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Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by JeffreyJamez(m): 10:27pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Ishilove: I'm sorry... Holy Violence? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 11:17pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
"...many men think it's their birth right to cheat...." Because of men like those in the line above, sometimes I just say 'thank God I'm still single'. Thanks @ mindfulness. I appreciate 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 11:22pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
JeffreyJamez: I had to read the post 3 times to finally give a meaning to that phrase. I guess what the poster's trying to say is to indulge in a radical prayer. Thanks @ishilove |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Ishilove: 1:36am On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212:Radical prayer... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 2:02am On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212: What I'm sure of is that 95% of children belonging to single working never married women, unless they got them as teenagers, belong to married men. I think it's a wicked conspiracy. I've got many single mother friends. Their stories are almost the same. The moment I told him am pregnant he stopped talking to me ... blah blah ... He only came during the registration of birth after I insisted ... Either he's lying, or wants a secret family. Those who can afford do that. You'd be one of those women who dramatically come out of the wood works during burials to claim him and the family is wondering, huh? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 8:07am On Oct 11, 2016 |
metallisc: are you for real..shoo!!.. has women gone into extinct in your area or you don't find any of them attractive to start a relationship Op categorically stated she isn't beautiful and in your mind you have seen an easy prey hence you want to form a relationship with a lady you neither know nor set your eyes on, when did the feelings started pls don't compound her problems joorr.... |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 9:15am On Oct 11, 2016 |
carmag: 1 Like
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Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by jaybeyblu: 10:31am On Oct 11, 2016 |
LOL I thought i was the only one till i realized it is a norm here. when i begun work here i scanned everywhere i was like; hmm OK some really cool single guys. For where? instead it was married men that came flocking around me, i mean serious pestering by these men, none were exempted except for the expatriates that i worked with. at a certain stage i was getting depressed, i asked my single friends why are only married men coming my way? and they also expressed concerns as well that same thing happens to them. so i knew it was not my problem. The annoying part is that the single ones never ask me or my single friends out. the ones that manage to do wants just a side piece, it is crazy! Dear Op, nothing is wrong with you it is the society we live in. and i must confess that maybe the reason why some girls date married men is because they are the only ones that seem to be serious with them. it takes the grace of God to overcome these temptations. what i do is i laugh with them and i am not rude to them, because most of them are my bosses in the office and then i keep posting them and eventually they get the message that i am not interested and they back off. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 10:39am On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212: You're welcome. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by SalomonKane: 10:53am On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212:My dear do not be disturbed. We live in a warped society. A society that celebrates male superiority and cheating, and also frown on female cheating. The married men who approach you only do so because of what is obtainable in the society. Never forget that this so called married men are christians and moslems. So, my advice to you is just be yourself. At least you're getting advances... I know of a really cute girl who doesn't get so much as a hello from guys, both married and single. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 11:41am On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212: Nne u are really a nice person with a good sense of humor. Calm down, you will get your own man... Your OWN man. Before this time next year we all would have attended your wedding....nothing dey hapun! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by rhymesnoni(m): 4:24pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
ure nt cursed its probably because of ya age. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 5:58pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
Mskrisx: Lol, daalu Nne na u try pass for that prayer. Thanks lot for |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 6:02pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
jaybeyblu: Thanks love. But I Sha will soon leave you people and run. This town is looking like the right arm that can cause one to sin. Make I kuku cut am off na, Abi I no fit shout o. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 6:07pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212: Don't mention...don't stress yasef oo... I tanda ya back gidigba! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 6:12pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
carmag: Haba, oga easy na. I thought you were my friend? Everyone read where the op said she is not beautiful. You don't have to rub it in nah. Besides, I know they (and you) understood that line well. But I am sure that if she is at one side of an equation, alone, there will be alot of plus signs after the names of many women you know, regardless. so mbok free the guy jor. can do with some lighter mood in here. Thank you sir |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 6:18pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
Mskrisx: Thank you. Now I feel like looking for trouble. E no easy to get backup na |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 6:25pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
TR1212: Na wa for you oooo! Find the trouble jooor! I no be tell you say I dey? Last last mynd 44 go show! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:27pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
Mskrisx: hahahhaha abeg abeg, I no wan chop ban o. those mods? after 'change', fear them |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 7:00am On Oct 13, 2016 |
TR1212: Good morning bae, how are u this morning? Have a splendid day! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 8:27am On Oct 13, 2016 |
