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Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:53pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
Ifakiland:this isn't about using your wife like a slave, believe me a real woman wouldn't make a big deal out of this, she wouldn't even raise an eyebrow!! Only women who gat the kinda ego that would raise a dead man rant over things like this |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
chigoizie7:you are mouthed!!! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
Waiting for one wife to come and disrespect any of my siblings |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by CaraJewel(f): 10:11pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
chigoizie7:since u know d woman is replaceable u for marry like two join..for d fact she wasnt dere doesnt mean her own family didnt do same..dat woman and kids are now your own individual family.no mawi sef.for d topic ion support d woman cuz if her son is dat age she won't bother dat he doesnt do any work talkless of plate washing 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by chigoizie7(m): 10:36pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
CaraJewel: That's my point. We really don't know what family and marriage means. Just as u said, that the only family the op has should be his wife and kids, what will be this very woman's reaction when her sons are all grown, and den denounce them for a new family? This is akin to the western cultures, once u are an adult, u are on your own, if ur mother is sick, u don't care,(more reasons for old peoples home). We are not them we are Africans. Where u live in California and ur kids are indigenes of California while u as the dad is a New Yorker. No heritage. If my so called wife thinks marrying me has automatically made me develop a new family thereby questioning the existence of my real family, then why involve them in the marriage rites but can't respect them afterwards? That why I said that she is replaceable. I am still my parents family the same way she would want me to make her and my kids my new family, I am still my parents kid and nothing will change that, not even all these una copy copy culture, marriage is about the two families not just the man and woman involved. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Oahray: 10:44pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
stephenmorris:so even washing his own plate is tantamount to surrendering a man's honour to a woman? What exactly is wrong with some of you guys? Is it upbringing or what? If your wife na your slave, e go come still be your younger brother slave? If he's a big boy, why is he living with his married brother? His mates would have their own apartments. The dude probably does nothing to help around the house. It's his brother's house, therefore he shouldn't pick a pin. There's a slave there to do all the work. 10 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by lalasticlala(m): 10:46pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
But OP, few days ago you posted this https://www.nairaland.com/3370692/it-proper-me-go-back So how come you are now married? Abi you are married but played away match? 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by CaraJewel(f): 10:49pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
chigoizie7:her and ur kids like xay she no follow born dem..well u jxt had too go and misunderstand mi..i said d family is ur individual family..did i xay immediate family should shift or not be regarded..did i mention tins of d west culture..also dnt disrespect ur wife's family too. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by taryour(f): 10:57pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
lalasticlala: Lobatan !!! wetin person no go see or read for nairaland. hehehe 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by bladeAnders(m): 11:00pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
Ifakiland:oga Americana their is more to the plate washing 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Beamborla(f): 11:22pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
And the story just got more interesting |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 12:07am On Oct 03, 2016 |
bodmas119:Who does the cooking for your younger bro to eat? *modified - since he fetches water and helps with other chores, its alright. He should wash his plates after eating and all will be well. I guess he may be leaving his plates in the sink for madam to wash. For me, that's not right if he is younger. I shake my head at the men here saying he should leave his plates for the woman of the house to wash! U will make ur extended family lose respect for your wife if u allow that. Personally, if u try that with me as a younger Inlaw, I will help u wash it the first few times in case u didn't do it deliberately. After that, I will set ur dirty plate aside and u will come n wash it whenever u are ready. I might add that if you are not ready to wash your own plates, then be ready to stop eating in the house soon. Na so them dey turn the co-owner of the house to housemaid if care isn't taken! 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by armyofone(m): 12:49am On Oct 03, 2016 |
Why isn't the husband helping his wife in doing the dish ? 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by blackpearl21: 1:08am On Oct 03, 2016 |
