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I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by Talk2Bella(op): 9:50am On Sep 14, 2016
This has been eating me up for months, my wife is one of the most beautiful woman on earth and I don’t know what came over me, I don’t believe in charms I would have said I got charmed.


My wife travelled for a professional degree, we talked about it before we got married, and that she was going to do that first before we started having kids, she’s so smart and I didn’t want marriage to slow her down.


Four months into her travel, her friend who normally came to the house to check up on me and give report back to my wife, came crying, said her fiancé cancelled their wedding and she felt like dying, I tried to console her, I knew the guy so I promised I was going to talk to him, she assured me it was over and he wouldn’t change his mind, I offered her whiskey to calm her nerves, I don’t know how it happened, we both got drunk, made love severally, and then she left.


Since that day, we’ve been lovers, although she knows I can’t leave my wife for her, it never bothered her, she just wanted companionship and I wanted that also.


My wife is due to be back soon, all of a sudden I feel so guilty, the guilt is weighing me down, her friend seems unbothered, she said it was better I did it with her than a total stranger.


I don’t know how to go about it, I promised I was never going to cheat on her, I know for the duration of the time she was there she never cheated on me, I trust her with my life, it’s just two years into our marriage and I am afraid I have ruined it all.


Her friend isn’t ready to say anything, she might leave the country soon, but I can’t live with the guilty, do I tell my wife or not?



Talk2Bella.



When I saw your email, I remembered a story someone told me, he said he was given a free pass by the wife to do anything he wanted because she wasn’t around and that she would totally understand, when I thought about it I realized only a strong and emotionally secured woman could do this.


So her friend isn’t willing to say anything, that’s a good one, at least you didn’t get her pregnant, every part of me wants you to tell your wife so as to alleviate your guilt, but why hurt an innocent woman? Secrets like this tend to come out sooner or later whether you like it or not, don’t you think it rather comes out sooner than later?


I think you know what to do, I don’t want to say you took advantage of her friend in her lowest, because it continued after the first time so both of you were aware and it was consensual.


You need to tell your wife, if she loves you enough she might be willing to give you another chance, doing it with a stranger would have been better than doing it with her friend, this is a betrayal she might not be willing to overlook.


I honestly don’t really know what else to say, I abhor cheating, I look at it as one of the greatest sins on earth, but no one is perfect and we’re all prone to mistakes.


I hope she forgives you, I really do.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/i-cheated-on-my-wife-with-her-friend-i.html
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by Nobody: 9:52am On Sep 14, 2016
do any thing you want
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by divinehand2003(m): 9:53am On Sep 14, 2016
Lol
Oya confess your sins to thy wife and receive forgiveness.
TO ERR IS HUMAN, TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by greatex(m): 9:54am On Sep 14, 2016
Ur wife ur problem........my stomach my problem
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by delishpot: 9:55am On Sep 14, 2016
This is how spouses bring death and destruction to their homes. Should your wife also do same to you where she is? Or do you think wives do not miss sexual satisfaction when their spouses are away for any reason?


