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Ladies : Three Secrets to Happy Marriage

Most ladies Plan for their wedding.... Every detail from clothes to shoes to makeups and makeovers are planned and executed.

Unfortunately, the Marriage itself is left at the mercy of chance. So, after a few months, the euphoria is off and then the reality dawns upon them: their Husband seems not to be interested in them anymore. The only thing keeping the marriage is the free sex the man gets. She feels used and unwanted and therefore resents the time of sex. The husbands reads this resentment and he too begin to withdraw from her...and the marriage end up becoming boring and unhappy.

How to Have a Happy Home?
Rule 1:
Be the best Friend to your Husband
Hm. This is very difficult for the average Nigerian girl. Why? Usually, she does not have the skills of being a mans friend.

Definition: A Friend is one with whom you share your time together over a common interest.

How does a woman become a Friend to a Man? By becoming interested in the Hobbies of the man. Most men will give anything to have a wife who is a Chelsea or Asenal Fan, one who is athletic, who can engage in intellectual discussion in politics, current affairs, science, cars, properties etc. ..depending on his interests.

Unfortunately, the average Nigerian lady has no hobby, no interest (except selfies, makeups and ladies gists). If a woman goes out of her way to learn the interest of her husband, he will stay home more.

Rule 2:
Unconditional acceptance.
It is too late to change your husband for any reason. You can hardly change yourself not to talk of another person.

Love is NOT a feeling: Love is unconditional acceptance and Will to promote the joy of the other person.

The cause of sadness experienced in any relationship is because we desire a change that is elusive to us. So we fret, grumble, nag and frustrate the remaining feeling of excitement and bliss in our home.

It is impossible to change your husband. Any attempt by you to force a change will break the bond of friendship between you. And don't forget, no one is perfect and that includes you.

Love desires to give at the expense of self unconditionally. It is a choice to love. So in other words love your husband.

Rule 3:
Servicing:
A woman was designed to serve her husband! Now don't get me wrong, I don't mean that you are in a slave /master relationship with your husband. No!

What you Serve is NOT as important as How you Serve what you Serve.

The truth is, every husband likes to be treated like a king. Unfortunately, as women, we find it easy to treat other peoples husband with respect, courtesy and reverently simply because we don't know much about their weaknesses.

However, your husband, you know him so well. You know especially with him know every weakness and he can be easily predicted by you. This makes it easy for a wife to respect other women's husband more than their own.

The question really is "How do you Serve what you Serve your Husband?" Is it like serving a king/VIP or just this man who lives with you.

So, how do you Serve your husband Food, Sex, Words, Emotion, etc.

Another relationship expert, nice write up tho.

firstking01:
Another relationship expert, nice write up tho.

Thanks for the complement

shadeyinka:
Thanks for the complement

Bienvenue.

This is Damn good Op! This inspiration must have come in the bathroom.

Hello every one, how are you?

Maamin:
This is Damn good Op! This inspiration must have come in the bathroom.

You just made laughter explode like Bokoharam bomb out of my mouth.

Thanks for the complement.

I just got worried that this kind of education is seldom taught. It is assumed that love is the only ingredient for a marriage to succeed.

It looks like the ladies do not appreciate this topic. Non of them have commented.

Could it be because these are difficult things to do?

shadeyinka:
You just made laughter explode like Bokoharam bomb out of my mouth.

Thanks for the complement.

I just got worried that this kind of education is seldom taught. It is assumed that love is the only ingredient for a marriage to succeed.

There is more to it O! my brother...thanks for this exposé

Maamin:
There is more to it O! my brother...thanks for this exposé

Hm!