The primary duty of the man in marriage is to provide the basic needs of his family talking about the wife and the children while the primary role of the wife is to nurture the husband and the children which is the perfect definition of help mate.

Now it is important to note that no two marriages are the same and what works for you may not work for the other person and the fact that a man provides all the needs of the family does not mean that he can't assist the wife to do some of her primary duties if needs be and a wife who has become the breadwinner may also not mind playing her primary duties without any support from the husband .

But nevertheless i sincerely believe that every man whose wife have become the main bread winner or a co-bread winner to realize that it is very expedient for him to be ready to also be a co-nurturer of the family and also perform the primary duties of the woman such as cleaning the house,cooking,taking care of the children and helping the wife to do things that will ease off the stress from her.

I have heard of several cases where a man who is fully financially dependent on the wife still expects her to do all the domestic activities and prepares all three course meals and some men even get so angry with the wife because she complains of tiredness.

It is very wicked and uncaring for a man whose wife is also a partaker of his primary duties to still expect the lady to fully take care of the home front and this does not make you less a man but will rather encourage the woman and not make her look like a slave in the house.

I know some men will say it is not in our tradition as Africans to do domestic chores and I sincerely agree but we must also understand that it is also not an Africa tradition for a woman to be a breadwinner.

I don't know if this makes sense.

all these your yeye post

Yes this is very logical and reasonable.
Good one

ok

EFCCnig:
all these your yeye post

Always looking for trouble

seen!

yorhmienerd:
Always looking for trouble

boss i talk true na

EFCCnig:
boss i talk true na

Ok

Make i no kuku lie, i no read am.

firstking01:
Make i no kuku lie, i no read am.

lwkm hahahaha you post dey always funny mi

n who re u op? so if I seek 4 divorce is 4 her own good na since she has money n pay d bills!

[b]the thing is this,whether or not the wife is the main contributor of the family or the man is there should be a balance the husband and wife are supposed to help each other out...the husband should also participate in chores same as the wife it doesn't mean that since the husband is the bread winner he won't do chores but and when he is not and the wie is the bread winner then he is expected to do chores no...them both should liase as husby and wify to get things smoothly running irrespective of who puts food on the table,and that is why marry a virteous humble wife is paramount because when u marry a fine irrational beautiful girl and she happens to be the one putting food on the table then its finished.to me as a man even if u are the bread winner it doesn't stop you from do something romantic like cooking for ur wife and bathing your kid ain't no taboo if its the wife thats the bread winner always encourage her and it doesn't mean the husby should be a slave she could still wash his cloths...thats why at the long run marrying someone with a good heart superseeds beauty and other things.[/b]

Lalasticlala what is your take?

KingCheezyPuff:
I don't quite understand this post but
Single mothers have been holding tagther families for eons....just sayin'

what kind of rubbish spelling is this...what is *tagther* it's like you need a dirtyslap to reset ur brain.

May i look dy matta wel

utenwuson:
n who re u op? so if I seek 4 divorce is 4 her own good na since she has money n pay d bills!

Oshogbo weed in action.

KingCheezyPuff:
in the bold,you type that on every thread.
Why isn't it yer signature

jamb question.....is it your signature? Small head

KingCheezyPuff:
small head? Boy bye

kid bye

Hog wash.

A wife must still play her full role even if she is the full breadwinner.

If I like I help and if I like I won't .

Oga toks I be your fan but i don't agree with this one.

So if I pay MY children school fees and feed MY family, I become the husband of the home....seriously toks, can we get dvmber than this
My husband is no less of a man or a father or a husband if he does the chunk of house chores. Unless of course, you are insinuating that house chores are for slaves and subhumans.





@Jarizgod, when men who earn higher than their wives disrespect their wives and treat them like trash, we don't attribute it to their earning power or gender. Neither do morons say it derogates femininity. However when it involves stvpid women treating their spouses like trash you conveniently blame it on her earning power and the how the feminine gender is prone to bad behaviour and the audacity to tell us how it makes a their spouses less of a man.



Your logic....you are indeed very smart..

Amin!

LuvU2:


may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you

may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman

may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world

Amen Amen!

wrongnumber:
Hog wash.

A wife must still play her full role even if she is the full breadwinner.

If I like I help and if I like I won't .

Oga toks I be your fan but i don't agree with this one.

So you won't do anything? Your wife would feed you and still play full role?

Do you see how shameless you are? When your kids grow up, you tell them mummy is the breadwinner. Mummy paid your school fees.

Dumbass

It's not totally bad for the lady to be the breadwinner tho it could present a tricky situation. If the man is still hustling and earning something decent at least then the woman still owes the responsibility of nurturing to the home. What is wrong is for the man to stay at home all day, watch movies and play games while the wife comes back from work to assume house chores and culinary engagements. That shows that the man is either being plain dumb or wicked

I came to read the comments of the elders