no one is Mr perfect, so if you feel you are at cross roads do ask questions please do, you are bound to meet those who will help and those who will compound more problems to the situation, it's left to you to discern what is right. Maturity is not all about telling yourself there's no need to ask for others advice it's about choosing the right advice among many confusing ones.
now! That's brilliant!!!! Thanks so much.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by taryour(f): 10:15pm On Sep 07, 2016
NevetsIbot:
the fire has died down now ma'am. Thanks for the insults. She's 6.... Just asked her bro.

and I will need you to point out the part where I turned to a slowpoke cos of an underdeveloped girl. your acccusations are gone to the wind. If I enjoyed it, I wouldn't be here. I don't wanna call you names cos you've got children. Hell, I don't even wanna call anybody names here anymore. I suffered the same thing this small girl is suffering from a paedophile when I was her age... And you don't expect me to be bothered? I know how that abuse is still afecting me till today.

Just goodnight and Sweetdreams. You clearly don't understand me here and I'm cool with it.

#bye
oh I hit a chord! it hurts righthuh who threw the first vide or did you loose your memory when you quoted me using insulting words.

I still stand my grounds either harsh or not. As long as you remain quite and not help that girl out then you are an accomplice, take it or leave it.

sit and watch how the mother of that child, including her brothers tear you into bits when they realize how you have kept the destruction of their child to your self FOR A WHOLE YEAR !!! which most likely the dirty and wicked act is still going on.

have sat to imagine if that girl was your blood sister or your daughterhuh
what will be your reaction finding out a close family friend has known about it for a year and kept it to himselfhuh
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Malayy(m): 10:53pm On Sep 07, 2016
CrazyQuinn:
Just let her be and mind your business grin unless you want to risk your life when the parents or the mother take you to the police station grin grin her parents wouldn't understand the side of your story tongue
guy don't overlook this advice.. free that little girl.. her parents will probably put everything in your head... you know how most Nigerian parents behave..
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Originalsly: 1:23am On Sep 08, 2016
@op....the girl is 4/5...what does she know about sex? You are reading too much into what she innocently does. I'm almost sure what you are seeing is a reflection of what goes on in the home in her presence. Does her mom/aunt be doing the same with guys in her presence?...thinking she is too young to know what's going on?....do they be watching such videos in her presence? Children that age like to imitate. That's the reason you have to be careful what you do or say around kids. You've already reached the stage to say the child is pretty...and basically trying to seduce you. Focus on the parents..... guess advise them on being careful of what the child is exposed to. Once is enough...forget about beating the child...did she stop?...no...because she hasn't a clue what she did wrong or why.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Askseek(f): 2:16am On Sep 08, 2016
Chubhie:
To solve this mystery, you will have to understand that the female energy of that child and the adult are sexually attracted on the soul level.perhaps one funny demon experimenting and playing psychic mind games with their energy fields?

On the soul level, it's quite understandable and healthy when two souls unite in pure love. love on this plane is beyond the sexual connotations we give on this earth plane.

Now, the brother having sleepless nights cos of the earthly 5 year old is neither grounded spiritually nor morally disciplined.

The 5 year old neither has the right home trainings and guidance necessary to lead her.

One thing I can guarantee you is that the moment the kid and the adult are mistakenly left unsupervised,the energies will overwhelm them and the news would be all over the internet and the brother would never understand what hit him.

He should continue playing hanky panky with forces leading to his ultimate doom.
Huh
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Askseek(f): 2:30am On Sep 08, 2016
Naija I hail thee oh! An adult turns to mush at the hands of a supposedly hypersexual 4 or 6 year old girl. The same 4 or 6 year old is so "proud" and "arrogant". A child oh, we are supposed to believe that this child is so manipulative, she is putting moves on him but he the adult cannot draw any other persons attention to it, and he is garnering sympathy as he insults mature ones that gave him advice. Kai, Internet dey cause bad thing oh
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Nobody: 6:49am On Sep 08, 2016
To the people feeling sympathetic towards the poster and complaining about how provoked he was, the poster himself actually threw the first punches and even with that, people were still trying to be civil towards him.