greatex:
Ur wife ur problem........my stomach my problem
Hahahahaahahaha I can't shout O. Your stomach is more important than this one abeg
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by greatex(m): 10:00am On Sep 14, 2016
Hahahahaahahaha I can't shout O. Your stomach is more important than this one abeg[/quote]telling u ooo
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by saintfellow(m): 10:04am On Sep 14, 2016
You are a man.
there are some dirty little things we did, but Because life must go on, we forget abt the past and move on.
telling her will shaken the foundation of the marriage, i hope u dnt want to put what has taken you years to build at risk.
whether you tell her or not, its possible that you will cheat on her again and again later in the future. I am a man and i know that though i will Love and cherish my wife but i cant say i will stay faithful to her, one day i will secretly cheat on her with that co worker, with that female nairalander, with that facebook friend, with that female bestie. etc.
so moving on is the best.
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by delishpot: 10:11am On Sep 14, 2016
saintfellow:
You are a man.
there are some dirty little things we did, but Because life must go on, we forget abt the past and move on.
telling her will shaken the foundation of the marriage, i hope u dnt want to put what has taken you years to build at risk.
whether you tell her or not, its possible that you will cheat on her again and again later in the future. I am a man and i know that though i will Love and cherish my wife but i cant say i will stay faithful to her, one day i will secretly cheat on her with that co worker, with that female nairalander, with that facebook friend, with that female bestie. etc.
so moving on is the best.
For real? You can't stay faithful? Hopefully you marry someone who would feel same way as you. So that the equation go balance grin grin
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by firstking01(m): 10:15am On Sep 14, 2016
Pheeeew, i can't decipher...how come when it comes to sex human beings will completely lose their senses , smhundecided
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by saintfellow(m): 10:15am On Sep 14, 2016
delishpot:
For real? You can't stay faithful? Hopefully you marry someone who would feel same way as you. So that the equation go balance grin grin
Lol Well personally i will try to stay faithful, but i know one time in the future, i will give in to that other lady but that do not mean i meant to hurt my partner, i will only hurt her when i let her know.
body nor be firewood na.
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by delishpot: 10:18am On Sep 14, 2016
saintfellow:
Lol Well personally i will try to stay faithful, but i know one time in the future, i will give in to that other lady but that do not mean i meant to hurt my partner, i will only hurt her when i let her know.
body nor be firewood na.
Na same thing we dey talk Na. Abi her own body Na fire wood? Hopefully you will marry one that will have the same mindset with you. Una go enjoy that marriage well well. Hahaha grin grin grin

Guy wey my share for that jackpot Na? So you Don chop am alone? I go vex o
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by ULSHERLAN(m): 10:21am On Sep 14, 2016
There are some things you should never let out. Things like this should be kept forever. Meaning you both should die with it. cry
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by saintfellow(m): 10:25am On Sep 14, 2016
delishpot:
Na same thing we dey talk Na. Abi her own body Na fire wood? Hopefully you will marry one that will have the same mindset with you. Una go enjoy that marriage well well. Hahaha grin grin grin

Guy wey my share for that jackpot Na? So you Don chop am alone? I go vex o
lol nah, the sexual satisfaction and multiple orgasm i give her is what other ladies dnt get, so my body will be all that she will ever crave for, no guy can do her hard, yet gentle like i do.
nor worry abt your share, i go surely give you, i promise.
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by delishpot: 10:31am On Sep 14, 2016
saintfellow:
lol nah, the sexual satisfaction and multiple orgasm i give her is what other ladies dnt get, so my body will be all that she will ever crave for, no guy can do her hard, yet gentle like i do.
nor worry abt your share, i go surely give you, i promise.
Lol. No shaking, enjoy .
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by saintfellow(m): 10:35am On Sep 14, 2016
delishpot:
Lol. No shaking, enjoy .
i like you, i must confess.
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by piissreligion: 10:36am On Sep 14, 2016
go and sin no more.
if the other party is gonna keep shut, you keep shut as well.
don't continue this act though
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by Talk2Bella(op): 10:51am On Sep 14, 2016
firstking01:
Pheeeew, i can't decipher...how come when it comes to sex human beings will completely lose their senses , smhundecided
He lost all his senses

Kept doing it for months grin
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by Nobody: 10:58am On Sep 14, 2016
If you know what is good for you and your marriage, don't tell your wife undecided .....with time the guilt will pass, forget about the past and move on smiley ....nobody is above mistakes kiss
Re: I Cheated On My Wife With Her Friend, I Feel So Guilty, Do I Tell Her? by Nobody: 11:00am On Sep 14, 2016
delishpot:
For real? You can't stay faithful? Hopefully you marry someone who would feel same way as you. So that the equation go balance grin grin
"understanding" is bliss smiley
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