Just wondering


while I listen to my female neighbours shouting at each other over flimsy reasons. Ever since the husbands sister came into the house to help cater to the wife's new baby it has been one fight after another. Today's quarrel is very bad, the wife has been accusing the sister in law of making her baby sick and coming into her home to sow evil.
Na wa.
Whether they were fighting in church before coming home, I don't know.

Apart from two of them I also have a lot of personal experience with women who just started quarreling and keeping malice with each other aat the drop of a hat. My last place of work we were 7 women and one man in the same vicinity and my goodness everyday the women will have something to fight about. If it was not the manager quarelling with the marketer it was the cleaner quarelling with the secretary or the accountants fighting each other.

Why is it like this? Its baffling and unfortunate and I wonder what is the cause.

See ?

Longcucumber:
See ?

see what?

Op the solution is this and it helps me in my everyday life.. Choose your friends wisely, that's one.. Then two , any woman who stylishly chips in sarcastic words to u? Just ignore and walk away.. Exchanging words with such troublesome woman is fruitless, cos she is ready and has prepared for a showdown.. But u walk away as if u didn't hear her.. She will be perplexed in a split second and short of words, by then u don go already.
If she's an inlaw? Pls keep away from her.. No need for greetings and all that.. Just bone and keep away.
And try as much as possible to avoid staying in face me, I slap you rooms.. Such living situation is very crucial on someone peace of mind..
I hope these tips helps

Amelian:
Op the solution is this and it helps me in my everyday life.. Choose your friends wisely, that's one.. Then two , any woman who stylishly chips in sarcastic words to u? Just ignore and walk away.. Exchanging words with such troublesome woman is fruitless, cos she is ready and has prepared for a showdown.. But u walk away as if u didn't hear her.. She will be perplexed in a split second and short of words, by then u don go already.
If she's an inlaw? Pls keep away from her.. No need for greetings and all that.. Just bone and keep away.
And try as much as possible to avoid staying in face me, I slap you rooms.. Such living situation is very crucial on someone peace of mind..
I hope these tips helps

thanks your post was quite helpful.
And yes i unfortunately have that type of inlaw. She is a year younger than me and very very rude and stubborn. She told my hubby she expects me to show her the kind of submission I show him, lmao. Hubby confided this to me and asked me to please show patience when dealing with her.

Problem now is that she plans to spend some few weeks with us soon and I cant avoid her during trhat period cos we'll literally be living under the same roof.

Let me stop derailing my own thread jare. Thanks for your advice again.

thotianna:



thanks your post was quite helpful.
And yes i unfortunately have that type of inlaw. She is a year younger than me and very very rude and stubborn. She told my hubby she expects me to show her the kind of submission I show him, lmao. Hubby confided this to me and asked me to please show patience when dealing with her.

Problem now is that she plans to spend some few weeks with us soon and I cant avoid her during trhat period cos we'll literally be living under the same roof.

Let me stop derailing my own thread jare. Thanks for your advice again.

It's alright but you have no other choice to be patient and aloof, when she comes over..i hope you are a working wife? So she won't see you everytime to banter words with.. Just be civil, be aloof and avoid her.. She go taya.

No demon in human flesh will steal your peace away in Jesus name amen.
It's well.

Amelian:




It's alright but you have no other choice to be patient and aloof, when she comes over..i hope you are a working wife? So she won't see you everytime to banter words with.. Just be civil, be aloof and avoid her.. She go taya.

No demon in human flesh will steal your peace away in Jesus name amen.
It's well.

a big amen to that.

Ekushe ma.

thotianna:


a big amen to that.

Ekushe ma.

Amen ooo
You are welcome ma

Most of the issues with neighbors stem from women who aren't working.
Being at home, you have a lot time to notice that the other woman's child brought sand to your doorstep, someone spread clothes close to your frontage, water spilled from someone's side to your own corner....
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I like it when a woman goes out in d morning. To a job, to her shop, to market her products etc... anything to keep busy apart from being home all day long with fellow neighbors.
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For some other issues, just face ya front.
You can't fix people. Do your best and face ya front.

