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doveda:
Yes

kizyalex10:
See as women jst dey protect themselves,all d female commenting here re emphasising on forgiveness,but if the case is the other way round now,u will see it as abuse,calling the police nd suing the bastard.lets call a spade a spade,u can call me a demon but there is a limit to my tolerance.that is why I can't take my woman abroad,cos most men who takes their women abroad don't have good stories to tell.because they take advantage of the law protecting them.women abuse power to the fullest.they re power drunk,flexing there power even when it's nt neccessary.if it's me my brother,hell will let loose.

LordScent:


emper orlee donpo ker9 koman see sumchin

ikevin:
is Amara God? Smcheww we too dey make people proud, reason pastors here feel above God himself.

Billyonaire:
@nameerfhtennek

Seems you spend more time with FIFA and computer games than your wife. I know you dont see anything wrong in your attitude but I am here to tell you that you are wrong.

#1. I picture a woman coming to ask for internet router, and you kept silent and she kept asking. How do you expect her to know whats on your mind. Is she a spirit to know you forgot it in the office ? Who keeps silent in relationships even if you had past grudge ?

#2. Then, you do not have a way of rationalizing your struggle to remove forcefully the remote and console "from her pant"; I mean who does that ? If a woman hides anything in her pant or brazier, it means "dont dare".

You have totally ruined your marriage, with "women are bad", "I am loyal good man" attitude.

If you need my advice; It is simple. Go and apologize to your wife, for the silent treatment and promise to spend more time with your wife than the fucking video games and internet. Your wife is now addicted to internet cos you both spend more time online and not talking to each other.

EmperorLee:
Who is killing who

smellingmenses:
dont frustrate your wife... don't scorn them.... if ur wife came to meet you at work to go shopping ur mood is irrelevant .... duty calls! and you came back to TV... op is rationalizing what he did!

LordScent:


Oga cant you read?

E ma wo bobo yii shaaa

queenfav:
God bless you for bringing this out...I have been in court twice when her case came up,she didn't look remorseful at all.I am sure its yet to hit her that she is a lawyer on trial for killing her husband.A colleague that knows her very well was saying the abuse started from the time they were dating...She was fond of dragging and tearing his clothes and all sorts.Afterwards she would beg him for forgiveness.Na leaf wen dey sweet goat dey finally kill am!
Those saying forgive would be the same persons to ask why he didn't leave if anything happens to him(God forbid).A woman that would do that has no respect for the man or her marriage.All of you saying she wanted attention,have you asked yourselves why she couldn't go about getting it in a better way?Abi her way of communication na to spit on her husband?I am not married but have done way too many divorces to know a marriage headed for the rocks when i see one.A major key to making marriage work is constant communication about your feelings,speaking up to get the changes you need.Nobody has the gift of prophesy and so a man/woman has to be forthwith with information that would better his/her relationship with their partner.The moment someone resorts to using swear words and saying negative things about your past or upbringing to insult you ,they might as well start filing for divorce because the marriage is as good as over.Respect is a basic sign of love.You cannot say you love someone and say things you know would really hurt them.Thats why i tell people love is not enough to get married.Find someone you are attracted to,that respects you,that's willing to partner with u (more like a business) to make the marriage work.Shikena!

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

kizyalex10:
See as women jst dey protect themselves,all d female commenting here re emphasising on forgiveness,but if the case is the other way round now,u will see it as abuse,calling the police nd suing the bastard.lets call a spade a spade,u can call me a demon but there is a limit to my tolerance.that is why I can't take my woman abroad,cos most men who takes their women abroad don't have good stories to tell.because they take advantage of the law protecting them.women abuse power to the fullest.they re power drunk,flexing there power even when it's nt neccessary.if it's me my brother,hell will let loose.

megastu:
Re appraise your relationship.
Reading your post, i think there is one thing lacking; sex, quality sex. The moment she hid the remote in her pant, she wanted a good bleep, but you didnt see it.
Sending back to Nigeria is not the proble. BTW try and throw that game console away and concentrate on your wife that is if you guys still want each other.

nameerfhtennek:
Please how do I contact you sir?

Zedoo:
U think sex solves all problems abi?

See that woman deserves to be sent back to Nigeria...make she know as recession dey go.
All dese women pleading, na until she pour am hot water Una go see truth??
The woman should be sent away first to gain a brain then they can negotiate....which one is grab bum again....after spitting on your face!!! Even a motorpark tout would think twice before doing that to anybody....thats insult of the highest order.....spitting on a fellow human is the most degrading non physically harmful thing ever!...
Damn...

You women should stop pleading and let this man do what is right for the time being oga.

VolTOxic:
Most men would have given her a beating, but you kept your cool. For that I respect and admire you. Now to the point, Yes. Please send her away. That woman hates you!

How can your own wife say that horrible thing and spat to you face?! She hates you. She have crossed the line.
You said your marriage is a curse. You are not happy at all. Neither is she. You are not making a mistake. Do it.

You are a true gentleman. You deserve better. You'll find someone to heal your wounds. Don't even waste your time for any shìt counselling. She is not the woman you fell for. That woman is gone the moment she spat. Forever.

ogorwyne:
Just forgive her.

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

Miladi:
OP

I'm so sorry for you. However, having dissected your story, I stand bold to say that your prejudice contributed to the ensued fracas.

nwamehn:
Nnaa, I am not rationalizing what op did or what
the wife did. The exact point I made there in that
post when u first quoted me was whether u will
apologise to ur girl if u ignored her and dragged
remote with her and because of that, she then
insults ur parents and spits on ur face. The first
statement I made which warranted u to quote me
at first was when I referred to someone who
advised op to apologise. If u were in the op
shoes, will u go and apologise to her after that
incident just as the guy advised op? Just answer
and forget about who is wrong or right between
the op and the wife.

redgem:
Hahahahhahahhahhahaha....

megastu:
Re appraise your relationship.

Reading your post, i think there is one thing lacking; sex, quality sex. The moment she hid the remote in her pant, she wanted a good bleep, but you didnt see it.

Sending back to Nigeria is not the proble. BTW try and throw that game console away and concentrate on your wife that is if you guys still want each other.

Zedoo:
U think sex solves all problems abi?

See that woman deserves to be sent back to Nigeria...make she know as recession dey go.
All dese women pleading, na until she pour am hot water Una go see truth??
The woman should be sent away first to gain a brain then they can negotiate....which one is grab bum again....after spitting on your face!!! Even a motorpark tout would think twice before doing that to anybody....thats insult of the highest order.....spitting on a fellow human is the most degrading non physically harmful thing ever!...
Damn...

You women should stop pleading and let this man do what is right for the time being oga.