LuvU2:

may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you
may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman
may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world
Amen Amen!

ghostmist:
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may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you

may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman

may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world

Amen Amen!

KingCheezyPuff:
I don't quite understand this post but
Single mothers have been holding tagther families for eons....just sayin'

metallisc:



are you a single mother?

KingCheezyPuff:

metallisc:


i need an answer not a an emoji!

yes .I have triplet boys

KingCheezyPuff:
yes .I have triplet boys

metallisc:
.....

ghostmist:
All these just because he stated his opinion about how he wants his home to be??

I for one, I grew up with my mum running the domestic affairs. I never saw her complain or ask my dad to come and help her inside the kitchen.

Beans Was The First food I learnt how to cook in my undergraduate days. I had my sis text me the recipe, and I followed it religiously. now, I can rival most women in the kitchen. however, I would still prefer my wife to be handling the domestic affairs without haranguing me for help like as if she's handicapped.

what is it with most girls these days and laziness...


in the early stages of our romance, I may decide to engage in one of these "supposedly" romantic acts, just so she knows that I can very well take care of my self if she starts acting up.

KingCheezyPuff:

metallisc:



so, where is their father?

elektra:

Was your mother the bread winner in your family?

ghostmist:
My Dad


but, she did her bit....which was a whole lot.

elektra:


Your mum was more efficient in running the home front because your Dad did his part.
It is not laziness to not want to bear the financial stress of running a home and then come back home to bear the domestic stress of doing chores when you have a partner. It is not laziness, it is being human. Women are not machines.

Toks2008:
The primary duty of the man in marriage is to provide the basic needs of his family talking about the wife and the children while the primary role of the wife is to nurture the husband and the children which is the perfect definition of help mate.

Now it is important to note that no two marriages are the same and what works for you may not work for the other person and the fact that a man provides all the needs of the family does not mean that he can't assist the wife to do some of her primary duties if needs be and a wife who has become the breadwinner may also not mind playing her primary duties without any support from the husband .

But nevertheless i sincerely believe that every man whose wife have become the main bread winner or a co-bread winner to realize that it is very expedient for him to be ready to also be a co-nurturer of the family and also perform the primary duties of the woman such as cleaning the house,cooking,taking care of the children and helping the wife to do things that will ease off the stress from her.

I have heard of several cases where a man who is fully financially dependent on the wife still expects her to do all the domestic activities and prepares all three course meals and some men even get so angry with the wife because she complains of tiredness.

It is very wicked and uncaring for a man whose wife is also a partaker of his primary duties to still expect the lady to fully take care of the home front and this does not make you less a man but will rather encourage the woman and not make her look like a slave in the house.

I know some men will say it is not in our tradition as Africans to do domestic chores and I sincerely agree but we must also understand that it is also not an Africa tradition for a woman to be a breadwinner.

I don't know if this makes sense.

KingCheezyPuff:
I don't quite understand this post but
Single mothers have been holding tagther families for eons....just sayin'

blazer234:


You may want to oppose/argue/object to this. But a child without both parents available can never grow to be a complete adult.

Do you know why? Father plays his role and mother plays her role in a child's development.

Do not think child development talks only about physical and academic development. No; it talks about emotional, psychological, spiritual, physically and academic development.

And for your info, psychological and emotional well being of the child determines how he/he manaages life issues.

That's debatable .
And what can be donr when the father decides her wants no part of the child

KingCheezyPuff:
That's debatable .
And what can be donr when the father decides her wants no part of the child

blazer234:


Still, such situation doesn't spare the poor child from incomplete mental, emotional and psychological development.

so what are you suggesting?
I don't get why you quoted me?

KingCheezyPuff:
so what are you suggesting?
I don't get why you quoted me?

blazer234:


Watch before you leap into marriage.

Get ALL issues sorted before marriage.

Read helpful books that will help both of you before marriage.

Go into marriage out of conviction and love, not bout of compulsion and convenience.

This way, you will be ready to give your all into the marriage to ensure it works.

The above affects both the man and the woman.

rosalieene:
This TOKS guy should rest already.
I have said that you apply your principles to your wife when you get married. Don't comman dictate to other guys how to handle their wives.