Mskrisx: Good morning sweet. This morning, I'm Blessed!! Hope you slept well? May your day be better. Cheers!! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 10:19am On Oct 13, 2016 |
[quote author=TR1212 post=50156901][/quote] Yes I did... Breakfast yet? Have lunch oo By the way... Gat a gift for you ! Will tell it when it's break time. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 1:24pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
Mskrisx: Yeah... had breakfast jor. was expecting a long, hard and fruitful day so I chaw first. A gift for me? #dancing atilogu in jubilation. #this birthday go better o Oya lunch time is here. Where is the gift jor? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 2:56pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
[quote author=TR1212 post=50165411] Yeah... had breakfast jor. was expecting a long, hard and fruitful day so I chaw first. A gift for me? #dancing atilogu in jubilation. #this birthday go better o Oya lunch time is here. Where is the gift jor? [/quote Jeeeez! Honey I wanted to type gist oooooo chaiii I am so sorry dear! Abeg no vex but never the less, it isn't late. |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 3:27pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
Mskrisx: Still dancing atilogu. Whether by chance or error, gist or gift, you sha owe me something. How is your day going dear? |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Mskrisx(f): 4:48pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
TR1212: Splendid dear ! |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by veave(f): 6:21pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
you need to have mouth... for these kind of people... my granny will say, na "make i no shame make i no shame go make person cheat me". my dear, say no and let the no be no! no one will kill you. it is not a crime to be single. so long as you are happy. and mind you, you are not the only one they are talking to. they are all trying their luck with random girls, so its not like the person is special or beautiful but just plain GREED. they are not satisfied with the woman they marry and would lie to make any mumu geh fall... infact cos some sef and warn them well well |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 6:56pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
^^^^^^ Sister, u dey vex o. Who offended you today? Please tell me it's not metallisc o, because I no trust that guy here. Anyway, thanks for your advice, but you know two wrongs never make a right. I don't have a problem telling them off. In fact, I've had to convince some to stop the act by gently approach the issue without loosing respect. So you never can tell, you may save or ruin a soul depending on how you handle the issue. trust me, most men are like babies. Some don't even know that the simple solution to whatever problem they are facing are within them. Only God can save us all.... |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by metallisc(m): 11:34pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
TR1212:
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Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by TR1212: 3:59pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by Nobody: 9:59am On Oct 15, 2016 |
Well, it's pathetic though, how shameless these married men are now. I mean it's no longer a big deal for them to chase ladies even with their shiny wedding rings. @ OP I won't pretend I know how you feel. I mean I had my share of married admirers back then and a few of them were even bold enough to state their intentions. But I never considered it a problem because the single toatsers were also there to take my mind off them. But I had a close friend who was just like you. We were both age mates and she was waaaay hotter than me (so it wasn't a case of an easy pick like someone suggested), but the single guys never seemed to notice her. It was always the married ones with the big cash. One major difference between me and her was that I was more reserved and a bit more homely. Apparently guys love these traits in their prospective wives. She on the other hand was a party girl, chronic smoker and heavy drinker. But she is an extremely nice person and will probably make a better wife than me. But she just didn't appear that way. When young guys see her, they see a one night stand and when they see me, they see a future bride. When married men see her they see someone who's 'game' and when they see me, they think 'no-go area' Again I want to point out that this was what it appeared to be and a very very wrong impression. I don't see myself as making a better wife because I don't smoke or wear mini skirts. But impressions matter a lot, at least to someone who doesn't truly know you. Men are shallow and often find it difficult to look beyond the surface. They already have this mental picture and if it doesn't fit, it's just not right (to them). That's why even the young married guys still come for you. You are a 'fantasy' as opposed to the 'reality' they married. That's why women are often advised to be nuns in public but whores in the bedroom. Hypocritical right? Well that's just the plain truth. I am not suggesting you change who you are to get a man because trust me, it will certainly backfire. But I have a few pointers for you. 1. You once mentioned going out for dinner with your AO who is married. Please NEVER engage in any social activity with a married man, especially as a single girl. It sends out the wrong signal to him and other men watching. Don't even keep them as friends or get close to them in any way. Avoid them like a plague. 2. Don't ever discuss your personal life or theirs with them. If they want to 'confide' in you, tell them to go to their wives. If you need someone to confide in, find a priest. Make yourself generally unavailable to them. It's an aura thing. Eventually whatever 'vibe' you unknowingly give will fade and create opportunity for single guys to 'see' you. 3. Free your mind. You will meet your own single guy and he will love you for you. Stop thinking there's something wrong with you because it's not true. There is nothing wrong with you and thinking that way will affect your self esteem even without you knowing. I don't want to tell you what became of my friend because I don't want to discourage your, but you can change your story. You just need to believe the problem is not you. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Cursed? Where Did I Go Wrong?? by 5minsmadness: 12:14pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
TR1212: Fixed. Your talking about your sexual features so accord them some respect. Like someone said, it might have to do with you attitude, body language, and the clothes you wear. |
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