Diddyydiva:
for peace to reign, tell your younger brother to wash his plates after eating.



You cant take sides in this situation so you have this option alone





Evegran

bodmas119:
my younger brother is leaving with us but my wife used to complaint to me he doesn't wash plates, pls how should I handle the matter peacefully coz am confused.

Ifakiland:
How can ur wife be washing plates for ur younger broda Are u an idiot
Ure now a married man, act like one, if ur bro is gonna be living with u, he shuld get down and do d washing....or go find himself anoda apartment.
For u to be asking dis question sef...I pity ur wife already.

mamachizzy:
Me personally will never let a man enter my kitchen and wash plates. be it my husband, brother or even brother in law. I think there are other more manly chores around the house that he can help ur wife with. like fetching water or cleaning the house. But if washing of plates will constitute a problem in ur house, then let ur brother was his plate immediately he is done eating

evegran:



My sister, long time. Hope you're good?

tsmith:
Reverse the question and you'd have your answer.

Is it proper for your brother to eat food cooked by your wife? Whatever is your answer, is the answer to your original question.

Courtesy demands that even when you visit friends and they've hosted and cooked for you, you offer to do the dishes.

So if your dad or your father-in-law comes visiting and you cooked for them, courtesy demands that your dad or your father-in-law should offer to do the dishes? After all, going by your analogy, you hosted him and you also prepared the meal.


Where is Lalasticlala and Dominique sef?

Ifakiland:
How can ur wife be washing plates for ur younger broda Are u an idiot
Ure now a married man, act like one, if ur bro is gonna be living with u, he shuld get down and do d washing....or go find himself anoda apartment.
For u to be asking dis question sef...I pity ur wife already.

chigoizie7:
If u have kids who can wash plates, let ur kids do the washing, but if u don't ,that means ur marriage is still very young. So ur wife should do the washing, that is if ur brother is already an adult, say above 19 or so,


What is wrong with women sef? Common plate, they are complaining, she should know that men are not domestic in nature. I am not saying that he can't wash it, but making a big deal out of it is what I don't understand.

Did u just say graduated from the university? And also fetch water and help in other chores? And u are keeping mute at ur wives rants? Brother I pity u, na to also demand that ur brother washes una clothes remain oh.

Some women no get sense at all, how long does she think a graduate will continue putting up with a brother? Forever?

If na me be ur brother, the kind treatment I go give her, she will choose devil in place of having me under same roof, what nonsense.

chigoizie7:
If u have kids who can wash plates, let ur kids do the washing, but if u don't ,that means ur marriage is still very young. So ur wife should do the washing, that is if ur brother is already an adult, say above 19 or so,


What is wrong with women sef? Common plate, they are complaining, she should know that men are not domestic in nature. I am not saying that he can't wash it, but making a big deal out of it is what I don't understand.

Did u just say graduated from the university? And also fetch water and help in other chores? And u are keeping mute at ur wives rants? Brother I pity u, na to also demand that ur brother washes una clothes remain oh.

Some women no get sense at all, how long does she think a graduate will continue putting up with a brother? Forever?

If na me be ur brother, the kind treatment I go give her, she will choose devil in place of having me under same roof, what nonsense.

MRNICEGUYy:
why on earth wud u be asking a full grown man to wash plates for the family? If my wife comes to report such cases to me i will blind her with slap,
i don't joke with my family.
Why is she a wife?
Why did marry her?
If she can't work she should just park for all i care.

abayomi93:
bro I greet u jarey.u knw d game. The Op does not knw women yet.she has an agenda to turn d boy into their house boy.if d op allows d wife to confuse him,and he ends up messing up with his bro,he wud live to regret it.because that boy can become somethn in d future nd d op myt need his help,or even d op's kids in d future.that tym he wud remind him of hw he trashd him because of his wife.

LorDBolton:

Bros no mind them.

This OP to me is a disgrace to the male folk, his own blood brother? Wife complain he ain't washing plate and he didn't give her an earful? Blood brother?? University graduate??

As a man fetching water is understandable, even some chores but plates? Out of the question! Also sweeping (to me) is out of it washing up the bathroom, car etc yes but *sweeping and *plates are NEVER.

I remember back in school my uncle told me (a 19year old) to sit @ the back seat so his babe 23years (who we went to pick up) could sit in front, as I came down I just kept walking away & ignored his calls when I got home he was ranting me jes silent till he finish, enter room pack my load tell am say e dey craze (see fight lols) my guys just even after family meeting & issues settled I still refused to move back in cos my respect for him had gone.

It's pitiful the kinda crap many boys out there have to endure all because they're living under someone's roof some girls here even saying the 'boy should wash his own plate'? Do they know what marriage even is?

The woman married into the family thus the respect she accords her husband should be transferred to the MAN (a uni grad ain't a boy). Or if he already had a good job will she ask him to wash plate?

chigoizie7:


Let them be learning nonsense here.

As for me, I will respect my wife the way she deserves, but any day she disrespect my family is the day she is leaving my house, if she like make she born jesus christ for me, I don't care what u all think or will say, she is my wife, "YES", but they are my family, my blood, my everything, they were there for me when I was a nobody, when I was nothing to write home about, we suffered together, conquered together, now I will come and disrespect them just because I married a woman who is 100% " REPLACEABLE". My family ain't replaceable.

LastMumu:


A university graduate.... hian! Your brother is no longer a boy, he is now a man. That he is still managing under your roof doesn't make him less a man. Since you already alluded to the fact that he helps with house chores as well as fetching of water at home, I think your brother is doing enough. Your wife should not try to force him to wash plates, men naturally don't fancy domestic chores like plate washing .

If he prepares a meal for himself, he can wash his own plates, but you forcing him to wash the plates you and your wife ate from is demeaning.



Lastmumu

stephenmorris:
you are damn wrong so for example because i don't have a job ,i should surrender my honor as a man to a woman

bladeAnders:
Mr man are u alright, can't u think before u type? it all depends on the circumstances surrounding the house....

abayomi93:
oga,it is people like you that create problem in d family.u dnt knw women.once d boy starts washing plates,woman will want to turn him to house boy. And if u ask d boy to go bcus of your wife no prob. He will go and one day he will become a man.nd u myt need his help someday.that's d time u will feel d repercuation of what u have done.if u wnt d boy to assist ur wife,just tell him to do some works urself.dnt give ur wife d authority to order him around.

Ifakiland:

so u dont know once ure married, ur wife becomes closer than ur family members abi?? so wtf are u talking abt creating problems. if he cant wash the plates he usues to eat, he shuld either be eating out or go find somewhere else to live....its simple.