Amelian:
Op the solution is this and it helps me in my everyday life.. Choose your friends wisely, that's one.. Then two , any woman who stylishly chips in sarcastic words to u? Just ignore and walk away.. Exchanging words with such troublesome woman is fruitless, cos she is ready and has prepared for a showdown.. But u walk away as if u didn't hear her.. She will be perplexed in a split second and short of words, by then u don go already.
If she's an inlaw? Pls keep away from her.. No need for greetings and all that.. Just bone and keep away.
And try as much as possible to avoid staying in face me, I slap you rooms.. Such living situation is very crucial on someone peace of mind..
I hope these tips helps

wait I don't get you..who is asking for tips

oloyede252:

wait I don't get you..who is asking for tips

Did I call your name?
Boys like you love it when women are fighting and antagonizing each other..

Who Call you?

I don't resent my fellow women. If anything I'm a champion for other women and their wellbeing.

What I resent are topic titles like yours that repeat what you've heard without accompanying research to prove it. You need to start knowing women outside of your usual circle.

cococandy:
I don't resent my fellow women. If anything I'm a champion for other women and their wellbeing.

What I resent are topic titles like yours that repeat what you've heard without accompanying research to prove it. You need to start knowing women outside of your usual circle.

you don't resent your fellow women,is it the same with them? Hw sure are you?
98% of women are just like that,jealous,resentful and they can gossip and backbite for days.My neighbour can tell angel michael what she saw satan doing at God's backyard.

AlfaAce:

you don't resent your fellow women, is it the same with them? Hw sure are you?
98% of women are just like that,jealous,resentful and they can gossip and backbite for days.My neighbour can tell angel michael what she saw satan doing at God's backyard.

What am I supposed to say? That I'm the good one and they are they are the ones full of jealousy and resentment? Oh please.

For a fact there is no emotion that I've experienced at the hands of female friends that I haven't also experienced at the hands of male friends. Jealousy, back-biting, ultra-pettiness and what have you. It's even worse with them if I may say.

Men join hands to kill each other on the streets on routine basis in the name of jungle justice and the world moves one like nothing happened. Two females quarrel in your yard and the whole women in the world hate each other? What's wrong with you people? I mean those of you that are fond of propagating this theory.

And worse are the women who will agree with you that we hate each other. Ask them if they hate other women they wil say no. So everyone belongs to the 2% that don't hate each other? Who are 98% imaginary women that resent other women?

I'm tired of this sh*t. Stop it!

Amelian:



Did I call your name? Boys like you love it when women are fighting and antagonizing each other..
Who Call you?

same person who called you. girls like you love it when men are fighting each other. anyway fighting make the world more entertaining especially by women

cococandy:
I don't resent my fellow women. If anything I'm a champion for other women and their wellbeing.

What I resent are topic titles like yours that repeat what you've heard without accompanying research to prove it. You need to start knowing women outside of your usual circle.

you don't like the topic because it as to do with women alone. if the topic was about both gender you won't have problem with it.
as you said both gender engages in the act of resentment but women have taken this to a whole new level.

Women living in developed countries don't hate themselves, OP go figure

cococandy:

What am I supposed to say? That I'm the good one and they are they are the ones full of jealousy and resentment? Oh please.

For a fact there is no emotion that I've experienced at the hands of female friends that I haven't also experienced at the hands of male friends. Jealousy, back-biting, ultra-pettiness and what have you. It's even worse with them if I may say.

Men join hands to kill each other on the streets on routine basis in the name of jungle justice and the world moves one like nothing happened. Two females quarrel in your yard and the whole women in the world hate each other? What's wrong with you people? I mean those of you that are fond of propagating this theory.

And worse are the women who will agree with you that we hate each other. Ask them if they hate other women they wil say no. So everyone belongs to the 2% that don't hate each other? Who are 98% imaginary women that resent other women?

I'm tired of this sh*t. Stop it!