Most of the name calling on this thread was by the poster himself, but many rose above that, so as not to loose the focus of the thread.
The thread is about a 4 year old kid and not about anyone's ego so many people acted maturely and let his insults go.

I still haven't heard him specifically say what he intends to do, but I take consolation that now that he knows that many people are totally against his actions/lack of actions, and the fact that he can be traced if need be, he will take some of the advise given & do the right thing even if he doesn't state it clearly here.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 1:22pm On Sep 08, 2016
tearoses:
maturely and let his insults go.

I still haven't heard him specifically say what he intends to do, but I take consolation that now that he knows that many people are totally against his actions/lack of actions, and the fact that he can be traced if need be, he will take some of the advise given & do the right thing even if he doesn't state it clearly here.
Please, trace me.. And if possible, you can even do the reporting. and I'll tell you what Ive chosen to do... ''nothing''... Surely, I'll go back to he HQ. Then she'll do it to another person who'll report her. You can get your policemen and come after me. I have full protection under the law and the law dsn't compel me to do what you want. And there's nothing you can use as evidence that I'm a paedophile (if you still believe I'm one)

You said I insulted first? Really? I don't think you read the thread well... I had to quote two ladies for defaming my character and warping my good intentions.

Anyway... Some sensible people up there have told me what to do and even some elderly people I talked about it to.... People obviously twice your age or more... So... Have a nice day. And thanks for nothing.

NB : This will be my last Comment here.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by NevetsIbot(op): 1:24pm On Sep 08, 2016
Askseek:
Naija I hail thee oh! An adult turns to mush at the hands of a supposedly hypersexual 4 or 6 year old girl. The same 4 or 6 year old is so "proud" and "arrogant". A child oh, we are supposed to believe that this child is so manipulative, she is putting moves on him but he the adult cannot draw any other persons attention to it, and he is garnering sympathy as he insults mature ones that gave him advice. Kai, Internet dey cause bad thing oh
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by dangervu(m): 8:38pm On Sep 08, 2016
What happens when the Op gets a respond of she is just a kid and they feel the Op is just been to cautious
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by Fkforyou(m):
njokusboy:
Lol
Did ya'll expect the dude to report that he was being molested by a child, in this country ?
In fact, you guys have started showing what would probably happen if he does that...

Mr op , anytime the child comes an inch closer to you with that attitude, pick a stick and beat her like her parents have never done before, make sure her cries are loud enough, when the parents ask you, tell them their daughter is misbehaving and you had to discipline her because they failed to give her the necessary training...
Your anger/aggression shows you are truly sincere...
You kill 2 birds with 1 stone...

ND ya'll should leave the dude alone Abeg, na wetin sef ,you guys are provoking him....
You spoke my mind.

@ OP...handle this shiit your selve as soon as possible, because if people have started reacting this way just by seeking their advice without them knowing anything about you or your person just ,imagine how the mother would react.

She would find a way to twist it that the more time you spend defending your self, the more guilty you'll look.

Just report to an elder and cut the girl loose ASAP.
Re: I Think Someone Is Sexually Abusing Her. Is It Wise To Tell Her Parents? by MrOreo(m): 11:20am On Mar 24, 2017
njokusboy:
Lol
Did ya'll expect the dude to report that he was being molested by a child, in this country ?
In fact, you guys have started showing what would probably happen if he does that...

Mr op , anytime the child comes an inch closer to you with that attitude, pick a stick and beat her like her parents have never done before, make sure her cries are loud enough, when the parents ask you, tell them their daughter is misbehaving and you had to discipline her because they failed to give her the necessary trhows you are truly sincere...
You kill 2 birds with 1 stone...

ND ya'll should leave the dude alone Abeg, na wetin sef ,you guys are provoking him....
Them dey provoke me join sef.
This is a nigerian parent we are talking about here. They act before they think. Already the guy said even the girl's brothers dare not mess with her talk more of a stranger. Pray not to find yourself in this kind of situation. Meanwhile OP, I think talking to the pastor is the right thing to do, incase anything happens, ur pastor will have ur back. If u go ahead and talk to her mum, I can't guarantee you'll come out of it in one piece.
My 2 kobo.
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