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Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:24pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
stephenmorris:What's your honor? Being jobless? 7 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:30pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
Marry your family. I'm sure you have females in your family. That way problem will be solved. chigoizie7: 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:32pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
Marry them. JUSTbuchi: 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by cococandy(f): 1:37pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
truth FortuneTeller: 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by mamachizzy(f): 3:43pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
Pidggin:like I said, its a personal thing. of course my sons will learn how to do kitchen/ house chores. My sons will learn how to cook, wash, clean, do everything. I never said my sons won't enter the kitchen did I? don't put words in my mouth. I just have a problem with a grown man washing plates for me. that's all |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Estonto(f): 4:41pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
bodmas119: Maybe you should talk to your wife calmly and make her understand that your brother is a grown up man. Make her see that he is humble enough to assist with some house chores. Your brother sef try, if na some they will not even lift a pin in the house. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 4:57pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
JUSTbuchi: Is it too much for a wife older than you to want you to wash your OWN plates after you eat?! That's simple courtesy now for live-in house GUESTS! You don't expect your hosts to do all your dishes everyday and still feed and accommodate you for free. Ahn ahn.. If the lady is complaining, she has a right to. Its her house! 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by chigoizie7(m): 5:14pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
cococandy: Am I marrying u? Biko park well 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Ifakiland(m): 11:12pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
JUSTbuchi:Ure still not making sense bro...its simple, d youngest in d house is d one dat always washes d plate. It has notin to do with real woman or aba made woman. If ur wife can take it no problem....but for me, no way, my kid bro will do d washing as long as he's in my house. Simple. But if d wife is younger Dan my kid bro, den she will do it. Its disrespectful for an older person to wash plate for a younger person. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Ifakiland(m): 11:13pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
Loisemm:Thank u o my dear....uve made sense. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Ifakiland(m): 11:16pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
mamachizzy:Define ur "grown man"so wen ure old and grey and ur son wanna wash d plates....u go say no, ure a grown man? Seriously ehn....no juts vex me dis nite! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Ifakiland(m): 11:30pm On Oct 04, 2016 |
JUSTbuchi:Glad u sed wife...not slave. Now run along am tru with u! If u value ur family so much more Dan ur future wife I guess u pick ur sis or a cousin and marry! Fish brain! U don't need anybody to tell u ur wife becomes closer to u Dan ur family as soon as u marry her, dis is d person ure gonna share a bed/room/house with....she culd kill u in d middle of d nite and u say ur family is closer Oya nah....odinma! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Ewuro4: 1:44am On Oct 05, 2016 |
Loisemm: I tire oh 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 6:21am On Oct 05, 2016 |
Ifakiland:have already been through with you when I made my last comment, no point acting like a rapscallion here!! Nigerians sha, have their eyes blindfolded by hypocrisy , would your wife say same if her own brother is the person in question?? If u are not blind enough to my post then u shouldn't be blind to see where the op said his brother does other chores like fetching of water and sweeping the house, does this speak of the guy as a lazy person?? Why would the wife complain over doing his dishes, if the guy were to be her immediate brother won't she do the dishes for him?? Have gone to leave with a family where I did all their chores even when the sister in-law's brother was around, he touches nothing and she would not complain!! I understood the situation perfectly when I stayed with my senior sister who wouldn't allow me do anything!! |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by dfrost: 6:52am On Oct 05, 2016 |
How many people commenting on this issue have been in the OP's situation or in the OP's brother's situation? How many are married? Because before you start advising someone, you already have passed such situation before. It's just like advising someone on how to answer questions at the embassy when you've never applied for one. bodmas119 sit down and discuss with your wife privately, discuss with your brother privately and then discuss with both of them. I don't know what your brother is doing but if he doesn't have a work, he's still your brother. You have the DUTY to feed him. You can't chase him out because he's not working or because he doesn't have a place of his own at the moment. As per your wife, you can't kill her with work. If you want to appreciate your wife, take time off from work and do want she does from start of the day till bedtime. My guy I assure you: you go almost collapse. Like someone posted, hope you don't want your wife to be looking like 50, when she's actually 31. Later you will create a thread how your wife looks older than her age. In all the advice you have received from folks here (married and unmarried, crazy and sane, those that have brothers and those that don't), work your path. There's no single recipe for a successful marriage ogbèní. Ciao. PS: sorry I came to the party late. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:14am On Oct 05, 2016 |