You and a particular group of people have this irritating habit of turning every thread into a male v female issue. I am sure you have no idea how stupid the highlighted part of your comment is.

thotianna:
Just wondering


while I listen to my female neighbours shouting at each other over flimsy reasons. Ever since the husbands sister came into the house to help cater to the wife's new baby it has been one fight after another. Today's quarrel is very bad, the wife has been accusing the sister in law of making her baby sick and coming into her home to sow evil.
Na wa.
Whether they were fighting in church before coming home, I don't know.

Apart from two of them I also have a lot of personal experience with women who just started quarreling and keeping malice with each other aat the drop of a hat. My last place of work we were 7 women and one man in the same vicinity and my goodness everyday the women will have something to fight about. If it was not the manager quarelling with the marketer it was the cleaner quarelling with the secretary or the accountants fighting each other.

Why is it like this? Its baffling and unfortunate and I wonder what is the cause.

The big issue is unlike men women don't really stick out for each other. Some say they've being programmed to see each other as the enemy some blame the male patriachy for that. As for me I think there's no guideline to how women should bond. E.g two guys who are friends will fight as in blood involved but most of the time none will take action to really cause the other to lose his job or relationship unless they are sworn enemies. Even enemies most guys won't really treat your fvck up unless you must have done something seriously bad. Girls don't really know the concept of loyalty not all girls . but what blows my mind is that girls can also play the Bro code with guys and be loyal than to girls which always amazes me.

Listen to Lana del rey "this is what makes us girls "

TomHagen:
You and a particular group of people have this irritating habit of turning every thread into a male v female issue. I am sure you have no idea how stupid the highlighted part of your comment is.

Fvck off.

I'm not supposed to point out that women are usually unfairly judged by folks like you so that you won't feel bad?
When your faults are stated it become male versus female?
Okay let's sit and lambast the female gender so that heifers like you won't be upset. Let's make a party out of it. Since all of you don't have a thing else to do but insult women up and down the forum.

oloyede252:

you don't like the topic because it as to do with women alone. if the topic was about both gender you won't have problem with it.
as you said both gender engages in the act of resentment but women have taken this to a whole new level.

Yea it would be more truthful if the thread is about humans hating on each. I might not have commented.
I find it irritating that something both genders do is something that only women are judged for.

And some mor0n up there has a problem with me pointing that out.

cococandy:

Fvck off.

I'm not supposed to point out that women are usually unfairly judged by folks like you so that you won't feel bad?
When your faults are stated it become male versus female?
Okay let's sit and lambast the female gender so that heifers like you won't be upset.

When smart people discuss issues, they understand that they have to stay on track and not point fingers without addressing the issue on ground. You should google the term ''Tu quoque''; if that cassava you call a brain is sophisticated enough to process such things that is.

pcguru1:


The big issue is unlike men women don't really stick out for each other. Some say they've being programmed to see each other as the enemy some blame the male patriachy for that. As for me I think there's no guideline to how women should bond. E.g two guys who are friends will fight as in blood involved but most of the time none will take action to really cause the other to lose his job or relationship unless they are sworn enemies. Even enemies most guys won't really treat your fvck up unless you must have done something seriously bad. Girls don't really know the concept of loyalty not all girls . but what blows my mind is that girls can also play the Bro code with guys and be loyal than to girls which always amazes me.

Listen to Lana del rey "this is what makes us girls "

true.

Majority of women dont know how to stick up for each other. Only few of them. If you look inside families its usually the mothers in law causing problems for the wives you hardly hear of FILs disturbing son in laws.

Or when a husband cheats we mostly hear of wives fighting the other women instead of their husbands.

I am not trying to insult women or bring them down but we aknowledge that there is a problem and find out the cause so that we can solve it.

cococandy:

What am I supposed to say? That I'm the good one and they are they are the ones full of jealousy and resentment? Oh please.

For a fact there is no emotion that I've experienced at the hands of female friends that I haven't also experienced at the hands of male friends. Jealousy, back-biting, ultra-pettiness and what have you. It's even worse with them if I may say.

