₦airaland Forum

justwise:
you dey go church? not to protect woman legally..na to make sure d man die before the woman

Ishilove:
Hian. Justwise a bia kwala ozo

justwise:
Na lie? How will you inherit your hubby's properties when he is still alive? A man will be quite happy to marry a poor woman for love while a woman examine the pocket first to protect her legally

Ishilove:
You sound like all these stingy Igbo men

Ishilove:
Your boyfriend is a wise person. An elaborate wedding doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, case in point the 1980 wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Over 1 billion people tuned in to watch the wedding ceremony, Lady Di wore a gown that cost the budget of a small country, world leaders attended etc

Today where are they? Charles is with Camilla and Di is 6ft under. The marriage had already broken down before she died sef.

My point is this: if your man wants a small wedding then compromise. Forget all these 'once in lifetime event so it must be elaborate' nonsense. Wedding and marriage are very different, and you should focus on the forever after, not one day owambe.

Let me also add that God steps into a marriage the day brideprice is paid, the rest are just ceremony. Anyone who says God recognises only church wedding is dwelling in ignorance.

You can only imagine my shock the day my mum told me that in our hometown, once a woman's brideprice is paid she moves in with her husband. The wedding day is the day brideprice is paid and other traditional rites are performed. No elaborate ceremony or unnecessary noise making.

She says it is when she came to Lagos that she heard of 'traditional wedding and church wedding'.

My pastor always sounds it in our ears to get married traditionally and in court (to protect the woman legally). Leave church wedding because all that is just NOISE.

justwise:
Yea another name for a non-mugu

Ishilove:
So in other words if we were to get married tomorrow, you will force me to sign a pre-nup?

Ishilove:
Your boyfriend is a wise person. An elaborate wedding doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, case in point the 1980 wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Over 1 billion people tuned in to watch the wedding ceremony, Lady Di wore a gown that cost the budget of a small country, world leaders attended etc

Today where are they? Charles is with Camilla and Di is 6ft under. The marriage had already broken down before she died sef.

My point is this: if your man wants a small wedding then compromise. Forget all these 'once in lifetime event so it must be elaborate' nonsense. Wedding and marriage are very different, and you should focus on the forever after, not one day owambe.

Let me also add that God steps into a marriage the day brideprice is paid, the rest are just ceremony. Anyone who says God recognises only church wedding is dwelling in ignorance.

You can only imagine my shock the day my mum told me that in our hometown, once a woman's brideprice is paid she moves in with her husband. The wedding day is the day brideprice is paid and other traditional rites are performed. No elaborate ceremony or unnecessary noise making.

She says it is when she came to Lagos that she heard of 'traditional wedding and church wedding'.

My pastor always sounds it in our ears to get married traditionally and in court (to protect the woman legally). Leave church wedding because all that is just NOISE.

Ishilove:
Your boyfriend is a wise person. An elaborate wedding doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, case in point the 1980 wedding of Prince Charles and Diana. Over 1 billion people tuned in to watch the wedding ceremony, Lady Di wore a gown that cost the budget of a small country, world leaders attended etc

Today where are they? Charles is with Camilla and Di is 6ft under. The marriage had already broken down before she died sef.

My point is this: if your man wants a small wedding then compromise. Forget all these 'once in lifetime event so it must be elaborate' nonsense. Wedding and marriage are very different, and you should focus on the forever after, not one day owambe.

Let me also add that God steps into a marriage the day brideprice is paid, the rest are just ceremony. Anyone who says God recognises only church wedding is dwelling in ignorance.

You can only imagine my shock the day my mum told me that in our hometown, once a woman's brideprice is paid she moves in with her husband. The wedding day is the day brideprice is paid and other traditional rites are performed. No elaborate ceremony or unnecessary noise making.

She says it is when she came to Lagos that she heard of 'traditional wedding and church wedding'.

My pastor always sounds it in our ears to get married traditionally and in court (to protect the woman legally). Leave church wedding because all that is just NOISE.

Berbierklaus:
Please send that your boyfriend my way,he is my kind of man

SlowlybtSurely:
I like that your boyfriend!

My kinda man.

achieverme:
I can be ur kinda man too, u know
As my good fortune would av it, u registered here on my birthday.
This can't be just mere coincidence.
There can only be a divine linking involved
Why not let's get to find out if I'm is kinda man?

Eaa247:
Then com to me u r my kind of lady!

After You get the oyinbo woman You want to use for greencard bro,for now,You ain't my kinda man

Berbierklaus:


I don't think so

Miladi:
Permit me to introduce you to my brother. He's self-effacing like the character depicted in this story - the only difference is that he doesn't believe in stupid superstition like the character here.

If only you would tick boxes on his list of needs in a wife. Until I hear from you.

SlowlybtSurely:
I don't mind.

However, let me ask papa Ejiro and Ejiro if they will be willing to share their wife and mother.

achieverme:
But u can't say for sure, can you?
Give a chance, lady.
It costs you nothing.

Berbierklaus:


Nah

achieverme:
Are you taken?

Yes

Berbierklaus:
Yes

Berbierklaus:
After You get the oyinbo woman You want to use for greencard bro,for now,You ain't my kinda man

Eaa247:
I need the whites for my bizness deals. U for my other tins

steppin:
The guy might be hiding from an aggrieved ex and he doesn't want wahala on his wedding day.
The lady won't understand what some guys go through with their ex before they marry. Some of these women can go to any length to see that the wedding is stopped.
It might be the reason or it may not.

PresVA:
Why is everyone saying "big weddings don't guarantee successful marriage"? So do small weddings guarantee successful marriage? ..whether big or small wedding, what matters is that the two persons involved genuinely love each other...

What's parlour traditional marriage? I wouldn't want that too. . Not even a small wedding kinda but parlour wedding? That means everything will be done in a small room or what? Because he doesn't want to show off? Who says celebrating love means showing off? Wish me and my husband can be celebrating our anniversary yearly .
The main thing is not spending beyond your means and from what you wrote money isn't even the problem. .so?

Sorry, your fiance should consider your feelings too.. BOTH of you are involved in this, not just him ... Both of you should reach a peaceful agreement where they'll be mutual happiness/satisfaction..

However, in as much as I wouldn't want a "parlour wedding" , I wouldn't let the issue come between me and my partner especially if he's a good man...
I wish you the best Op..

sweetheart12:
My boyfriend wants us to marry but he does not want a big wedding.
i asked him if it is because of the money involve but he said no, he is ready to give my family the money cash than do the wedding.
He insist we do a parlor traditional marriage, which my family will not accept and i do not want, he does not mind paying any amount for the bride price but he insist he does not want a big,noisy marriage. his family support a big wedding but he doesn't, and i have so much love for weddings, i have always dreamed of how my wedding day will look like,i just so loved weddings since its once in a life time stuff but my boyfriend condemns it and say he hate big weddings cos its like he is showing off, he says he is scared about the guest as he doesn't no who has evil mind or not. Right now he wants us to do only the registry, introduction and traditional marriage only. i am confuse here please. I NEED GOOD ADVISE.....WHAT SHOULD I DO

Berbierklaus:

MariamAlheri:
Exactly d kind of knots-tying I've in mind. Babe, ur fiance is bae joooooor!

Lovelynature:
How are you doing Mariam?

MariamAlheri:
I'm fine tank u sir, and u?

Lovelynature:
Just doing great
Ya garin da jin dadi?

MariamAlheri:
lafia lau...not Hausa tho but if u teach me, I'll gladly learn. happy Sunday ko.