If he were your sister's brother , do you think he would have the guts to sit while his sister washes the plates If he were living alone, won't he wash his own plates? Who do you think your wife is? A housemaidif you an adult, 17 or not and you are living in another person's house, it is common sense to help out with house chores. If you think you are to big to, get your own damn apartment bodmas119: 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:17am On Oct 05, 2016 |
What stvpid honor? Won't you take care of yourself if you were living alone? To hell with your fvcking penis, if you are living with others and you can't help out, you should be thrown out in the middle of the night. If you wan form honor, you won't be living with your brother and his wife. Losers forming ego stephenmorris: 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:19am On Oct 05, 2016 |
If an extra plate is the problem, the husband should wash it na, why tell him to wash his plates? If he wants to form big, he will get his own apartment Acheron: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:24am On Oct 05, 2016 |
Only men and boys with stvpid ego won't help out with house chores. PS: there a nothing like a real woman. It is common see you help out with house chores if you are in other people's homes, and it won't be disrespect if you tell the person nicely to either help out or leave your house. JUSTbuchi: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:27am On Oct 05, 2016 |
I disagree with you if he helps out with other chores, he doesn't have to wash plates or his own plates separately. The wife should suck it up and wash the plates. However there would be a problem if he doesn't help out at all. Loisemm: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:32am On Oct 05, 2016 |
I am Yoruba so fvck that particular tradition, it is for losers who need to have their ego boosted. You help out in the home whether or not the wife is pregnant. daryoor: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:32am On Oct 05, 2016 |
doveda:you females are just very very rude sometimes i even get angry why i support the feminism movement lol |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:35am On Oct 05, 2016 |
cococandy:what do you gain by been rude ,you think im a chauvinist ,if you think so go check my profile and read an article i wrote that covers gendar equality i.e nigerian dream volume 2 1 Like |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 9:39am On Oct 05, 2016 |
if the younger brother is jobless and far older than the wife that gives no reason to wash the plates for the family at all except he chooses to help the wife from his own heart lol but in this case its a younger brother |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:40am On Oct 05, 2016 |
There is not feminine about wishing plates. If you an eat, you can s well wash the fvcking plates. If you can use the bathroom D ilet, you n as well wash till they are sparkiling clean of you can eat clothes, you can as well wash them. If you an et, you can as well keengow to cook your meals If you care about being manly, you would move in with him when moves out so that he won't have to do those feminine chores. If you have a male kid, get him a maid when he moves out or go to uni. Don't teach your female children to be self sufficient, teach them to sleep in the dark if there is no one round to fix their lightning because it is a manly job. mamachizzy: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:47am On Oct 05, 2016 |
You think I care about feminism I don't. Good that you consider yourself a feminist, I don't. It is common sense that you help out in good faith especially when you are not paying rent. It is common sense to know that house chores aren't gender specific, it is basically about taking care of oneself. If you can't afford a maid and you feel too big to take care of yourself, you are better off living on the street. You are so rude. How dare you tell me that I am rude . Who claimed to be above everyone else because he is older than 17 If you weren't an hypocrite, you won't use words like honour, man, and woman to talk about house chores. Next time don't assume the person you are quoting is stvpid, you can go ahead with fooling id.iots that you care about a movement when in reality, you don't. stephenmorris: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 9:55am On Oct 05, 2016 |
This who wash plates have no dignity......your logic by the way. You are one smart man If he wants dignity, he will get his own apartment. If he can't , he will suck it up. If he has a fool.ish wife, he can tell her that washing plates is for id.iots but until he does, he should wash the plates Konzent: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 10:14am On Oct 05, 2016 |
doveda:did i assume u were stupid ,okay what do you want me to do now lol ,u wan kill me |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 10:19am On Oct 05, 2016 |
doveda:here we go again....read the pages abeg....the man said his brother helps out with other chores like fetching of water and all that, why complain about the dishes?? And you said there's nothing like a real woman??.... Let's not quibble over details here, we all know there's what we call girlfriend material and wife material |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by doveda: 10:48am On Oct 05, 2016 |
If he helps with other chores...no wahala If he doesn't... wahala Yes, there is nothing like a real woman or a real man JUSTbuchi: |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 10:55am On Oct 05, 2016 |
bodmas119: bodmas119: bodmas119: Op, I suspect this has nothing to do with dishes. It appears you have been seeking a reason to dump your wife. You have made 2 posts on accepting your ex girlfriends. You are probably quarreling with your wife and ready to beat her over dishes, and the poor woman doesn't know why you have suddenly become a brute. You are telling us it's to protect your brother's honour while it's to cover your adulterous deeds. I pray that God blesses your wife with a good husband when you cast her aside over your selfish desires. |
Re: Is It Proper For My Younger Brother To Be Washing Plates For My Wife? by Nobody: 11:21am On Oct 05, 2016 |
doveda:thank God you understand now! And for the other part, would pass!! |
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