Men join hands to kill each other on the streets on routine basis in the name of jungle justice and the world moves one like nothing happened. Two females quarrel in your yard and the whole women in the world hate each other? What's wrong with you people? I mean those of you that are fond of propagating this theory.

And worse are the women who will agree with you that we hate each other. Ask them if they hate other women they wil say no. So everyone belongs to the 2% that don't hate each other? Who are 98% imaginary women that resent other women?

I'm tired of this sh*t. Stop it!

Take a kiss for the bold

I have not noticed women have hatred for each other any more than guys hating on each other.

Pidggin:
Women living in developed countries don't hate themselves, OP go figure

but they do as well. I have come across foreign journals that did research on the topic.

It is called exserting dominance. Trying to establish boundaries cos women are territorial animals.

thotianna:


true.

Majority of women dont know how to stick up for each other. Only few of them. If you look inside families its usually the mothers in law causing problems for the wives you hardly hear of FILs disturbing son in laws.

Or when a husband cheats we mostly hear of wives fighting the other women instead of their husbands.

I am not trying to insult women or bring them down but we aknowledge that there is a problem and find out the cause so that we can solve it.

There needs to be a female version of the bro code. something women can bond over and stand up for each other regardless of not knowing each other. notice how a guy at the beer parlour can his life with another stranger and share intimate stuff. women should learn to see each other as accomplice and "bros". I think women can pull it off. there are some who have strong bonds. anyway take care dear. The rat race is calling me

thotianna:


but they do as well. I have come across foreign journals that did research on the topic.

Actually they do, if the feminist group is totally divided most see it as a group that serves western white women, there's the issue of intersection, e.g minorities and trans-genders. Infact women abroad are kinda more petty than Nigerian babes if anything.

cococandy:

What am I supposed to say? That I'm the good one and they are they are the ones full of jealousy and resentment? Oh please.

For a fact there is no emotion that I've experienced at the hands of female friends that I haven't also experienced at the hands of male friends. Jealousy, back-biting, ultra-pettiness and what have you. It's even worse with them if I may say.

Men join hands to kill each other on the streets on routine basis in the name of jungle justice and the world moves one like nothing happened. Two females quarrel in your yard and the whole women in the world hate each other? What's wrong with you people? I mean those of you that are fond of propagating this theory.

And worse are the women who will agree with you that we hate each other. Ask them if they hate other women they wil say no. So everyone belongs to the 2% that don't hate each other? Who are 98% imaginary women that resent other women?

I'm tired of this sh*t. Stop it!

My dear don't mind men.. They always want to knock heads of women against each other.. And the same men will also say women are resentful of each other.

God is my witness.. Some Women has been a great source of joy, help and assistance to me when am in need...likewise me to them... . And women will not ask her fellow woman for sex when she wants to help financially.. She will help , advice and go her way.. But men! God forbid... U must have sex with them or no help. As if God use se3x swear for them.
If not that am dating a wonderful guy and he is nice and supportive.. I will just say men are thorn in the flesh... But make I no talk too. Much..
Men face una front and leave women alone to sort themselves..

@op the sister in-law should go back to her house naa, why stay with someone you fight with all the time.

Somethings men overlook can't be overlooked by women because it's not always as simple as they think. I have a friend that can never dispose waste properly in a waste bin,she prefers dropping waste on the lid...so annoying. Women love their space, while some men can stay in a house with dirty friends....dirty kitchen and bathroom, messy sitting rooms but believe me most women won't tolerate that and when they shout, one busybody outside would ask why women resent each other

cococandy:

Yea it would be more truthful if the thread is about humans hating on each. I might not have commented.
I find it irritating that something both genders do is something that only women are judged for.

And some mor0n up there has a problem with me pointing that out.

Yeah you can point that out but the topic was based on op experience in his environment..why do women recent each other?can you now answer that, if you can answer it it's Okay .

Pidggin:
Women living in developed countries don't hate themselves, OP go figure

really. are you talking to uneducated people here. silly assertion