A lot of the responses here worry me. If the young man has a mouth to eat he should also have hands to wash plates. If he can't wash plates or do any chores he is asked to do then he is old enough to live on his own. Asking the wife to do his dishes is asking the young man not to respect her. Op needs to be in charge of his family oh. One day that young man will move to his own house and raise his own family but will he destroy the relationship between his brother and wife before he leaves? 10 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 1:38am On Oct 03, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: I'm good too and yes dear, you're pretty! nice dp! |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by TheArchangel(f): 2:01am On Oct 03, 2016 |
Op, please open another thread for matured nairaland family section members cos a lot of romance and chest beating from romancelanders don spoil this one. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 3:28am On Oct 03, 2016 |
It is the responsibility of any jobless person living in your home to help with all chores. If your wife cooked the food, why is it so difficult for him to wash the plates? Him being there is creating extra responsibilities for her. This is why women become frustrated with life after marriage. Your wife is not a maid or a work horse. She gets tired the same way as men. Living in the US has taught me that a lot our respectability rules hinder our growth. Let every share equally so no one is burdened. 7 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by southernbelle(f): 6:30am On Oct 03, 2016 |
It's really no big deal, your wife shouldn't see an extra plate or two as hard work. Unless there are other issues between them and she's looking for a way to lash out. Your brother's attitude may also be part of why she's complaining. Just plead with her to keep doing the dishes, it's only for a while. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 6:44am On Oct 03, 2016 |
bodmas119:Your wife is simply un-happy your younger is living with you guys. She just wants to kick him out of the house! |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 6:48am On Oct 03, 2016 |
FortuneTeller:I am not sure if you live in the US. You sound like a typical Nigerian woman who hates having brother-in-law around. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 7:44am On Oct 03, 2016 |
FortuneTeller:oh really!! Ah bet if the said brother in-law is your sibling, you wouldn't say the same thing |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by toyeem(f): 7:54am On Oct 03, 2016 |
daryoor: do you have to call an innocent woman a bitch simply because she asks for some help. Seriously, I don't blame you,i blame the Op for bringing his domestic problem here. If you have not been in someone's shoes,you can't understand some things. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by chigoizie7(m): 10:05am On Oct 03, 2016 |
CaraJewel: Lolz, I didn't misunderstood ur points, B4 I started, I said "that's my point" which means that u concur with me. I just used the post to drive some points to others. As for respecting my wives family, I said it in one of my posts on the thread, that " I will try my best to respect my wife the way she deserves and her family too" that problem will start if "she refuses to respect mine". I said those earlier. Any ways, it seems I am stretching this far longer than needed, so, am gonna stop here 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by chigoizie7(m): 10:13am On Oct 03, 2016 |
DeeTus: Can u just imagine what a naija girl is saying? Just because she has lived in US, she has forgotten her core values, she has forgotten about the doctrine that made her who she is. Later, all of them living over there will be complaining that naija boys don't see them marriage able, instead they go for "FAT white girls" my brother why won't they? Since u want to behave like western people, leave our naija(local boys) alone and marry a white man who shares the same core values with u. Marrying a naija man with different mentality of perception on life is just disastrous. Some women sef, they too like copy copy, borrowing someone's clothe to slimfit it. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by CaraJewel(f): 11:24am On Oct 03, 2016 |
chigoizie7:Ok..yes she will also try her ßest to respect you d way you deserve and ur family too 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by YUNGLURD(m): 11:41am On Oct 03, 2016 |
evegran:God bless u for this one...a wife material u re! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by YUNGLURD(m): 11:56am On Oct 03, 2016 |
chigoizie7:love ur points bro |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Pidggin(f): 12:38pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
So your wife who cooks for all is a slave? What is wrong with your brother helping her out with domestic chores especially if he is not working. Haba, this is not an issue except you feel women are less human or something 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Pidggin(f): 12:45pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
mamachizzy: I suppose you have never met a male Chef before? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by samuelUMOH(m): 12:48pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
stephenmorris:which honour ? Go rent your own house and get honour pls 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Pidggin(f): 12:50pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
chigoizie7: Seen. Now you need to delay any likelihood you are harboring of getting married for at least ten years. Good luck |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 1:13pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
tsmith:You have reasoning problem, why should the same courtesy applied to friends be applied to an immediate family member #think |
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